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healthserve:
Well. Success is the best revenge

Massive success bro

BRATISLAVA:
I don't understand why men always "plan on taking the child from her" to give to their grandmother's who don't have time for children.
The mother is alive and did not reject the child, but in a bid to have a war and claim that the woman will poison the child against them, they decide to do the exact thing to the woman. Who made more entitled to the child? IAnd if he thinks they're after the money, he should not send any. He wants to marry another wife then deprive this one of her child while he goes on to have children with the new one because he's entitled. Men and planning on taking the child as if they're the only parent and they're entitled to take children away (kidnap) to give to their own mother's as if the other person's family don't want to take the child too. He's living in another state and is surprised that the long distance relationship of telling on her to her parents isn't working. The woman is working(the liability talk never came up) and you can see there's nothing bad she's doing save getting irritated by his silly insecurities and reporting her to her parents once she doesn't splay. There's more to it than he's saying. Too many men play victim.

And the small boys are shouting mgtow as if the system here is rigged against them.

It is the child I pity. If the man is able to take her, she will end up being a second class human being. No guarantee the grandmother will not resent her. And the grandmother is old.

No guarantee the cycle will not repeat. Marry small girl, then send her to uni where she is around guys her age, living with girls her age joking and gisting about how Mike gives it from all angles and the sex is mind blowing while all she has to think about is hubby who is old and out of shape with man boobs and pot belly and crooked teeth and who passes out after 5 minutes of missionary.

The format of smallie trophy wife from village is DEAD.

Im a gud guy, if i discover that u as a young lady in a relationship with me, and u re nt serious with getting married to me, omo i get bang u different styles till ur pussy is sketch farther and then i will dump ur sorry ass, and find myself a better lady to settle down with.

healthserve:
The sad tale is I was setting up a company as a proposal gift to her. Which was worth millions . These days the sisters and mum see me in church, shame covers them from top to toe.


Love is a very very tricky feeling. The ones you love don't appreciate, the ones you don't love chase you. It sucks.

Big deal, really.

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

Cut off all contact, support and move on.....if your daughter needs stuff buy it yourself and deliver it. The only contact u shld v should concern your daughter.,..u can bet she will try to use your daughter against u though.

pocohantas:
The earlier you guys understand that not so many undergraduate girls are very pro-marriage, the better for you. Once you spot that one who is very much interested in the fast life, pull the plug immediately.

Her parents told you both to come to the VILLAGE? You think if her parents had enough to be giving her, she would bother herself with you?

It is painful my dear, but your wife is in her hoe-phase. Some skip that phase, some spend few years in it, some stay a decade there- even do spillover.

You need to have some self-respect. A grown ass man following two fcking undergraduates to hear their conversation?

You guys don't hear word. You remind me of my colleague and that tin-tomatoes-headed girl he was pursuing. One small 200l girl. The way the girl did his heart ehn, she passed it through shredder.

Go find one afternoon newspaper that has her life figured out. Someone that will bring in tangible and intangible resources to the relationship. That way when she wants to throw it all away, she would think of how it would hit her own balance sheet.

Oya come.. Come, come come, I want to give you something

pocohantas:
The earlier you guys understand that not so many undergraduate girls are very pro-marriage, the better for you. Once you spot that one who is very much interested in the fast life, pull the plug immediately.

Her parents told you both to come to the VILLAGE? You think if her parents had enough to be giving her, she would bother herself with you?

It is painful my dear, but your wife is in her hoe-phase. Some skip that phase, some spend few years in it, some stay a decade there- even do spillover.

You need to have some self-respect. A grown ass man following two fcking undergraduates to hear their conversation?

You guys don't hear word. You remind me of my colleague and that tin-tomatoes-headed girl he was pursuing. One small 200l girl. The way the girl did his heart ehn, she passed it through shredder.

Go find one afternoon newspaper that has her life figured out. Someone that will bring in tangible and intangible resources to the relationship. That way when she wants to throw it all away, she would think of how it would hit her own balance sheet.

You just spoke my mind and what I was about to type. You deserve two bottles of beer and Isi ewu

RAGGA40:
Im a gud guy, if i discover that u as a young lady in a relationship with me, and u re nt serious with getting married to me, omo i get bang u different styles till ur pussy is sketch farther and then i will dump ur sorry ass, and find myself a better lady to settle down with.

And you think some other guy somewhere is not banging and over stretching the fibres of the pussy of the so called better lady you are hoping to settle down with?

