ornicus:
lets turn it around - will you allow your daughter or sister to marry someone in that condition?
as a guy sef, what kind of person are you, wanting to start a family in that condition.
what sort of life is that?

anyway, in the end it comes down to your income
that is the residence of a gala hawker.

las las he can date and marry his fellow orange seller - no problem

if a woman marries a guy in this condition na to suffer. she will grow old fast. if the guy somehow eventually makes it, na to trade in the old looking woman sharp sharp

This small sense you're making should not evaporate in the movie section.

Twenty years time from now,over 20% of those who said No will end up average or below with average or below husbands and children. We all will never be rich but it is good to dream. Time and seasons must happen to us all.

Tallesty1:
Simply because your sister is broke and cannot rent a better apartment or give the guy the financial support he needs to actualize his dreams(if he has any).


If your sister is okay like Linda Ikeji, I swear your opinion won't count. She won't even let you know his condition, she will simply upgrade him and present him to the fam and y'all will accept him.

you have a point.but a guy in that condition shouldnt try and propose,it is wrong.building a family is expensive!

AntiBru.tus:


Lol. They always get to the threat part...

Why then did you type the epistle?

Oga, I no marry that kind man. Knack your head for wall.

They'll blackmail you with singlehood like you can't be single and be happy.

AntiBrutus:


Lol. They always get to the threat part...

Why then did you type the epistle?

Oga, I no marry that kind man. Knack your head for wall.

What’s the matter with you

I have one handsome aboki gateman right here waiting for you to join him in the one room building we built for him.

He is a very hard worker and he has very big plans. Don’t miss this opportunity oh


You know your evening newspaper days are ending and your suya paper days are beginning

Godoverevery:

DK olukoya wife dated him Wen he had just one kettle and a pot in a room with just one student size bed and no fan.
Today she has a husband who is the G.O of mountain of fire and miracle ministry worldwide.

my mum from a rich home den dated my dad who was poor.... infact my dad family were nobody....my dad who was just a student in Lagos feeding from hand to mouth despite the insult from her families continued till she married him .....now my dad has different houses helps my mum relatives and built a four bedroom house for my grandma who never approved d marriage den cos of his status.

Like mum told my sister......what matters is ur happiness in life cos having a rich man doesn't guarantee that.....if he gonna make u happy for the rest of ur life marry him even if has nothing now once he is not lazy .....he may have more than enuff tomorrow.
what is the essence of living in a mansion well furnished and u feel like a prisoner in it and eventually u gonna leave the house cos u want to be happy.

Dr Pastor Olukoya is an exception and not the rule. Women in recent years don't want to suffer this way and i would never encourage my Sister or female friend to. It's better to be single as a lady than live with this.


Then, when or if you eventually become rich and want to cruise your way into numerous women's pants for fun because you now have money. The ball is in your court & no one can stop you.

Lest i forget your children, they deserve a better life. You cannot bring them up in this situation.

Life is simple Bro.

YorubaKing:


3rd world / Inferior / Poverty mentality

I remember you're the same chic ascribing some NONSENSE meaning to 'statistical percentile' to look cool and educated. We sabi una type.

pcguru1:


Sorry sir I don't see this 'VISION' as you do. I have only seen many people with 'visions'and no drive to act on it, maybe you can shed some light

Like you rightly pointed out, some have visions but no drive at all, i see no reason why a girl that loves a girl who has vision but currently broke should be discouraged like many commenters are saying. Am gonna give you some instances, the former managing director of Chivita fruits juice is my town man, he had absolutely nothing when he married his wife but he had vision and his wife believed in him. Secondly, one of the notable oil dealers in Enugu also started from the scratch with his wife but today you know the rest.

AntiBrutus:


I don't understand the steady need to blackmail ladies into marrying poor men. It is not even like majority of Nigerians are rich.

Even when you are a lady that works and earns something, they will still want to threaten you with menopause into settling for anything with third leg.

These same guys are the ones that will curse you tomorrow for being desperate that you had to settle with anything.

If he isn't broke, it is not true love
-NL guys since 1900 BC

Most of such guys only exist on this forum. I am beginning to think that Nairaland is breeding negativity in the guys on this forum. They just have this mindset of poverty...being poor, victims, etc. Any lady who doesn't marry or date a poor guy is a golddigger or many other names that they choose to use.

Who will now marry the comfortable or rich guys?

AntiBrutus:


Some will, so many Nigerians are like that and they are married with kids.

If he left that pepper seller that obviously has a crush on him, to come propose to me. It means he saw a quality in me ba? I wonder why I should be crucified for seeing none in him...

Lool

Raalsalghul:

This small sense you're making should not evaporate in the movie section.

