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khia:
If your wife can go through childbirth and survive, believe me your pe.nis isn't causing her pain. She just doesn't want to have sex with you. You need to do some soul searching and get to the bottom of this. If there is no change in your wife you may need to separate from her. It seems to me that you were used for procreating only.

Too much sense in your statement.....

extremelygolden:
Sorry for your predicament, Op. Are you in Lagos? Like some people had earlier advised, sit your wife down, have a deep heart to heart discussion with her. Let her tell you everything you need to know about her past sexual relationships. If possible, note down everything on a piece of paper so you won't forget.

If you're in Lagos State, take the paper to Federal Medical Centre, Ebute Metta. It's just around Oyinbo Market by Railway Quarters. When you enter the hospital gate, you will see a building by your right, immediately after the Emergency Ward, named GOPC. Don't worry, just enter, pay for hospital card and wait to see the doctor. Please don't tell your wife anything about it at this point.

Explain to the doctor (thank God they're mostly female doctors in the GOPC) so you can actually feel free to narrate everything to them. Tell them that you want to see the Gynaecologists to book an appointment on behalf of your wife. The doctor here will then write a referral letter for you to see the Gynaecologists.

In FMC, Ebute Metta, you can't see the Gynaecologists without referral, otherwise I would have directed you straight to them. And their appointment day is always and only on Wednesdays, as from 11am. They attend to pregnant women in the morning, then other cases in the afternoon.

Please when you get there, try pick up a YELLOW NUMBER TAG at the reception and drop your small hospital card with them at RECORDS. It's directly opposite the reception, or you ask for direction. They have Ushers standing all over the hospital with tags "Ask Me, or Any Complaint?" pinned on their uniform.

Don't be scared if you see crowd, because they don't always last. When you see the gynaecologist, explain everything to him/her, then book an appointment to see them next Wednesday.

Go home, tell your wife to take you to the hospital, that you don't know how you have been feeling lately. Just feign illness. When she gets to the hospital, just hand her over to the gynaecologists and let's see if she will go there and disgrace herself.

Just leave her alone with them so she can be free to tell him/her everything, since she's not free to open up to her own husband.

She might need to run some tests. The hospital bill there is highly subsidised and the cost of their drugs too.

I hope this helps.

Gbam!!! This could work but his wife is just frustrating him.....didn't she gave birth through that same veejay? Hmmmmm!!! She is using him simple.....DNA is a must and valid option here.

Skmoda360:
Gbam!!! This could work but his wife is just frustrating him.....didn't she gave birth through that same veejay? Hmmmmm!!! She is using him simple.....DNA is a must and valid option here.

Her behaviour is strange, but that shouldn't make him doubt his child's paternity. Let her go see the gynaecologists first.

OBUKOMENA:
Very good points, bro. The urge for sex with her is gradually dying. Because of that, I stay 4-5 wks without nearing her cos it's going to be same style, same frustrating experience, no kissing, etc. Na the build-up of the urge dey make me go near her again. And guess what? I have a high libido. Imagine someone who had had sex only once before marrying at 37. Hmmm?

...the explosion would be massive!

kunleweb:
Look for me ke?.

I've been between Work and Quora . Nairaland is too toxic for my life. How's everything?

Yes o...look for you.

Don't mind NL. It just provides a form of distraction for me. The 'characters' here are the ones that give me that distraction when I want it.

Everything is fine. Just gallivanting up & down.

Are you feeling this thread?
Cassyrooy, come and see o.

MissJoy29:
Yes o...look for you.

Don't mind NL. It just provides a form of distraction for me. The 'characters' here are the ones that give me that distraction when I want it.

Everything is fine. Just gallivanting up & down.
Are you feeling this thread?

Argh. Look for me. Hmphm. Is everything okay?


The forum is toxic and unprofitable.


The thread. The more of this men see, the more the heart and passion in it dies. I tell you, we men can hardly love or feel a thing for women these days. Too many damaged people everywhere. Lately, the female gender is winning

kunleweb:
Argh. Look for me. Hmphm. Is everything okay?


The forum is toxic and unprofitable.


The thread. The more of this men see, the more the heart and passion in it dies. I tell you, we men can hardly love or feel a thing for women these days. Too many damaged people everywhere. Lately, the female gender is winning

Everything is okay o. Can't I look in peace?

Lol...the toxicity is what gives me the distraction. Especially comments from people like you that have swallowed the red pill.

It may look like we are winning but truly we are losing. None of us CAN be winning & the society is still this bad.
You are so right @damaged people. It's what scares me. Every is suspicious, or caution, or paranoid, or pretending, or broken, or hard hearted, or brainwashed, or plain evil, or worse still, all of the above.

@thread, I just pity the guy.

MissJoy29:
Everything is okay o. Can't I look in peace?

