₦airaland Forum

Oluromantic:
Sorry perhaps I'm about to screw you too.

If she makes money and stands on her own as independent, what else?

See the problem is not either way.. if a woman needs help she'll get it like she deserves it, when they make it on thier own which isn't even common, giving becomes a problem bcus she felt she struggled to make it. The men who made it and give the women, did they not struggle?

My point is this, your beauty comes out as a woman when u live a life of "less of yourself and more of others" regardless of whether you made it or in need. That's what keeps men at d top, not just culture. A man would share his last dime without hope of where to get another.. women don't understand life from that perspective.

It's not only about money but life in general.. when that becomes ur personality, you'll get help and still be honored with it as a woman neither will you be bashed for being independent because you're actually not independent in d first place but dependent on generosity

In my view that's d jackpot of life that brings you to the top in spite of all, whether u are rich or poor, always live a life of "less of me, more of others". For women it's always about " me me me me me, what someone will do for me, what I will not do for someone because I suffered to have it, always about me me and me". When one is too conscious of herself, you will get only negative responses. What a life!

Brilliant post!

Oluromantic:


My point is this, your beauty comes out as a woman when u live a life of "less of yourself and more of others" regardless of whether you made it or in need. That's what keeps men at d top, not just culture. A man would share his last dime without hope of where to get another.. women don't understand life from that perspective.

In my view that's d jackpot of life that brings you to the top in spite of all, whether u are rich or poor, always live a life of "less of me, more of others". For women it's always about " me me me me me, what someone will do for me, what I will not do for someone because I suffered to have it, always about me me and me". When one is too conscious of herself, you will get only negative responses. What a life!

good

after wooing her for a long time she called me one day to come n buy her a gown at market square.

Kenneth10110:
PS4 in 2013 hmmm

Yea, imagine the price then...she thought I was ibori's son, I nor blame her

The funny thing is that most of these ladies won't marry a guy better than the ones they scammed

Ryan03:
I thank God for the kind of girl I have sha, no billings of any kind. I fit just use my mind when I know say she not get just give her small. she works hence doesn't need mine

Hope you are right.

Some girls do not ask and work BUT are quietly seething that you do not do what a man should be doing.

That's how complex ladies are. Some won't ask directly.

You only get to know if one day an argument breaks out.

The consequence can be that she takes your poor financial commitment as a licence for her to cheat.

Lots of girls juggle several men either to have options/plan ABC, or for the perks from the men.

Unless you are very lucky to meet that extraordinary girl, do not celebrate too much that she's not billing you.

TheMainMan:
even if this was a lie... i laughed small

lol...u so funny...hw i go just sitdown 2 form lie...if u want her number i can forward it so u confirm from her

KwashB419:
lol something similar happened to be back then in 2009. there was this lady who happens to get my number from God knows where. we got talking and decided to hangout one sunday afternoon. we chose 2 hangout at a place called juice and grillade (now southern fried chicken, this should be familiar to Jos residents). the D-day came and i arrived at the place b4 her though we sheduled it 4 2 o' clock. On getting there, i met some of my paddies there chilling and told dem i am expecting a new gal. i had 2 wait for this gal for another 2 hrs b4 she told me dat she was already on her way coming...i was already feeling exhausted and had 2 wait outside the eatery seated close 2 one cobblers shop. lo and behold 2 bikes arrived each carrying 2 ladies, and one of the ladies dails a number and my phone rang( mind you, i have never met the gal b4 ), dat was my date . i didnt pick d call and kept on calling repeatedly and i didnt pick despite been like 10m away from where they were standing. Finally i decided 2 pick up the call and she affirmed that she was the one standing in from of the eatery, i walked up to her and we all exchanged pleasantries from which we proceeded inside. brothers and sisters i wasnt breathing well.. my friends saw me and the looks on their face could tell it all ( their hommy is in deep shit)...i turned to my "assault team" and asked then what they would love to take, and they all echoed "anything"! brothers and sisters that was my saving Grace, i dashed out to counter b4 any of dem could think of changing their mind. At the counter i requested for 8 bons , 2 for each person( the bons costs 50 naira each, and 4 of smallest cup ice each at 150 naira each.. Got the biggest cup ice cream and two meat pie for myself ( sense will not kill ).. orders arrived and we were served.. was taking my meatpies and they were struggling with thier bons with an everlasting looks on thier faces... peple of God, the bill was brought and it turned out to be 2500 naira only ( had 10k on me though)...i paid the bill with a very big smile on ma face cos i was able to overcome the "assault team".. had to even go get dem polythene leather cos they couldnt finish the bons and had 2 take dem home.

