MYDEBBY:



I assure you all who have contributed immensely in advising me to ball up as a man,that after the meeting with her parents I shall update you all.

Take heart my brother.That women has no love or respect for you anymore.Let her go.

phemy36:


I respect you for this piece. You nail it. As from today my respect for female increase. I always thought they reason same way but you change my motive

I wonder how you ever thought millions and billions of a specie can reason same way. Wonderful!

Rajman45:
First thing.... She is not ur wife yet.... But ur baby mama.
Secondly, I will advise you u to forget about her and move on with Ur life. This same thing happened to a close friend of mine, and I felt bad about it. He dated this lady for 9yrs, done introduction and waiting to fixed the wedding date last 2yr, but she and her family declined... That it should be moved upward. It was agreed to hold last year, but the shocker came when she told him that she was not interested anymore.
Discovery....... We later discovered that one guy in her school was the new Romeo in her life. And d reason she and family moved the initial date was because of pregnancy for another guy.
My guy was very devastated and has finally move on. After spending so much money for her education and other stuffs.
My Bro.... Ones the family are unable to solve this problem now, move on with Ur life.

Did you read the part that said he had done the traditional rites......? So what else is making you to think she's not his wife?

Pls give us the age range of "the afternoons" so can put in it into perspective

pocohantas:


I didn't even say EVENING, ordinary AFTERNOON. Afternoon ooo! Hian!



Yes my love

Now this is the reason I don't give any woman my heart completely cos I know shit like this are bound to happen. This thing called love in this generation is neva genuine. Most ladies attach condition to it and wen dat very tin is lacking, they become a complete shadow of em selves. I don't think too much of women. I only have fun with them and go my way.

Olu1000:



That's a dumb advice.The babe has a child for this dude.They have been together for 6 whole years.At this level ,their understanding should be top notch.They have even done traditional wedding.He should get 100% respect and loyalty from the supposed "wife" .He shouldn't even question whether she is loyal to him or not.Its totally senseless and demeaning that he is even considering where he stands in the relationship.The babe has no single love or respect for him anymore.The relationship is practically over.

did you read the latter part of my statement?

Skmoda360:

Did you read the part that said he had done the traditional rites......? So what else is making you to think she's not his wife?

Are you minding them. Even without traditional rites, commitment alone should push lovers towards one another and respect should be sideways to one another once there's commitment

Jokerman:


Arindin.... No let thunder strike your pelebe mouth...

Na guys like me fit you... Omo komo

So that you can deal with her?...lol ....the girl na were with foul smelling mouth.

BarrElChapo:
Pls give us the age range of "the afternoons" so can put in it into perspective

26-30yrs

pocohantas:


26-30yrs

Gbam!!! You sabi the age bracket....some roll down to 35yo anyways.

pocohantas:


Then stop thinking, because you obviously do not do a good job of it.

Of course I will be comfortable for months without a man in my life. Or you assume I am always in a relationship?

I will do the thing he wants that I am comfortable with. Same way he will do mine. That is how I roll, nothing less...

Once I smell any scent of useless alfa male ego in a man, I kick him to kerb. Ain't gat time for bullshit. Ain't no "feminist" either. The only place people call me that is on NL. Surprisingly, my views are constant- maybe I just roll with progressives in reality. So, they don't think I am trying to wear the trouser...they just understand a woman has a voice too!

Its okay. Speaking for yourself confidently. I cant fault that.

Mogajunior:



Now this is the reason I don't give any woman my heart completely cos I know shit like this are bound to happen. This thing called love in this generation is neva genuine. Most ladies attach condition to it and wen dat very tin is lacking, they become a complete shadow of em selves. I don't think too much of women. I only have fun with them and go my way.

Rationality over emotions. We all should be careful. These generation has way too many divorce cases. A visit to the court would discourage you from attempting to fall in love. Self preservation has done serious damage to many relationships

healthserve:



Hi time we guys told ourselves the honest and bitter truth. Many ladies are not made for the institution called marriage and are beyond redemption. Thus was the case, the Op's matter too is

Yea, i discovered this long ago.

