Jimasun:
If you are wondering why African society is not moving forward, this thread says it all.
What relevance does dream have to do with using your common sense?
Do you know the number of people pastors have deceived into wrong marriage?

And to all of you abusing Nigerian ladies for their waywardness, please are promiscuous ladies dating themselves? Are guys not also cheating?
As much as I hate feminism, this patriarch seems to build a fortress around some people's sense.
If you cheat and accuse ladies of cheating, sense fall on you.

Na u no civilised self. Is it normal wen u date or marry a naija lady, u become the cash machine for her, her family and extended families? Have u been to other sane societies for comparisons? I have. If u haven't, u seriously gat to

Joislim:
I did, check ur email

Yea! I replied.
Thanks

charzyh2:
Everyone gets angry but hot temperament is a no no. I don't want to beat my woman but I must not marry a woman that can get mad to the extent of slapping my mum.

So, anger get level.

Abusive traits are observed and adopted usually at a young age I know someone I grew up with that can fight artisans and staff for 500 Naira but they are a millionaire but if their owing you will avoid you. People like that prey on people that have a weak mind emotional intelligence is what you should pray for in a partner someone who knows how to cool down I’ve spoken to my love angry like fuming but there’s just something he can say to me that will stop it all likewise me

So it’s finding your balance with someone don’t push people to the wall sometimes

correctguy0900:


Na u no civilised self. Is it normal wen u date or marry a naija lady, u become the cash machine for her, her family and extended families? Have u been to other sane societies for comparisons? I have. If u haven't, u seriously gat to

I did say you should be in a. relationship where you are the ATM.
I am just saying people should be logical

Davash222:
Being a Nigerians girl is a deadly sign already.

Yes there are but they bad ones has out numbered the few good ones.

aishaemeka:
We still have good people..

Jimasun:

I did say you should be in a. relationship where you are the ATM.
I am just saying people should be logical

Take a lady out, she will order for herself and her ancestors. Why would it not be deadly for men?

charzyh2:


I wonder why men count it normal for them to cheat but when their wives do the same, they call family meeting.

Is the wife a slave or what?

why would a woman who is married yield to a sexual request from an irresponsible man!!
please get my point clear, i am not defending the men but women should always respect their marital vow. provided they are not raped, i can never stand in for them.

Davash222:
Being a Nigerian girl is a deadly sign already.

charzyh2:
He's not confusing himself. Try to comprehend. All the points differ.

So when a relationship is going smooth without conflict it's not good, right?

Let me ask you, the other points, are they not part of the causes of conflicts in relationships?

Use your head na

Hmmm

Jayslicky:
Getting married to the present day Nigerian girls Is like planning your own death, by the time you have spent five years in the marriage after receiving nagging, cheating, disrespect from her you would have lost a bit of your sanity, if you see white, you will call it red.

There is no recipe or yardstick to know a potentially good or bad spouse. Folks, if a person is not right for you, your heart would tell you so because you'd "feel" it. Yet, let your heart be open to genuine love and don't go around looking for faults in a potential partner (you'd find plenty).

Many of us live in self-denial hoping for the girlfriend or boyfriend to change once we have an inkling of destructive behaviour. Folks, people hardly change. An emotionally abusive partner transmutes to an emotionally abusive spouse. A cheating partner transmutes to a cheating spouse. If you feel you are getting less than you are putting in, there is no need to put less; end the relationship sooner than after. Relationship is not a transaction. It is a process towards a spiritual union which must be anchored by genuineness in both parties.

BabaIbo:


So when a relationship is going smooth without conflict it's not good, right?

Let me ask you, the other points, are they not part of the causes of conflicts in relationships?

Use your head na

Can't Nigerians express their points without insult?

I guess you're not married.

So, if you're not let me inform you that there's no perfect relationship anywhere. We're only working towards perfection.

So, if you're courting/ dating for maybe 2 years (serious relationship) and you've never been pissed off by one of her certain behaviors or vise versa, then both of you are not humans.