LOOOOOOL Very Bad Sharp Guy

Lol many nairaland boys are broke sha. Why would you be rolling with girls that demand ShopRite as a first date?!. Imagine the Calibre of girls y'all roll with!
Anyways they always advise you date women on the same ranking as you

DimkpaBini:
The girl chose ShopRite for our first date
That should have tipped me off.I pulled out all the stops trying to impress her, bought the biggest chicken there, ice cream etc.She was forming ajebo for me.She said she wasn't hungry but made sure she packed everything

She then told me she wanted to go shopping and I foolishly agreed....big mistake
The Mumu girl almost finished my one month salary at one go and had the frigging nerve to tell me that it was a good start.I didn't say anything but as soon as she left I blocked her.
Mehn this chick was desperate,she even went as far as contacting my siblings to complain that I was ignoring her
I learnt never to take a girl to ShopRite on a date.If we can't do it somewhere else.. forget it

If a girl tells you I want to go shopping and you follow her automatically means you are paying? , Or does the conversation about who pays come up.

Or does the man just pick up the bill after shopping while the girl pretends to want to pay?

I really want to understand because I've seen this alot on nairaland and it baffles me that a guy takes a girl who requests to go shopping and ends up paying.

I've never experienced it but I see it alot here on nairaland hence I ask.


Modified.



Cc pansophist.


Just read your take. It baffles me tremendously particularly the supermarket shopping part. If you wanted those things then buy them yourself.

I can pay for food drinks movies etc but shopping!!!!!!. What the F.

I can go shopping and maybe she picks a soap or something but not full scale female shopping and I will be walking behind her to pay for her stuff no way.

Guys who do this there's something wrong with you.

AngelicBeing:
Hahaha, chai, you Ben Johnson from the sharks and thieves

Yeah,Ben Johnson i mean...Na Real Thieves dem be.... Na their type go save ur name as Mugu1 after them chop u finish.

ikechukz:
Yeah I'm introverted so I carefully select those who I associate with. One funny thing is that I get a lot of respect from even those that are older than me and ladies usually comport themselves around me. The only painful thing is that I don't know how to catch feelings or even love, so one minute is enough for me to forget any girl.

lol ..thats cardioprotective

Mariangeles:
I am a lady with dignity .

well this is Nairaland. Anyone can claim what they are not, no way of knowing.. You are a lady with "Dignity" you say. i call bullsh!t . for the right price you will sell it . Well, you support Arsenal and you are proud abt it, so i might believe you. Takes lots of Dignity to support them . anyway, seriously speaking all girls have their price, some are just damn high. i have dated 1 who seemed perfect tho, never asked for money, was ready to pay for outings. i even force her to accept money 4rm me. dated for 3yrs & had her eyes 4 no one else. very nice girl until a guy crushing on her bought a benz ml350 .. then she became a bitch, cheated on me with him, broke up with me and started dating him. well after 6months the guy got tired of fu*cking her nd left her. early this year, dnt know hw she knew i have gotten a better car than what she left me for and doing ok myself. called to preach love to me

nwanneni:
So today a friend of mine was having a wedding.
Not really a fan of things like that but had to go for the sake of going and I was bored tbh.

So I got there and sat on a table with the rest of the guys gisting and sipping some henny...
Then I met this girl who was a mutual friend with one of my guys.

So they went to dance but I really wasn't in the mood for any buga tbh and I sat on the table in peace sipping my drink and surfing Nairaland lol.

Later she came to join me and asked if/why I wasn't dancing.
Mumbled some gibberish to her so she could let me be but she stayed

Well we got talking and seem she was smart and all..
So party ended and I was even bored sef and made straight for the door.
She came again what the hell?
Small talk again till the rest of the guys came out to meet us.

Niggas were already giving me the bad guy look and I just decided to play along...
We gisted again loudly(you know guys na) and laughed hard and did some zanku legwork dance and were fooling around basically I really danced today oo.
So we round up and it was time to head home.
Ah Ah?she came to ride with me and all..
Anyways,I decided to be a gentleman to at least drop her off...

