All na scam.

They will tell you to wait till after marriage that you will do it till you're tired , after you get married to her gbam.


You will keep hearing,I'm tired, body no be firewood,any little misunderstanding she will use it against you and when the devil start using you ,they will cry foul.

Beedude:
Am married so I will give u advice base on experience.
*Get a runs girl that will be ur side chick
*No string attached. Pay her for her services
*Enjoy urself with her and stop disturbing ur wife about sex
*Psychologically, u won't ask for sex from her again
*She will notice the change in ur attitude and become bothered
*Make sure she doesn't sneak on u or catch u
*Next she will demand sex from u without u asking
*Give it to her and continue with ur side chick package
*Once u notice her factory reset don set, stay away from ur side chick (her services are no longer required)
*Lastly ask for forgiveness from God and move on with ur wife

NB: If after getting urself a side chick and ignore sex with her and she didn't change. It's most likely ur wife libido is dead or she has anoda person shinning her Congo. At that point only God can save ur relationship

Get a proper girl in my opinion. Not runs girl. He needs the companion experience. He also needs a proper backup plan. He should be plain with her anyway. I don't think a man should stoop so low to get a runs girl when he can get the real woman. Many single women out there looking for men like him. If her brain resets, then she has work to do to get him back from his babe. She can't have her cake and still eat it na.

Safiaa:
Darling sex is very important to men. We do not understand it because typically woman do not have the same sex drive as men esp after kids. But it’s important and you cannot deprive your husband from it. The same way you wouldn’t want your husband to deprive you of the things you deserve as a wife, or you will look elsewhere after frustration. We are human beings with emotions, we have to learn to compromise when marriage is involved even if it doesn’t suit your prerogative. That’s how the union will last. Sex is like food to men, they value it more than anything else in this world. Most of them even value it more than money unfortunately, and funny enough it’s not an addiction it’s just their nature. So instead of using it against him and starving him from it, a smart woman should use sex to get what she wants from her husband. Use their love for sex to your advantage instead of suffering yourself and your husband, it doesn’t make sense.

This is utter dross coming from a yokel.

Only weak men like the op would worry about sex and complain of sexual starvation.

Of all the problems we're facing as Nigerians, it is sex that the op sees as a priority! Smh

Real men are more concerned about making money! Sex is the least thing to be worried or complain about.

lilyheaven:


My opinion
Pretend you have a girl outside
Do nasty calls in her presence
Or
You can rape her
Can a man rape his wife?

Do not pretend. Get one.

LordBailish:



This is utter dross coming from a yokel.

Only weak men like the op would worry about sex and complain of sexual starvation.

Of all the problems we're facing as Nigerians, it is sex that the op sees as a priority! Smh

Real men are more concerned about making money! Sex is the least thing to be worried or complain about.

Subjective reasoning. You're projecting your values on the issue here. Has the Op stated that he has money problems

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

I don't blame you. You probably menstruate 20 days a month. Fish brain

OkpaAkuEriEri:
Ur amu is not healthy.

No wife cn resist a good amu no mata d forkup

Everything is not sex or you no Sabi. This is a serious issue, you will never understand.

tiwiex:


Get a proper girl in my opinion. Not runs girl. He needs the companion experience. He also needs a proper backup plan. He should be plain with her anyway. I don't think a man should stoop so low to get a runs girl when he can get the real woman. Many single women out there looking for men like him. If her brain resets, then she has work to do to get him back from his babe. She can't have her cake and still eat it na.

A proper girl might complicate things for him should incase the wife change. So a runs girl will help. She won't even feel used or dump. Just for few months till the wife brain reset. And u should know some guys aren't good in managing 2 relationships. Everything get messy. A runs girl will never call u, text u or complicate ur life

Your díck big? Be like your wife dey collect better penís outside.....do your findings.

Uyaiicomparabl what do you have to say on this?

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

This is the wrongest place to come. Naira land is full of immature underaged that only spend their lives on internet with no experience on family matters. They will mislead you. Just watch the first few comment you get & you'll know what I mean. Get a place with more serious minds for advice.

Planet3xi:




Subjective reasoning. You're projecting your values on the issue here. Has the Op stated that he has money problems

In your intellectual cleverness, this is an issue we should be worried about even if op has no money problems?

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

you r a good man. Dont listen what others are saying.

-since this story is one sided, they re thing i'lld rather not say. Talk to ur wife try to solve the matter as soon as possible. Look into her eyes and ask her why she is denying you sex.
-it could be something else. She might having issues. It could Spiritual or physical and she dosent knw hw u'll react to it yet so she dosent wanna get involved... Let her knw u will support her.
- if she's still starving u then get both families involved. Let them knw ur pain.
- if she dosent buldge Threaten to marry som1 else. Because unless she is being smashed by another person i dnt see any reason why she shouldnt be Hot anytime u wanna have sex. Its a sin to starve ones patner 4 sex.
-pray.

Your wife is getting enough elsewhere. Investigate and thank me later.

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

Have you ever been married at all? If yes please return the lady to her parents & wait for another 2 years.

Optimus212:


She still believes am cheating on her ever since d last destructive experience she had but before God and man, I am not cheating on her. Whenever she accuses me, I sometimes accept just to get her mad, d accusations don tire me. And she does not like it when I shout madly at her but brotherly, I am d man of d house, I gast show her dat am in charge nau.

