₦airaland Forum

Jodha:
Yhu sound like a weakling... How will yhu be contributing 50-50 with a woman...tufiakwa...even dates...

Yhure not ready at all ...

And as for the girl...I don't blame her at all...yhu were the one chyking her ..so why would she call yhu?...it's not like yhu guys were in a relationship sef..

prudentsolution:
What's the ryt way Ubunja?


A chick i love dearly mistook my kindness for weakness. I have starved her off attention for 6 months, now i'm choking. It's making me feel guilty, her eyes are all over me in the church left and right monitoring whom i talk with and whom i do not. How do i recapture that spot Ubunja?

ubunja:
yes. Yes. And yes.

Men need to make peace with female nature. Learn it. Get angry. Then decide. Do you love them as they are or do you walk away

EmekaBlue:
Yeah....i stopped bugging girls long time ago...i act like they mean nothing

lefulefu:
if she doesnt call u back to know why she aint hearing from u again then it means she doesnt and never cared abt u.she has someone dat is keeping her occupied.

Imoh555:
Do you know that In Nigeria, once the man stops calling, some relationship will just die a natural death?? I really just want to know why ladies always wants the man to do almost everything but they don't want to do or contribute anything yet they clamour for equal rights and feminism (let's not talk about that today) ever hear a lady say help me do so and so thing and guys will rush to do it..

But try telling a lady to help you carry your bag, you will hear something like do you want to kill me don't you know I'm a lady? My question is that is it appointed for men to suffer and always do the hard stuffs while ladies relax and get everything done for them and always be at the receiving end? I am very equal in my relationship we either split bills or work on projects together I don't have time to be worshiping any woman, Jesus died for everyone and not just for women alone that men should always be paying for their sins by living life for the ladies..

I was chyking one babe last December and I noticed she hardly ever calls even if I send airtime she liked me no doubt and was giving it to me hot, so I decided not to call for a week to see if she was gonna call and I ignored her whatsapp massages na so we take dey silent since February till now..

She called last night to ask if everything was OK and why I don't call and I asked her if she knew the phone works both ways...

Ladies please some of you should upgrade. A relationship is a 50/50 thing. For me I pay for our outings today you pay tomorrow or we contribute money and do whatever chills we want, you call I call, you text I text, you buy me gifts I reciprocate. Someone said I'm too strict that she can't date me I just told her I'm not strict that I just don't entertain mediocrity and I'm too tall to be bowing down to worship a woman who contributes absolutely nothing to my life.......

Make una no mind my rant,na bread and avocado wey I eat dey sweet me.... But let's learn to practice equality....if I have all it takes I'll provide for my woman but she just has to reciprocate in her own little way just to show me she cares too... Hope I made small sense

emmyreelz:
Entitlement mentality is the word. some have been pretty conditioned to believe that men owe them the world. Even speaking to them could be a privilege.
If you're a lady reading this, hear this loud and again, No man owes you nothing. Deal with it.

ubunja:
exactly lefulefu. That's how you seperate girls who wanted your ATTENTION and girls who wanted YOU.

oshaosha2014:
The ones that catch your fancy, go after them, and look out for the traits ubunja mentioned up there, in them. It’s that simple.