On our way back, was tuned to 96.5fm ph and rema dumebi came on and trust mark levinson surround sound in a Lexus.sounded like a club in there and I was tipsy and singing at the top of my cracked voice..lol
She was moody and all so I decided to ask what was her problem?
After all the back and forth and me acting like I care(chyking things cos fùck dey hungry me) she started yapping some ish to me.
She said there is a tour coming up and she wants to go
Where?Dubai....

Me; ok great there is no such thing as good as travelling.
She; but I am broke
Me; ehen?
She; some mumbo jumbo and she later said was wondering if we could go together
Me; on whose expense?
She; you of course! and I'm serious
Me; ok
She; some small talk again and she dropped another one how she needs to go shopping and all
Me; alright! I'll be busy this weekend so can we go upper Saturday? (was just trying to end the whole damn thing so I go my way and forget the chewing stick legged entitled prick)
She; is that not what y'all say?
Me; seems you've been with many guys to be able to know this
She; no,friends say stuff and I see guys
Well,las las I agree to shop for her upper weekend and all and acted like I was serious about the trip with her.
She say I should shop for her first then we can proceed with the trip

Say this one will prove how serious I was with the trip.
So I went to one interior part of PHC to drop her off and almost damaged my sump in the process

We said our goodbyes and I delete her damn number from my phone.

So guys, have you ever had these outrageous demands and what was yours like?

This should be interesting

MA nigga...!!.. Nice one bruv

pansophist:
Haha, you got it. Asked anyone that has worked for a female boss before, same stories. Even all house girl brutality are done by their madam. Research was done some time ago, that 80% of women don't even want to work for women. Yes, you heard it right. Even women prefer to be bossed by men, not their own kind, women. You can watch this video below, it discussed about it.

Another thing to think about. I have never met a man in my whole life, that prefer women as a friend, than men. But I have met countless women that prefer male friends than women. It is of no surprise that every religion, tradition and most society is head by a male. Women do not make good leaders, they just cant. To be selfish and solipsistic (as oppose to being self-sacrificial and extend care outside the self) is not an attribute of a leader, rendering most women fit for the position of leadership.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C57mK0GXCas

While this is mostly true, I've observed that elderly women (45 years and above) tend to be better at leadership especially those in successful marriages.

It depends how you present yourself. Some guys are fund of killing an iroko tree with their mouths, in such cases a girl will play clever on them.

Ryan03:
i have noticed that most girls in wedding receptions and malls go there to look for boyfriends (maga) the real ones will just be working and may not even stay till the end of the party

Notably right

idonhammer:
How u go look fine Girl like this dey ask whether she is related to OBJ? By the way, OBJ na igbo?I think u are one those girls we are talking about here.

Fine wetin?

Is like serious apolo dey do you for eye?

Nonsense

Mariangeles:
She does not need permission from you to choose where she's more comfortable.
She's doing you a favour by agreeing to go on a date in the first place ...
All she has to do is comport herself like a lady.

Can you see entitlement spirit? You are both doing yourselves "favour."

Those words you said up there is part of the reason some girls at 45 are still living with their parents. Ask Iniedo and Rita Dominic for more info.

DimkpaBini:
The girl chose ShopRite for our first date
That should have tipped me off.I pulled out all the stops trying to impress her, bought the biggest chicken there, ice cream etc.She was forming ajebo for me.She said she wasn't hungry but made sure she packed everything

She then told me she wanted to go shopping and I foolishly agreed....big mistake
The Mumu girl almost finished my one month salary at one go and had the frigging nerve to tell me that it was a good start.I didn't say anything but as soon as she left I blocked her.
Mehn this chick was desperate,she even went as far as contacting my siblings to complain that I was ignoring her
I learnt never to take a girl to ShopRite on a date.If we can't do it somewhere else.. forget it

You're the definition of MAGA

AwkaetitiBabe:
Here to read lies o. Cos I can't imagine making demands on a first date! Unless you don't like the guy and wanna chase him off

Nne m ooo,not even a date, just mere wedding and dropping off, she don dey ask for Dubai and shopping? Some people suppose dey receive slap when dem dey lie!