Lol...the toxicity is what gives me the distraction. Especially comments from people like you that have swallowed the red pill.

It may look like we are winning but truly we are losing. None of us CAN be winning & the society is still this bad.
You are so right @damaged people. It's what scares me. Every is suspicious, or caution, or paranoid, or pretending, or broken, or hard hearted, or brainwashed, or plain evil, or worse still, all of the above.

Am I red pilled? I'm sure you bought me the drug.

Just a realist


The paranoia, insecurities and cold heartedness of your sisters these days has turned me ten times colder than I was simple. Too many damaged people everywhere


What are you looking for me for o. Make I come collect?.

kunleweb:
Am I red pilled? I'm sure you bought me the drug.

Just a realist


The paranoia, insecurities and cold heartedness of your sisters these days has turned me ten times colder than I was simple. Too many damaged people everywhere.


What are you looking for me for o. Make I come collect?.

Yes you are...Ub-nj- bought the pill for you. Forgotten?

My dear eh, people don get mind these days o. I fear! It's as if there's competition for who has the worst experience and people are clamouring to make sure they PRODUCE the worst.

Nothing o. Just wasn't seeing you around here.

MissJoy29:
Yes you are...Ub-nj- bought the pill for you. Forgotten?

My dear eh, people don get mind these days o. I fear! It's as if there's competition for who has the worst experience and people are clamouring to make sure they PRODUCE the worst.

Nothing o. Just wasn't seeing you around here.

I'm on Quora



The forum is unprofitable



There's a competition between who's the baddest now na. What I'm experiencing ATM with your sisters would make a block buster movie



I've always been me before Ubnja. Perhaps you didn't know. While I advocate good treatment, I'll be the last man on earth, any woman will walk over. I rather die than drop my guard for a woman to play games with me. So te, women are now satisfied with the tag Olosho. Hard to differentiate between a decent lady and an olosho of late.


If you want find me, I dey WhatsApp and Quora or email.

OBUKOMENA:
I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

the deed has been done already but if you need real and detailed tips to help you please follow this link below,

https://yawabase..com/2019/09/8-legit-dating-tips-for-todays-singles.html

kunleweb:
I'm on Quora



The forum is unprofitable



There's a competition between who's the baddest now na. What I'm experiencing ATM with your sisters would make a block buster movie



I've always been me before Ubnja. Perhaps you didn't know. While I advocate good treatment, I'll be the last man on earth, any woman will walk over. I rather die than drop my guard for a woman to play games with me. So te, women are now satisfied with the tag Olosho. Hard to differentiate between a decent lady and an olosho of late.


If you want find me, I dey WhatsApp and Quora or email.

Same here. I could write a bestseller book on my experiences with the male species.

You & NKL eh!

God help us. But don't change too because people are getting worse. It's not the best o

MissJoy29:
Same here. I could write a bestseller book on my experiences with the male species.

You & NKL eh!

God help us. But don't change too because people are getting worse. It's not the best o

Male species. It can be compared. Ladies are now ten times more dangerous than men. Even my mum says devil has produce eggs in the hearts of ladies of our generation. And has given birth to much offspring in their hearts. So wetin you wan yan. Go through this thread again and tell me this guy didn't marry a " witch ".


I dare him to go investigate his wife



Come over to WhatsApp.

Op your wife has no attraction for you whatsoever, I'm a woman and I can tell you what it feels like to me kissed or touched by someone we're not attracted to it's usually disgusting and I'll rather be celibate but it's wickedness and selfishness on her to cage you with a no- sex relationship and almost no- sex marriage while she gets to keep the ' Mrs title and gets to bear children so it's a win win for her little wonder she's not bothered about it, she knows what's she's doing.

OBUKOMENA:
Good question! They say women crave for sex more when they are pregnant. Guess that was what happened. Besides, this baby I'm talking here looks me. My wife is no-longer proud of her past, actually. She's now a preacher of the Word. Reason I have never suspected her of infidelity.

Preacher of the word? What has she been preaching when the word says we should not deny each other our body so as not to put ourselves into temptation.?

Barristter07:
Most Women just marry men because he has the financial ability to cater for Family, they are NOT really in love ( some call it " Chemistry" ), When this feeling is there , No woman will subject his man to such torture.

I wouldn't say most women but in this case you are right, there is no chemistry between them but that isn't a reason to deny her husband's needs. Even a prostitute can have sex without chemistry.

OBUKOMENA:
My wife doesn't allow us to use any lubes.She cites health implications as excuse. She doesn't allow me to insert my fingers into her. Again, she cites hygiene. Now, what she does most times is that, she would turn herself facing the wall and gives her back to me (with her vagina tightly closed) , with the impression of: "just do what you want to do and let me be".

