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nunnu:
You are just a sick and insecure bastard.

Samolaogun:
Two children is enough for me.

Mikeiron78:
Based on the information provided, you seem to be insecure for one reason; You are way too older than her and you're scared of not being able to keep up with her and eventually losing her to a younger guy. That's life.

Icon79:
Well, here's what the Bible says:

Where there is no counsel, the people fall;
But in the multitude of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14.


O pari

mysticgal:
My dear I don tire for men,
What do you guys want?

Samolaogun:
Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

GrabHisBalls:
Most men do.

Mires:
Na Yoruba woman?

mysticgal:
Okay, firstly, you don’t really know what is happening right in that home. His dress sexy and all could be my Mary Amaka, so chill

Secondly, Oga saw this at first and did nothing about it beside he was avoiding marrying an evening newspaper. See with every gift comes a wrapper. He should honestly bear his cross

donstan18:
[s]This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.[/s]

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

ornicus:
No be you look hot chick? You no see homely chick when you dey look for wife?

When you were dating, did she not also have other toasters then?

Unless your wife was an ugly duckling ie she became hot after marriage, you knew exactly what you were getting into.

I honestly don't have any advice, because I don't know if you are paranoid or insecure or right

hify9935:
Chimoooo...

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

Samolaogun:
Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it.

My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Samolaogun:
I’m reading all the comments thank you

I was thinking of reporting her to her mother, her father is late. But like mother like daughter, they are both the same so it will be pointless. At this point for my peace of mind, i think I most definitely need separation because I cannot stress myself too much, I have too many things bothering me. What I narrated is only a fraction of what I have been dealing with for 10 years. Im 43 years of age, still active and young looking I believe God will give me a woman who will give me peace.

Bless to all.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

TonyeBarcanista:
No let media, music and nollywood fool you

healthserve:
Guy Stop am na

truthsayer009:
Does she have any higher authority she listens to
and respect that you can report er ro?

If yes, that is what you should do.

I would like to say there is a reason for every decision. She started partying heavily for a reason. I'm not saying you have infidelity issues here but you need to investigate. People dont change or switch up for no reason.

Good luck sir.

Edit: lastly, perhaps part of the investigation is you actually join her in partying. It may sound stupid but thats how you get more info.

mysticgal:
Okay, firstly, you don’t really know what is happening right in that home. His dress sexy and all could be my Mary Amaka, so chill

Secondly, Oga saw this at first and did nothing about it beside he was avoiding marrying an evening newspaper. See with every gift comes a wrapper. He should honestly bear his cross

CyberWolf:
If your wife hasn’t started cheating, it’s just a matter of time. Forget all these people telling you that you’re insecure, you’re not. Your instinct is telling you that something is wrong and your instinct can never fail you so, listen to it and act. You’re the head of the house and whatever rule you make should be obeyed by everyone in the house, who is not ready to do that should get out. Even the Bible says that if your wife won’t do as you say, divorce her.. that’s if you’re a Christian.

pocohantas:
Did the people calling OP insecure go through the opening post at all?

If all he stated there is the truth, then his concerns are valid. People should stop accusing their partner's of insecurity, as a way of getting off with their bad behaviour.

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a women parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

Godsknight:
De preacher, where is that part in the bible?

Samolaogun:
I’m reading all the comments thank you

I was thinking of reporting her to her mother, her father is late. But like mother like daughter, they are both the same so it will be pointless. At this point for my peace of mind, i think I most definitely need separation because I cannot stress myself too much, I have too many things bothering me. What I narrated is only a fraction of what I have been dealing with for 10 years. Im 43 years of age, still active and young looking I believe God will give me a woman who will give me peace.

Bless to all.

pocohantas:
She wasn't an ugly duckling, read his post well- he said she has always been like that, but he ignored.

This is the same thing I commented on the other thread, if she keeps showing signs that she loves the fast life...pull the plug.

But do they hear? They think they can always use marriage to tame every womam. Shior!

ornicus:
No be you look hot chick? You no see homely chick when you dey look for wife?

When you were dating, did she not also have other toasters then?

Unless your wife was an ugly duckling ie she became hot after marriage, you knew exactly what you were getting into.

I honestly don't have any advice, because I don't know if you are paranoid or insecure or right