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| I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by TryingHard(op): 2:39pm On Mar 31, 2019*. Modified: 2:56pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Hello guys, I am finding it hard to get over my EX. She started acting weird and accepting gifts from other guys which I know for sure she is dating, we had arguments we finally broke up in January. Though prior to her cheating which I know her friends are the one that pushed her to it. This girl is a very beautiful lady, she has a nice dress sense. She is an educated, lovely and civilised lady. This girl is very jovial like? Whenever we are together with my friends she is always friendly. Everyone likes her. Always happy around me and she is the jealous type. I dare not stare at other guys. She loves me madly then and makes me feel on top of the world. Though the problem now is we broke when she started accepting expensive gift from other guys and acting weird, nagging and lying to me when I am having financial problem. This girl I used to buy things for her and spoil her but she disappointed me with that bad part of her. We would go out together, lodged in hotel for days or week just be indoor privately and have fun. On SM everywhere people know us, we go to parties and everywhere together. Three months now I am missing this girl lately. I checked her on SM she is glowing and dressing more. Those memories of her pop back into my head I feel sad inside, I miss her and I started thinking I can never have a girl with all those features altogether again.. In fact after she left I tried having intimacy with other girls but I was not moved at all, I just have to let them leave. She came to say hi to me last week and she is looking well and cute as ever and me I'm still struggling to rise up again. We smile and feel happy when we met but I went home all sad. I know a lots of people would say get money and girls would flock after you but that's not the problem, the problem is how do I get girl as perfect as good like this lady. I am not really a totally broke guy but right now (for months now) I am having a tough time of my life and debts on me. I can't apologize to her cos it would make me feel less of myself in front of her even after she did me dirty. Now I am comparing every other girl with her now I'm feeling no girl is good enough for me. The thought of her being in same bed with another guy is even driving me nut more. Guys please advice me how do I get totally over her and move on with my life. Cos It really been hard on me and making my life miserable I can't spend an hour without thinking about this girl, This is a serious obsession.. I can't concentrate on my life well oh God! Should I go back to her? If that's wrong how do I get over her? Anyone that has experienced this in the past should please share their story and how they get over it.. I NEED HELP!!! Lalasticlala Seun |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Davash222(m): 2:44pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Just give your life to Christ. Very simple |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Nobody: 2:53pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Hang out with friends, go to parties (not in extreme tho n not bad parties n frnds), see more movies. Ur hobby? Be more active in it. Be more active in terms of ur work too. Finally, "u need to open ur mind .... start seeing people with ur mind n not just ur eyes". Dat girl is not good for u, there are many good girls out there. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by confusedGuy(m): 2:54pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
It happens....dont ever go back to a girl like that's...she cheats on you without remorse and you want to go back? Engage yourself...keep your mind busy on stuffs. It will definitely take time but one day you would look back at her and say what did u even see in her that is making you do all these now. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by MummyIMadeIt: 2:58pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Three options you have got # Get yourself pre-occupied with other things(preferably your hustle, Religious activities, peer meetings etc) # Accept the fact that she's moved on, and do same with ur life by channeling your frustration cum anger into building your self. # Since you can't stand her association with other guys, take the easy way out of life, but then that would be so foolish of you cos you would only end up rubbing on her Ego to do more harm to guys like you. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Godpunishhaters: 3:01pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
1. Young man invest more of your time in your work(self employed even better) 2. Stop comparing other girls with your ex..just flow with them n try to see the goodness in them. 3.Stop staring at your ex pics on all sm platforms (this is very difficult, so try) 4.Give it time ![]() Love always makes you think the one you're with is the best n you can't get someone better lies |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Nobody: 3:03pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
U lack focus |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by IamD18: 3:04pm On Mar 31, 2019*. Modified: 3:27pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
I want you to go complain to your mother, tell her you are financially having difficulties but your problem and major priority is how to get over a common girl who's happily living her life somewhere to the fullest. Trust me, without uttering any word, the kind eye wey she go look you, if that obsession no comot for you body, know say no be me. Rubbish!
