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Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by ThinkSmarter: 4:24pm On Jul 26, 2019
stinflame:
I think it's fucking common with capricorn and January isn't an exception.
Introverts gave capability of been extremely smart and brilliant. While others are familiarizing and introvert is studying the environment, individual and many other things and extrovert careless about.
Very true bro
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody: 4:35pm On Jul 26, 2019
Amyyy2020:
and what happens if u guys give birth to a very sensitive child? Lil one will grow up thinking he/she is not loved. that doesnt look good, does it?
You made a lot of senses here friend, but I believe I'll do all to make sure my child gets the attention he/she desires.
I will try to work on that.

Thanks for the heads up.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Amyyy2020: 5:37pm On Jul 26, 2019
You are welcome.
Wish ya all d best
Im sha not an Introvert, except amongst extreme extroverts(if there is anything like dat)
kingkakaone:
You made a lot of senses here friend, but I believe I'll do all to make sure my child gets the attention he/she desires.
I will try to work on that.

Thanks for the heads up.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by placeofallure(f):
I am an introvert, the behavioural trait Tim Lahaye referred to as ' Phlegmatic' in his best seller: Why you act the way you do.

I don't like crowded places as such. The church is the only social place I go to. I've been attending my church since I was a baby, I still haven't grown comfortable to stay back and gist after the service, despite the fact that I lead the praise worship many Sundays, I guess it's different when I'm on stage.

I don't have friends, I only have friendly colleagues

I get tired of talking with them easily. Even if I saw you last ten years ago, after the initial ecstasy, I fizzle out.

I write better than I talk.

I am not afraid of staying indoors. I don't like leaving the confines of my house. There are times I don't step out of our flat for 3 days let alone getting to the gate,

I have more than 20 games on my phone, they are my companion anywhere.

I am honest and considerate in dealing with people, I think I am intelligent too, I pay attention to details and I expect everyone to be a perfectionist like me.

In the midst of all these me, myself and I, I am married to a sanguine par excellence! My husband is a man about town, happy-go-lucky and can gist for Africa. I let loose my guard only when I'm with him. Invariably, I become a chatterbox only when I'm around him, after him no more!

Enoff said I guess. grin
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by luvyaself95(m): 6:45pm On Jul 26, 2019
ThinkSmarter:
I am an introvert.
I hate the crowds
Prefers solitude
Enjoys fine arts, web surfing.
Very Honest.
I think i am intelligent.
I am hating religion, and rather embracing science and philosophy.
Keep few friends.
I think few girls that i hv dated tried sticking to me cuz their think that i am cool and caring.
Hates chatting on fb.
You're almost like me the difference is that i sometimes have change of mood to do or undo...
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by hawksford: 6:59pm On Jul 26, 2019
Kehl:
Lol.. The call thing am really improving... But you see the aspect of chatting, it's getting worse.. This days my close friends including my sister sends me email if they want to send an emergency message.. Nd that's because that is the only app with enabled notifications on my phone(I enabled just my email app cos of work and somethings I run online)

But like u rightly advised, I'll be consciously working to improve me
Lol

Normal stuff

Very urgent/important things were passed through emails & phone calls

I wouldn't mind the cost of calling or texting

Switching off background data on my mobile was bliss to me

But all these deprived me of a lot o

Like access to links on important matters or general information everyone's supposed to have seen (like impromptu test & classes back then)

But then it gave me an idea of who the true friends were


I'd advice you put up a battle to conquer it... It has unpleasant adverse effect when you become absolutely used to it
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by tunjilee003: 7:02pm On Jul 26, 2019
ThinkSmarter:
I am an introvert.
I hate the crowds
Prefers solitude
Enjoys fine arts, web surfing.
Very Honest.
I think i am intelligent.
I am hating religion, and rather embracing science and philosophy.
Keep few friends.
I think few girls that i hv dated tried sticking to me cuz their think that i am cool and caring.
Hates chatting on fb.
Just exactly we both share the same characteristics... I'm beginning to hate religion
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody:
I think y'all should conduct this online personality test. You guys have described how we live already so I don't need to write much.

