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Imagine that lm here looking for a girl to love, adore n cherish n some guy somewhere is misbehaving.

It wont take more than few seconds to reply my gf's chart.
And l must apologize if they's any delay. It doesn't make me less a man. And same should apply for both sexes.
But insult? Hell no.
Very wrong to gallivant with another guy while havnt not ended things with ur bf.

Last last, we all will jst be f***king around cus marriage is fast becoming old fashion.

The beginning of the end

Lol from frying pan to fire. Just chose one and accept ur fate.

Frustrate him in return na

If you love yourself, you will know what to do and not take bull-shit from anyone. How can someone be insulting and disrespecting you and you still stay there like they tied you there.

Please start looking out for yourself and learn to be firm and don't take nonsense. Both guys are bad news. Move on please.

mmadu4:
majority of these girls cant live without a boyfriend is not because the love the guy so much its probably because the guy provides for them and they mostly depend totally on him totally , now tell me why would an independent lady who has a job and life
come on nairaland to complain of BF ,

Have u heard of emotional support? Some people don't do well alone. So it's not about provision for many

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

When you were activitly with him he treat you like a trash...you try to break up ur father came in the picture and settle it. Now you finally break up and he never want you to go...
Now listen south Africans say nigeria do drugs they start xenophobia ...peace air sent plane tp fetch them tue same south africa refused and complain they dont have papers. They dont wanna let them go

Conclusion if you dont like someone let him or her go. He never appreciate you for any reason babe i tell you never go back to Egypt for any reason. Your father that is the chief.mediator now will never be in the marriage with you pls.
Abike Dabiri never go inside the same plane with the Nigerians

Pls babe i beg you ..

TreasuredLeidy:
Leave both of them.

Your boyfriend is not worth you. The other guy is a no no... He will still entertain other girls if u go into relationship with him. The signs are there already, don't ignore.

As for your boyfriend, break up with him too. You are the one facing the insults and abuse not your family members or his.. The relationship is toxic, run while you still can

u are so beautiful,please can I get to know you?

This is what love does to people. It makes them become emotionally weak and feeble. Pathetic.

Dump their silly asses. A decent guy is out there waiting for you.

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

Aunty please give yourself break.

catwalq:
Leave both of them

The formula is simple but unfortunately people ignore simple things.
If only she can open up to her family about who the bf is and how he insults her, including showing them his messages to buttress her point of cutting off from him I think that would be better.

As for the second guy, she will soon be his next victim if she thinks there's no guy out there who is better than him.

Someone with no ability to make decisions by themselves always end up with thrash when it comes to very important things.

One thing I've noticed is that most ladies who have been in wrong relationships or marriage in the past have a repetitive occurrence of meeting with same men in the future.
Their poor sense of judgement which made them engage in the first place also plays out because their minds have been configured to think all guys are the same.

But sk is not bad na, infact I have more sense when i finish burning one....

Different strokes sha

Devil and blue sea

What many (I mean many) girls don't know is that guys who smoke every kind of substance are toxic and mischievous. Sadly, they (such guys) are most ladies dream kinda man. About 90% of ladies are in awe of such guys, simply because they are bold and raw and good in bed.

What the ladies fail to understand is that such guys get their energy, inspiration and boldness from the substances they consume. Take away those "high" substances and you'll find a weak man who can't approach a girl.

If you're a lady dating any such guy, just know that you're not in love with him, you're in love with the feeling he gets from consuming such toxic stuffs.

Date cool headed guys you said no. Now see the results?

You can't tell me you are not aware of his smoking habit. Right from the day he stood before you to make his feelings known, you should sense something. For both families to know of the relationship, you guys must have gone far and you can't tell me you didn't notice he smokes.
Yes, I know you might only know of cigarettes but smokers can smoke anything. They like variety.

Sometimes I try to feel for women due to their nature and all that but they hate you feeling for them. They want you been hard on them.

Now imagine the second opinion she's considering?
Another "them them crew." Girls why?

I can't advice you because I know you'll end up going for one of these two guys, and I can bet my left ball that it will be the first guy.

kingkakaone:
[/b]The formula is simple but unfortunately people ignore simple things.[b]
If only she can open up to her family about who the bf is and how he insults her, including showing them his messages to buttress her point of cutting off from him I think that would be better.

As for the second guy, she will soon be his next victim if she thinks there's no guy out there who is better than him.

Someone with no ability to make decisions by themselves always end up with thrash when it comes to very important things.

One thing I've noticed is that most ladies who have been in wrong relationships or marriage in the past have a repetitive occurrence of meeting with same men in the future.
Their poor sense of judgement which made them engage in the first place also plays out because their minds have been configured to think all guys are the same.

Lobatan

The fact that u chose to ask for advice after all you've written shows that u need counseling, how do u even start dating someone like that? ....if you like date him, if you like don't ....by the way...if a guy looks good , or has money ladies will always call, nothing u can do about that , what he does after calling them is what you should worry abt...selah .

themaestro08:
This is what love does to people. It makes them become emotionally weak and feeble. Pathetic.

Dump their silly asses. A decent guy is out there waiting for you.

Yh, if she's a decent girl, cose I wonder how she attracts such personas.

