Apeshy101:

I see

Thanks bro




The deed has been done, what I need is advise on how to let them go, or do you prefer I still waste more of their time.

Anyway, bashing is allowed

I prefer you go to blazes with your stinking feelings, you do not deserve any of them.

it's better to cry now than later

Apeshy101:

It's your kind that pushed me to the extreme.
Once a nice guy any girl would wish for, but I'm in this because of your kind

My kind? My kind can never date the kind of you because we dey smell "cry babies because of first heartbreak" from a mile away, a girl pushed you and you have no shame to say it? Which adult hasn't experienced heartbreak before? Are you a kid? Must your first heartbreak control your life relationship wise? If you reserve your diick for just one faithful girl like you, will you die?

AwkaetitiBabe:
Yea

Bab u get mind oh, so u mean say him go call dy 3 gals with him making 4 then them go get family meeting? If u been join, hw u go react?

Fountainofyouth:
Wow see how his fellow guys are dishing him advise on how to dump the other ladies, if it was a lady that opened this thread, the level of insults will be much, bunch of shallow minded cheating schmucks.

Like seriously? Wat will u have him do at this point? Continu sexing them or keep them as sexmate till his tired nd still get rid of them?

Youngsenate1993:
Like seriously? Wat will u have him do at this point? Continu sexing them or keep them as sexmate till his tired nd still get rid of them?

He should leave the three of them alone, he doesn't deserve any of them, he only wants the third lady cos she is the best sexually, that is my point.

Apeshy101:

My story is short.

When the first girl I loved, whom almost ruined myself and future for, dumped me, I swore to take my revenge and never to love any girl again

Basically I started dating several girls, this girls loved me though but I was just in for se.x, nothing more.


Fast forward to this year, my life triangulated between 3 girls.

1. The first girl loves me and will do anything for me. She is totally obsessed about me and I can do anything just to be with. She knows I'm not faithful in the relationship but doesn't know I don't love her. She is well behaved.

2. The second girl loves me but her shakara no be here, Las Las, we started dating, she is a jealous lover, told me everything about her last boyfriend and why they broke up.
On Sundays, we do go out together and she takes care of the bills. If I insisted, she will still find a way to return the favor. I like her Sha, but I don't love her.
She is more keen on getting married.

3.The third girl loves me like kilode, we've known for 7 years but started dating last year, so far things are going on fine. Her personality and views about life just WOWS me. She is a liberal thinker and full of wisdom. Very considerate.


The problem now is that, since early last month, my heart is drifting towards the third girls. I can't believe it but I have fallen in love with her already.

Now I'm beginning to feel bad about the first and second girls, I knew I don't love them from the beginning but I kept them just for see.x sake.

I want to commit only to the third girl but cutting off the first and second seam impossible.
I gradually started cutting off communications with them but this is not yielding any result.

I'm scared of telling them I can't continue with them.....they can do something stupid with the way suicide is on the increase now.

Even as I'm typing this, the second girls called but I lied to her that I traveled.


Pls, if you have been in my shoes before, how did you manage to get over it.


NB: bashing is allowed but I need help ohh

Baba which kind front be dis
U no get joy oo,pity people with glasses

How sure are you that u ar not even a substitute / spear tyre to d said 1st and 2nd.

You will be surprised, when they just smile at u and say goodbye alakorii.

Fountainofyouth:



He should leave the three of them alone, he doesn't deserve any of them, he only wants the third lady cos she is the best sexually, that is my point.

The best sexually? 4rm his post, he did'nt talk abt sexual performaces. Then secondly, nw that he has decided 2 focus on one na has it become a crime? Or u prefer him fucking them 4 free then after him go stil leave them.?

AwkaetitiBabe:
Have a family meeting and tell them. I'm sure they'll b willing to share. U know men are kinda scarce these days

who told you men are scarce? Men can never be scarce it is money that is scarce.

Apeshy101:

My story is short.

When the first girl I loved, whom almost ruined myself and future for, dumped me, I swore to take my revenge and never to love any girl again

Basically I started dating several girls, this girls loved me though but I was just in for se.x, nothing more.


Fast forward to this year, my life triangulated between 3 girls.

1. The first girl loves me and will do anything for me. She is totally obsessed about me and I can do anything just to be with. She knows I'm not faithful in the relationship but doesn't know I don't love her. She is well behaved.

2. The second girl loves me but her shakara no be here, Las Las, we started dating, she is a jealous lover, told me everything about her last boyfriend and why they broke up.
On Sundays, we do go out together and she takes care of the bills. If I insisted, she will still find a way to return the favor. I like her Sha, but I don't love her.
She is more keen on getting married.

3.The third girl loves me like kilode, we've known for 7 years but started dating last year, so far things are going on fine. Her personality and views about life just WOWS me. She is a liberal thinker and full of wisdom. Very considerate.


The problem now is that, since early last month, my heart is drifting towards the third girls. I can't believe it but I have fallen in love with her already.

Now I'm beginning to feel bad about the first and second girls, I knew I don't love them from the beginning but I kept them just for see.x sake.

I want to commit only to the third girl but cutting off the first and second seam impossible.
I gradually started cutting off communications with them but this is not yielding any result.

