healthserve:
Another ladies palaver. After you ladies will start saying guys pointing out kadies wrongs are faukt finding, Aweleawkaetiti MissJoy29. Cone and keeo defending your sisters needlessly


Go and give thanksgiving and end it Op. She doesn't love you and hasnt grown up. Is easily influenced by outside sources, hence may not be loyal for the long term and can be easily
swayed. That's assuming all you said is true and she is guilty of all you wrote. Cause it takes two to tango


Thank God its early.

MissJoy29:

Her ship has sailed...

healthserve:



We know. Check the complains of relationships and start counting the culprit/party at fualt from today. You the defender of all women If it isn't madness, should ship sail in a sealed relationship? We're asking you ladies of the present age.

I was with a friends mother Twp weeks back and was hosting with the old woman almost 70. The husband just died last year, but I saw the confidence in her husband still standing strong in her like he was present. That's loyalty. Its what folks are complaining about these days.


Make una dey follow una selves dey talk o. Even you Aweleawkaetiti

MissJoy29:
No need stressing yourself sir. She's no longer into you.

desvi:
would advise you to leave her to her fuulishness but you two have daughters
all I can say is this, make sure you and your daughters are well
show her the cold shoulder though
do not take care her of her, don't show her love or your pain
make her feel your absence
and if she comes back, let her beg wella
let her come for you several times until you give her another chance
we don't know what we have until it's gone

healthserve:



Check the complains of relationships and start counting the culprit/party at fualt from today. You the defender of all women .

I was with a friends mother Twp weeks back and was hosting with the old woman almost 70. The husband just died last year, but I saw the confidence in her husband still standing strong in her like he was present. That's loyalty. Its what folks are complaining about these days.

piroux:
Op seems like a good guy, soft and humble.

piroux:
Op seems like a good guy, soft and humble. That can also be seen as weak by some women/girls. I don't know her age so i can't tell. This is Nigeria where a 28-year-old lady could still be in School.

She might not have cheated on you but could be intensely bored. That's the problem with long courtships and relationships. My advice is to give her space. Don't report her, don't try to control, don't monitor her. Stop doing those things, she might be feeling choked, tired or angry, especially if she doesn't do the same to you. Just leave her be for now and do you. Focus on yourself. In fact, if her family calls you, just greet them well. Tell them the wedding has been paused.

If in that time, she doesn't sit up and realize the gem she has in you, kindly let her go. Work out custody arrangements for your child, collect your bride price and move on. Life is too short for anyone to stay unhappy.

nairalandposter:



@ bolded

But you wouldn't like to be tagged criminal based on the activities of your Nigerian brethren if you're not one?

In addition, it's stupid of you to reference internet spamming as fact.



Same story everytime. You people dont understand you need to get your act together, everyone sees through your lies and smokescreens.

Why do you insist on eating the younger (female) generation and swallowing their destiny by vilifying them constantly while glorifying the older generation who raised them? Do you not see how contradictory that is?

healthserve:



Shior to me

MissJoy29:

You know eh, these complaints go both ways. Stop making it look like it's only ladies that misbehave these days. Las las, una go marry unaselves. I no follow. You know I'm different

That woman with her confidence ENJOYED her marriage. That's why she is proud & confident in him even in death. How many people enjoy their relationship/marriage nowadays? Everything is now fake, endures, forced & all for the gram. There's actually no need for comparison between our generation now (male & female alike) & our mothers/fathers.

Breaststroke:




Seriously lol , I swear Poco you're a very silly girl. Yeye dey worry you no be small.

While we are at it, can you pls explain the beef most nairaland males seem to have for you?

healthserve:




Hahaha. There's something called loyalty. Something ladies these days lack. You'll see them married yet flirthy, you'll see them with a gvy, yet imagining Ben with another at the same time. You no how many side affairs this year alone I don turn down? Don't let me blow ladies open o


If you knew the crisis the family of your so-called enjoyed woman's marriage faced, you self go run. Its stability inspire of external crisis. Pure loyalty.

Davash222:
So, you still need Ifa to come and tell you that your ‘supposed’ wife is getting the Dicck from a better source
To beg a woman to be your responsibility is the height of stupidity!!!

MYDEBBY:
Situation report house,the mum of my wife called me that why am I not sending the school fees of my daughter as my wife have told her,I replied by saying I will change my daughters school or probably transfer the money to the school account directly.She said OK. Meanwhile the meeting for this weekend scheduled between i, herself and her parents. her mum pleaded with me to go and carry them with my car down to the villa.But initially my wife said I should go on my own but now her mum said I should bring them along.Should I adhere knowing fully well my wife said she has no business with me again.

Mynd 44
Obinoscopy
Lalasticlala

Pls do the needful,thanks.

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalander I greet you all.Pls I need candid advice,I have dated my wife for over six years with an issue,and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school. Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested. She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it,only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees.I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her parents,promising not to do so again,a guy knocked the door,and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend,I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.when we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.after a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.pls no insult just help out.Thanks

healthserve:




Hahaha. There's something called loyalty. Something ladies these days lack. You'll see them married yet flirty, you'll see them with a guy, yet imagining being with another at the same time. You no how many side affairs this year alone I don turn down? Don't let me blow ladies open o


If you knew the crisis the family of your so-called enjoyed woman's marriage faced, you self go run. Its stability in spite of external crisis. Pure loyalty.

MYDEBBY:



Thanks you said it all,but my little girl cant be allowed to stay under her present situation.

yeyeosoronga:


Where are your own family members (parents, sisters, uncles ) in this equation? Abi you no get family? Why are you meeting with her people without your own people present?
When going for the meeting, bring your family along, including your elders, parents or siblings. Tell her parents that your car is filled up as you are bringing your people along too in the car.
Finalise whatever is between you people there and then. Are you moving forward or you're breaking up. If breaking up, finalise there and then how you will be responsible towards your child together and custody arrangements between your families.
Life is not that hard, and only as hard as we make it. Go prepared for the meeting, especially if things cannot continue between you two. Have your points ready, and no need for drama. Just state facts on how to move forward

MissJoy29:

Do you plan to take her? Will she let go without a fight? Btw, how old is your little girl?

MYDEBBY:



Thanks a million brotherly,my own parents are late,but I have five siblings on ground maybe I should go with them or take like two along.

Sorry.I could remember the dad said both of us should come alone without any other party should I obey him? All the time her dad believes in me and do much to correct her but she would channel the grievances towards me and label her father a bad man.

amaham:


I hope this will be the last meeting between you and them. Halt every white marriage plans and show her you can thrive without her. I think you want to marry her because she's the mother of your child, this doesn't always go well. Just allow her complete this hoeing phase, or else, she'll continue it from your matrimonial home.

MYDEBBY:



I planned taking my little girl of 4yrs to her grandmother to look after her.if I live her with that evil woman,she may influence her negatively and use her to siphon money from me.

healthserve:




Hahaha. There's something called loyalty. Something ladies these days lack. You'll see them married yet flirthy, you'll see them with a gvy, yet imagining Ben with another at the same time. You no how many side affairs this year alone I don turn down? Don't let me blow ladies open o


If you knew the crisis the family of your so-called enjoyed woman's marriage faced, you self go run. Its stability inspire of external crisis. Pure loyalty.