Now you can see that your millions cannot get you companionship.


Life shouldnt be so serious, just know that no matter how rich you are, if you ain't likeable, nobody is gona come near you. So what to do?

Set aside the fact that you have money, infact don't even see it as an accomplishment so that pride won't come in the way of meeting a man. Lose yourself completely and connect with someone with interests same as yours.

You can start from dating and meet up zone section, you may be lucky to find someone who shares same interests as you do.


Cheers saggitarius01

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saggitarius01:



Dear sister, the truth is I had to drop out of school cus I felt why use the little savings I have to keep funding my schooling when I know I have no body that might help me get a job. So I finished my ND and started something else. But if you won't see my not having a degree as an issue then no problems we can be friends.

Hmmm. Drop out of school Everything else about u is great and commendable. Most part relates to me. At 26 I already made my millions strictly and ridiculously indoors while simultaneously chasing a degree that took me 8 years plus to get which I'm not seeing it's relevance in the kind of life I want but just the passion kept me pushing.

Truth is your best is yet to come. I know a lot of ladies like you, Tessie George for example you can look her up on Fb. She's very successful and an indoor type too.

Attend leadership conferences, that's where you will meet the man you want there are a lot of them nowadays where they talk about motuvation, inspiration, yada yada and the church programs too churches like Christ embassy and other corporate religious organisations.

Keep it real. If you can't find love as a young person, don't fail to find money.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Don't place unnecessary pressure on yourself. You'll definitely meet a man who loves u.

.. Inside or outside her house?

You're living the life.. alot of people,
Including myself covet. Young, single, comfortable.

You'll be fine tho.

Something tells me you are wicked!! I don’t believe this your own side of the story......I need to hear from your neighbors first

Go to a church with large population and join the ushering unit
Smile more often
Watch some ladies stuffs on YouTube
Stroll and exchange pleasantries with people

Bouncingbabyboy:
Something tells me you are wicked!! I don’t believe this your own side of the story......I need to hear from your neighbors first

nairaland eh! Neighbors? how? Omo I confuse die. Wetyn consine neighbors and this matter? na wa nairaland! Lwkmd today.

saggitarius01:
Good evening dear Nairalanders. I'm sorry I had to create a new account to post this. I am getting really worried about how my life may turn out. I'd be straight and brief as possible so please read and give me any advice you can. Thanks.

A brief rundown about myself.

I am going to be 25 in no time, growing up I felt there is only two paths a young lady should tow...either to forget being a fashonista and all trying to be neck deep in her outlook or calm down, first things first, work hard and make money (if possible be a millionaire before 25). I choose the later and as God will have it, my dream turned a reality.

Now, while I was in this journey of not turning out to be a lady who will never be able to foot her own bills, I forgot everything about being girlie. I never what it means to have female friends or hang out with any, I don't care so much about knowing the latest party and posh places or even taking all the posh pictures like the ladies in my age bracket would. I was focused to a fault. I saved to a fault.

I might not have everything I desire but I am indeed comfortable for a young lady who made it out of the ghetto life of Igbogbo.

Now my pain..

I do most of my jobs from home and therefore I am mostly within the confines of my apartment.
No boyfriend, no fiance talk more of a husband.
I don't have any friend and I don't know to make any friend for as a result of I trying to find my feet in life, I have had, experienced, seen and heard nasty behaviours of human. I keep people at arms length. I am afraid of an average human for I believe anybody can do anything even things you don't expect of them.

I already observed that slaying and all the girlie ish is obviously not a part of me as i prefer to brainstorm and think of how to expand my business which I know an average lady my age, that is the least of her worries.

I know I need a man in my life. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I think ages 24-26 is the right age (as i have made to believe) a woman should at be at least settled Maritally. How do I go about getting a man to date and marry? Where are the places I should go to? Remember I said I have NO friends so no wedding invitations.

Am I stressing myself? But I am almost 25 and no man and truly in my hearts of hearts I know I want to be a wife someday and have a good family so need to lie about anything. Where do ladies meet their boyfriends? Not the playboys or those with pulled down shorts.

Please what do I do? What are the places to go? I tried hanging out to places for drink but you know how it feels and looks for a young lady to sit out on her own.

P.S. Yes I am not desperate but I am concerned.

Did i make a mistake by holding my life first instead of being all what the social media ladies are?

I just opened an Instagram account yesterday and still don't know how to use the app or what to do there. You can imagine the kind of lady I have become. Yes I can dress neat and combine my wears. Forget ugly, I ain't. I could do a nice make up on my face when ever I have 2 hours to spare. Never a boring fella. I just don't know how to find someone I could share all the happiness, joy and street wise advise with.
Please help me. I am so lonely. I only come on nairaland whenever I am bored. Enough said.

