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Lady Reveals Conversation Of How Her Boyfriend 'ended Things' With Her. / She's 17 And I'm 28 Am I Right To Be Feeling Guilty!! / Am I Right To Cut This Girl Off? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ecstasy357(m): 1:52pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Calm down... Try to see things from my perspective |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ecstasy357(m): 1:56pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
MissRaine69: I guess ya right. |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Nobody: 1:59pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:I'm sorry I can't. What do u think a relationship is about? Is that the last interview she'll get? Did you ask if she actually likes a bank job? Did you? |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by MissRaine69(f): 2:05pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:Of course I am ... |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ecstasy357(m): 2:43pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
CosmicJames: That wrong relationship lasted for a year, separated me from friends and family, kept me alone to myself and I lived a stagnant life. All because I was trying to make things work What I was driving at earlier was....should i stick to this relationship to try and prove a point? |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ecstasy357(m): 2:48pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Why are you angry? I hope you read when I said a Lady in her submitted her cv internally. She missed the test, became sad. Then I managed to talk to the HR again. Dearie, I'm not trying to be rude but I think you're angry not because of the story I shared but because of an experience you've had. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ecstasy357(m): 2:52pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jackals(f): 2:56pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
IFEOLUWAKRIZ: Lols... I understand though...with the obvious fact that some of them are still toddlers under 25yrs, who ordinarily are suposed to be breastfeeding under their girlfriends |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jeff1607(m): 2:58pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357: one major of the major things in relationship is tolerance you reacted too soon, say she didn't get the job and list her current job you won't have the patience of taking care of her till she gets another job. she is independent despite earning so little ,learn to respect that you can't get everything in a woman , if her good out weighs the bad things she exhibits it's a good thing, you also have your shortcomings. as someone earlier said she has a heart of gold, taking into consideration the bereaved owner of the place she works. if you want to grow and you want her to flow within the same pace as you give her something solid to hold onto. A month is too soon , seems you have gotten what you wanted from her already. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jackals(f): 2:58pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357: The thing is You became angry over a small issue.. Don't you know you're supposed to be petting her...woman are fragile creature...At that time you were calling her, she might be going through a lot...I suggest you call her and work thungs out |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Nobody: 3:01pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:Don't psychoanalyse my quotes pls. Anyways you got ur life, do as u please. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by IFEOLUWAKRIZ: 3:01pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
jackals: Saw four to five comments and I was like WOW. Is this not Nairaland again what's going on with all these reasonable comments. Breastfeeding by their girlfriends? let them hear you oo |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jackals(f): 3:03pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
IFEOLUWAKRIZ: Lols...Was surprised too....Nairalanders are known to be temperamental and overtly insensitive....surprised with what I'm seeing tho 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Nobody: 3:06pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:Now you've started the main reason instead of hiding behind are lack of commitment towards getting a better job. Dating a lady that cannot afford to pay church offering is quite funny, after they'll be championing a cause they don't even follow in reallity 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by IFEOLUWAKRIZ: 3:07pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
jackals: We pray this manifestation of sense should continue. |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by zed7: 3:10pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
The problem you have is you are not patient. Leaving a partner who is unserious isn't the issue, it's a valid reason, however, you have to have tried several times to motivate her without result. You don't say a person is unserious just after one attempt and she even had a valid reason. You don't write people off at all. This same girl can become your boss tomorrow, you don't control anyone's future. Learn from your mistakes. You might just be the helper and mentor this girl needs to be the best version of herself. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jackals(f): 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
IFEOLUWAKRIZ: That'd be a total overhauling... |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by IFEOLUWAKRIZ: 3:32pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
jackals: including people like me |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by ehmmy11(m): 4:15pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Finally let me make a comment .. Op you are not wrong for ending it the way you did.. Wat surprises me more was her response, I was like damn it.. It stinks of (too many options to choose from) you just dodged a bullet.. Nobody tells you that sugar is sweet ...just observe very well you will see that you were actually dating yourself.. *drops mic * 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by mrbock: 4:16pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
