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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Ybaby: 12:43pm On Jul 29, 2019
Amitez:
OP you are plain jealous. Your sister has not complained to you neither is your mum complaining, What then is your problem? Your sister had the option of either accepting or refusing the counsel from the religious leader.
Sometimes life issues can make a man unable to keep up. At such times, help can only come from people they know. If you told us that your sister's husband is lazy, then we can talk but for now, leave them alone and face your life.


Hello a 40 year old man can shoot but cannot look after his 1 wife 1 child is not lazy.... abi you are his bro in law...... he said jealous grin grin grin grin jealous of what that the mother in law is bringing food..... una no get shame again ......enjoy your life jo grin grin

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by micflo28(m): 12:44pm On Jul 29, 2019
If the Man is lazy then it is a problem, but if he is doing his best and working hard to cater for his family, then there is nothing wrong, though it musn't be a norm to allow the poor woman enjoy her old age stress free. Yes, the religious leader is right to ask her to marry the man since she is already pregnant for the man. The kid must have a father and there must still be sanctity amongst members of his church.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by unanonso(m): 12:44pm On Jul 29, 2019
[quote author=Techfave post=80730844]Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues



Don't bring your family problems to social media.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by izzou(m): 12:44pm On Jul 29, 2019
pocohantas:


Somebody that is over 40 na ancestor. E no come get money join am. Aru! angry

He is still a youth angry angry angry angry angry angry angry

Be warned angry

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Gbeng28: 12:45pm On Jul 29, 2019
There is nothing wrong with that.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Ybaby: 12:47pm On Jul 29, 2019
Toooooooooo mmmmmmaaaaannnnyyyy lazy men on this thread #shameful

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by blesoh(f): 12:48pm On Jul 29, 2019
Nothing wrong, things can change for them anyday just keep on praying for them
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:
Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues



My own is.. u say force her to marry the man, does it involve dragging her to the venue, threatening her with some blackmailing information, or diabolic means... because I'm trying to force the daughter of the vice president to marry me...I don't think any of the means I listed above will work.... Do u mind telling me how ur sister was forced .
Cos these pastors are getting really good, the other day without dragging, tearing or forceful entry of any kind, a wicked pastor successfully raped a girl at a parents house, strolled to his car gave her krest and did it a gain doggy-style on the bonnet some days later...
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Waffarianman(m): 12:50pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:
Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues





Are your family Jehovah's witness. I Need Answers Now?
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Ybaby: 12:50pm On Jul 29, 2019
Lexusgs430:



Marriage is never by force.... Imposed marriage is wrong..... Why did that clueless man of God, not find her someone like Ned?....

How long would your mother keep supporting this union, on borrowed funds?......

Why are they having kids they cannot provide for?....

Gbam!!! You have said it all

Are you male or female becos i will be happy to see a male with sense on this thread

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Yankee101: 12:51pm On Jul 29, 2019
Absolutely
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Ybaby: 12:52pm On Jul 29, 2019
obinnawhyte:


The post never mentioned Pastor so where are you reading yours from?. SMH

Read the post again
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by StoneColdBiceps(m): 12:53pm On Jul 29, 2019
Kneephy:
Tomorrow geh belle....

Nobody sabi wetin e go born ooo...

You are asking If it is OK for ur MUMMY to send FOOD and MONEY to her DAUGHTER who happens to be ur ELDER SISTER .....


No ooo it's not OK at all, let her leave her dere and let her suffer sogbo....


Wait are you here to mock your sister or what??
Cos if not for HYPOCRISY, why should you bring it here in the first place.....


You are letting us know that your sister is a fool who can't decide what she wants with her life, and she's your sister, not mine.... So I would treat your sister just the way I see u treat her

Abi na.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jul 29, 2019
Waffarianman:




Are your family Jehovah's witness. I Need Answers Now?