Keep following me. You will expand your narrow horizons and learn to start using your brain. Good you have taken the first step to emancipation from slavery to comic books. There is hope for you yet.

the northern muslims, the man only build or rent a house, parent of d bride bring everything e.g set of bedings, all kitchen utencils including bag of rice, maize, flour, sugar 20litres of cooking oil, packs of maggi etc. so also the cushions, tv set ., carpets and all rubber buckets, cups, warmers, flasks and foodflasks etc


is very common here, this is the exact room of a common northern guy b4 he marries

GrabHisBalls:
E no reach to vex? I no want my children to inherit poverty na.

Lol,no one wants to be poor...let alone want it for their kids
But if you believe in his vision and drive(very important), things are guaranteed to turn around.
I also know you are not redundant too. Between your hustle and his bustle,your kids will drink Nestlé!

Samakus:
A Facebook user asked ladies if they will accept marriage proposal from a man living in this condition, the responses can kill for sure. Lolz.

and why dafuq would a guy living in dat condition think he's ready to marry?...so he wants to bring his wife and innocent kids into a world of hardship...set urself ryt first...marriage doesn't define a man

ornicus:


What’s the matter with you

I have one handsome aboki gateman right here waiting for you to join him in the one room building we built for him.

He is a very hard worker and he has very big plans. Don’t miss this opportunity oh


You know your evening newspaper days are ending and your suya paper days are beginning

Give to these NL guys sisters.

Obviously all their sisters married these kinda men with DRIVE.

I no do!

PrimadonnaO:


Just freaking shut the hell up! A man doesn't need to have millions to live in a decent apartment. Learn not to comment when you don't have anything sensible to say.

If not for the fact that i don't argue with fools, i would have given you excess dosage of the insults you desire. Learn how to respect people's views. Its an advice.

Truth be told, no man in this condition ahould ever consider marriage no matter the age.

Why will a man subject someone's daugther to this kind of life.

Hustle and move out from this kind of dump.

ornicus:


Do not conflate dating with marriage please. Most students in school do not have anything.

When your mum married your dad, did they move into a single room with only a mattress? Were you nursed in a single room? Were you bathed in a public tap?

Women marry men from poorer backgrounds all the time. Marrying a man from a poorer background is not the same as marrying an outright pauper.

There is also no guarantee that a man will stay loyal to his wife when he hammers. It can go both ways.

lol ....I don't no if u a guy or a lady but let me share u ds.
my dad married my mum in a one room in idi-araba lagos..... my elder brother was born there in a face me I face you.
they later moved to a two room in mushin Lagos face me i face u..public toilet...public tap....infact me and my bro fetch water on our head from d next street.....I was born there with my lil sis.....we grew up there and it was in 1999 everything changed for us......my dad travelled to Saudi Arabia to work as a nurse...cos he was a nurse at Luth den...but d pay was never enuff.....but wen he got to saudi....we were able to move to surulere to into a 3 bedroom.. bought two cars.benz 190 and lady corrola..my mum endure for gud 14yr minus courtshipof 6yrs to enjoy life.......so u have no idea of ow d early stages of my family were so is common sense u just shut up.

Kingosytex:


Like you rightly pointed out, some have visions but no drive at all, i see no reason why a girl that loves a girl who has vision but currently broke should be discouraged like many commenters are saying. Am gonna give you some instances, the former managing director of Chivita fruits juice is my town man, he had absolutely nothing when he married his wife but he had vision and his wife believed in him. Secondly, one of the notable oil dealers in Enugu also started from the scratch with his wife but today you know the rest.

Okay now that you put it like that and use those examples, it make sense then and true. Because I see a lot of people who talk more than executing so it's way I have that mindset.

ImaIma1:


Most of such guys only exist on this forum. I am beginning to think that Nairaland is breeding negativity in the guys on this forum. They just have this mindset of poverty...being poor, victims, etc. Any lady who doesn't marry or date a poor guy is a golddigger or many other names that they choose to use.

Who will now marry the comfortable or rich guys?

Na them go help us marry them.

I don't live in such an environment. Then I will go marry a man living in such. Like that is not enough, his ego won't allow him move to my place, I will go join him in that room.

I will start walking on eggshells, so that my actions will not be misconstrued as disrespect.

Marrying a comfortable man isn't all about greed, it helps to protect his ego and give the woman peace.

This guy is best with his class, not me.

Quorax:
All the people saying NO...

You all no get sense...

The most important thing is whether the person involve has DRIVE... WICKED DRIVE and knows what he wants and how to get it..

You should ONLY say no in the absence of the aforementioned, else you sound myopic.

He should use the WICKED DRIVE to make money and improve his standard of living first.

ornicus:
lets turn it around - will you allow your daughter or sister to marry someone in that condition?
as a guy sef, what kind of person are you, wanting to start a family in that condition.
what sort of life is that?

anyway, in the end it comes down to your income
that is the residence of a gala hawker.

las las he can date and marry his fellow orange seller - no problem

if a woman marries a guy in this condition na to suffer. she will grow old fast. if the guy somehow eventually makes it, na to trade in the old looking woman sharp sharp

lol.but bro,it is funny that guys can marry ladies in this condition-that was the 'turn it around' i expected!

