Tomide007:
Soo u think that a lady who has been actively having sex for 10 yrs all of a sudden decided not to have sex? Its possible but only something drastic can cause such a. Quick change....I feel like saying a lot of things but it might destroy your marriage.....but its obvious your don't have the ability to make your wife Hot ....make her crave for u....and I'm not sure she married u close she was in love with you but because she's getting old and she needs to marry asap.....quite common with ladies around 30 years.......Learn how to make love cose its obvious she prefers pre-intimacy to sex...learn, I have a female friend who gives her hubby DAT same treatment code she ain't in love with him but with the bf ......I get plenty things to say but the story no resemble true sef.

OBUKOMENA:
Very good points, bro. The urge for sex with her is gradually dying. Because of that, I stay 4-5 wks without nearing her cos it's going to be same style, same frustrating experience, no kissing, etc. Na the build-up of the urge dey make me go near her again. And guess what? I have a high libido. Imagine someone who had had sex only once before marrying at 37. Hmmm?

OBUKOMENA:
Pls, where do I get one? You can't believe we have been practising only one sexual position since we got married.

liberalchick:
Your wife should see a doctor, she might have a medical condition.

From what you described she has entry pain. It’s caused by a lot factors one of which is poor lubrication. She probably doesn’t make enough estrogen that’s why her vagina is dry. Sex was normal during pregnancy because estrogen levels are off the charts when a woman is pregnant. Estrogen levels drop sharply after pregnancy. Since she doesn’t want to use a lubricant, you should try spending more time on pre-intimacy.

You should tell her the lack of sex in the marriage is a very big issue for you and she should see a doctor.

stinflame:


This your story the one kind.. You have a high libido and u were able to do a NO sex courtship. You have a high libido at 37 and you blow only one girl. Lolll.. Una fit una self.

PrimadonnaO:
One of the reasons I feel being single is the best way to abstain from sex is because I can't honestly see how two people who are attracted to, and love each other can avoid having sex for so long.

So, I don't know... @Obukomena, how did y'all do 5 years of courtship without sex? Was it a LDR throughout?

And then, now y'all are married and sex is still a challenge? Wow. I'm at a loss for words. But it really does seem your wife doesn't love you in the least bit... Because I mean, she's not even making any effort towards finding a solution to her supposed problem.

Feel so sorry for you. Ñdo.

OBUKOMENA:
Good question! They say women crave for sex more when they are pregnant. Guess that was what happened. Besides, this baby I'm talking here looks me. My wife is no-longer proud of her past, actually. She's now a preacher of the Word. Reason I have never suspected her of infidelity.

OBUKOMENA:
What's LDR?

OBUKOMENA:
Do u know what? I sought help from one of the female doctors at my workplace; I gave her number to the doctor so she could call my wife and advise her on what to do. She got enraged saying I was telling people about her. I had to tell the doctor not to call again. My sister, in my next life, I am going to marry a prostitute I swear!

PrimadonnaO:


Long distance relationship...

healthserve:
Vagina worship


Men who refuse to stop worshipping vagina. Smh



Quit been nice, men. This is how nice men end. Be smart for goodness sakes.

PrimadonnaO:


Please, be careful what you say. Lots of people have it better, and they didn't marry prostitutes.

Your case is just really peculiar.

OBUKOMENA:
I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

Korllami007:


They always become a dumpster for women that their pussies have gone through different types of drilling techniques.

OBUKOMENA:
Maybe I was being hyperbolic. But my point is: I am going to marry - in my next life - someone I perceive to be VERY GOOD in bed. I can't believe at about 40 years of my life, I haven't really enjoyed sex.

Abbeylincson:

Your wife is circumcised. Forget all these things people are saying here.

crackhouse:
Na wa o. Some men are really weak.

Pharaoh4rin:
I raed something few minutes ago from a journal by a researcher from a university in California. It's called BLIND VAGINA. it's when a woman has a thick wall within her vagina, and it makes d vag to be short and this in turn causes severe pain during intercourse. The remedy is, surgery which if performed, both of u will abstain from sex for 4months

OBUKOMENA:
Thanks for your contributions!

Adding up the story put up there, is it possible that a woman can experience pains sexually this much OR my wife doesn't dig me?

OBUKOMENA:
Very good points, bro. The urge for sex with her is gradually dying. Because of that, I stay 4-5 wks without nearing her cos it's going to be same style, same frustrating experience, no kissing, etc. Na the build-up of the urge dey make me go near her again. And guess what? I have a high libido. Imagine someone who had had sex only once before marrying at 37. Hmmm?

budaatum:
Pity sex therapists are scarce. It's not exactly a thing to take to a pastor.

You two need to seriously sit down and talk or you will soon need to be looking for wife number two.

OBUKOMENA:
Maybe I was being hyperbolic. But my point is: I am going to marry - in my next life - someone I perceive to be VERY GOOD in bed. I can't believe at about 40 years of my life, I haven't really enjoyed sex.

Korllami007:


They always become dumpsters for women that their pussies have gone through different types of drilling techniques.