Will i kee myself because am introvert and avoid certain friends?

Read my lines again, I love going out with my close friends that understands me very well not as if I like hanging out with everyone that comes my way.

Yes, Most time i try avoiding loneliness by listening to music, chatting with friends online, even taking some wisky especially when mood swing comes in.

If you are living alone my dear you will understand very well.


You like hanging out with friends
You avoid loneliness
Being quiet gives you mood swings.


How are you an Introvert again?
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callmemercy:




Good morning

Good Afternoon

nellyquash:


Real bastard ooo

Most time music and wisky helps out ooo

Person go Just Vex Anyhow. Whisky, I No Dey Near Am, Buh Vodka

Dammykrone:
Good Afternoon Person go Just Vex Anyhow. Whisky, I No Dey Near Am, Buh Vodka

Good afternoon dear, No mind that mood swing, e go just make person dey vex for wetin no get head.

Any Royal Highness, i dey game

Dammykrone:
Good Afternoon

Hi Dammy,
I never got to say thank you for sharing my posts.

Thank you, sir

Right now, there's this uneasiness with me when an anonymous number calls my line. I never pick them
even if i have an idea who it may be. Funny thing is i don't regret it. Even if the call was from Mr President amd he ain't on my contact list we not game. Though i get to apologize, I find it rude when an anonymous number calls me. Atleast inform me before calling so i know how to compose myself.
I installed Truecaller after much complaints from people.

nellyquash:



Good afternoon dear, No mind that mood swing, e go just make person dey vex for wetin no get head.

Any Royal Highness, i dey game

Abi Nah. Royal Highness

callmemercy:

Hi Dammy, I never got to say thank you for sharing my posts.
Thank you, sir

[quote author=Dammykrone post=79259006] Abi Nah. Royal Highness [/quote

Closed my eyes and thought i was gonna wake up having a feel that my eyes are a bit heavy (if i did slept) but hell NO, I haven't slept yet.
Then why did i close my eyes?
Seriously i hope i don't suffer from insomnia again it ain't gonna be funny.

And here it's 3:10AM still not closed my eyes yet.

Let the morning just come.

Divay22:
Closed my eyes and thought i was gonna wake up having a feel that my eyes are a bit heavy (if i did slept) but hell NO, I haven't slept yet.
Then why did i close my eyes?
Seriously i hope i don't suffer from insomnia again it ain't gonna be funny.

And here it's 3:10AM still not closed my eyes yet.

Let the morning just come.

Try and get a boring movie or talk with your spouse till the phone falls off.

My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.

Imogenn:
My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.

What are you really afraid of?

I really don’t know
I just over think about everything, I’m afraid of appearing socially awkward, which makes my social anxiety worse. And I can’t help but think about how I appear everywhere I go. I just can’t help it.

pryme:


What are you really afraid of?

Imogenn:
I really don’t know
I just over think about everything, I’m afraid of appearing socially awkward, which makes my social anxiety worse. And I can’t help but think about how I appear everywhere I go. I just can’t help it.

So from the look of it, its like your worried about how you appear to people,

why would you think you not adequate?

the thing about solving a problem is getting a very clear understanding of the problem.

I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.

pryme:


So from the look of it, its like your worried about how you appear to people,

why would you think you not adequate?

the thing about solving a problem is getting a very clear understanding of the problem.

Imogenn:
My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.

you just like me, I m not doing well in my workplace because I m too scared to talk, even when they are saying something worse about me I can't still talk.
I just hate myself. Who did I even offend?

Most of the introverts here are lucky, some of you even have girlfriends, doing well in work.
I m Soo useless and a waste.

Imogenn:
My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.

You're concentrating too much on yourself and what goes on within your body. That only makes you self conscious and you're likely to make mistakes which can be perceived as awkward.

Stop thinking too much of your imperfections and how they're laid bare for all to see. That's not true. They can only see what you reveal to them.

I know it's hard, but try to focus your attention externally to what your companions are saying and their actions. That'll ease the pressure and help you respond better.

When you're responding, don't talk to the crowd. Speak as though you're talking to one person. Unify the crowd into a single entity in your mind and assume that entity to be your friend.

Personally, I think going to a big gathering was not a good way to start your socialising journey. You should have mastered conversations with coworkers first. Then learn talking to small groups and move progressively as you become more comfortable.

Being an introvert myself, my job requires to meet new people every day and it was a nightmare at first. But after a while, I got used to it and actually began to enjoy it. For me, it built a skill that's very useful and required to be a functional member of society and for that I'm greatful.

When you've gone past the angst of thinking what to say, you'll discover people are happy to meet you in so far as you're not a nasty person.

This video will be of great help

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6MasOctLkY

Imogenn:
I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.

then you have to switch your attention to some things then.
Am sure its not all that bad, all you need is a spark in this dark place your mind is to set a fire that will burn bright in you, no matter how dark your mind is.
To get this spark is just to find the good qualities you have in you no matter how little (remember all we need is a spark), surely you have them.

What you need to do is grow the best in you, this is something you have to do yourself. No one will do this for you, you have to take the bull by the horns and take responsibility of making you self who you want to be.