davidadenrele:
Hello OP,


You made quite a touching salient point here that's very most peculiar about most of Nigerian ladies, without generalizing it can be painful and disappointing why our ladies form hard to get only to fall cheap at the end, your point are undeniable fact but if you ask me your thought and expectation from this babes are foreign and and not localize, its only the first world you asked a babe out on date with simple courtesy and she said yes!!! no big deal and if the friendship would eventually lead to something serious she already see you as her boyfriend and she will endlessly get to know if you aint serious anymore about the relationship cos she will observe you are not the same guy she used to know, thats not to say all our Nigerian babes are terrible personal experience are involved sometimes, i have seen a situation where a babe i asked out once surprised me without any serious motive give me call and asked that we should go out to watch a movie, i didnt want to act as if i wasn't man enough neither do i know whats this babe is up to, cos i know what our typical naija babes can do sometimes, to i agreed and we meet at ozone, before i said hey, she has paid for the movie, bought 2 soda drinks and 2 pop corn, trust me she was damn pretty i was so scared and i was feeling very... very uneasy throughout while the movie lasted i kept wondering is this babe for real guess what i chickened out at last cos the babe didnt see any of this nice moves as any big deal she would call me most times, and would always want us to hang out together she was damn too independent in cause of dating her i found out that was her personality, she wasn't in anyway desperate or trying to be with me or impress it the moral lesson of this not all our Nigerian babes are all that bad, Just pray you meet the right one that would appreciate you and you would appreciate her back. I lost out cos i was naive and i was not experience enough to handle the said babe trust me there are very good babe out here.

Lordknowz:
I really dont understand why men cant just act like men anymore. Women are very tricky being in nature. They believe in trickying men to make that way thru. Thats why a man should never deal with a woman with emotions cos once they see that your falling stupidly one kind, they'll bounce on you. Instead, men should use strategies. You can always win over their trick with your strategy. In olden days, the warriors & strong men own the best women, They didnt fall stupidly for them & as you can see, the women served them well. Dont get too brainwashed about men needing women the most, its a fallacy of life! They needed us more. You can make it in life without any help from any woman. You can build your house, get your nice dream cars, travel to your dream places without any help from any woman. If not for kids & fun, they're just another human parasite. Men should stop begging for love, its useless. Dont beg for sex, its stupidity. Once you can control yourself over the 2 bullshit, then your a man for life. You'll live long and and sick less. You know when you keep prospering without worries. You go dey gallant!

jojothaiv:
As strange as it may seems..

I can still see some 'sensible' posts coming from the nice guys as usual.
In their mind they'd think those ladies are drooling after their comments.

tintingz:
You're generalizing too much and it's a problem.

Imoh555:
Do you know that In Nigeria, once the man stops calling, some relationship will just die a natural death?? I really just want to know why ladies always wants the man to do almost everything but they don't want to do or contribute anything yet they clamour for equal rights and feminism (let's not talk about that today) ever hear a lady say help me do so and so thing and guys will rush to do it..

But try telling a lady to help you carry your bag, you will hear something like do you want to kill me don't you know I'm a lady? My question is that is it appointed for men to suffer and always do the hard stuffs while ladies relax and get everything done for them and always be at the receiving end? I am very equal in my relationship we either split bills or work on projects together I don't have time to be worshiping any woman, Jesus died for everyone and not just for women alone that men should always be paying for their sins by living life for the ladies..

I was chyking one babe last December and I noticed she hardly ever calls even if I send airtime she liked me no doubt and was giving it to me hot, so I decided not to call for a week to see if she was gonna call and I ignored her whatsapp massages na so we take dey silent since February till now..

She called last night to ask if everything was OK and why I don't call and I asked her if she knew the phone works both ways...

Ladies please some of you should upgrade. A relationship is a 50/50 thing. For me I pay for our outings today you pay tomorrow or we contribute money and do whatever chills we want, you call I call, you text I text, you buy me gifts I reciprocate. Someone said I'm too strict that she can't date me I just told her I'm not strict that I just don't entertain mediocrity and I'm too tall to be bowing down to worship a woman who contributes absolutely nothing to my life.......

Make una no mind my rant,na bread and avocado wey I eat dey sweet me.... But let's learn to practice equality....if I have all it takes I'll provide for my woman but she just has to reciprocate in her own little way just to show me she cares too... Hope I made small sense

Masionreay:
Psychologically, u lack the analytical reasoning. You didn't get the message OP wanted to pass.
Some guys are sex crazed that they can sell there character just to have sex with a Lady.
Don't forget that women are like babies...praise them today...they expect it forever and vice versa

prudentsolution:
What's the ryt way Ubunja?


