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Lowkeey01:
Laughs, who said you should dick her well? My son that is a wrong advice. If she needs a good dick, she knows how to get it, (trust me from experience)
The natural love and likeness she have for you will naturally die if you are not making any effort to double your hustle. Always give her space, don't be too clingy, proffer business and investment ideas for her, don't discuss much about yourself, above all, when she misbehave, call her attention, when she tries to offer you money, decline and tell her, you don't need her money, she should invest it. Then triple your hustle and hang around other F word.

truthsayer009:
BRO calm down, this actually a real problem. It happens when both of you have opinions & you usually have to bow to hers.

Obviously you know why.

adeboi1:
@iLege.ndd

Great sex, sense of humor, and the confidence of letting her go if she becomes arrogant, controlling, or starts nagging is the only answer.

3 things he needs.

1. Great sex (without drugs)
2. Sense of humor (without being a clown)
3. Confidence (not being bothered if she wants to leave or stay unlike all these boring and desperate nice guys littered across the globe)

For the man, having his own money and other things is just a bonus. (Speaking from years of experience).

When you are great good in bed and you don't need a woman to feel complete, she ends up needing you more even if she's the most intelligent, the richest, or the most beautiful being on earth.

This same thing applies to business. Give great sex attention to your business and be confident in making it a success. If it fails, don't panic — your confidence (self-belief) will guide you through.

Men shouldn't panic in anything business or relationship. Just be confident in yourself.

LordKO:
Foremost, I wonder why you would want to control another human being - have dominion over another person - an adult for that matter. That sounds repulsive to my hearing - to be in charge/lead is different from controlling/longing to subjugate someone.

Anyway, you need to make sure that the interest is mutual and genuine from both sides, that's the most important thing. Then, make sure you come (go) into equity with cleans hands and expect same from her (unpronounced) - whether she's financially wealthier than you or not is irrelevant - money shouldn't define a sane man (person). Of course, lack of it (not inadequate of it) is a sign of irresponsibleness and unresourcefulness, especially when one's hale and hearty and without any form of inhibition from anywhere.

In other words, strive to conquer yourself without longing to conquer her, and love her without hating yourself - be in charge. In the end, both of you can only have healthy and enduring relationship if you are of the same sane ethical leanings/or able to unanimously forge a sane one, wittingly or unwittingly.

backbone503:
I relate. Just let her know (from your actions, not just words) that your love for her has nothing to do with her wealth. Avoid demanding from her, and don't let her always do the spending. Finally, try not to see/perceive her as a rich girl. Asin, talk and relate with her as if she is way below you.

mrgoodd:
The love started rough at first because she didn't want too give in at first, But with patiency and transparency she fell, Not that I am not rich but I know I don't have what she has and that's not my problem at all and that don't even bother me at all, Now the question is this , How can I control someone wealthy than I am without me getting her mad or making her feel I am doing too know,, You know the way a lady with money think is different from the way an average girl think.
Please Keep your comment if you have not experienced this type of relationship before, I need matured and experienced men here pls.

Xisnin:
You can't.

No human, male or female wants to submit to another unless they are under pressure from monetary,
social or religious influence.

Forget what you read or hear about submissive wives, it is mostly pretense.

In this case, the lady does not need you. Instead of wasting your time, ask her
if she will like to be controlled and subjected to your rule. Then use her answer to decide to stay or leave.

Again, maybe it will be better to ask yourself why it is important to control another fully grown adult.

jelel6:
Well, OP, I don't think "controlling" anybody with freewill is what you want in any kind of relationship talkless of a romantic one for that matter.

Traditionally, your role as leader of the relationship isn't tied to your financial status. However, your role as chief provider is naturally dependent on your financial abilities.

Separate decisions that have to do with money from those that don't. For instance, if you stay in a one bedroom apartment and she decides to move in with you, be ready to make some concessions if she finds the apartment too "small" for the both of you. Since you probably can't afford a bigger place alone, the next best thing is to find a middle ground and look for a place both can equally contribute to financial. Hence, her opinions regarding matters that have to do with finances counts equally with yours and both of you have to come to an agreement before decisions are taken.