I'm scared of telling them I can't continue with them.....they can do something stupid with the way suicide is on the increase now.

Even as I'm typing this, the second girls called but I lied to her that I traveled.


Pls, if you have been in my shoes before, how did you manage to get over it.




NB: bashing is allowed but I need help ohh

Chai!!! You too?
I thought i was the only one experiencing these poo!
And i wish mine even triangulated amongst even 3 but it's even worst than that. I share the same fears as you are due to the closure now and due to some girls' sentimental state couple with the present suicide mission with sniper taking going rampant in the country.
I've emaciated from thinking. It's as if na now the love dae shark them pass sef!
Even if you are at fault in anything... Na them go even wan apologize just to settle the dust.
You aren't the only one in need of solution bro. Make i follow you for back sef dae seek help from our fellow nairalanders on NL. It's not been easy!

I'm in a similar situation though yours is a bit complex because you involved sex. And when sex is involved in a relationship, a woman's brain is wired to love more when she's being satisfied sexually. A man can have sex without having emotional affection just to achieve sexual gratification but when a woman receive a mind blowing sex, her love increases and her perception about you changes.

Anyway that's not my point. As for your question you asked, you've got to open up to the first two girls why it can't work but don't tell them it's because you love the third girl most. Don't even involve her. Though it's gonna hurt but you've got to subtly make them understand that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Even if you marry any of the two, the union won't last because there's no love to sustain it.

Alternatively there's another option though i wouldn't suggest this option to you because it may lead to emotional trauma, torture or even suicide.
Well, forget i won't mention such to you for the sake of someone else in a similar situation who may want to try it since it's very risky.

Apeshy101, please increase your font size to make it easier for people with four eyes to see clearly. Your words are tiny.

Back to your story, maintain the withdrawal scope with the two ladies you don't love but in a slow manner. Don't pull out at once, it may devastate them. With time, they will understand you no longer cares. Telling them a broken relationship is better than divorce will not amount to anything in their ears as they will attach the sex part involved. You know how ladies can be emotional, claiming you use and dump them.

Let me teach you how to break up

wasting their time is dangerous. it's high time you told them the truth. dem go dey alright las las

1.
stop having sex with the two of them.

2.
if 1 does not work, invite the two of them to a date and watch as they do the job for u. �

NB. don't involve/inform d 3rd girl about this until d coast is clear

2cato:
Marry all of them so that you will never live with regret

true talk!

Fountainofyouth:
Wow see how his fellow guys are dishing him advise on how to dump the other ladies, if it was a lady that opened this thread, the level of insults will be much, bunch of shallow minded cheating schmucks.

Why are you so bitter?

God dy look u

Apeshy101:

Thank you guys for all your candid advice

Here is what I did,

"Yesterday night, i decided the take the bull by the horn, in posted a photo of a random girl in my whatsapp status update and restricted views to the first and second girl. i addressed her as my fiancee and i can't wait for the day to come"


i switch off my and and slept off, this morning a woke and switched on my phone to bombed by multiple sms by the too.

went to whatsapp and posted a new update "hope you will understand, but i know it will be difficult, the bride has been chosen"

i also ignored their whatsapp messages, when the calls became unbearable, i sent them a text, "i know it will hurt, but it will hurt only for a while, don't get hurt for me cuz i never deserved you"

right now, their numbers are in blacklist and I'm not taking calls from unknown numbers

I'm hurting for them too but I just have to do this now

Sweet Yeesus you deserve so many things I do not want to type, I feel so sorry for those girls, I really want to type things........

Apeshy101, where do you stay? What state exactly?

Fountainofyouth:



I prefer you go to blazes with your stinking feelings, you do not deserve any of them.

you seem pained why?

Skmoda360:

you seem pained why?

I don't like cheats, do you like cheats? How will you feel if a lady do to you what Op did to those two ladies?

Apeshy101:

Thank you guys for all your candid advice

Here is what I did,

"Yesterday night, i decided the take the bull by the horn, in posted a photo of a random girl in my whatsapp status update and restricted views to the first and second girl. i addressed her as my fiancee and i can't wait for the day to come"


i switch off my and and slept off, this morning a woke and switched on my phone to bombed by multiple sms by the too.

went to whatsapp and posted a new update "hope you will understand, but i know it will be difficult, the bride has been chosen"

i also ignored their whatsapp messages, when the calls became unbearable, i sent them a text, "i know it will hurt, but it will hurt only for a while, don't get hurt for me cuz i never deserved you"

right now, their numbers are in blacklist and I'm not taking calls from unknown numbers

I'm hurting for them too but I just have to do this now

way to go bro.....but watch your back ooo so that we will not see news headline tomorrow of a dead nigga.

Fountainofyouth:


I don't like cheats, do you like cheats? How will you feel if a lady do to you what Op did to those two ladies?

you have a point but he is only gloating over his past relationship and the deed has been done ..he is only looking for solition here...


To your question..,..........
I detest cheat though...

and to your last question, girls don cheat on me well well even the one wey I dey give allawee and gifts every month but I just decided not to take revenge on the anyone.....

so he did what's best for him though which is not right