captainking:
MA nigga...!!.. Nice one bruv

thanks gee

AwkaetitiBabe:
Here to read lies o. Cos I can't imagine making demands on a first date! Unless you don't like the guy and wanna chase him off

crowley:
well this is Nairaland. Anyone can claim what they are not, no way of knowing.. You are a lady with "Dignity" you say. i call bullsh!t . for the right price you will sell it . Well, you support Arsenal and you are proud abt it, so i might believe you. Takes lots of Dignity to support them . anyway, seriously speaking all girls have their price, some are just damn high. i have dated 1 who seemed perfect tho, never asked for money, was ready to pay for outings. i even force her to accept money 4rm me. dated for 3yrs & had her eyes 4 no one else. very nice girl until a guy crushing on her bought a benz ml350 .. then she became a bitch, cheated on me with him, broke up with me and started dating him. well after 6months the guy got tired of fu*cking her nd left her. early this year, dnt know hw she knew i have gotten a better car than what she left me for and doing ok myself. called to preach love to me

Look on the bright side bro...she made you step up your game.
Don't hate. Appreciate.

Elbone2:
Real Thieves... Na their type go save ur name as Mugu1 after them chop u finish.

Lol, I don't want to recant my own experiences here because lots of posters have done justice to the thread, as a rule of thumb, I am very good at smelling a leech from planet Jupiter, ordinary phone calls / whatsapp chat is enough for me not to schedule a date with hungry poverty stricken damsels, and if I ever get to the stage of fixing a date, it has to be my terms and conditions , l am strong willed and I don't allow the daughters of Eve in any part of the world to play poker with my head, I specialize in blocking and deleting them very fast and I also abandoned some of them at eateries / restaurant / pubs and bars and zoom off once I smell stupidity, I don't give a fvck, no time for nonsense with them, we have over 3 billion females in the world to choose from, so why get myself worked up by a leeche that has nothing to bring to the table except their garden of Eden, rubbish

KwashB419:
lol something similar happened to be back then in 2009. there was this lady who happens to get my number from God knows where. we got talking and decided to hangout one sunday afternoon. we chose 2 hangout at a place called juice and grillade (now southern fried chicken, this should be familiar to Jos residents). the D-day came and i arrived at the place b4 her though we sheduled it 4 2 o' clock. On getting there, i met some of my paddies there chilling and told dem i am expecting a new gal. i had 2 wait for this gal for another 2 hrs b4 she told me dat she was already on her way coming...i was already feeling exhausted and had 2 wait outside the eatery seated close 2 one cobblers shop. lo and behold 2 bikes arrived each carrying 2 ladies, and one of the ladies dails a number and my phone rang( mind you, i have never met the gal b4 ), dat was my date . i didnt pick d call and kept on calling repeatedly and i didnt pick despite been like 10m away from where they were standing. Finally i decided 2 pick up the call and she affirmed that she was the one standing in from of the eatery, i walked up to her and we all exchanged pleasantries from which we proceeded inside. brothers and sisters i wasnt breathing well.. my friends saw me and the looks on their face could tell it all ( their hommy is in deep shit)...i turned to my "assault team" and asked then what they would love to take, and they all echoed "anything"! brothers and sisters that was my saving Grace, i dashed out to counter b4 any of dem could think of changing their mind. At the counter i requested for 8 bons , 2 for each person( the bons costs 50 naira each, and 4 of smallest cup ice each at 150 naira each.. Got the biggest cup ice cream and two meat pie for myself ( sense will not kill ).. orders arrived and we were served.. was taking my meatpies and they were struggling with thier bons with an everlasting looks on thier faces... peple of God, the bill was brought and it turned out to be 2500 naira only ( had 10k on me though)...i paid the bill with a very big smile on ma face cos i was able to overcome the "assault team".. had to even go get dem polythene leather cos they couldnt finish the bons and had 2 take dem home.