When poorer people than this post are marrying everyday with children littered all the places.
To each his own
Money doesn't even equate happiness
And that condition may not always remain like that.

Contentment is the key
Rich or poor
A lot of the rich people you see today many came from very poor background. As in poor of the poor. But today those that were rich in those days are not there match in money.
So life turns around for people
Life is not always constant
Some guys ridiculed have gone on to make something good for themselves


One thing I have discovered is that most materialistic women that come online to rant, can't even add value to made guys.
Most made guys don't even go for those kind of women
They are very choosy when it comes to picking a woman
When it comes to choosing a woman they are very wise.

pcguru1:


Okay now that you put it like that and use those examples, it make sense then and true. Because I see a lot of people who talk more than executing so it's way I have that mindset.

Always understand that for the fact that a person is broke today doesn't mean that he will remain so. Situations change.

AntiBrutus:


Lol. They always get to the threat part...

Why then did you type the epistle? Abi is there any part of my comment that said marrying them is wrong? It is just not for me!

Why do men like forcing their opinions as fact biko? Using blackmails and threats?!

Oga, I no marry that kind man. Knack your head for wall.

yea........wat do u expect from an average Nigeria lady......d only way dey can make it in life ....... LOL

the rich marry the rich........

Godoverevery:

yea........wat do u expect from an average Nigeria lady......d only way dey can make it in life ....... LOL

the rich marry the rich........

Dude don't project your sisters on me o.

I work for my money, been working since I was 21. I will never be blackmailed into marrying such a man. NEVER.

AntiBrutus:


Na them go help us marry them.

I don't live in such an environment. Then I will go marry a man living in such. Like that is not enough, his ego won't allow him move to my place, I will go join him in that room.

I will start walking on eggshells, so that my actions will not be misconstrued as disrespect.

Marrying a comfortable man isn't all about greed, it helps to protect his ego and give the woman peace.

This guy is best with his class, not me.

Most of the guys are commenting with the current state of their pockets and bank accounts. If they get good jobs and are staying in decent apartments, won't they expect ladies to marry them?

They think that its only when they are poor that they should be considered for marriage

Godoverevery:

lol ....I don't no if u a guy or a lady but let me share u ds.
my dad married my mum in a one room in idi-araba lagos..... my elder brother was born there in a face me I face you.
they later moved to a two room in mushin Lagos face me i face u..public toilet...public tap....infact me and my bro fetch water on our head from d next street.....I was born there with my lil sis.....we grew up there and it was in 1999 everything changed for us......my dad travelled to Saudi Arabia to work as a nurse...cos he was a nurse at Luth den...but d pay was never enuff.....but wen he got to saudi....we were able to move to surulere to into a 3 bedroom.. bought two cars.benz 190 and lady corrola..my mum endure for gud 14yr minus courtshipof 6yrs to enjoy life.......so u have no idea of ow d early stages of my family were so is common sense u just shut up.

So basically you were stone poor. Your dad was a nurse and your mum was a trader. Your only stroke of luck was that your dad managed to get a job as a nurse in Saudi Arabia. If not for that you would still be in the face me I face you.

As a guy from a medical family, whose dad was in Saudi Arabia for 10 years from 1990 to 2000, I say your story is bullsheeet. Oya tell me where your dad worked and how many times you visited him. My old man was in tabuk at one time and dhuba at another.

It is crassness to believe that a man who is broke does not deserve love,especially from a girl above his means. Love is a feeling and not commodity to be traded with money. My elder brother had is first girlfriend pregnant in the university; he didn't have that kind of room to call his own. He was still depending on our mother for everything. Her parents didn't accept it because of his poor background. The girl had to stay with my mum until she delivered and immediately left him. After University, my brother didn't get work for several years,and had to sleep under bridges to hustle. But today,his first daughter stays with him in Australia. Her mum and some of her family members have equally been taken there. This was the same broke boy her family members nearly killed for dating their daughter. please let's be humble. 100yrs to come,there will still be poor men and women.

luminouz:

Lol,no wants to be poor...let alone want it for their kids
But if you believe in his vision and drive(very important), things are guaranteed to turn around.
I also know you are not redundant too. Between your hustle and his bustle,your kids will drink Nestlé!

And what if he doesn't have a vision?

See, I am not saying there's anything bad in starting small, or having prospects, but thinking of getting married in such a condition is suicide. As a woman, I won't be helping him by saying 'Yes'.

And why dafuq does a guy living in dat condition think he's ready to marry?...just so he can bring his wife and innocent kids into a world of hardship...set urself ryt first marriage doesn't define a man