ornicus:
The responses are funny though. A lot of guys are under the illusion that women are pikins they can just boss around. I forbid you from browsing Instagram, I will take away your privileges. I will check your phone. How?

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a woman parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a woman parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

LordKO:
@OP

It's obvious that you married another man's wife/the wrong woman. A true wife's invaluableness (to her husband, a sane husband of course) lies in the attributes of selflessness, meekness and sweetness - unfortunately she possesses only sweetness which isn't enough to guarantee you peace of mind. And a virtuous woman knows the difference between dressing classy and dressing slutty. So, I support your decision.

Ignore anyone who'll tell you that insecurity is worrying you.

Omega30:
Baba, now u are talking as a man. It starts from dating self, once she can't fear and respect you in dating. It ain't happening in marriage. While others are calling u a weak man, I call u a strong man. In her mind, she is young and already has two kids that even though u leave, she is already a mother. Though I don't support divorce, tell her in Stern terms, if she doesn't change, you file a divorce or take those children that make her a mother and rent a new house. Get a maid to take care of the kids or someone else and be watching. Once security & comfort is taking away from her, her wings will be curtailed. When she knows she no longer has a home, husband and children. And that she is now the same with probably her single girlfriends , sense will fall on her. Then you still like her, set the RULES.
Peace!!!

OLAJADON:

I don't know what to say, because u saw the signs from onset but love blinded your eyes. I can't advice you to divorce her after 2kids. only God knows if she is cheating.

Omega30:
Accept my condolences bro. Even those of us that want to marry are learning from men like you. Sometimes, it is better to marry a girl at times from 26/27 upwards. Moreover, it has already happened. You need a retreat, Travel or go on a vacation for some time only you to clear your head. Just tell that you are traveling, when you come back, you know what to do.

Mustiboy:
how do one go about this?

Ecne:


Oga I wan learn oooò, Wives these days wan give man HBP... epp us

lilbest4:
if you can hold her phone for just few minutes it will be enough. Open Facebook on your browser, click "forgotten password " and type her number to recover password, a code will be sent to her number copy it and delete it. Use it to change the password and select "keep logged in on other devices" so that hers won't be logged out. Repeat the same for Instagram, Instagram is actually easier and quicker.
Why you need safari browser for the WhatsApp is because if you use any other browser she will be notified anytime you open the WhatsApp on your phone but if you use safari (iPhone browser) she won't receive notifications.
To log in her WhatsApp, open Web.whatsapp.com, set your browser to desktop version ( it's easily located on the option button on the browser), a QR code will appear on your screen, open her WhatsApp, go to the option and select WhatsApp Web, the camera will open, scan the code and it will be logged in. Whenever her data is on you will have full access to her chat while she is sending it

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a woman parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

GrabHisBalls:
I can authoritatively tell you that most men do. Why do you think loosed girls gets men's attention more than the reserved ones? Note: I am also not in any way saying there are no exceptions. Let's tell ourselves the truth.

stupidity:
I’m surprised no female on here saw where he said “attending to the kids effectively is now a problem” y’all are addressing the “goodlook” aspect just to mock men.


Talk to your wife. If she doesn’t coordinate herself. Let her be and enjoy life with your kids.

I fear she can’t be tamed. You sound like a weakling sef.

mysticgal:
Which is?

Samolaogun:
she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed.

Proverbs 12:4 :- A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Home and possessions are an inheritance from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

Samolaogun:
I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast.

Omega30:
Baba, now u are talking as a man.

Collins4u1:
May I never marry a woman that will be disrespectful.

Samolaogun:
She has always been outgoing. The partying started heavily around last year. She is fond of leaving the children with her mum.

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

mysticgal:
You people love ladies who are “WELL” dressed.
“Ah baby your skirt should come up small na, you are not an old woman OR baby, wear bumshorts, I like it”

Please bro, manage her...God shall give you the grace

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.