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Do u have or your woman always have Dryness during sex Or No Sexual urge . / She Doesn't Want To Apologize: Should I Forgive Her? / Signs That Tell She Doesn't Love You (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Darammliveth(m): 6:02pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Abbeylincson: When a lady is circumcised, what is the solution to it? Because they are liable to have painful sex |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 6:24pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA: My man. We've all vented. Its high time for constructive inputs. If there's life an a will to solve a problem, solutions will arise. I have a few things to say and I want to assure you at the end of the exercise, you'll find the right path towards resolving this issue. But first I have some questions to ask. If you don't mind. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 6:27pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO: What Grace. What oil. What pristine oil. If God could grant us more ladies with this strong discernment and understanding. Its like you're looking at his life thru a mirror. Cause you ended on the notion that's been evident throughout the thread. " the unwillingness of the wife to fix the condition " which in itself is a pointer to deeper psychological issues within the marriage like power tussle, insorbordination, lack of both entities cleaving to be one. There's no marriage here. This man didn't marry his wife. 6 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 6:32pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
elmagnifico411: You spoke well my man She's punishing him but he doesn't know or rather hasnt resolved to do anything about it. Some women who are witches that are sent to torment men in marriages act this way, but many men don't know. If I were him, even before medical psychosis, I'll do a thorough spiritual checkup on the so-called wife. Better late, than never. Why should a person who has a problem rant when professional help was sought to help them deal with that problem, if it isn't a convenient problem to retain for them? That's a massive red flag right there. Good men have suffered 3 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by PrimadonnaO(f): 6:34pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
healthserve: In all honesty. And he sounds so unhappy. I feel for him. 1 Like |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 6:38pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO: I share the null emotions. I'm picking something in my spirit about this. Let's wait for him to open up more as collectively we can help steer him in positive direction. See why the scripture says deep calls unto the deep and not to be unequally yoked with people? Ten years sexual relations against a virgin is a no-no for me especially with the male as the virgin. If the reverse was the case, its a different issue entirely. There's deliberate torture here or a lack of zeal to deal with a serious condition. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by oglalasioux(m): 6:42pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
It's a pity no one knows this guy's wife is a chronic lsebian. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Brunosamel(m): 6:47pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA:Gosh you made a big mistake, why will be dating someone for 5 years without sex Anyway I will advice you to tell her to go for a checkup if she refuse then the problem is way bigger than you might have think. She might be hiding something deep secret. Just look for a side chick that will satisfy your sexual needs for the seek of your child rather than divorcing you wife. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by OBUKOMENA: 6:49pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
healthserve:Go ahead and ask |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 6:53pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA: 1. Tell us about the fights you've had in the marriage. 2.When it started, how many you've had. How far you go before you settle. 3.How long each party keeps from one another during fights. 4. Who makes more attempt to reconcile after quarrels. 5. How often you want to go together for an event, but one party decides not to go, and who most times does this. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by kkkp: 7:02pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
I think your wife honey port is over stretched and she doesn't want u to know 1 Like |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by kay4kay: 7:06pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
I agreed with those comments that she's being hanged codedly. Reason she allows you during pregnancy was because she can't get banged by another man during the period. 3 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by extremelygolden: 7:08pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA: Sorry for your predicament, Op. Are you in Lagos? Like some people had earlier advised, sit your wife down, have a deep heart to heart discussion with her. Let her tell you everything you need to know about her past sexual relationships. If possible, note down everything on a piece of paper so you won't forget. If you're in Lagos State, take the paper to Federal Medical Centre, Ebute Metta. It's just around Oyinbo Market by Railway Quarters. When you enter the hospital gate, you will see a building by your right, immediately after the Emergency Ward, named GOPC. Don't worry, just enter, pay for hospital card and wait to see the doctor. Please don't tell your wife anything about it at this point. Explain to the doctor (thank God they're mostly female doctors in the GOPC) so you can actually feel free to narrate everything to them. Tell them that you want to see the Gynaecologists to book an appointment on behalf of your wife. The doctor here will then write a referral letter for you to see the Gynaecologists. In FMC, Ebute Metta, you can't see the Gynaecologists without referral, otherwise I would have directed you straight to them. And their appointment day is always and only on Wednesdays, as from 11am. They attend to pregnant women in the morning, then other cases in the afternoon. Please when you get there, try pick up a YELLOW NUMBER TAG at the reception and drop your small hospital card with them at RECORDS. It's directly opposite the reception, or you ask for direction. They have Ushers standing all over the hospital with tags "Ask Me, or Any Complaint?" pinned on their uniform. Don't be scared if you see crowd, because they don't always last. When you see the gynaecologist, explain everything to him/her, then book an appointment to see them next Wednesday. Go home, tell your wife to take you to the hospital, that you don't know how you have been feeling lately. Just feign illness. When she gets to the hospital, just hand her over to the gynaecologists and let's see if she will go there and disgrace herself. Just leave her alone with them so she can be free to tell him/her everything, since she's not free to open up to her own husband. She might need to run some tests. The hospital bill there is highly subsidised and the cost of their drugs too. I hope this helps. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by khia: 7:08pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA: If your wife can go through childbirth and survive, believe me your pe.nis isn't causing her pain. She just doesn't want to have sex with you. You need to do some soul searching and get to the bottom of this. If there is no change in your wife you may need to separate from her. It seems to me that you were used for procreating only. 6 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Korllami007: 7:13pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