The way you kids reason at times really baffle me.

lol. bros I tire. he don even give am belle then still de bother. Once you have birthed my progeny into this world, it's not me who will tell you to act right. Na you go de cry because i will now be revealing my world championship belt in scumbaggery. The Golden rule. do unto me as you would like me to do unto you, forever stands.

OP. send upkeep money for your daughter then pay the school fees yourself. Use the remaining and find even younger slay queens on demand. you dont even need to keep them permanent. you are going to see some funny magic after this. Last last nobody has monopoly of nonsense behaviour

islandmoon:
tell her sweet stories, impregnate her and run

Guys stop training girlfriends in school. 80% of that act doesn't end well. Love a girl marry her first and admit her in a nearby school closest to u. All we need her in naija is certificate not school. always make sure she is home every weekend and pay her surprise visit as much as u can
Above all always show her love and care.

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MYDEBBY:
Didn't you read my facts why will she be intensely bored when I have paid her dowry as my wife.I have sat her one on one even at midnight to let her adjust her ways since the traditional rites this year and waiting for the white.I did said that I noticed her with bad influence including male and female.so why do you think she is not cheating on me,must I leave my work and be with her in school 24hrs before I will know she is not cheating on me? I think that all that happened is the handiwork of God.

I doubt that she's cheating on you.

Long courtships get boring. Why did you wait so long before deciding to marry her?

MYDEBBY:
Thanks a lot my brother,was only begging cos of my 4yrs old daughter but your advise has reformatted my brain.

Stop allowing strangers' assumption decide the course of your relationship!

See this one, so you want to begging her for the rest of your life

olabrinks:
She is not interested in the marriage, and if you marry her by force you will be entering a life time of misery and a constant battle to prove yourself to her. Better get out now before it’s too late. It’s that simple.

I don’t know why men are always fighting for women that don’t want them. They’re millions of single available women go and look for them and leave this small girl alone.

You are a wise lady.

First thing.... She is not ur wife yet.... But ur baby mama.
Secondly, I will advise you u to forget about her and move on with Ur life. This same thing happened to a close friend of mine, and I felt bad about it. He dated this lady for 9yrs, done introduction and waiting to fixed the wedding date last 2yr, but she and her family declined... That it should be moved upward. It was agreed to hold last year, but the shocker came when she told him that she was not interested anymore.
Discovery....... We later discovered that one guy in her school was the new Romeo in her life. And d reason she and family moved the initial date was because of pregnancy for another guy.
My guy was very devastated and has finally move on. After spending so much money for her education and other stuffs.
My Bro.... Ones the family are unable to solve this problem now, move on with Ur life.

MYDEBBY:
I planned taking my little girl of 4yrs to her grandmother to look after her.if I live her with that evil woman,she may influence her negatively and use her to siphon money from me.

Someone you call wife has suddenly become evil. You're not even stable.

My candid advise is this, you don't need the parents to drum the right or the wrong into her head, she knows what she wants. Tertiary institution is a great eye opener.You guys might have started out when she was very naive, inexperienced and unexposed but now, she knows better and definitely you're not her specs. My best advise is, sit down and have a heart to heart with her, no parents, no friends, just the two of you, start with the nostalgic tales of where and how you began and what your honest ambitions are for her. Then end it by enquiring if she's still interested in the relationship or not. From there make your deductions ,if it requires you to move on, please do! You cannot force a woman to love you, you can only force them to marry you, and then, that's the ingredient for grave disaster ahead. Peace.
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My brother just let her go... You are one of the brightest mumu. u dey send woman wey u never marry to university. mumu kee you . What were u expecting. you guys are no longer in the same class. If you wan marry go marry and stop wasting your resources upandan.

Rajman45:
First thing.... She is not ur wife yet.... But ur baby mama.
Secondly, I will advise you u to forget about her and move on with Ur life. This same thing happened to a close friend of mine, and I felt bad about it. He dated this lady for 9yrs, done introduction and waiting to fixed the wedding date last 2yr, but she and her family declined... That it should be moved upward. It was agreed to hold last year, but the shocker came when she told him that she was not interested anymore.
Discovery....... We later discovered that one guy in her school was the new Romeo in her life. And d reason she and family moved the initial date was because of pregnancy for another guy.
My guy was very devastated and has finally move on. After spending so much money for her education and other stuffs.
My Bro.... Ones the family are unable to solve this problem now, move on with Ur life.