I am not your wife. I may not know exactly what her issue is but from what you have said as a woman considering the story you said there are two reasons I may act how she is acting
1. If I felt a man is cheating I would not want to get an infection and would avoid him like the plague. When trust is broken it is very difficult to repair. You may say you are no longer cheating but how would she know? However, in your case you are saying you are cheating. It may seem like you are just trying to get her mad. But considering the fact that you have actually cheated do you think this is the right path to go?
Get tested for all possible infections. Show her the result. Take steps to regain her trust. For what you did, one month is not even enough punishment. Be Patient and apologize not trying to put acid on the wounds you caused by throwing your ability to cheat in her face. She already knows you can cheat.

2. Could it be that with the childbirth and all the stress it comes with her interest in the other room has dropped? Women are the king of pretending they enjoy s~~ when they don't in other to make the man fill happy. Try to find out if she is genuinely not interested. Focus on her what would she like to do? Does she have a stressful day? Can you make the day free from stress and take her to somewhere special? Just for her no demands of s** from your angle.

LordBailish:


In your intellectual cleverness, this is an issue we should be worried about even if op has no money problems?

And how's his life suppose to twist to fit your preconceived more-impirtant needs and why should it be his responsibility?

luluman:
Have you ever been married at all? If yes please return the lady to her parents & wait for another 2 years.

Get lost. Trying to sound intelligent. Bring your constructive contributions let's hear it and not the popular let's take another individual down syndrome. I've got better things to do.

Optimus212:


God bless U real good.

As for d mode of dressing & looks, I believe am at d top of my game, one of d things she brags to outsiders about. She always compliment my fashion sense & extra great taste for good colognes which she says I spend fortunes on.

As for sexual performances, by God's grace am blessed sexually which she can also attest to.

I am still trying to figure out why these acts, she's complaining I use to insult her. My brother, is cautioning someone insult? There are things I don't like, if I take drastic measures or refuses to adhere to her suggestions, she gets mad & later uses sex as a weapon against me. I cnt be pleading to a woman I legally married for sex, its un-manly. I have stopped all advances, let's see where this her pride will lead us to. Its jst that I dnt want to go out again cos of d kids.
But I'll try to resist her for as long as I can. Thank God i have something doing. I have my own firm.

Brotherly this thing is easy.
Option 1
try maintaining good relations with your wife and kids
Dont ask of sex from your wife again
Whenever you feel the urge to have sex just go outside get a good sexy babe that will treat you right( not sidechicks o but a one night stand babe)
You can get them on instamessage,instagram even Nairaland(just go to sexuality threads,Ashawo joints to be precise).
Having done all these am sure she will come around real soon, it just a matter of time.
#Yolo

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Don't cheat on your wife, there is no gain there. Talk to her, communication. Or maybe she's afraid of getting pregnant again? Clarify everything with her.

missimelda01:
Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for their bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

Ask for forgiveness? Op ignore this part. I repeat ignore this part. Old things r passed away, before you'll dig out more trouble. She never forgive you finish for small matter na this one? She'll just end up not forgiving you till u die.

[/color]go and upgrade your gbola

Buy Spanish fly or gold fly , spike her drink with it . She will come begging for the sex . And if I’m the one I will still deny her the sex after spiking her drink . I’m sure that will make her learn how it feels to be sex starved ��

Planet3xi:



Get lost. Trying to sound intelligent. Bring your constructive contributions let's hear it and not the popular let's take another individual down syndrome. I've got better things to do.

Do as you are told.Not all topics are for internet kids. This one is for experienced Husbands please.

Optimus212:


Thanks bro, majority of the people commenting here are single & knows little or nothing about marriage. Its easy to detect them by their comments. Only a few singles here has given reasonable suggestions.

dear brother, if the ladies on this thread keeps supporting your wife for sex starving you, asking you questions on y U can't live without sex, probably you should also withdraw Ur finances from the house, let the woman take care of the house and let's see what happens in the end, it baffles me when I see women acting like a God when they offer nothing at home financially rather than open up the legs and take care of the family, something a mad woman does successfully......

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

You are a soft foolish man
Idiot. U have lost ur crown

merahki:


Honestly? Apart from my viewpoint that gender wars are pointless because it is filled with hypocrisy, this is the other reason it is hard for me to fight for a single gender, and I take each case as it touches my heart
People wear masks during courtship, pretend a lot and tolerate a lot then, and just wait for the vows before the horror show piñata is smashed
And outtumbles all sorts of stuff
I see quite a lot of it because my job involves some counselling
It’s not cool at all
@ OP, I wish the poster and his spouse healing and happiness, and if it is not working out, they should go their ways
Trust me the kids would be better off for it

I actually missed your point

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

Best laugh ever today no b small slap... slapology

zeb04:
into my own house.
Uhhhhhh. That scares me. Mschewwww

no wonder....I thought as much...U must have married a woman......

Some times ago, my wife denied me sex for weeks. I later LIED to her that I had SEX with one beautiful LADY in my office and she happens to know the beautiful LADY as a wayward lady.

That day hennn, she OPENED her "OFFICE" for me to have access.

Planet3xi:



And how's his life suppose to twist to fit your preconceived more-impirtant needs and why should it be his responsibility?

Oh! Apparently, you're in similar predicament with op.

Was wondering why you've crying more than the bereaved and why my submission is troubling for you.

Now slowly read this 'My Wife Starves Me Of Sex'
Tell me, how does that sound?

What kinda man utters that?