Don't go there man.... U don't have to fallaciously linked fvcked up issues with a particular organization... Shiits happen everywhere and everytime

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by yoged(m): 12:54pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:


My sister is my business sir
There is nothing wrong with that. Blood is thicker than water. That your sister is married doesn't mean you should abandoned him. Table turns. Someone who doesn't have today might have tomorrow and who knows, the husband might return in thousands folds. Life isn't hard bro. May God keep blessing your mom and give her good health.
Let me cite my aunt with 3kids as example. Both the husband and wife were OK but unfortunately for the past 2 years things has been hard for the husband, his business collapse . That's a real burden for my aunt, it affected her as well. My mom, me and my 2 elder brothers has been the one assisting them so they can get back to their feet. We have contributed more than 500k just to assist them and so on apart from foods. At times we loan them money and they pay back. We didn't even think it twice and we will continue to help then untill things get better. Mom do send foods too.
It could happen to anyone. Life with unforeseen occurrence. May God bless kind hearted mind. .

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Lexusgs430: 12:55pm On Jul 29, 2019
Ybaby:


Gbam!!! You have said it all

Are you male or female becos i will be happy to see a male with sense on this thread

Still happily a male.... Not considering a sex swap anytime soon....... grin

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by aojully: 12:55pm On Jul 29, 2019
dumbest question of the month!

your type would never send money to their sisters even brothers.
is it your money?

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by StoneColdBiceps(m): 12:55pm On Jul 29, 2019
wahles:
I personally don’t think you have the right to speak for your sister or seek opinion for her about her choice. Mind your business

If your sister isn’t working yet, channel this enquiry towards helping her find a job, so she could be independent.

Tell am o. Supper your family financially no matter her problems.

Meanwhile,
Guys if you can ride motor cycle / Keke Marwa. Please contact the provided number, also bring your friends that can ride to join in our ongoing executive motor bike / tricycle (Keke) transport initiative.
Riders not limited to only Lagos.
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*Full name
*Full Address
*Telephone number
* age

What they stand to benefit:
*They will be self employed.
*They will enjoy *free health care and insurance* ( non in the industry)
*Free Android phone.
*Very strong motor bike 220cc (best in the industry).
*Helmet (best in the industry).
*Rain coat and head cover.
*Flexible payment plan - remit / deliver 4k every day - Monday - Friday (Saturday / Sunday is for you).
*No initial down payment.
*The motor bike becomes your own after 12 months, more like Hire Purchase while you still make more money for yourself.
*Welfare package very good and best in class.
*Tried and trusted and the first in the industry
*Support centers.
*Efficient staffs and continues customer experience.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by Sukkyy2010: 12:56pm On Jul 29, 2019
Oga what are you saying what are you expecting her to be much concerns about if is not her family affairs or is it your family affairs you want her to be worried about if you don't have a specified perspective to share her biko luck up .

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by alujonjonkijon: 12:56pm On Jul 29, 2019
if it is your money or if the burdens finally falls on you then you should complain first to your mother and then find a job for your sister.leave the husband out.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by sanpipita(m): 12:57pm On Jul 29, 2019
There's nothing wrong here, all my sisters are married but my mom sends foodstuffs like fufu and palm oil even yam cos where they live they don't get to buy it cheaper, sending foodstuffs to married daughters is something mothers do happily, I'm just not sure about money part.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by obinnawhyte(m): 12:57pm On Jul 29, 2019
saintneo:


Everything is wrong in that marriage.

A religious organisation that insists on pushing people to get married is a match-making organisation.

A woman or man should be able to make their choices with guidance from Holy Spirit not a man.

Another thing is that a man should be able to provide basic amenities for his proposed family, not extravagantly - food, shelter, etc. Worst case scenario, the husband and wife should combine and fund these.

When God is truly in a marriage, provision is never a problem. In-laws are not expected to have any financial input into a marriage.




My wife rejects her mothers food.

So because you think is right that your wife rejected her mother's food then makes it right for married daughters to reject their mother's food?.
Hope you can reject your own mother's food or support your wife rejecting your mother's food.