I am open to questions. Any at all.

I can relate with your experience if what you've put up here is true. Got admission to the university in 2015 and made up my mind not to meddle into any relationship but to give my all to studies. And that has been the deal though it's not funny. Pressures here and there until I almost rescind my decision. I'm glad I'll be done with studies this year pretty well. You made the right decision right from the outset, please don't blow it now no matter the pressure. Let go of your concentration on your age and you'll be all right. Not sure, but I infer you may be a Christian, please hang on to God for his perfect guidance.

saggitarius01:



Dear sister, the truth is I had to drop out of school cus I felt why use the little savings I have to keep funding my schooling when I know I have no body that might help me get a job. So I finished my ND and started something else. But if you won't see my not having a degree as an issue then no problems we can be friends.

I felt overwhelmed with ur write up... Most university graduates... Cant write wit so. Much precision lik dis.!!!! Will like to b a frnd.. Just a confidant u can talk to.. Take tins slow.. Everytin wil fall in place!

Can i ask u a questoon?? ... Wjile u still hustling.. Did any guy come around U just dnt give dem d chance or non actualy approachd u U dont actualy need to b frnd wit anyone bfr guys come atound? U see d sense of familarity no mater how insensitive u qre!!!

I see

now is the time to be more careful. don't let anyone prey on you because of the info you gave here.
my one coin, don't invest all your hopes and searches on social media, whatever happens in Las Vegas ends in Las Vegas. social media infatuation is a mirage that it is.
be more open to real people around you. who you're searching for might just be at the next door

ichidodo:
You've never fallen in love or you've never had any poor schmuck of a simp drool over you before because you're too guarded or not coquettish enough to indulge in your feminity and you have been so for far too long,now you hear the biological clock ticking away and you're worried.....With very good reason.Sometimes what we fear the most always comes to past.Too bad money can't save the situation, might even worsen it anyway.But hey, there are men willing to trade their best years for someone with depreciating sexual market value if the price is right..You can pay someone off to be your consort or you prepare for a lifetime of spinsterhood.. Your choice.

Bros u get bad mouth ooo.
Abeg pity her small now.
Are u based in onne? I work in onne

When u r ignoring some guys anytime they try to toast now ur lookin 4 a man....

Law of karma

Lamanii22:




Wooow, you inspire me... I'm 24... I started uni earlier this year myself... Not having degree is not a problem at all....

The fact that you told us that you started University at such a "late" age and you're not ashamed...is inspiring.

You're strong!
Cheers.

adeiza4u:
I can relate with your experience if what you've put up here is true. Got admission to the university in 2015 and made up my mind not to meddle into any relationship but to give my all to studies. And that has been the deal though it's not funny. Pressures here and there until I almost rescind my decision. I'm glad I'll be done with studies this year pretty well. You made the right decision right from the outset, please don't blow it now no matter the pressure. Let go of your concentration on your age and you'll be all right. Not sure, but I infer you may be a Christian, please hang on to God for his perfect guidance.

Mehn, inspiring!
This is great.

I don't really give advice on NL but I just feel I should do this.

1) Always remember, it is better to be hungry than to be poisoned. It is better to be single than to be in a useless, unfruitful relationship.

2) An hungry man doesn't discriminate whether food doesn't have enough Maggi or curry. He just gobs it all down. Don't let desperation cloud your eyes. If anything, now is the time to be very careful.

3) Instead of asking for advice on a public space like this, why not find trusted mentors and confidantes? I say this because when you're seeking for advice in turbulent times, your heart wants respite at every chance, and it might not discern good intentions from foolish comments/advice.

4) Some people have been typing utter rubbish - ignore them. They are children with Internet enabled smartphones.

5) Don't try to change your personality to fit someone's expectation of "love". Note, personality is different from attitude. You can have a very gentle personality and very rotten attitude.

6) I'll recommend the book Secrets of an Irresistible Woman by Michelle McKinney Hammond. Great read, deep truths.

PS:
I wrote in proverbs because I am not hundred percent sure about the veracity of your story. I don't want to expend" words on a troll, but if you're really really truthful, then we'll keep this connection open.

Cheers!

Happy living. Your story inspired me.

PS - Rereading without the spectacles of cynicism makes your story seem truer. Maybe you're not a troll after all. Well well, if any of what I said makes sense, or you've a question, comment or whatnot, kindly quote this.

......Sis calm down, you are still very young. Now is the perfect time to search for that special man. The answer is to join a church asap, trust me, you will meet people in less than 3months, then make your choice. After joining a church fix yourself in a department. Never act like you are in a hurry after service, be free, nice and welcoming.