A chick i love dearly mistook my kindness for weakness. I have starved her off attention for 6 months, now i'm choking. It's making me feel guilty, her eyes are all over me in the church left and right monitoring whom i talk with and whom i do not. How do i recapture that spot Ubunja?

Athena4:
Lolz. What's your problem? Your dîck too small? Ladies don't like you? Your brokenness is fûcking ur ass? If my comment pain you go and jump from MTN mast.

Tundexxy:
You people and generalizing

While woman are like babies.... man are like warriors right?

Believe this people at your own peril..

Beware!!!

Masionreay:
From my research...if you're being too nice to a woman ur name is gonna . she wants to see that real man in you by being decisive and stiff no matter how beautiful or wet toto she gives. In her subconscious mind she wants a man like that. Even u does same ...if doubt it , look through ur inner self.

Saffi:
I’m glad not too many women have commented on this thread. Let them fight, bicker and have panic attack’s over something so senseless. At the end of the day, you log off nl and the reality sets in again

davidadenrele:
Hello OP,


You made quite a touching salient point here that's very most peculiar about most of Nigerian ladies, without generalizing it can be painful and disappointing why our ladies form hard to get only to fall cheap at the end, your point are undeniable fact but if you ask me your thought and expectation from this babes are foreign and and not localize, its only the first world you asked a babe out on date with simple courtesy and she said yes!!! no big deal and if the friendship would eventually lead to something serious she already see you as her boyfriend and she will endlessly get to know if you aint serious anymore about the relationship cos she will observe you are not the same guy she used to know, thats not to say all our Nigerian babes are terrible personal experience are involved sometimes, i have seen a situation where a babe i asked out once surprised me without any serious motive give me call and asked that we should go out to watch a movie, i didnt want to act as if i wasn't man enough neither do i know whats this babe is up to, cos i know what our typical naija babes can do sometimes, to i agreed and we meet at ozone, before i said hey, she has paid for the movie, bought 2 soda drinks and 2 pop corn, trust me she was damn pretty i was so scared and i was feeling very... very uneasy throughout while the movie lasted i kept wondering is this babe for real guess what i chickened out at last cos the babe didnt see any of this nice moves as any big deal she would call me most times, and would always want us to hang out together she was damn too independent in cause of dating her i found out that was her personality, she wasn't in anyway desperate or trying to be with me or impress it the moral lesson of this not all our Nigerian babes are all that bad, just pray you meet the right one that would appreciate you and you would appreciate her back, i lost out cos i was naive and i was not experience enough to handle the said babe trust me there are very good babe out here.

pansophist:
This female behaviour is completely understood when you understand the underlying female psychology. Female psychology is in reverse to the Male.

Men are hardwired to care and be sacrificial for others, meanwhile, women are hardwired to be cared and catered for. Their psychology is in reverse to the Male, hence, the observation the poster described accurately. Treat a woman nice, she will think she is better and awesome, and might consider you undeserving of her, it appeals to her self centeredness and narcissism. Conversely, Treats a man nice and he will think you're awesome, and treat you like the best thing ever. This is also why some men are stuck in the friend zone, since they are judging a woman from their own worldview. They think that when you are like a saviour to her, she will honour and wants you, just as a man will behave. That's a fatal mistake.

To break yourself through and not be a victim of her psychology, you have to put yourself first, treat yourself nice and focus all the energy in making yourself like the best thing. In other words, be as selfish and self centred as her, and set your standards high, that's when she interpret such as a sign of a quality man, and sit up to get your commitment. Dont worship her, shower her with attention and dont even spend much on her, it's a death sentence and an instant attraction killer. Thank me later.

ubunja:
close your mouth. You don't know what you're talking about.

catwalq:
There is a fine line btw being nice and being a walkover.

Tundexxy:
You people and generalizing

While woman are like babies.... man are like warriors right?

Believe this people at your own peril..

Beware!!!

akiOYIBO:
pls teach me reverse psychology