My Kind of Guy

KwashB419:
lol something similar happened to be back then in 2009. there was this lady who happens to get my number from God knows where. we got talking and decided to hangout one sunday afternoon. we chose 2 hangout at a place called juice and grillade (now southern fried chicken, this should be familiar to Jos residents). the D-day came and i arrived at the place b4 her though we sheduled it 4 2 o' clock. On getting there, i met some of my paddies there chilling and told dem i am expecting a new gal. i had 2 wait for this gal for another 2 hrs b4 she told me dat she was already on her way coming...i was already feeling exhausted and had 2 wait outside the eatery seated close 2 one cobblers shop. lo and behold 2 bikes arrived each carrying 2 ladies, and one of the ladies dails a number and my phone rang( mind you, i have never met the gal b4 ), dat was my date . i didnt pick d call and kept on calling repeatedly and i didnt pick despite been like 10m away from where they were standing. Finally i decided 2 pick up the call and she affirmed that she was the one standing in from of the eatery, i walked up to her and we all exchanged pleasantries from which we proceeded inside. brothers and sisters i wasnt breathing well.. my friends saw me and the looks on their face could tell it all ( their hommy is in deep shit)...i turned to my "assault team" and asked then what they would love to take, and they all echoed "anything"! brothers and sisters that was my saving Grace, i dashed out to counter b4 any of dem could think of changing their mind. At the counter i requested for 8 bons , 2 for each person( the bons costs 50 naira each, and 4 of smallest cup ice each at 150 naira each.. Got the biggest cup ice cream and two meat pie for myself ( sense will not kill ).. orders arrived and we were served.. was taking my meatpies and they were struggling with thier bons with an everlasting looks on thier faces... peple of God, the bill was brought and it turned out to be 2500 naira only ( had 10k on me though)...i paid the bill with a very big smile on ma face cos i was able to overcome the "assault team".. had to even go get dem polythene leather cos they couldnt finish the bons and had 2 take dem home.

My Kind of Guy

cocolacec:
The lady in question only needed self empowerment so she can be independent .

Did you read the part where the lady told him point plank, that he should forget it if he can't get her the sewing machine?

crowley:
well this is Nairaland. Anyone can claim what they are not, no way of knowing.. You are a lady with "Dignity" you say. i call bullsh!t . for the right price you will sell it . Well, you support Arsenal and you are proud abt it, so i might believe you. Takes lots of Dignity to support them . anyway, seriously speaking all girls have their price, some are just damn high. i have dated 1 who seemed perfect tho, never asked for money, was ready to pay for outings. i even force her to accept money 4rm me. dated for 3yrs & had her eyes 4 no one else. very nice girl until a guy crushing on her bought a benz ml350 .. then she became a bitch, cheated on me with him, broke up with me and started dating him. well after 6months the guy got tired of fu*cking her nd left her. early this year, dnt know hw she knew i have gotten a better car than what she left me for and doing ok myself. called to preach love to me

best response to the cheating girl.
I can't wait to be able to afford my dream 013 C63 AMG men
Make all the girls that left me regret it

Ryan03:
i have noticed that most girls in wedding receptions and malls go there to look for boyfriends (maga) the real ones will just be working and may not even stay till the end of the party

Very true, some of them might not even have the chance to interact with people till the end of the party. That girl Just came to look for Maga.

Obatise:
Can you see entitlement spirit? You are both doing yourselves "favour."

Those words you said up there is part of the reason some girls at 45 are still living with their parents. Ask Iniedo and Rita Dominic for more info.

Abeg!
If you ask a lady out on date, and she agrees, she's doing you a favour.
Same goes if a lady asks you out.

kennygee:
Ladies. See the comments in this post. The one that really saddened me was the sweet girl who got dumped cause she was "demanding". Were her demands really a necessity or were they vain demands?

If you can afford to help out a woman you claim you love when she was in need, not out of vanity, is that a bad thing?

Maybe she was poor and couldn't afford those things she needed, if you could afford it and you've ascertained it is a necessity, is it too bad to help her out?

I pray she is able to hustle, get through this poor phase of her life by getting a decent job or business so she can stand on her own.

If you hustle your way through and become financially independent, they'll say you won't be submissive. If you ask them for money for needs, they'll say you're demanding.

If you dim your light so they can shine, they'll say you lack ambition. If you go to school, gather degrees paid for by yourself and your parents, they'll say you won't be submissive.

If you're a working career woman, they'll say you are not fulfilling your wifely duties, if you're a house wife, you're a liability.

The Nigerian woman is screwed either ways.

Make your own money ladies, work hard to achieve your dreams. Carve a path for your self and observe and look out for the one worth committing to.

In all these, stay off fornication and live the kind of life Christ wants you to live.

Shalom.

God bless u everyday,dere are ladies who extend helping hands to dere man also and no one makes a fuse out of it.

ngwababe:
Nne m ooo,not even a date, just mere wedding and dropping off, she don dey ask for Dubai and shopping? Some people suppose dey receive slap when dem dey lie!

maybe you should up your game a little so that little things won't sound impossible to you