I would not advice you meet any guy here, through this account or your previous account, but if you must meet, never date a man who follows the mis-educations threads, other wack threads, an alpha male, etc,he will bring you sorrow. .

Get yourself acquainted with females of good character, we have them everywhere. I wish you luck.

Logobenz:
Na wetin you talk 10 years ago o,now see yourself
Let the girl become a woman in peace.

10 yrs ago I was still too green and innocent to date naw. Wetin secondary school girl was use man do then?

ichidodo:
You've never fallen in love or you've never had any poor schmuck of a simp drool over you before because you're too guarded or not coquettish enough to indulge in your feminity and you have been so for far too long,now you hear the biological clock ticking away and you're worried.....With very good reason.Sometimes what we fear the most always comes to past.Too bad money can't save the situation, might even worsen it anyway.But hey, there are men willing to trade their best years for someone with depreciating sexual market value if the price is right..You can pay someone off to be your consort or you prepare for a lifetime of spinsterhood.. Your choice.

Yimu. Na this kinda commenter go still send pm to the op. Eat back ur negative spewings.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Inside or outside her house?

I've connected with people without stepping out sha so it depends. Thank God for social media, introverted peeps can access people online and later meet.

saggitarius01:


Amen nnem.

. Are you a Delta - Igbo ? The Amen “nnem” made me ask . Where is your location?

Times have changed so get rid of the idea that 25 is old. This is the perfect time to take your relationship more seriously. This will require a lot of understanding yourself and your needs. Set boundaries and be the type of person you are looking for. I see you settled down and married by your late 20s which is perfect because you will be better with age. Age isn't a curse it's you been refined and perfected. The worst thing you can do now is to panic and make mistakes and trust me the person you marry is the most important decision of your life so pick with caution and from a place of abundance instead of a place of lack.

saggitarius01:


Ode. While trying to impress simpletons like you, you ended up writing a full incoherent paragraph of hot cow dung. You know the simple word "tautalogy"?
Let me take out a few secs and and knack you some better sense..."Schmuck or simp" should never be in a sentence for they in the end, convey same message and are similar in meaning although I knew you directed them towards the everlasting bastard that fathered a fortified ignoramus of your type but in my own way of showing you that you are an educated illiterate who only sleeps and wakes but with a dictionary instead of going to the nearest celestial church for heavy beating with da "HOLY CANE" to liberate you and your generation unborn from the wicked sharp claws of poverty, I choose to give you a lil attention so you don't blade yourself to death.

We no get degree but omo you no fit yarn me dust. MKPI!

Your savagery could be why you are single

Yo I'm Sagittarius and 25 too.

1. You're young and not late AT ALL

2. You're unique and so will your husband. As a guy, my turn ons are: smarts (business, life, street, book); languages (Nigerian and European); natural humour. Not slay queening. I'm sure there are millions others like me who are not looking for airheads.

3. You've worked on yourself and your business shebi, consider this to be a new, side, project. Learn about IG, learn about tinder (for reals, smart people are there too). Don't focus on changing the person you are. Focus on expressing the person you've become.

4. Networking. No spirit man is going to come to your house. You can meet like minded people at events. Add 1/2 events a week to meet people (male and female). Interested in a language, join a speaking group; like a topic, join or host a networking event on it.

5. Use the network you already have. Check out the people you already know, you might find a gem right under your nose. Also, your current friends and acquaintances could link you up with possible dates.

Good luck dear. Stay confident!

saggitarius01:
Good evening dear Nairalanders. I'm sorry I had to create a new account to post this. I am getting really worried about how my life may turn out. I'd be straight and brief as possible so please read and give me any advice you can. Thanks.

A brief rundown about myself.

I am going to be 25 in no time, growing up I felt there is only two paths a young lady should tow...either to forget being a fashonista and all trying to be neck deep in her outlook or calm down, first things first, work hard and make money (if possible be a millionaire before 25). I choose the later and as God will have it, my dream turned a reality.

Now, while I was in this journey of not turning out to be a lady who will never be able to foot her own bills, I forgot everything about being girlie. I never what it means to have female friends or hang out with any, I don't care so much about knowing the latest party and posh places or even taking all the posh pictures like the ladies in my age bracket would. I was focused to a fault. I saved to a fault.

I might not have everything I desire but I am indeed comfortable for a young lady who made it out of the ghetto life of Igbogbo.

Now my pain..

I do most of my jobs from home and therefore I am mostly within the confines of my apartment.
No boyfriend, no fiance talk more of a husband.
I don't have any friend and I don't know to make any friend for as a result of I trying to find my feet in life, I have had, experienced, seen and heard nasty behaviours of human. I keep people at arms length. I am afraid of an average human for I believe anybody can do anything even things you don't expect of them.