As for me:

Facebook is a boring as fvck. I spend most of my social media time on Quora and Nairaland.

I don't like going out (a big brother was even angry with me cos I've not gone to greet him when he moved to a new hostel after gi8me the direction like four times. I blocked my ATM cos i misplaced it and to even go to the bank to get another is a huge burden sad) and I like staying alone. Conversations or arguments easily wears me out so I try as much as possible to avoid it.

I don't have any friends but I've got colleagues and classmates

The only thing I don't do is not checking on someone. I do call them to check about how they're faring.

And finally, I've only been to under g gate once shocked shocked. Lautech students/alumnus will understand. grin grin

PS: I think introversion is actually a good trait grin grin

Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jul 26, 2019
Gleez:
You just described me perfectly. We share same birth month as well.
Same here. I'm fucking honest. January too. Can stay indoors for weeks without stepping out. Used to be so shy and can't talk in the crowd but have seriously worked on that aspect. I now attend and present at conferences to the glory of God.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Gleez: 3:53am On Jul 27, 2019
destinyy23:
Same here. I'm fucking honest. January too. Can stay indoors for weeks without stepping out. Used to be so shy and can't talk in the crowd but have seriously worked on that aspect. I now attend and present at conferences to the glory of God.
Wow! It's amazing how you've been able to completely transform your mind and character. Care to share how you worked on improving yourself? How long did it take? About the "honesty" part, how do you cope with it when you find yourself among people who are dishonest?

I've always pictured myself, through my mind's eye addressing people at conferences, but in reality I barely talk much. I often feel choked up each time I find myself in a crowded place. Lol!

Really interested in knowing what steps you took in overcoming shyness.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody:
Gleez:
Wow! It's amazing how you've been able to completely transform your mind and character. Care to share how you worked on improving yourself? How long did it take? About the "honesty" part, how do you cope with it when you find yourself among people who are dishonest?

I've always pictured myself, through my mind's eye addressing people at conferences, but in reality I barely talk much. I often feel choked up each time I find myself in a crowded place. Lol!

Really interested in knowing what steps you took in overcoming shyness.
My dear, I won't say it's completely my effort, God played the bigger role. I'm someone who pray and trust God a lot so that helped. After my first degree, I had a first class and it really got me bothered. I was wondering, what would people say about a first class graduate who can't speak boldly in public? What if I get a lecturing job? How do I cope? So during NYSC, I made it a duty to always speak whenever we had a gathering, gradually, I began participating actively at CDS. I served in a university and sometimes, I had to take students through lab sessions. Fast forward after service, I applied for MSc, got the admission and first thing I did was join the board of lectors (I'm catholic and board of lectors read before the congregations) and also became active at fellowships, so, l'm sometimes called upon to moderate the fellowship or to lead praises & worship. All these helped. I became a class representative too, it's my duty to coordinate the postgraduate students and relate with lecturers too on their behalf I started looking out for conferences and submitted my papers. I never imagined I could talk so well before a large crowd. About the honesty part, it still scares me cos Nigeria is dominated by lots of dishonest people and they would see you as 'not smart enough'. cos you stand for the truth. It's left for you to either stand out of the crowd or compromise your standards to be like the majority. As for me, I chose the former. Do have a beautiful day.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Gleez: 12:25pm On Jul 27, 2019
destinyy23:
My dear, I won't say it's completely my effort, God played the bigger role. I'm someone who pray and trust God a lot so that helped. After my first degree, I had a first class and it really got me bothered. I was wondering, what would people say about a first class graduate who can't speak boldly in public? What if I get a lecturing job? How do I cope? So during NYSC, I made it a duty to always speak whenever we had a gathering, gradually, I began participating actively at CDS. I served in a university and sometimes, I had to take students through lab sessions. Fast forward after service, I applied for MSc, got the admission and first thing I did was join the board of lectors (I'm catholic and board of lectors read before the congregations) and also became active at fellowships, so, l'm sometimes called upon to moderate the fellowship or to lead praises & worship. All these helped. I became a class representative too, it's my duty to coordinate the postgraduate students and relate with lecturers too on their behalf I started looking out for conferences and submitted my papers. I never imagined I could talk so well before a large crowd. About the honesty part, it still scares me cos Nigeria is dominated by lots of dishonest people and they would see you as 'not smart enough'. cos you stand for the truth. It's left for you to either stand out of the crowd or compromise your standards to be like the majority. As for me, I chose the former. Do have a beautiful day.
Highly impressive and inspiring! It shows you possess strong leadership qualities and the ability to achieve set goals regardless of the challenges you may face. I'm Catholic as well, so I understand the role of board of lectors.