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He dated someone for 9 years... i dont expect her to marry that kind of man either. 9years lohun lohun.

pocohantas:
The earlier you guys understand that not so many undergraduate girls are very pro-marriage, the better for you. Once you spot that one who is very much interested in the fast life, pull the plug immediately.

Her parents told you both to come to the VILLAGE? You think if her parents had enough to be giving her, she would bother herself with you?

It is painful my dear, but your wife is in her hoe-phase. Some skip that phase, some spend few years in it, some stay a decade there- even do spillover.

You need to have some self-respect. A grown ass man following two fcking undergraduates to hear their conversation?

You guys don't hear word. You remind me of my colleague and that tin-tomatoes-headed girl he was pursuing. One small 200l girl. The way the girl did his heart ehn, she passed it through shredder.

Go find one afternoon newspaper that has her life figured out. Someone that will bring in tangible and intangible resources to the relationship. That way when she wants to throw it all away, she would think of how it would hit her own balance sheet.

Brilliant.

Gehgeh

okokkk:


You will soon find out that the daughter you're training is not even yours.

kaywhy09:
Oya come.. Come, come come, I want to give you something

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Some men are stubborn. until you crash before u get sense. go and look for a mature woman. i will never sponsor anybody daughter because i wan marry her

MissJoy29:
Not a bad idea although the "evil woman" part got to me. But you didn't answer two of my questions: 1) Will your fiancee let go of your daughter without a fight? 2) How old is the little girl?

How can you say it's not a bad idea that he wants to take a child from its mother...and not to raise this child himself, but a granny?

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

please move on for your own good the more you beg her the more she’s breaking your heart more , cut off all communications block her number if you both are on Facebook or Instagram leave one open for future communication, move on try as much as possible I know it’s difficult and you feel you can’t but trust me time heals everything bro it’s all about time you will look back and laugh over it, she’s with someone else that she feels is better give it few months or maximum a year she will run coming back but don’t ever accept her back do this and thank me later lol .... as for her parents stop involving them it’s eitger they are involved in whatever she’s doing and they are aware but just don’t want to accept it so they wouldn’t look bad to you after everything you’ve done for there daughter or they don’t have a control over her so cut off all communication with the family , let Karma take it’s vengeance For you

ornicus:
And the small boys are shouting mgtow as if the system here is rigged against them.

It is the child I pity. If the man is able to take her, she will end up being a second class human being. No guarantee the grandmother will not resent her. And the grandmother is old.

No guarantee the cycle will not repeat. Marry small girl, then send her to uni where she is around guys her age, living with girls her age joking and hosting about how Mike gave it to her from the left and all she has to think about is hubby who is as old and out of shape as the lecturers in class and who passes out after 5 minutes of missionary.

Lol. They will never learn. They will be online shouting "make money and bitches will come".

penguinpikin:
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Some men are stubborn. until you crash before u get sense. go and look for a mature woman. i will never sponsor anybody daughter because i wan marry her

you are right bro I learnt that the hard way after I trained a guy in a private Uni for years she went for NYSC and dumped my sorry ass please guys here never spend a dime for a lay that is still in Uni in the guise that you want to marry her to avoid the story that touches in the ratio of 99% she will definitely leave you lol

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

It's better you leave am o, as a real G women shouldn't be stressing you, that is a red flag no go kill yourself flee from her

pocohantas:
I don't know why I have a feeling you are one very humble guy, the type who isn't very adventurous, missionary style kinda guy...

Don't even force her. Difficult to do, but that is the best thing for your long term sanity. If not, she will keep making it obvious by her words that she never wanted you.

Recently a NLder was here to report himself after telling his wife she wasn't his first choice. That might be you in few years time, only that you will be at the receiving end.

You see all these girls that their eyes are up? Once they start wearing some kind clothe and experiencing city-girls life, marriage no dey their mind o. Let alone marriage to some homely dude. She will convince herself there is still time and there is better out there.

She might only remember you (or your type) when she is retiring. Pele

This lady sef.. If I say I no like you, I'm lying. You're a realist, I love that.

Bro you are too weak to be called a man. Women full every where begging for someone to marry them but here you are begging for the same puzzi wey you don enter even collect pikin inside sef chaiii

Marriage as they call it is the union of a ripe man and a ripe woman. It's not all about age or my friends are all married so I need to do that too. Any relationship without misunderstanding or arguments is not yet an intimate relationship. Love, anger, caring, happiness, tears, are ingredients of a marriage. Do the both of you add this spices in your relationship?