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MissJoy29:
Exactly!

luvyaself95:
that can't be truth...

obembet:
No. Any pro with that

carter009:
Lolz, Missjoy, please take it easy on this matter.

lincsnuel:
A lot of women are actually mentally broke in present day Nigeria.

It all started from family, i.e some personality traits they picked up from their mom; their mother might have been overtly dependent on the father. She literally collects money for anything from the man of the house and when the man doesn't provide, the whole family goes hungry and the man ends up being bashed by the woman (and you know how hurtful a woman broke shaming her husband can be)

This on the long run, creates a sense of entitlement on the little girl. She then believes that any man who comes into her life must be her ATM.

Another primary factor that contributes to such mentality is the peer group. Even a girl from a nice family background with knowledge of self dependence can be manipulated and or controlled by her group of friends into exhibiting this characteristics. Humans tend to exhibit group mentality and it's very evident in the female folk (group mentality entails following a path because your group follow same path without carefully criticising it)

Darkseid:
I usually don't take nonsense from people, especially from ladies and it's probably the reason I might remain single forever. Once a girl asks me for airtime, the attraction goes from 80% to 20%. Anything I can't do for my guys, I can't do it for any girl. I'm in a search for something serious and any lady that doesn't fit in what I want in a wife, I forget about her immediately.

obembet:
I know many girls and ladies will be angry with this thread but its fact and we can learn more about it .

This questions go for the guys.

Guys, how do some of you even cope with dating a mentally broke girl? I know some still don't understand what i mean by Mentally Broke Girls.
Imagine a girl who doesn't have transport fare to see someone who she claims she loves every damn time.

How do u cope with a lady who can't get you a birthday or a Valentine's day gift, but expects you to bring down the world for her during hers.

How do u cope with Someone who can't comfortably call you on phone for 5mins. Always flashing and
complaining she doesn't have airtime even when you know you just sent her airtime.

You will still be the one to call her and ask her whether she has seen the Card. I mean how do you guys cope dating a lady who thinks relationship is an occupation;
where she is supposed to be paid and taken care of?

Even if it's an occupation, what services is she actually offering to be privileged to receive such benefits?
Or is she a ghost worker?
We need to understand that sex is not a benefit ONLY to men.
Now we can see why suicide and depression victims are mostly men.
I dont see reason why guys date a mentally broke girl no matter how gorgeous you think she is. They are serious liabilities.
Rather date a lady who adds something beneficial to your life. Things like emotional intelligence; financial intelligence; spiritual intelligence and other intelligence.

Date someone who's capable of calming the storm within your soul ( an average man has enough storms ); and not someone who adds stress to your life.

Forget that yehn yehn talk, don't tolerate any woman's brokenness or stupidity just because of her physical beauty.

There are actually a lot of extremely gorgeous and beautiful ladies with common sense.

One thing I've realized about all these broke girls is not that they don't actually have money...

Most of them do; but it's just that they're mentally broke, which is way way worse than not having money.
I know many girls gonna be angry with this post, they won't like or comment in it .
But
My fellow Ladies please don't be mentally broke.
Even when you have a little, try to support your guy sometimes.
Guys please don't date mentally broke girls
i hope you understand what mentality broke means ??. Wise Up Guys.


Observation and correction from great nairalanders is welcome.

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique
mynd44

virgoquin:
I heard some men love them broke like that... it gives them some sort of control and power

Dizzyrascal:
Any guy in this world would be lucky to have a girl like OBEMBET. I initially didn't want to comment, but I believe this is one issue that is important to any relationship. Some Nigerian ladies probably need a mentality change. A change in the way they view relationships. A guy is not necessarily an ATM machine. Once they change the way they think they would start attracting the right set of guys into their lives. The-chop-and-clean-mouth type of guys are only interested in giving out money and getting what they want....they don't last.

BabbanBura:
Haste makes waste Bro. You do not make such a hasty conclusion on a Woman, odikwa over risky!