Quite an alluring personality you've got. Keep soaring high. Hope you'll make a first class again, in your master's program. All the best!
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jul 27, 2019
Gleez:
Highly impressive and inspiring! It shows you possess strong leadership qualities and the ability to achieve set goals regardless of the challenges you may face. I'm Catholic as well, so I understand the role of board of lectors.

Quite an alluring personality you've got. Keep soaring high. Hope you'll make a first class again, in your master's program. All the best!
Thanks dear, I'm rounding off my Masters and my first class is sure by his grace. I wish you the very best as you strive to improve yourself in all areas. God bless
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Ayoolajumoke(f): 12:50pm On Jul 27, 2019
I don’t believe there’s something like being an introvert in a relationship though, when you meet someone you really like, you’ll forget you’re an introvert and the person seeing you as one will soon forget you are one, you will talk and talk till you forget your introvert nature.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Gleez: 2:47pm On Jul 27, 2019
destinyy23:
Thanks dear, I'm rounding off my Masters and my first class is sure by his grace. I wish you the very best as you strive to improve yourself in all areas. God bless
Thank you and congrats in advance.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jul 27, 2019
Gleez:
Thank you and congrats in advance.
Thanks.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by Nobody: 10:25am On Aug 24, 2019
placeofallure:
I am an introvert, the behavioural trait Tim Lahaye referred to as ' Phlegmatic' in his best seller: Why you act the way you do.

I don't like crowded places as such. The church is the only social place I go to. I've been attending my church since I was a baby, I still haven't grown comfortable to stay back and gist after the service, despite the fact that I lead the praise worship many Sundays, I guess it's different when I'm on stage.

I don't have friends, I only have friendly colleagues

I get tired of talking with them easily. Even if I saw you last ten years ago, after the initial ecstasy, I fizzle out.

I write better than I talk.

I am not afraid of staying indoors. I don't like leaving the confines of my house. There are times I don't step out of our flat for 3 days let alone getting to the gate,

I have more than 20 games on my phone, they are my companion anywhere.

I am honest and considerate in dealing with people, I think I am intelligent too, I pay attention to details and I expect everyone to be a perfectionist like me.

In the midst of all these me, myself and I, I am married to a sanguine par excellence! My husband is a man about town, happy-go-lucky and can gist for Africa. I let loose my guard only when I'm with him. Invariably, I become a chatterbox only when I'm around him, after him no more!

Enoff said I guess. grin
You are my personality twin sister
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by AlphaSoul: 10:57am On Feb 16, 2021
ThinkSmarter:
I am an introvert.
I hate the crowds
Prefers solitude
Enjoys fine arts, web surfing.
Very Honest.
I think i am intelligent.
I am hating religion, and rather embracing science and philosophy.
Keep few friends.
I think few girls that i hv dated tried sticking to me cuz their think that i am cool and caring.
Hates chatting on fb.
Re: Ladies/Men Who Are In Relationships With Introverts, Share Your Experiences. by AlphaSoul: 10:15pm On Apr 04, 2021
Pg1
Lemme guess it's either she is not into you or still in the "let-him-chase-me" phase....
When you love, you do things out of your way....
The guy that has been on my case for three months now is a super-introvert, even to pick his parent call is another thing....he doesn't even reply to greetings. You may mistaken him for a mannequin in public...
But he is a chatterbox with me,before I say one,he has said one thousand....he will call for like four hours and he will be the one talked and I just say "ok"....
Sometimes I pretend to be busy to avoid his long talk and his parents and friends have to call me to relay a message to him....
So love changes people
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