You have to try, what leads to depression is not even trying, trust me you will get some satisfaction just trying.
Even if you fail its alright, show me a successful person that never failed and i will show you a lair.

What you should do now is find a starting point and incorporate it into your every day life.

JacksonMS:
Most of the introverts here are lucky, some of you even have girlfriends, doing well in work.
I m Soo useless and a waste.

What if I told you most Alfa males are fragile inside, but do a good job of hiding it?

Most people aspire to be great because they can deal with their inferior self, you have to remember all it takes is the right person to bring out the confidence in you, thats where some are lucky, not because they are better than you.

Thank you so much. I will screenshot this and read this to help me. Thank you

pryme:


then you have to switch your attention to some things then.
Am sure its not all that bad, all you need is a spark in this dark place your mind is to set a fire that will burn bright in you, no matter how dark your mind is.
To get this spark is just to find the good qualities you have in you no matter how little (remember all we need is a spark), surely you have them.

What you need to do is grow the best in you, this is something you have to do yourself. No one will do this for you, you have to take the bull by the horns and take responsibility of making you self who you want to be.

You have to try, what leads to depression is not even trying, trust me you will get some satisfaction just trying.
Even if you fail its alright, show me a successful person that never failed and i will show you a lair.

What you should do now is find a starting point and incorporate it into your every day life.

JacksonMS:
Most of the introverts here are lucky, some of you even have girlfriends, doing well in work.
I m Soo useless and a waste.

Learn to stand up for yourself bro or no one else will. This thread was created to help introverts develop the necessary skills to live a normal life.

You guys are turning this place into a pity party. There are tons of resources at the beginning of the thread for your self development. Source these materials and read them.

Imogenn:
Thank you so much. I will screenshot this and read this to help me. Thank you

Any time.

Xzbit91:




Learn to stand up for yourself bro or no one else will. This thread was created to help introverts develop the necessary skills to live a normal life.

You guys are turning this place into a pity party. There are tons of resources at the beginning of the thread for your self development. Source these materials and read them.

so it seems there is no help here for me

Imogenn:
I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.

Hi Imogenn,
I noticed your post and just thought I would share my experience (dunno if it helps)

I became an introvert in my early pre-teens, I just suddenly changed from a social and bubbly kid into this reclusive pre-teen, who was tall for her young age, but small in body stature.

I actually got bullied cuz I was lanky, everyday at school, this girl would always find one reason or the other to just get on my nerves.

But fast forward to my teenage years, after sec school, there was this guy I liked and he was the first to point out my not so beautiful features, he would say you have a big nose, your eyes are too big, you are too thin... every time I heard these I would withdraw further into myself and I just concluded I wasn't beautiful and no guy would want to date me.

When I got my first bf, he almost followed in similar pattern of listing the least qualities I have, honestly, that just broke the camel's back. I started only going out if it was important and when I left for the university, I almost had a panic attack. I became conscious of myself and inadequacies to the extent that if any guy so looked my way, I would give a mean frown.

But the above was me years ago, right now, I'm in my mid-twenties, and have graduated to being an ambivert.

How did I do it?
I found something I loved doing, which is writing, I removed those toxic people from my life and had a re-orientation about myself.
I go out now, but not frequently, nevertheless, when I do, I don't feel the inadequacies I felt in the past.

I'm still a lil social awkward, but it never stops me from being myself or striking a convo with anyone.

So my dear, erase every thought of being ugly, you are beautiful in your own way, you need to self-love your own skin before you can be settled around people.

I really hope that before the year runs out, you would have a re-orientation about yourself.

It is a battle you must win.

JacksonMS:
so it seems there is no help here for me

There is which is why I recommend that you start reading up on self improvement books for introverts, social anxiety materials. They've been already listed in the first few pages of this thread. You can also find YouTube videos relevant to your situation.

It's great that you've identified the areas of your life that need improvement. What matters now is what you do with that information.

But if I may ask, why are you afraid standing up for yourself? Is it that what they're saying about you is true? How hard do you find it to articulate yourself?

Imogenn:
I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.

This caught my attention. Well, most of us tend to reason/act like this, but yours seems to be on the extreme.
Foremost, let's get one thing clear - people don't think about "you" as much as you think they do. Everyone has a problem, so they're likely thinking about their problem than they're thinking about you.
So, when you're in a social gathering, have it at the back of your mind that you're not the center of the attraction. In fact, no one is looking at you. Everything is just playing out in your head.
Furthermore, you seem to have an inferiority complex. You believe you're not good enough - physically. Surprisingly, some of the most confident people I've seen are people whose physical appearance is average or below average. So, forget about your look and have a positive self-image. I'll advise you to dress well, wear a good perfume, take care of your teeth, and smile often, because all these can make people look beyond your supposedly deficient look.
Lastly, you need to go out more. Yes, go out more. It seems you're female. If so, your job is even simpler. Guys will approach you themselves, so just be open to having a conversation. It's just a good way to improve your social skills.
Like I said earlier, rest assured that people don't think/look at you as much as you think they do. Believe me.