If the reverse is the case I doubt anyone we see anything wrong in this. Religious organizations has also arranged marriages between people from wealthy homes and no one said anything about it because there was no issue of money.
Wealthy parents has being sending not just food but every help to their married daughters before now but none has condemned it so why make this one look so bad or new especially when it involves adults that are not even complaining?

Neither the mum nor the daughter is complaining but only the OP that in her post never mentioned any step she has taken or intend to take regarding the issue.
Unless the woman or daughter is complaining please allow them enjoy their marriage. Every marriage have their own love language understood only by the people involved

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by uuzba(m): 12:58pm On Jul 29, 2019
After she has married finish, you asking question?

Some of you, I will just trace your location and come and beat you.
Which kind of behaviour is this?

Any question you want to ask, ask it before marriage and your clear eyes to marry. If you don't feel comfortable, then don't marry. It is not by force

Prick was scratching the foolish man that time Abi? He went and impregnated the lady bout of wedlock?

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by thorpido(m): 1:00pm On Jul 29, 2019
0ubenji:
borrowing to feed them is the problem here coz when the mother has finished owing the whole Lagos with nowhere else to go.. mother, daughter & husband will suffer together.
Certainly!
Well i want to believe the mother was in the know before the daughter got involved in the whole sh#t.She can't leave them alone now.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by obinnawhyte(m): 1:00pm On Jul 29, 2019
Ybaby:


Read the post again

Hope English is not the problem here because what was said was RELIGIOUS ORGANIZATION, maybe you should look up the meaning in your dictionary or google it
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by marvelli(f): 1:02pm On Jul 29, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
Cause? It's not like she even married for love. He's not jealous but feel it's simply not normal? Why marry if you'll still be dependent on parents?
babe, where I come from its considered normal to help family members in need. Besides the OP never said the husband was perpetually poor na. Maybe he lost his job. I'm sure her parents or complaining brother wouldn't let her marry a jobless man.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by gnykelly(m): 1:02pm On Jul 29, 2019
Techfave:
Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues




The circumstances that led to her marriage we can't comment... But getting items from your mom you can't really fault you mom... People go through hard times but she should try and make sure they the couple are on their feet always.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by shekauvsbuhari: 1:04pm On Jul 29, 2019
Mr. Man dnt be self-centered. She is ur sister. Ur family. She in a deep poo. Whether by foolish decision or error, she needs all de help from even you to get out of her mess. Go n work and assist. Its ur family member U re talking about.

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by uuzba(m): 1:06pm On Jul 29, 2019
saintneo:


Everything is wrong in that marriage.
.....

When God is truly in a marriage, provision is never a problem. In-laws are not expected to have any financial input into a marriage.

My wife rejects her mothers food.

Don't mind the OP.
The man's thing was scratching him too much. He forgot that he doesn't have proper job to take care of his Wife.
They don't have brain to think. After all the preaching that their pastor preached to them, no one entered their head. They have lost their common sense. It's now the same pastor that will tell them to marry.
Later they will call him to show them where to sleep and wake, where to do their pooing , piss and messing.
Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by bestmutiu2019(m): 1:06pm On Jul 29, 2019
IT IS OKAY BRO,GUY YOU THINK SAY YOU CAN NOT BE IN HER SHOE,

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by DECENCY3: 1:07pm On Jul 29, 2019
Greedy man. Don't go and look for work.

So if it is not well with your sister's marriage and your mum decides to help is it a problem?

Do you know what tomorrow holds? Do you know if that family will turn out to be your helper?

In as much as the money is not coming from you, please leave your mother alone.

Would you be rather happy for her to borrow with interest, beg to eat, prostitute or steal?

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Re: Is It Okay For My Mum To Send Money And Food To My Married Sister ?? by DECENCY3: 1:07pm On Jul 29, 2019
Greedy man. Don't go and look for work.

So if it is not well with your sister's marriage and your mum decides to help is it a problem?

Do you know what tomorrow holds? Do you know if that family will turn out to be your helper?

In as much as the money is not coming from you, please leave your mother alone.

Would you be rather happy for her to borrow with interest, beg to eat, prostitute or steal?

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