But assuming she says you have to move into her 4 bedroom bungalow instead of yours, then your traditional role as leader of the relationship is at stake and you should refuse.

For "other" day to day decisions which have to be taken, defer to superior arguments and don't think yours or anything you say have to be followed completely.

I'm a guy and the senior to my younger sister, she's both very submissive and independent. They're things she would ask for my directions, those she'll have to obey anything I say, and then those she take irrespective of my opinions because she's simply better placed to take them. That's how relations is in this century. You Can't Control Anything or Anybody.

Lowkeey01:
Laughs, who said you should dick her well? My son that is a wrong advice. If she needs a good dick, she knows how to get it, (trust me from experience)
The natural love and likeness she have for you will naturally die if you are not making any effort to double your hustle. Always give her space, don't be too clingy, proffer business and investment ideas for her, don't discuss much about yourself, above all, when she misbehave, call her attention, when she tries to offer you money, decline and tell her, you don't need her money, she should invest it. Then triple your hustle and hang around other F word.

Powersurge:
First I am sure what OP meant by "control" is respecting you as her husband: as if you were richer than her.

first, I don't advise anyone to marry a lady richer than him (subjective). however, it shouldn't be a problem if you KNOW the person you are dealing with. But I think if you know her the way you ought, you wouldn't be here.

I think the problem is already in your mind. Hence, if she does any random act, you will think it's because of her money. People get hurt by another's acts because they put too much faith or expect too much from them.

You will not have ANY sense of inferiority if you hold game right. if she can afford a G-wagon, you should be able to afford a tokunbo Toyota. and above all, you MUST be secured in who you are. The kind of security that will make you drive a 2002 Toyota the the governor's office and drink beer with him, gist and be on your way.

NEVER suck up your feelings because of who she is. and NEVER lord it over her (that's not because she has money).

if you are secured in who you are, Dangote will come to your house and sit on a mat you offer him.

Ybaby:
No he will not sit on a mat

RoseyJ:
you are trying to tell us that you once dated a rich lady. Aturu!

Patented:
do you have "control" issues?
when you were toasting the money was not a problem, now that she has agreed after you "patiency and transparency" . u suddenly seek ways to control her.
if you can live with the person she is, its fine, if you cant walk away, the need to assert some level of control suddenly sounds suspicious to me.

Biglittlelois:
I am amazed at the comments/advice above, no insults from females regarding Op going for someone wealthy than he is, if Op was a female, the insults from adult kids here would have been out of this world, instead females are also advicing without insults, name calling or bashing, talk about maturity from females here is 90% compared to males.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Sorry ur ship won't sail for long.

You simply bullied ur way into she agreeing to date you. She'll probably dump you when she get tired of you trying to control her.

Biglittlelois:
I am amazed at the comments/advice above, no insults from females regarding Op going for someone wealthy than he is, if Op was a female, the insults from adult kids here would have been out of this world, instead females are also advicing without insults, name calling or bashing, talk about maturity from females here is 90% compared to males.

Powersurge:
then he bleeps off!!!

mrgoodd:
The love started rough at first because she didn't want too give in at first, But with patiency and transparency she fell, Not that I am not rich but I know I don't have what she has and that's not my problem at all and that don't even bother me at all, Now the question is this , How can I control someone wealthy than I am without me getting her mad or making her feel I am doing too know,, You know the way a lady with money think is different from the way an average girl think.
Please Keep your comment if you have not experienced this type of relationship before, I need matured and experienced men here pls.

Altern8:
You’re thinking too hard. The fact that she is interested in you is a good sign. It means you don’t have to seek to control her. Where is the joy in controlling a lover anyway? Some people may object though.

You are enough for her. Seek to improve yourself, for yourself. That alone is attractive to her. Do not compete with her. You would end being obnoxious and may lose her at the end. “Hold your side” and you will be fine.

If you are one of those guys who believe a man must always be richer than his babe, then you have no business dating her. Let her go cos your ego will get in the way, eventually.