You made the right decision. I've been down this road before. it's just a huge waste of time. only go with someone that matches your drive to grow, we don't have all day to be pampering or petting an Adult. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by CosmicJames(m): 5:02pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:The decision is yours to make. But for me, relationship is not about proving a point. Is about being happy with peace of mind. What you should be very concern about is character. If she has a good character, then you can work out the rest. One of your job as her guy is to help her get better and bringing out the best in her. If you truly love her, then you will be patient enough with her. Looks like you want to get her back? If you don't really love her (I think you don't really love her), then I will advise you let her be. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Kwinesther: 5:16pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:In just a month relationship you have already concluded she isn't the type that would want to grow even when she gave genuine reasons why she couldn't attend the job invite? A month is not enough to make such conclusions. From your post you ended the relationship not because she wouldn't want to grow but because she made you look unserious to the HR which got you angry. |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by angelamina(f): 5:43pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Some people actually dosent like to be drag, they want to just sit-down and cross their legs while manner falls from heaven, life is hard already as it is so we are expected to grab every opportunity that comes up... ecstasy357: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Biglittlelois(f): 5:51pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357: I am appalled at most of the comments on first page Op although harsh, you've made the decision already, she is too relaxed where she is which is bad for a lady, who wouldn't want to have a boyfriend that cares about your growth and also has connections to make that happen? See her reply after you called it quits and the comments above neglected that part ooo!! She wasn't really into the relationship abeg even if its just one month, continue to be focused in what you want in a partner jare, it has nothing to do with pride. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by angelamina(f): 5:53pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Even men do that rubbish, u suggest a better approach to them that will bring good result, nooo, they will rather do it their way... To me u did nothing wrong.. She's complaining of brokness yet she won't try getting a better job, i dnt like people being too relaxed when given an opportunity 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by jackals(f): 6:15pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
IFEOLUWAKRIZ: Lols...Obviously. Most people on here are all angry with one thing or the other, and the best way to shed that off is on a faceless forum like this..You'd agree. |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by the1streak(m): 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Truth is U weren't patient and I know relationships need a lot of effort but partners should be like minded.She didn't see the job as important as you did and she lacks the foresight to see the job could have been her stepping stone, you gave her everything on a platter of gold. You're looking for someone who wants to inspire and develop herself +u to ur max potential, pray u find that person or work it out with ur ex . It's her reply after u told her u were calling it off that shocked me sha... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Nobody: 7:29pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357:You are on point bro. U have standards and anyone who wants to be in ur life should measure up to it. I like ur kinda person. Women hold us to certain standards, don't see any reason why we shouldn't do same. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by CosmicJames(m): 7:39pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
the1streak:To me her reply is not shocking. Rather, it reveals some background information about OP. Looks like she was already tired of the relationship due to OP's behaviour towards her. Consider that she said: "I can't force you to date me" That sounds like there was some existing stress already. The way op ended the relationship and how she responded says a lot that op is not telling us here. Ending a relationship is not a problem. But how one ended it is. |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by obi4eze(m): 7:40pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
CosmicJames: 1000000 likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by labake1(f): 7:50pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
ecstasy357: After reading this twice, I can't find the reason you ended the relationship. I think you don't love her enough, I know that you are trying to make her have the best. You should work on your temper though. Understanding matters a lot in a relationship, anyway Your decision is too quick 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Right To End Things With Her? by Nobody: 8:05pm On Apr 03, 2019 |
Lol.. This is what happens when you have a business mentality while entering a relationship . 'okay let's see, If I invest for sometimes and it doesn't yield interest at a specific time, I cut it out.' Even investors give their shares and bonds lots of time. Truth is op, you are kind of desperate. You are probably running out of time, or emotions that you cut out unfruitful relations as soon as you define them. Your time range is crazy though. . Well I can't really say you did bad, your mistake was calling or assuming a 4 weeks acquittance a relationship. The problem with relationships these days is that they happen too fast. Barely four weeks of meeting a lady( a stranger) she's already your girl? seriously? So now that you have realized you aren't compatible, she's now what? your ex oh Lord! just like that. Something you could have known through friendship. That girl get sense pass you.How? Her response. While you are busy forming the boss in the 'RELATIONSHIP' She was observing you.Do you know if she had her own doubts about you? Do you even know her? All you care about are 'Plans' like some Onitsha clothe seller. . Dude its best you take several steps backward, heal from your past relationship, see people differently and then you can try being in a relationship again. See him forming Macho like say relationship nah battlefield. God saved that girl o. 1 Like |
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