Acidosis:
Truth is if you enjoy the kind of attention the average woman enjoys on a daily basis, you wouldn't give a flying fck about who calls you or not.

If you want to understand the trick, try and date at least 4 women at the same time. It would take you around 2-3 days to realize you haven't heard from one of the four women. Why should you care or remember when 3 have gotten you overwhelmed with calls and chats?

Bottom line is many of you guys are nothing but mere OPTIONS. That you make them your priority changes nothing.


[NB: This analogy is not applicable to those in serious and committed relationships though]

i concur with you. The issue is that in life men hav been pvssy-whipped by society. A woman has men on the side,men to fvck,men that are atms and men for friendship. 99% of women do but they keep it secret. A man having options is shamed as a womaniser! Now, wen the woman finds a man she likes she suddenly expects the man to commit to only her even if the man isnt so into her. Mayb he's rich,successful or handsome. If they had sexx she accusses him of using her. Turn things around,if the woman isnt into a man or she finds a better catch,she dumps the dude like trash,without a second thought. No explanation,no decorum nothing. The best thing for a man is to date many women concurrently until he finds the one he is really into just like women do. Options is power.

Haha, All this Guys on this thread are just hype See ehe if you ignore a girl 100+ guys are in line to give her attention. The entitlement mentality that ladies have would never end as long as we have this sex starved guys. So guys blame yourself!! Woman wrapper attitude is disgusting

ubunja:
you seem to think this thread was for women. How entitled.

Asin Ehen can you imagin

ubunja:
remember even votes go by generalizations. The voice of the majority is the voice of God.

Voting is not generalizing, infact it's the opposite!

Sigh.

DONADAMS:
yes, you're very right..reminds me of a girl I met sometime in October..liked her, and we dated. now since that October this gal never called me. whether she was broke I don't know(she's a student tho) buh I found it disgusting. now she liked me very much, even much more than I liked her buh she doesn't call , buh she flashes more than thrice everyday and expects me to call all times she flashed. I later stopped calling buh she kept flashing, she continued for days buh I didn't call so she stopped it. she confronted me on WhatsApp that I do not like her again..I asked why, she said cos I don't call again, I asked her if she had a conscience cos since we met she has never called me(though she has buh put together all the calls it hasn't been up 5mins). and she shouldn't make excuse about being broke cos she can't tell me she has gotten #100 for the past 6month..her reply was fvcking annoying.. she said she was sorry that it was my responsibility to call..I was like 'what is then your responsibily'? I no blame her sha..she's from the north and girls from the north are hardwired that way. the r/ship just died a natural death. after all I don't believe in long distance relationships,I met her during my finals days in school , I insisted we don't start any relationship cos it may not work, buh she insisted we did. it bothered me cos if a gal cannot reciprocate something as trivial as phonecalls , of what good s she? and na she go dey shout marriage, marriage..you 1 come turn liability for my house abi?

noticed this too. It's chronic stinginess nd miserliness. Women of this kind want to offload every expense to the man. The man pays for the phone call, the date, transportation to d date. If this kind call they'll b very catious to keep it under say N20-30! They think theyre smart but it gives off bad aura from them

Here to view reactions shikina

soul95:


But that's what ladies like. By nature, I'm an altruist, I believe in doing good not for any hidden motive,but because that's my nature. My major observation with the ladies is that women mostly disrespect you if you are good to them (and no I'm not asking them out or intending to sleep with them, I'm just being me, sincere, principled and honest), and funny enough some of the girls are not even my level (no pride, as a rule I don't discriminate, I feel very much comfortable taking with a homeless man as talking with some corporate big shot), but the girls just start being deliberately disrespectful. So most times it just ends there.

Then there was a time I went through serious depression (when I'm depressed I don't cry, but I get easily upset and have this mean cold Machiavellian face), guest what: the ladies were flashing the green light left right centre, surprise breakfasts from neighbours in night gowns with nothing under, the winks, the bosom pressing against the arm, the flirty texts. Funny thing was I did not even respond to any, I was hurting deep inside to care about stuff like that (and no I don't use sex or any thing to drown my sorrows, except maybe music).

I've had a very pretty girlfriend that used to mess up big time, once I got tired of her matter (na school my papa send me, make i focus on studies), I just completely fash her matter, this girl just got my keys, started so much attention, she would spend 3 days and 5 nights out of the week in my house, cook food with her money (I didn't tell her to), sometimes I would go on field trips to facilities only to come back and see a well prepared meal and sexy lingerie, man got tired. But anytime I truly showed this girl that I love her, if you see the kind of way she will misbehave eh...(you would think she is in partnership with my village people to destroy my soul). Last last, I just ended the matter, got serious with God,no sexual relationships for a while till marriage. But I've seen that behavioral pattern especially amongst pretty girls(highly educated by the way).

