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AwkaetitiBabe:
It's possible you take over from the gf. Anything is possible

Teaveapoet:
Put your happiness first before others. Am not judging but you need to love yourself. Stop seeking to please someone who has someone else.

Stop communicating okay!
If you don't want to be a side chick, don't do what side chicks does.

liberalchick:
I would assume ‘good’ is girlfriend. Once a guy lets you know he has GF, that’s a hint he is not really that into you.

You knew he had a girlfriend, you don’t go into a situationship with someone that is not single hoping you would be good enough to make him leave his GF. It seems he is in a long distance relationship with his GF and you are available. If you want to be his GF, and not a side-chick, stop having sex with him and tell him to breakup with his GF if he really loves you, then take a break from him. If he wants you then he would do the above. If he doesn’t then just cut your losses and next time make sure a guy is single before your proceed if you don’t want to be a side chick.
Alright, thanks for the advice

funmisticqueen:
so this your new monicker? Nwanyiawkaetiti.

Rachael30:
Hello fellows am new here on nairaland. I have issues at hand. I met a guy who made it known to me that he had a good when I asked him, I was not bothered because I wasn't interested then. We became good friends , he helped me out in so many things.
Along the line he said he had feelings for me, by then I have started liking him .one thing led to the other we are already having sex even though he says he hardly see his gf due to issues they have which I hardly believe.
I don't want to be a side chick to anyone , wat do I do because I don't know how to kill my feelings for him and don't want to be hurt at the end.

liberalchick:
I would assume ‘good’ is girlfriend. Once a guy lets you know he has GF, that’s a hint he is not really that into you.

You knew he had a girlfriend, you don’t go into a situationship with someone that is not single hoping you would be good enough to make him leave his GF. It seems he is in a long distance relationship with his GF and you are available. If you want to be his GF, and not a side-chick, stop having sex with him and tell him to breakup with his GF if he really loves you, then take a break from him. If he wants you then he would do the above. If he doesn’t then just cut your losses and next time make sure a guy is single before your proceed if you don’t want to be a side chick.
Good idea

liberalchick:
I would assume ‘good’ is girlfriend. Once a guy lets you know he has GF, that’s a hint he is not really that into you.

You knew he had a girlfriend, you don’t go into a situationship with someone that is not single hoping you would be good enough to make him leave his GF. It seems he is in a long distance relationship with his GF and you are available. If you want to be his GF, and not a side-chick, stop having sex with him and tell him to breakup with his GF if he really loves you, then take a break from him. If he wants you then he would do the above. If he doesn’t then just cut your losses and next time make sure a guy is single before your proceed if you don’t want to be a side chick.

Rachael30:
I told him to break up with his gf, he said he is still with her for now that he is in an unstable relationship but his feelings for me are real and that he never lied to me that I should try and be patient with him.

He also said he knows I want more and he wants us to be together.

liberalchick:
Tell him ok, that he should give you space to sort out this unstable relationship with him. Tell him he knows where to find you when he has sorted out his feelings, tell him what will be, will be.

Do not contact him or reach out to him, I know you are in love but you have to be in self preservation mode. If he decides to stay with his girlfriend, your emotions and time will be for naught. Focus on yourself, work on yourself, focus on your career/business, meet people. It will be hard in the beginning but time really heals. Please don’t waste your time on someone that may or may not love you.

liberalchick:
Tell him ok, that he should give you space to sort out this unstable relationship with him. Tell him he knows where to find you when he has sorted out his feelings, tell him what will be, will be.

Do not contact him or reach out to him, I know you are in love but you have to be in self preservation mode. If he decides to stay with his girlfriend, your emotions and time will be for naught. Focus on yourself, work on yourself, focus on your career/business, meet people. It will be hard in the beginning but time really heals. Please don’t waste your time on someone that may or may not love you.

Safitu:
He will never respect you
He will never make you his gf, and if he does he will treat you badly
Cut all ties with him or it will end up really bad for you.
Never have sex with a man who is not your confirmed partner, have some respect for yourself please.