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| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by lamidex(m): 3:06pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Set your priorities right. You're missing the sex not her. Forget her get laid bro. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by HeWrites(m): 3:10pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Davash222:Are you really normal? |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Nicklaus619(m): 3:14pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Lols this shit happened to me, In my own case I thought i almost lost it cos i was gradually depreciating in thought and it affected me generally and my boss and colleague alike noticed this, my boss had to give me a compulsory casual leave because I was gradually becoming a shadow of my self, I hardly shave my beard or eat properly, as I kept thinking of her, she got a better part of me, so this is what I did. 1. I deleted her contact, nudes, pic, and her nude videos on my phone, laptops. 2. I unfollowed her on all social medias 3. Distanced myself from going close to her street. 4. Hang out more with my friends and try to flirt around as I could. 5. During that period, my cute Neigboure got me laid, we had sex many times though but we never took things seriously, she had a fiancé she is been crushing and I was busy dating this ungrateful mofo 6. I got engage with my ps3 each time I am having a free time to replace her absent. 7. I resumed from leave happier and livelier..I moved on and now I am dating a girl that's way above her league, Lols this makes her so mad cos she sees us on several occasions. In conclusion Bro follow the above step and u will move on, if u go back and beg her to come back she will play emotional games with u and turn u into a money vending machine, cos it is clear she ain't got no interest in u no more... Be happy bro this life is too short for one bitch to make it miserable for u. Cheers ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by J4JUVENTUS(m): 3:19pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Bro with time you're gonna find another better girl....And las las u go de alright... She doesn't deserve all that u putting urself thru cux of her.....d fact is she might not even be tinking abt u anymore,so why kill urself over her wrong doings ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Bojack(m): 3:24pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
oga smoke weed and thank me later |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by millionboi2: 3:36pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
TryingHard:she is not as good4u as u think |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by millionboi2: 3:37pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Godpunishhaters:big fat lies |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Gofwane(m): 3:38pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
I have a bad but effective idea. Get a beer parlour around your hood, go there and drink cold bottles of beer with meat or kpomo while you watch football with other merry fellas. Best feeling ever! One thing about beer parlour guys is they don't take women serious. And even those that do, it's all about fvck - no strings attatched Thunder strike me if you don't forget about that girl in less than 1 week. But don't blame me if you become a drunkhard ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by spyg1(m): 3:39pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
She already know your weakness bro, which is lust over her beauty, believe me. Continue to act stupid and one day she will format your brain with her bad character then you will get over her. A lady that loves you will never go a week without calling you, she doesnt miss you as you claimed, you're romancing with a viper. the reason why she was managing you was because you use to spoilt her with money or good sex, or she is sure of her desired boyfriend, she keeping you for a reason. I was in your shoes, one day i waked up in the midnight and i saw a WhatsApp text that read thus "I will be getting married by the grace of God on ...." immediately my brain formatted. My advice find a good girl and hang around with and possibly have sex with her all the times and stop wasting your time, although you're not a serious person, a serious person can't be parting all the times. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Auladimeji2: 3:54pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Brother Ebube, it's time for fellowship, table the matter before god and see how he will injure that pen1s of yours that's making you to miss that Lady ![]() Chelsea please don't do this to me,You guys can do it 2& over1.5 ![]()
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| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Auladimeji2: 3:59pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Today is 31 March 2019,You ought to accept something, Ex is Ex If you dare beg her my guy you don jented be that.No matter what do not beg If you beg that lady abi chick, you are doom for life
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| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by mmadu5(m): 4:00pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
acting weird, nagging and lying to me when I am having financial problem. I STOP READING FROM HERE |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Auladimeji2: 4:06pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Nicklaus619:
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| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by luvyaself95(m): 4:33pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Nicklaus619:That the spirit done the same thing |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by FantasticJ: 4:45pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Davash222:He should marry christ? He did not tell you he's gay mofo |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Splinz(m): 5:37pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
![]() Ahem! The things infatuation can do... Let’s look at it critically. What is infatuation? It comes from the French word “fatuus,” meaning fool—or foolishness! Webster’s Dictionary defines it as: “To make foolish; to affect with folly; to weaken the intellectual power of; or to deprive of sound judgment.” Therefore, in one sense, people who have become infatuated might be considered fools! However, few would admit that the choices they make are foolish, and fewer still would ever consider themselves to be fools. But, how do we know that one is infatuated—what are the signs? Let's look at just one of such signs: HOW DO YOU SEE THE OTHER PERSON? The infatuated live in a one-person world. Their attraction is like the earth’s attraction to the sun—their whole universe revolves around the other person. Seemingly nothing else matters, and both are completely wrapped in each other’s orbit—and this almost invariably turns to being wrapped around each other’s genitals. Again, what evidence is there that you're suffering from infatuation? Here... TryingHard:Unlike love, which is outgoing concerns for others, the infatuated "loves" just ONE, I.e, without this one person, his life is as good as over. Now, what's the way out for you? Just ask for it one more time. ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by aanuoluwami14(f): 6:07pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Davash222:Yes. That is why good communication is good. Have you sat her down to know why she did that? or you too is not really ready for marriage, you just want to be having sex with her? I don't think you have a good job doing? |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Yuceeluv(f): 6:18pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Anyone being insensitive to his problem should remember that guy that killed himself some days back. People are different and problems like this are real life problems. Op, I hope these steps work for you. 1 ACCEPT the fact she is gone first. Stop hoping for when she will come back. 2 When you remember her, push your mind to her 'shortcomings'. Including physical and behavioural attributes (Every human has them). 3 Reset your brain(no jokes). You can't seem to find anyone like her because you have finalised it in your head that you will end up with her in life. So you have subconsciously unplugged your ability to get attracted to any other. 4 delete her contacts and stop checking her out on SM. If you can't help it, unfollow and block her. 5 Avoid quiet times for now. Be out and about. Noisy and busy so your mind can be preoccupied with other things at all times. 6 most importantly, PRAY about your problem. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by sweetilicious(f): 6:25pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
mmadu5:Exactly |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Oreofepeters: 6:31pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
I took sometime off nairaland, came back still the same shitss |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Samwellbright: 6:33pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Forget about that chick my guy. Stay focus |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Kendumazy(m): 6:37pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
Oreofepeters:Mheen! Am telling you, lover boys everywhere. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by kollinzgee(m): 6:52pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
the above issue is the reason why players and womanizers are the happiest men on earth to us no woman is too important or too special thats my life bro i dont love more than i am loved i make sure that girl loves me more than i love her and they love it that way. why should your happiness revolve around a woman .as for me i love my dreams and purpose in this life more than any other thing .i was living before she came to my life why should i die if she goes for what.. brotherly love your dreams and purpose more than any other thing dust your feet and move on there are better girls out there next time love with your half heart not your full heart.. |
| Re: I Can't Get Over Her!!! I Need Help by Nobody: 6:54pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
TryingHard:. Hang yourself |
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