Women hold the rules of engagement in relationships. Once upon a time, to get the girl you had to be the best gentleman and her father must approve, so then all boys wanted to be gentleman, you know suits,hats, ball dances and all that. Nowadays, you have to be the bad boy, so boys lie, dress irresponsibly in the name of swag and even join cult to form rugged to impress women (me sef e dey baffle me). So you girls made the call, don't complain.

i've noticed this phenomenom too. Even dirty local illiterate women will b shunning u and u'll b wondering what's blowing their heads up.

tintingz:
Voting is not generalizing, infact it's the opposite!

Sigh.

you're dumb.
That's why national elections are always referred to as General Elections. It's the general population expressing their desire. And you then can generalize and say All Nigerians love Buhari.
Does it mean All Nigerians voted for Buhari? No. The majority did

soul95:


But that's what ladies like. By nature, I'm an altruist, I believe in doing good not for any hidden motive,but because that's my nature. My major observation with the ladies is that women mostly disrespect you if you are good to them (and no I'm not asking them out or intending to sleep with them, I'm just being me, sincere, principled and honest), and funny enough some of the girls are not even my level (no pride, as a rule I don't discriminate, I feel very much comfortable taking with a homeless man as talking with some corporate big shot), but the girls just start being deliberately disrespectful. So most times it just ends there.

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Is there any lady who should even deny this? Even though there are still some women who don't do this that i have met personally, but the stereotypes are soooo real.

Familiarity is the mother of disrespect & women cannot hardly handle it, but i have learnt not to put everyone in a box, its always best get to know a girl to treat her differently.

Women are wired in a particular way in reverse. Problem is they get to this self realisation in their 40s.

Newguyhere:


Bro please what advice can you give to someone dating a gemini girlfriend? .. Lol

pls give her lots of space. Let her do what she wants but caution her when she does excess. Pls give her chance to talk. But whenever you are with her, b ready to bring up topics to smooch her mental center. let her do the calling. She will love you for this

Some comments here make me feel like barfing. When will this Nairaland Gender War (so to speak) end? Nothing is as enthralling as having both sexes rub minds together like matured people.

True, some ladies succumb when you use reverse psychology on them but one bitter truth y'all should know is no matter how much you bash the entire women folk, men will continue to chase after them till the moon is no more.

I beseech you guys to tune down your vulgar and degrading words. Everyone has had one or two bitter experiences, it doesnt have to make you a demon. In all you say, remember you've all got mothers and sisters. Let's be guided nitori Olorun.

NB: I neither insulted nor quoted anybody to lash out at him/her. Saw scaled viper will not bite you o

paulnewplay:

noticed this too. It's chronic stinginess nd miserliness. Women of this kind want to offload every expense to the man. The man pays for the phone call, the date, transportation to d date. If this kind call they'll b very catious to keep it under say N20-30! They think theyre smart but it gives off bad aura from them

you're very right bro, and it's very annoying

Bbbwings:

Saffi is being emotional.
There is a reason that the risk of a child being born with down syndrome increases significantly when she starts reaching 35. The more reason to marry younger ladies.
I don't want no stupid kids.

This got me laughing seriously, you want no stupid kids, buh are down syndrome kids, stoopid kids?

ubunja:
mah niggah

ubunja:
mah niggah

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very greedy set of ppl, am presently in this table, she hardly calls unless I call, will never buy gifts but expects one from me, she will never reciprocate the love...if I tell her I love her, she can't even say "I love you too" she do rather chip in same...I am even tired of complaining self

See how you can concentrate on studies when in love https://explicitsuccess.com/how-to-concentrate-on-study-when-in-love/

ubunja:
that's how girls move. That's the best you'll get. Girls choose you. You respond.

When they form it's because your opening lines disappointed. She thought you were Alpha and you openned like a Simp.

Are u kidding me ? if a girl really love u she will even laugh at ur worst joke sef. who line Don help ? , na unless she didn't love ufrom the start

Bad boy behavior only work for upcoming teens .when a girl begins to mature she begins to reason differently

castro316:
pls give her lots of space. Let her do what she wants but caution her when she does excess. Pls give her chance to talk. But whenever you are with her, b ready to bring up topics to smooch her mental center. let her do the calling. She will love you for this

Thanks alot bro!!
You are spot on about the calling part!!, she calls me alot!!