If you're not married, ask your parents.

correctguy0900:


Take a lady out, she will order for herself and her ancestors. Why would it not be deadly for men?

Not all ladies bro.
As I am talking with you, a lady is choking me with over 4 trophies.
Change your circle boss.

bonnyhope:


why would a woman who is married yield to a sexual request from an irresponsible man!!
please get my point clear, i am not defending the men but women should always respect their marital vow. provided they are not raped, i can never stand in for them.

Why can't men also reject sexual advances from women?

bonnyhope:


why would a woman who is married yield to a sexual request from an irresponsible man!!
please get my point clear, i am not defending the men but women should always respect their marital vow. provided they are not raped, i can never stand in for them.

I'm a man as well. Let's stop this gender slavery. Whatever is bad for ladies is bad for men.

Or are you telling me that those cheating men were raped?

Jimasun:
Not all ladies bro.
As I am talking with you, a lady is choking me with over 4 trophies.
Change your circle boss.

It can't be all. But the usual cases too much outway the exceptions.

Except naija has changed. Which i don't believe. I would think it's worse cos of economic reports i have.

bonnyhope:


why would a woman who is married yield to a sexual request from an irresponsible man!!
please get my point clear, i am not defending the men but women should always respect their marital vow. provided they are not raped, i can never stand in for them.

Why would a married man still chase after ladies. Both the man and woman should respect their marital vows not just the woman

The reality is that all these signs especially no.3 perfectly describes a typical present day Nigerian lady.


Most Nigerian girls/lady/women are the worst thing to ever happen to a good man.

They have the worst of attitudes. They so full of themselves. They have that mentality to believe they are the finest creatures on planet earth and they are the best thing to happen to humanity.

They will date a man and make him feel like they are doing him a favour by going out with him.


MOST PEOPLE READING THIS WILL SAY AM TALKING THRASH. BUT WAIT TILL YOU GO LIVE ABROAD AND HAVE NO CONTACT WITH A NIGERIAN WOMAN THEN YOU WILL REALIZE HOW HORRIBLE IN CHARACTER AND EVERY ASPECT A TYPICAL NIGERIAN WOMAN IS.


IF NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE FANTASTIC AS THEY ARE BRAINWASHED TO BELIEVE THERE IN NIGERIA, HOW COME THE SINGLE NIGERIA WOMEN LIVING ABROAD AIN'T ALL MARRIED?

Nonsense! Indomine generation forming counsellor. .gerara here!!!

aishaemeka:
There are signs that shows you are getting into the wrong marriage. Many people see these signs but overlook them in the name of love, "he or she will change", marriage will settle it or whatever. These signs came to many divorced couples in their relationships before they even got married.

"Their should be no mercy" on nonsense before marriage. What do i mean? you need to trash out all your inconveniences with your partner before marriage. Their should be nothing like managing confusion when your fiance or fiancee is close to someone of the opposite sex and says "we are just friends", or you see your fiance or fiancee with a group of bad friends, and he or she does not want to give them up. Make sure you are very okay with your partner before you marry. Dont assume anything, verify till you have peace of mind. Marriage is destiny, not dating...

I will like to tell you some signs that shows you are getting into the wrong marriage...


(1) EXCESSIVE SWEETNESS: My brothers and my sisters, whenever you enter a dating relationship that is just sweet sweet sweet sweet sweet exciting from the beginning, please watch it. I may be talking nonsense to you, but please watch it.. That is how sweet sweet sweet things have "buried" people to 419, false prophets and so on. It is not bad to have an exciting relationship; but if it starts with sweet sweet sweet sweet, their may be a cover up somewhere. Please pause the excitement and ask God to reveal your partners original colour.