khia: You're mouthed 2 Likes
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Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 7:13pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
khia: Spot on 100%. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Korllami007: 7:14pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
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Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:14pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Only 2 comments have hinted on the fact that your wife is a lesbian, she has been diicked for ten years that can last her a lifetime so she's over diicks, she is a practicing lesbian mister man, sorry for your predicament. 1 Like |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by AkhereOkaka(m): 7:18pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA:Though I'm yet to get married, issues about sex must be discussed by would be couple, in other to know if both are sexually compatible. Saying yes to no sex before marriage to me is a scam, a man that has high libido should also look for same lady and vice versa. Sex is very important in marriage. I will advise you sit her down and talk with her, that her action may lead you to commit adultery 1 Like |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by gbeseun(m): 7:24pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
So ur wife want to be doing celibacy yeye thing abi? Well Guy take it easy, and follow these steps. 1; invite ur wife into your room and start a blunt discussuon looking directly into her eyes, No look elsewhere, 2;ask her the cause of her actions and tell her the adverse effect of what she does and how her actions as wife may ruin the marriage. 3;let her know that you have start doubting thepaternity of the child forget the child look like u syndrome na you top am. 4;let her know ur decision to invite the two parents soon to talk the matter out 5;be ready to face the consequencies cos these steps may lead to divorce since you dont want to be having extra marital affairs. Ur wife is not a virgin so sex after a child dont pain her,she is just punishing u. Another option Get a small phone and keep it at work, Byy anoda sim card into it and start sending ur main phone message of will u branch my side before u go home ,will u come and Bleep me before you go home. I miss ur dick And do not lock ur phone ,ensure that ur wife is able to read this messages,this will.push her put for u to know if she is a retired olosho or changed one. Watch ur back 4 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:27pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
healthserve: It's both. She won't even kiss him. She doesn't care about his own needs and feelings, too. Her own husband! And if she loved him, she'd be concerned about their sexual life, too. She would seek for them to bond at that level also. As a matter of fact, she'd be the one making efforts for them to see a therapist or counsellor. Something's terribly wrong. 2 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 7:29pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO: Its beyond sex. Wait for him to answer the questions I asked him. Let's drill to its root together patiently and prudently. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by khia: 7:31pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Lesbianism was the first thought that entered my mind but he said that she had an active sexual lifestyle with her ex. It really seems like the thought of having sex with him is a big turn off for her. Just imagine only letting her husband put the tip in or rimming her vagina. Lesbian or not, one thing is for sure, she is not sexually turned on by her man. 3 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Abbeylincson(m): 7:45pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Darammliveth:She might not know she is circumcised. She will need s3x therapy and you as the husband should have another game to play. F0replay and lubricant are highly required here. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by ehmmy11(m): 7:50pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:you may be right but the op didn't state the kind of sexual relations she had in the past maybe he didn't ask her |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by galantjoe(m): 8:05pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Your wife wants to destroy her marriage my advice is for you to take her to doctor. Give her order as a man. Take her to your doctor. If she refuses take further action to divorce her. Life no get duplicate. Life is sweet enjoy it to its fullness 1 Like |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by SendAbroad: 8:30pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
OBUKOMENA: Go and buy KYjelly for lubrication...if after using that, she doesn't change, then dig deeper.. find out what's going on on her WhatsApp. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by healthserve(m): 8:37pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
SendAbroad: Lmao "on her WhatsApp ".. |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by dannybrasky(m): 8:45pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
O .P, you have a whole lot of blame on this issue! come rain come shine,gender equality aside your wife is suppose to be submissive to you. At the initial stage,you should have stood your ground as a man by stopping her from being the driver of your sex life. Take it or leave it,you are a weak man,your wife is in charge. Now eat this,your wife doesn't LOVE/FANCY u! Reasons below... 1, She wouldn't kiss u,why? Because she can't stand you! Even virgins do a lot of pre-intimacy,kissing smooching,squeezing,touching and all,but avoid penetration. 2,she doesn't want to try out any solution,why because she is never ever looking forward to having great sex with u,meaning u just have to live with that. Few pointed at the direction of her being a lesbian,truth is there is a chance she is. Finally,I have dated girls in the past who at the initial stage does not enjoy sex,but guess what? They were all willing to try any solution available to make them enjoy sex,this is where the difference is between them and your wife.If your wife fancies you,she would be eager to source for a solution. Sex is great,sex is amazing,even in the animal kingdom e.g a Male lion would kill another contender all in the name of sex. A common cork would chase a hen from lagos to lokoja all in the name of sex. Man up,sit your wife down,tell her as it is,if she is not willing to source for a solution you are ready to go extreme. STOP BEING A WEAKLING,UNLESS YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A SEX HANDICAP. 5 Likes
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Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by franklingud(m): 8:52pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
When she wasn't pregnant, she wouldn't allow you full penetration. When she's pregnant she allows you full penetration. Bros lemme ask you a question; don't you have balls? Are you a whimp? Did she charm you or what? She's clearly hiding something from you. That woman is evil. So disgusting. If it gets to it bro, I suggest you beat hell out of her. And she'll tell you the truth. She's your wife for Christ's sake, you married her with your own money Or Did she marry herself? Wake up from your slumber bro. BE A MAN 3 Likes |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Cutehector(m): 8:57pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by Tony142: 9:15pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
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