I already observed that slaying and all the girlie ish is obviously not a part of me as i prefer to brainstorm and think of how to expand my business which I know an average lady my age, that is the least of her worries.

I know I need a man in my life. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I think ages 24-26 is the right age (as i have made to believe) a woman should at be at least settled Maritally. How do I go about getting a man to date and marry? Where are the places I should go to? Remember I said I have NO friends so no wedding invitations.

Am I stressing myself? But I am almost 25 and no man and truly in my hearts of hearts I know I want to be a wife someday and have a good family so need to lie about anything. Where do ladies meet their boyfriends? Not the playboys or those with pulled down shorts.

Please what do I do? What are the places to go? I tried hanging out to places for drink but you know how it feels and looks for a young lady to sit out on her own.

P.S. Yes I am not desperate but I am concerned.

Did i make a mistake by holding my life first instead of being all what the social media ladies are?

I just opened an Instagram account yesterday and still don't know how to use the app or what to do there. You can imagine the kind of lady I have become. Yes I can dress neat and combine my wears. Forget ugly, I ain't. I could do a nice make up on my face when ever I have 2 hours to spare. Never a boring fella. I just don't know how to find someone I could share all the happiness, joy and street wise advise with.
Please help me. I am so lonely. I only come on nairaland whenever I am bored. Enough said.

I am open to questions. Any at all.

I only hope this little piece of advise wouldn't be falling on deaf or wrong ears as the faceless media these day anything can happen.... Anyway, yes your age is still very normal to be battling with what U are presently... Life the way we never understood it ,comes with its baggage.... Why do U think you will see a cute dude with no prospects, a blonde girl without brains, a very beautiful but deaf or dumb gal, a rich but not satisfied individual....these are few I can remember oh yes have not seen a bottle shaped perfect ass girl but no breast? What. Trynna tell u is there is always a price to pay for almost everything on life....am not saying you have paid your price but what if you have ?

well u cn always have relatives mix u up wit great ppl, but if u a believer, a muslim, them why dont we meet? But whatever u do dont hook up with bad guys or bad girls who see nothing wrong with immoral lifes

saggitarius01:
Good evening dear Nairalanders. I'm sorry I had to create a new account to post this. I am getting really worried about how my life may turn out. I'd be straight and brief as possible so please read and give me any advice you can. Thanks.

A brief rundown about myself.

I am going to be 25 in no time, growing up I felt there is only two paths a young lady should tow...either to forget being a fashonista and all trying to be neck deep in her outlook or calm down, first things first, work hard and make money (if possible be a millionaire before 25). I choose the later and as God will have it, my dream turned a reality.

Now, while I was in this journey of not turning out to be a lady who will never be able to foot her own bills, I forgot everything about being girlie. I never what it means to have female friends or hang out with any, I don't care so much about knowing the latest party and posh places or even taking all the posh pictures like the ladies in my age bracket would. I was focused to a fault. I saved to a fault.

I might not have everything I desire but I am indeed comfortable for a young lady who made it out of the ghetto life of Igbogbo.

Now my pain..

I do most of my jobs from home and therefore I am mostly within the confines of my apartment.
No boyfriend, no fiance talk more of a husband.
I don't have any friend and I don't know to make any friend for as a result of I trying to find my feet in life, I have had, experienced, seen and heard nasty behaviours of human. I keep people at arms length. I am afraid of an average human for I believe anybody can do anything even things you don't expect of them.

I already observed that slaying and all the girlie ish is obviously not a part of me as i prefer to brainstorm and think of how to expand my business which I know an average lady my age, that is the least of her worries.

I know I need a man in my life. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I think ages 24-26 is the right age (as i have made to believe) a woman should at be at least settled Maritally. How do I go about getting a man to date and marry? Where are the places I should go to? Remember I said I have NO friends so no wedding invitations.

Am I stressing myself? But I am almost 25 and no man and truly in my hearts of hearts I know I want to be a wife someday and have a good family so need to lie about anything. Where do ladies meet their boyfriends? Not the playboys or those with pulled down shorts.

Please what do I do? What are the places to go? I tried hanging out to places for drink but you know how it feels and looks for a young lady to sit out on her own.

P.S. Yes I am not desperate but I am concerned.

Did i make a mistake by holding my life first instead of being all what the social media ladies are?

I just opened an Instagram account yesterday and still don't know how to use the app or what to do there. You can imagine the kind of lady I have become. Yes I can dress neat and combine my wears. Forget ugly, I ain't. I could do a nice make up on my face when ever I have 2 hours to spare. Never a boring fella. I just don't know how to find someone I could share all the happiness, joy and street wise advise with.
Please help me. I am so lonely. I only come on nairaland whenever I am bored. Enough said.

I am open to questions. Any at all.

DM me lets hook up