(2) INSTABILITY: In the bible (Proverbs 5:6), they described a harlot as someone whose ways are moveable that one cannot know them
. My brothers and sisters, if you wanna marry a guy or a lady, and you hear things like "she is just a friend to me", "I didnt see your call(after 10 missed calls from morning till afternoon), "call me back call me back call me back call me back", "I am not around, am in the bank (and you are hearing heavy traffic in the background)", or you see some persistent unstable moves; then you are in the wrong place..

(3) ANGER: Some may say, I am nice, helpful, good, obedient, but can be hot-tempered. My brothers and my sisters, if you are dating someone and upon provocation the person smashes a bottle of glass or breaks an object, be very careful in such relationships. Sometimes, these people could demonstrate such anger and later beg for forgiveness. But my brothers and sisters, if they kill you in the process, "they will still apologize to your corpse". Whoever has hot-temper should tell God to deal with it before he or she marries.

(4) BEING MADE TO BE NEEDY: My next-level brothers and sisters, if you are praying for your partner and your partner is not praying for you, you are pretty "irrelevant" in the relationship. If you are praying for the relationship to work-out and your partner is relaxed, then you are pretty "irrelevant". It does not make sense to pray for a wife or a husband, while the wife or the husband you are praying to get does not see you as an answered prayer. Please anywhere you are not honoured, leave that place. You will be "dehydrated" if you go into a relationship where you are managed or made needy.

(5) IGNORING DREAM REVELATIONS: Your partner could be so nice physically, but if you notice that whenever you sleep, you see him or her as an angry beast in your dreams, a deceiver or an evil personality; it is then time for you to go into deep prayers, thoughts and watchfulness. A time when you should watch your partner very well through dreams is when you genuinely love your partner physically without suspicion, but see him or her as evil in your dreams. If you hate or suspect your partner and see him or her as a devil in your dream, such a dream may be false because you already have a negative picture about your partner.


(6) IGNORING YOUR PEACE OF MIND: Some ladies saw this sign but still jumped into marriage. They had this restlessness, but still waved it and forcefully silenced their minds and conscience with other reasons like "he is still nice though", "he is prayerful", "he is a church leader", or whatever reason it may be. If you are loosing peace about someone you wanna marry, dont marry yet. You need to intensify prayers, watchfulness and verification.

So who will now marry the bad ones

Crap

aishaemeka:
There are signs that shows you are getting into the wrong marriage. Many people see these signs but overlook them in the name of love, "he or she will change", marriage will settle it or whatever. These signs came to many divorced couples in their relationships before they even got married.

"Their should be no mercy" on nonsense before marriage. What do i mean? you need to trash out all your inconveniences with your partner before marriage. Their should be nothing like managing confusion when your fiance or fiancee is close to someone of the opposite sex and says "we are just friends", or you see your fiance or fiancee with a group of bad friends, and he or she does not want to give them up. Make sure you are very okay with your partner before you marry. Dont assume anything, verify till you have peace of mind. Marriage is destiny, not dating...

I will like to tell you some signs that shows you are getting into the wrong marriage...


(1) EXCESSIVE SWEETNESS: My brothers and my sisters, whenever you enter a dating relationship that is just sweet sweet sweet sweet sweet exciting from the beginning, please watch it. I may be talking nonsense to you, but please watch it.. That is how sweet sweet sweet things have "buried" people to 419, false prophets and so on. It is not bad to have an exciting relationship; but if it starts with sweet sweet sweet sweet, their may be a cover up somewhere. Please pause the excitement and ask God to reveal your partners original colour.

(2) INSTABILITY: In the bible (Proverbs 5:6), they described a harlot as someone whose ways are moveable that one cannot know them
. My brothers and sisters, if you wanna marry a guy or a lady, and you hear things like "she is just a friend to me", "I didnt see your call(after 10 missed calls from morning till afternoon), "call me back call me back call me back call me back", "I am not around, am in the bank (and you are hearing heavy traffic in the background)", or you see some persistent unstable moves; then you are in the wrong place..