Bad boy behavior only work for upcoming teens .when a girl begins to mature she begins to reason differently .don't go n make money. By d time u r old with out money let c how yr bad boy behavior will help u

ubunja:
lmfao.
It's everywhere. It's just that guys don't go for the girls who really love them but force themselves on girls that never really love them. When a girl loves you she puts effort. She never sits on her hands.
It's sad but most guys will die never knowing the love of a girl that is pure and self-generated.

you've said the truth.
coming from my past relationships till my current one, I've seen that when a woman loves her guy, all the talk of alpha or beta male won't exist. she will bring 'herself' into the relationship, and as the guy you'll know it's not just you doing all the work.


Anyway, I know now that there's a difference between how you treat ladies who are only sex materials and how you treat ladies who are wife materials.

ubunja:
that's how girls move. That's the best you'll get. Girls choose you. You respond.

When they form it's because your opening lines disappointed. She thought you were Alpha and you openned like a Simp.

Depends on the lady... A sex material or wife material. I don't have to always be the best actor with the best line, perfect hairstyle, everyday, every time.. I'm going to rather be myself, and if she's mine, she'll respect and appreciate that.

ubunja:
you're dumb.
That's why national elections are always referred to as General Elections. It's the general population expressing their desire. [s]And you then can generalize and say All Nigerians love Buhari.[/s]
Does it mean All Nigerians voted for Buhari? No. The majority did

Lol, you're an illiterate. Are you not taught types of "fallacies" in school? It is more ridiculous that those that like your post are illiterate just like you.

> Correction: Not "All Nigerians" love Buhari, it's "Majority Nigerians" love Buhari.

This the definition of generalizations which is a form of fallacy called Hasty generalization .

- A hasty generalization is a fallacy in which a conclusion is not logically justified by sufficient or unbiased evidence. It's also called an insufficient sample, a converse accident, a faulty generalization, a biased generalization, jumping to a conclusion, secundum quid, and a neglect of qualifications.

You don't elect a democratic leader by generalizations, you elect by voting which comes with statistics, results (evidence) by then the "majority" vote takes the lead.

The problem with generalizing is, e.g All women or women are whorè, by this you're also saying you're a whorè, your sisters, your mother, aunt, female friends are all whorè.
To save yourself from this, just use "majority" or "most"!

You didn't leave a room for those that are not, you just generalize everybody.

You need to educate yourself better, stop displaying your illiteracy.

ubunja:
Yes sir.
guys keep coming and clarfying truth more and more.

Being a Bad Boy does not mean being a criminal and breaking the Law. It means going against the grain of society and breaking those unwritten rules that so many men live by but that are all about putting women at the centre of your life. Bad Boys put THEMSELVES at the centre of their lives. And to pussyworshipping losers that's blasphemy.

Splendid. The pussy worshippers will never learn.

9japrof:


This got me laughing seriously, you want no stupid kids, buh are down syndrome kids, stoopid kids?

Their IQ is below average.

paulnewplay:

i concur with you. The issue is that in life men hav been pvssy-whipped by society. A woman has men on the side,men to fvck,men that are atms and men for friendship. 99% of women do but they keep it secret. A man having options is shamed as a womaniser! Now, wen the woman finds a man she likes she suddenly expects the man to commit to only her even if the man isnt so into her. Mayb he's rich,successful or handsome. If they had sexx she accusses him of using her. Turn things around,if the woman isnt into a man or she finds a better catch,she dumps the dude like trash,without a second thought. No explanation,no decorum nothing. The best thing for a man is to date many women concurrently until he finds the one he is really into just like women do. Options is power.

Man wey sabi

Tundexxy:




Keep treating relationship like employer to employee contract.. You will learn your lesson

Can u be more apparent pls

tiptoe1:


Advise them from now till Jesus comes, they'll never listen cause they think being nice gets them women easily(yes it does but the type of women you get matters) but Ubunja aka wikileaks has said it all

BEING BAD GETS YOU WOMEN AT THE BEGINNING WHEN THEY ARE FRESH AND SWEET AND BEING GOOD GETS YOU WOMEN AT THE END WHEN THEY ARE DAMAGED TRASH.

ubunja has gotten a name....

paulnewplay:

i've noticed this phenomenom too. Even dirty local illiterate women will b shunning u and u'll b wondering what's blowing their heads up.

Na this one vex me pass for where girls dey. Empty-headed ladies feeling proud and important because they have lots of toasters.