By GOD wisdom, do not leave her or abandon her, don't force her.. soon everything will be okay.. if you can not control your sex mood, don't go after girlfriends or any dating, but go to hotels and secure yourself with 80% because of your home and infection. have sexual intercouse with p or rungirls.... till your wife turn back to you. that is not a sin. that sin we be upon your wife for refusing you pleasure.

OBUKOMENA:
I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

Where did you copy ds problem from? Begging for quote is an evident that you are lying to us but if such is true, my friend you're still a learner. See how she is playing you yet she gree make you fvck her immediately took in. Why she no let you blow sense off her mind and then penetrate her when she is pregnant?

Just hack her whatsapp and you will get the answers that you seek..her whatsapp and favebook hack it my brother.

Op this guy "Ichidodo" said everything you need to hear tho am gonna take a different ending from the one he took. Pls cut your loss move out and serve her divorce papers unexpectedly like a thief in the night you can still get another lady to marry and enjoy your life before you lose your strength.. Am sorry she is beyond repair what do you think will happen?? All of a sudden she will start doing it the way you want?? It's very possible the child is yours still check tho after that just pay for child support and try as much as a you can to be there for him. Don't pay for her past Don't be a fool depression is real high bp is real ..

unfollowing this thread now your weakness is mind boggling i can't take it

OBUKOMENA:
I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

I think you should repost this to family section . y
You Will get a mature advice there.

OBUKOMENA:
I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

Here is my advice to you, if you can endure for a while don't ask her for sex , just live your normal live ,be free , when you sleep don't even touch her. Live your normal life with her.but do one thing I repeat again. Don't ask or initial sex with her for period of time. When she noticed, she will come close and give in fully. Trust me.

OBUKOMENA:
Church caged me. The fear of God was on my mind. That's the reason I haven't started having affairs outside my marriage

Which is the best any man can do for himself. The fear of God is the beginning of Wisdom.

ehmmy11:
Op this guy "Ichidodo" said everything you need to hear tho am gonna take a different ending from the one he took. Pls cut your loss move out and serve her divorce papers unexpectedly like a thief in the night you can still get another lady to marry and enjoy your life before you lose your strength.. Am sorry she is beyond repair what do you think will happen?? All of a sudden she will start doing it the way you want?? It's very possible the child is yours still check tho after that just pay for child support and try as much as a you can to be there for him. Don't pay for her past Don't be a fool depression is real high bp is real ..

unfollowing this thread now your weakness is mind boggling i can't take it

Lol.

kunleweb:
Male species. It can't be compared. Ladies are now ten times more dangerous than men. Even my mum says devil has produce eggs in the hearts of ladies of our generation. And has given birth to much offspring in their hearts. So wetin you wan yan. Go through this thread again and tell me this guy didn't marry a " witch ".


I dare him to go investigate his wife



Come over to WhatsApp.

I won't say that o. The only thing is that ladies are now up to guys in wickedness. Then guys were more than us. We are not more than yet.
See, EVERYONE don get mind now.

As for this man, he married what I can't even describe. That's if everything he said is true.

WhatsApp ke! Na today?

skywalker240:
If you can afford it, do it

i mean DNA TEST

why was the sex not painful during pregnancy?

Because she has gotten what she wanted from the source she preferred. Sense go kill u one day.

MissJoy29:
I won't say that o. The only thing is that ladies are now up to guys in wickedness. Then guys were more than us. We are not more than yet.
See, EVERYONE don get mind now.

As for this man, he married what I can't even describe. That's if everything he said is true.

WhatsApp ke! Na today?

The wickedness in ladies now has superseded men

Anyways, what's the problem with WhatsApp?


Na you dey force me login here. I don leave this thrashland for una o

Anglojosite7:
Because she has gotten what she wanted from the source she preferred. Sense go kill u one day.

Abeg make e me No kill me anyday oo

but women are heartless.

kunleweb:
The wickedness in ladies now has superseded men

Anyways, what's the problem with WhatsApp?


Na you dey force me login here. I don leave this thrashland for una o

I no gree...

When was the last time ww chat for WhatsApp?

No be only force na handcuff!

MissJoy29:
I no gree...

When was the last time ww chat for WhatsApp?

No be only force na handcuff!

You don dey dey bold

Dem don dey show you road abi?


I mean I prefer WhatsApp for communication,it helps me juggle between informal dealings and official work

healthserve:
I find it completely disgusting that a full bloodied man will agree to no sex with a non virgin, and even worse, ten years sexually active woman. Men, be healed of your vagina worship syndrome. Smh. I spit on this thread.


Smh. When will men stop been weak for the goodness sakes of God.

Bros no vex na.... Thank God it didn't happen to you.

shege45:
hahahhaha
I hope say others dey learn. Test your market before you buy ooo. Op you just have to manage her like that. Its for better for worst cus thats what ur pastor would still tell u

I know this is quite sensitive but I just can't help but laugh.... Choi! I miss nairaland.