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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by genq(m): 8:08am On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: Mizfoolishness, 1. Yes it is HIS HOUSE - as long as he's the one financially responsible for that home (which I'm sure he is). 2. It is not his responsibility to baby a 26 years old grown man. How silly of you to suggest that! In everything the OP narrated, you've conveniently ignored his ordeal so you can pick out points for the purpose of your silly 'women empowerment' agenda. Nonsense @ roaringlamb01 I'm sure you've seen by the comments that most women on this forum are very hypocritical, selfish and narrow minded. Next time, invite your own siblings for just 2 months and watch how accommodating your 'lovely' wife really is. 13 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 8:22am On Sep 04, 2019 |
genq: When i saw her say i should mentor him, I realized their was no point reasoning with her. I have seen how narrowed minded some ladies can be, sidestepping the topic to focus only a phrase out of text. Tis aii though. 6 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by 2Radii: 8:26am On Sep 04, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: U cant say it better joo, from the inlaw part wat they were trying to do is a stylish abandonment of their responsibility for the mam. But from the man's confession as well, i can see he's self centered a bit, he's not accomodating enof. 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by 2Radii: 8:28am On Sep 04, 2019 |
blank:Yea u re right, the in-laws should hav bn straight enof to clear any doubt, but also the man was nt ready to entertain any visitor from the onset. |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by 2Radii: 8:36am On Sep 04, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: @bolded, pls if u hav bn using this language before your wife or inlaw stop using it, its nt good and its uncalled for. it sinks home, makes ur wife to b in loggerhead with u material wise, nobody would like to hear dat sir. it belongs to u both. 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Mizwisdom(f): 9:02am On Sep 04, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: Continue taking things lightly until your marriage falls apart 2 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by annalong: 11:51am On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: This statement is so unwarranted! 7 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by jenifer007: 11:53am On Sep 04, 2019 |
@op what you did really shows you are the man in charge of your home and not a mumu husband.Your wife's siblings have seen your home as relaxation center.I bet your wife will do same cos she won't be comfortable if your siblings overstayed. I am a woman and I know what women can do. 8 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by prettyangel10(f): 7:02pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: Helloooo, because you r not of the same school of thought does does not warrant you to wish someone's marriage crumble. Haba 8 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by prettyangel10(f): 7:05pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: Op, na man you be jare, dont mind us. I hate it when someone decides to be lazy. Someone even suggests you mentor a 26 year old adult, lol. I cant stop � � � laughing. 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Bunny19: 7:43pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom:Are u OK? Or u need Lumapil Forte 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by armyofone(m): 7:49pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Mizwisdom(f): 8:03pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
annalong: I'm not wishing him bad, I only wanted him to take things seriously, it seems he just dismisses any comment from females and he has a wife who is definitely female so why is he dismissing suggestions from females? honestly the man is some how thank God he's not my husband 3 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 8:05pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 8:10pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Op, u did well. U even tolerated dia disrespect too long enough. Buh, why re majority of d ladies here getting all emotional 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 8:15pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Shallypop:U guys should overlook that. It was an outburst. Has he not been carrying the wife along all along? He extended the visit. Accommodated young guys that can't even say hi to him. U guys are just looking for loopholes. He did well. They got the message. Next time when things are a bit better, extended families will come but this time, their yes will be yes. That was the message he sent across. If people from his side visits, the wife will checkmark him. Women don't play with this kind of thing. 7 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by pocohantas(f): 8:20pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
OP did nothing wrong. EOD 9 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 8:45pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: Lol. I didn't dismiss every lady here.. I dismissed you. And you proved me right, after your comment concerning my marriage... Besides, you never really addressed the issue. I am somehow? Lol. You are really funny o. Honestly. Of course, with your way of thinking, you wouldn't be my wife too. 12 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by armyofone(m): 8:48pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
i dislike when doing good turns bad or when people overstayed at your home. I think it's best to communicate when you are coming and leaving before making that trip. Something like hey I'm coming to visit....okay when are you coming and when will you be leaving? sassysure: 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 8:48pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
fabulousfortune: My exact thoughts, overly dramatic. A few honest ones, though. 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by yeyeosoronga: 8:54pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: They came visiting and said they would spend only 2weeks. Why extend it to 3 months? There's nothing petty and wicked in sending them back to their home. It's a different thing if they were homeless, but they're not. OP did the right thing for him. The only thing I dont understand is why bring it on NL after you've taken a stand and acted on your decision. Do you need NL members to validate your action or what? Once you take a decision, own it. No apologies, no looking back, no need for validation from anyone..... Nothing. 7 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 9:35pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Hey! Nothing really! Just to share, know if people experience it, know how they handled it. No one's an island. I didn't mention names, just to educate myself some more ni. Dasall 3 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Bunny19: 9:57pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
Mizwisdom:Yeah....face ur husband and stop disturbing his life. Must he conform to ur belief? Jeez 9 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by nuelyoyo(m): 9:47am On Sep 05, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:He did well bringing it to NL, that's what forums are for. At least some people will learn a thing or two from his post, and also learn from people's comments. 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 5:50pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Nobody: 6:30pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
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Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by LewsTherin: 6:37pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Damn. That's messed up. So how do you run your home now? 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:16pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: Jeez, no correlation, very unnecessary. 5 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:17pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
Op you did well, as far as your wife is in support of your decision, it's all good. 1 Like |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 7:47pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
Breaststroke: wow! you really caught what set me off. The expected guests were my parents, who hadn't seen my kids since the naming. When they come, I would have 9 people (including our help) under my roof. When I heard her parents' say "so, because my people are coming, their children should leave ...", I was shocked to my pants. I am a person who loves my peace and quiet, 9 people around me all the time will literally make be cranky and eventually kill me. See, I love my wife die, and I do anything to make her happy, but this issue was really eye opening for me. When I called her aside and explained everything I had observed to her, she understood completely. Even, hastened their departure. I have also told her, it would be a while before I accept any guests (another brother of her's was also here for a month this same year)... Certainly not 2 people, her parent's didn't call me, I don't know if it is fear or disregard, but like you said "ground rules" will be set from now on, esp after seeing that they wanted to dump them with me. cheers. 6 Likes |
Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by roaringlamb01(m): 7:53pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
wow! That is really something, I can't even begin to imagine. How did your mum feel about it? Breaststroke: |
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