Onyenna:
Even your family members can/could intervene to ensure you guys stay together..... Hmmmmm...


Is your BF RICH!?.....


....With the loads of bullsh1t you take, it's either you have fish brain or your BF is Super Rich!......... Or both!....

lol Exactly my thoughts bro, the guy get money die or the girl get one problem them just wan force am on top one guy or both

ImaIma1:
If you love yourself, you will know what to do and not take bull-shit from anyone. How can someone be insulting and disrespecting you and you still stay there like they tied you there.

Please start looking out for yourself and learn to be firm and don't take nonsense. Both guys are bad news. Move on please.

The guy is probably paying all her bills, most guys hardly respect girls like that, he maybe feels he's doing things her daddy should be doing, she even said her dad always beg on the guy's behalf so there's probably more to that

Trust Issues

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

I know I am late on this thread but kindly take my advice.
you should stick with your bf if you still love him, He has trust issues thats all, if you can make him trust you, all the pains will go away.
Trust me. It has happened to me, at a point my heart skipped as I read through your lines cos I for once thought it was my story. I used to have trust issues with my gf so much that I resulted in doing all those things you aforementioned. The deep love that I have for her made things worse cos I always hurting uneccessarily most timses. I resulted into smoking sk, I'd attempt to cheat to make things even out within myself, I'd check her phone and get paranoid almost everytime, we always quarelled but trust me just cos I didnt trust her but she was f*cking patient with me as she sought after the bright side of me...she made all her shii more transparent and I gave in to her. Now all those things stopped and we are happy. I now enjoy spending on her without the fear of tushing up a lady for another man to steal. Yeah call it insecurity....but I call it 'not letting my guard down'.
Forget all the threats....he's just pained that he's eventually losing you


The solution to your relationship is in one word.......'Trust'

For him to say u are busy with other guys that's why u can't reply his messages, just know he knows or thinks you are too good for him.

That's why he is looking for an option, he knows with his attitude he himself wonders how u cope with his excesses.

If I were u I would start looking for an option too

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

Leave 'em alone ASAP... You need to breathe... You need to focus on you... You're better off without a guy...

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

how old are you?

He smokes sk"

Then I suggest you start smoking sk with him.
And also learn kung-fu, so that you will beat him privately and publicly too.

So your family know about the bad attitude of your bf, yet they want you to remain with him.......pity.

If you eventually marry him, do you think you will have peace or be happy with such a man? Your family will not be the ones to suffer with you, so ignore your family and dump such a guy, he's not the best for you. Even the new guy who is a womanizer according to you isn't the best for you as well.

Quit both relationships, and be patient till a better option comes. I know no man is perfect, but if you exercise patience a better man will show up.

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

femmoy:
u are so beautiful,please can I get to know you?

Ok

TreasuredLeidy:
Ok

please can we chat on WhatsApp? zero eight zero two two 566 four seven four is my number. hoping to hear from u.
thanks pretty

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

Are you the one dating your bf or your family and friends, my dear run for your life leave the both of them, you will find some one worthy of you

hadduni:
Well, Thank God he is still a boyfriend. Now that you've noticed those red flags of insecurity, womanizing, irresponsibility and disrespectful pls leave them. There are still Good and better men.

Op if you will Go ahead and continue a relationship with either of them hoping that they would change then you will be in for a long time of regret and pain.

sent you a msg but got no response why ?!

Toroso:
sent you a msg but got no response why ?!

resend the message again

Wumzygold:
Hi people,
I have a bf who really frustrates me. We have been dating for more than a year now and he get angry at little things...he insults me both privately and publicly whenever we quarrel.

Worst is he smokes sk and doesn't see anything wrong with it...he goes through my phone Everytime and even reply my messages sometimes. I can't have male friends cuz he calls me a prostitute whenever I talk to a guy.

The day I went through his phone I discovered he was asking so many girls out or either ask them for nudes or sexchat. I got angry and broke up with him but my dad had to settle it so I let it go.

The one he did last was when he asked me to come online on WhatsApp and it took me some minutes to do that and when I finally did I saw his messages saying I was busy with another guy which is why it took me long to get online and lots of insults.

I didn't reply to the messages and we didn't speak to each other for a week...he called and texted the next week but I didn't reply to any... I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but everyone including my family and his knows about our relationship.

.i can't explain to anyone what happened or they would try to get us back together.
Two months ago I met another guy and we have been going out a lot..he asked me out recently and I haven't replied him yet but I found out he womanize alot .

.I also found out that he has slept with most of the girls I know but when I asked him he said that was his past and he didn't have a gf then... I decided to give some space btw us cuz of his history with girls...

My bf is still calling with different numbers and threatening me since he found out am going out with someone else.

I don't know how to get break up with my bf and get him off my back.. I like the new guy a lot but the girls won't just stop calling him and my friends advised me to go back to my bf and forgive him since there is no perfect guy but I don't love him anymore and I don't want insults either....

Should I give the new guy a chance or let him go?
How do I tell my family and friends about my bf without them getting us back together again.

Please kindly advice
Thanks.

Am a guy,my best advice to you is to leave the two of them and look for someone with less drama.The new guy just wants to sample after then you will notice is not too different from your former BF.While your former bf is abusive and he will continue to be,even if you eventually get married to him.