(3) ANGER: Some may say, I am nice, helpful, good, obedient, but can be hot-tempered. My brothers and my sisters, if you are dating someone and upon provocation the person smashes a bottle of glass or breaks an object, be very careful in such relationships. Sometimes, these people could demonstrate such anger and later beg for forgiveness. But my brothers and sisters, if they kill you in the process, "they will still apologize to your corpse". Whoever has hot-temper should tell God to deal with it before he or she marries.

(4) BEING MADE TO BE NEEDY: My next-level brothers and sisters, if you are praying for your partner and your partner is not praying for you, you are pretty "irrelevant" in the relationship. If you are praying for the relationship to work-out and your partner is relaxed, then you are pretty "irrelevant". It does not make sense to pray for a wife or a husband, while the wife or the husband you are praying to get does not see you as an answered prayer. Please anywhere you are not honoured, leave that place. You will be "dehydrated" if you go into a relationship where you are managed or made needy.

(5) IGNORING DREAM REVELATIONS: Your partner could be so nice physically, but if you notice that whenever you sleep, you see him or her as an angry beast in your dreams, a deceiver or an evil personality; it is then time for you to go into deep prayers, thoughts and watchfulness. A time when you should watch your partner very well through dreams is when you genuinely love your partner physically without suspicion, but see him or her as evil in your dreams. If you hate or suspect your partner and see him or her as a devil in your dream, such a dream may be false because you already have a negative picture about your partner.


(6) IGNORING YOUR PEACE OF MIND: Some ladies saw this sign but still jumped into marriage. They had this restlessness, but still waved it and forcefully silenced their minds and conscience with other reasons like "he is still nice though", "he is prayerful", "he is a church leader", or whatever reason it may be. If you are loosing peace about someone you wanna marry, dont marry yet. You need to intensify prayers, watchfulness and verification.

Crap

correctguy0900:


It can't be all. But the usual cases too much outway the exceptions.

Except naija has changed. Which i don't believe. I would think it's worse cos of economic reports i have.

You are right. But still don't generalize

solasoulmusic:


Abusive traits are observed and adopted usually at a young age I know someone I grew up with that can fight artisans and staff for 500 Naira but they are a millionaire but if their owing you will avoid you. People like that prey on people that have a weak mind emotional intelligence is what you should pray for in a partner someone who knows how to cool down I’ve spoken to my love angry like fuming but there’s just something he can say to me that will stop it all likewise me

So it’s finding your balance with someone don’t push people to the wall sometimes

on point

Jimasun:

You are right. But still don't generalize

Most of the time. Fair boss?

charzyh2:

Can't Nigerians express their points without insult?

I guess you're not married.

So, if you're not let me inform you that there's no perfect relationship anywhere. We're only working towards perfection.

So, if you're courting/ dating for maybe 2 years (serious relationship) and you've never been pissed off by one of her certain behaviors or vise versa, then both of you are not humans.

If you're not married, ask your parents.

Come on, no need to refer to one's parents...
I guess you're not married and you don't know if I'm married.

You are not getting my point

Are you saying those that have anger issue don't deserve relationship or deserve to get married.
Listen, his or her points are not totally true...
The op said if there is no problem in a relationship, that it means the relationship is not real(I'm not for or against that), now the OP also said that if he or she gets angry that the other person should take a leave, now if the other person decides not to lose his/her partner while courting and as such they decided to accommodate everything without reacting nko...
I have seen people that take everything their partners throw to them without getting angry or querying them and I have also seen people that query or get angry everytime their partners misbehave or do something wrong, and most of these relationships are now marriages...
Some people react to things cos they want their partners to know they dislike that acts, while some are naturally calm or let me say non-chal...
It's not everytime gets angry that you should leave the relationship like the op said, sometimes conflicts are good for better relationships...

aishaemeka:
But we have good girls

good ones that will later bad

charzyh2:
on point

Thanks

MyOleSolksjaer:
Marrying or courting a Nigerian lady, especially Igbo babes is a sign that you are entering wrong marriage.

Hogwash