During my childhood days,we lived in a bubbling area filled with lots of kids and dramas
I was known to be troublesome, a chatterbox ,outgoing and fearless
Later on, we moved to Badagry. The area was a new site,very quiet and you hardly have neighbors except snakes,wild forests, monkeys and a host of other animals. From our house, before you see another house again na war. You would have to pass thick bushes. Everybody was always minding his or her business,and in the afternoon, everywhere is just so deserted.
I think it changed my behaviour coupled with the fact that my parents never allowed us go out apart from going to shop, school and church
My peers around felt I was snobbish,and arrogant because I never liked talking to anyone
My life was like a triangle,so I was always indoors daydreaming or writing novels. I hated parties due to the noise ,I hated being amongst a large crowd,i preferred listening rather than talking.
Maybe I meet someone for the first time,i don't really feel comfortable so I just smile along and pray silently that the conversation would just end.
I don't really have much friends and sometimes I do regret it. Sometimes I do envy some of my friends that are outgoing,fun and extroverted because they seem to have more connections The very close friends I have always say I am extroverted butvin the real sense I am introverted. But If I am very comfortable with you, you will never believe I m an introvert except someone that knows me tells you.
Sometimes I wish I can be popular but it is all in my head. I love my privacy a lot, coupled with music, books and I write stuffs a lot
I wish I can be outgoing but my body just likes staying indoors and in my bed. I admire nature, art and beauty.
I am also so sensitive to thingsand very emotional ,i hate insults so much that i try my best to stay away from trouble.
Another thing is people hardly understand my feelings when I seem to understand them

Maryjane001:
During my childhood days,we lived in a bubbling area filled with lots of kids and dramas
I was known to be troublesome, a chatterbox ,outgoing and fearless
Later on, we moved to Badagry. The area was a new site,very quiet and you hardly have neighbors except snakes,wild forests, monkeys and a host of other animals. From our house, before you see another house again na war. You would have to pass thick bushes. Everybody was always minding his or her business,and in the afternoon, everywhere is just so deserted.
I think it changed my behaviour coupled with the fact that my parents never allowed us go out apart from going to shop, school and church
My peers around felt I was snobbish,and arrogant because I never liked talking to anyone
My life was like a triangle,so I was always indoors daydreaming or writing novels. I hated parties due to the noise ,I hated being amongst a large crowd,i preferred listening rather than talking.
Maybe I meet someone for the first time,i don't really feel comfortable so I just smile along and pray silently that the conversation would just end.
I don't really have much friends and sometimes I do regret it. Sometimes I do envy some of my friends that are outgoing,fun and extroverted because they seem to have more connections The very close friends I have always say I am extroverted butvin the real sense I am introverted. But If I am very comfortable with you, you will never believe I m an introvert except someone that knows me tells you.
Sometimes I wish I can be popular but it is all in my head. I love my privacy a lot, coupled with music, books and I write stuffs a lot
I wish I can be outgoing but my body just likes staying indoors and in my bed. I admire nature, art and beauty.
I am also so sensitive to thingsand very emotional ,i hate insults so much that i try my best to stay away from trouble.
Another thing is people hardly understand my feelings when I seem to understand them

What's your zodiac sign? Is it Pisces?

Have a lovely Sunday everyone

Maryjane001:
During my childhood days,we lived in a bubbling area filled with lots of kids and dramas
I was known to be troublesome, a chatterbox ,outgoing and fearless
Later on, we moved to Badagry. The area was a new site,very quiet and you hardly have neighbors except snakes,wild forests, monkeys and a host of other animals. From our house, before you see another house again na war. You would have to pass thick bushes. Everybody was always minding his or her business,and in the afternoon, everywhere is just so deserted.
I think it changed my behaviour coupled with the fact that my parents never allowed us go out apart from going to shop, school and church
My peers around felt I was snobbish,and arrogant because I never liked talking to anyone
My life was like a triangle,so I was always indoors daydreaming or writing novels. I hated parties due to the noise ,I hated being amongst a large crowd,i preferred listening rather than talking.
Maybe I meet someone for the first time,i don't really feel comfortable so I just smile along and pray silently that the conversation would just end.
I don't really have much friends and sometimes I do regret it. Sometimes I do envy some of my friends that are outgoing,fun and extroverted because they seem to have more connections The very close friends I have always say I am extroverted butvin the real sense I am introverted. But If I am very comfortable with you, you will never believe I m an introvert except someone that knows me tells you.
Sometimes I wish I can be popular but it is all in my head. I love my privacy a lot, coupled with music, books and I write stuffs a lot
I wish I can be outgoing but my body just likes staying indoors and in my bed. I admire nature, art and beauty.
I am also so sensitive to thingsand very emotional ,i hate insults so much that i try my best to stay away from trouble.
Another thing is people hardly understand my feelings when I seem to understand them

This is an exact description of my life. I am so sick of being this way. I feel people hate me cos they think I'm proud and a snub. I have only two friends. I wish there was a way I could totally transform myself. But it's all in my head anyway.

Hiqma:


What's your zodiac sign? Is it Pisces?

I am a Taurus