Yeecar:

Yea, i discovered this long ago.

Unfortunately, I didn't. People come in the appearance of relations come with impure motives. For guys going places, there's need to sift the weed from the real stuff

healthserve:




Which brings us to the point that if a lady can be influenced by external party, she's immature for marriage.


A guy did that to my princess this year and she assumed all she learnt was correct. Finally the guy starts having sex with her as intimacy grew out of their negative alliance. She has recently learnt that I wasn't broke but living coded while the guy influencing her was eating her money and sexing for free. She was influenced from the outside, like eve, like my princess.

I move on jejely without creating thread. Mi o ra ye oshi

Having sex for free?
Is sex supposed to be paid for?

Tbh na the afternoons sure pass o.. that's what I may even go for being that our educational system is almost guaranteed that before you graduate you don dey near afternoon.. those morning newspapers can be very unstable

pocohantas:


26-30yrs

Rajman45:
First thing.... She is not ur wife yet.... But ur baby mama.
Secondly, I will advise you u to forget about her and move on with Ur life. This same thing happened to a close friend of mine, and I felt bad about it. He dated this lady for 9yrs, done introduction and waiting to fixed the wedding date last 2yr, but she and her family declined... That it should be moved upward. It was agreed to hold last year, but the shocker came when she told him that she was not interested anymore.
Discovery....... We later discovered that one guy in her school was the new Romeo in her life. And d reason she and family moved the initial date was because of pregnancy for another guy.
My guy was very devastated and has finally move on. After spending so much money for her education and other stuffs.
My Bro.... Ones the family are unable to solve this problem now, move on with Ur life.

After traditional marriage, she's his wife. Ion know what you guys see in white wedding.

Skmoda360:

So that you can deal with her?...lol ....the girl na were with foul smelling mouth.

lol... Me no go beat am... Buh she go gree befits I finally dump her sorry ass

No insult but let me insult you small

You be mumu

Dem never tell you sey you be mumu

Don't go back to that her don't allow her parents to sweet mouth you oooooo

Her parents knows exactly what they are selling to you,

Retreat op bad market I repeat bad market

healthserve:



Unfortunately, I didn't. People come in the appearance of relations come with impure motives. For guys going places, there's need to sift the weed from the real stuff

I am now very experienced in the art of deciphering their deceits. No matter how smart they think they are ,i am always ontop of the food chain.

Yeecar:

I am now very experienced in the art of deciphering their deceits. No matter how smart they think they are ,i am always ontop of the food chain.

Combative mode activated Look at what we have all reduced relationships to in this generation, Ni to ri Olorun


Self protectionism is ruining things seriously. In all as we apply sense, taking life easy shouldn't be overlooked

my brother hope you're not the one training her in school with your money?? if you're the one, then know that you have fallen a big mugu... in this 21st century, you still train a girl you're not sure of in the university, you forgot that immediatly your girlfriend enters university, she belongs to another big d*ck? meanwhile you're a mugu for training her in school if you're the one training her ooo. secondly there are many women out there eyeing you, here is the opportunity, give them chance to come into your life for a better tomorrow, or force her to marry you and witness disaster in the near future. she has already told you pure and plainly that she doesn't want to marry you, it's not by force. real men don't crave for love, women look for us, so stop being a sissy boy. force her to marry you at your own peril.... thank you

DADDYFREEMAN

Bros from what i read here, you have lost that woman! You need to start thinking of living without her as you cannot force a woman to love you. Then one fundamental mistake you made in the whole event is reporting your wife to her parents, that is a big flaw. Never report your spouse to ANY member of your or her family as they will never view the report objectively no matter how wise they are! They will always support their own! Don't be surprised the parents may even be the one encouraging her to leave you becos of your everyday reporting!
Also, i notice some weaknesses on your part in dealing with issues with your wife, pls work on those weaknesses! Wish you the best bro.

Guy, are u well at all, I mean are OK?? someone told u point black that "she no longer interested" and u are here seeking for advise on what to u, whilst God has shown u physical vision about her...... If I were you I will go and do Thanksgiving in the church. Let me tell u,u don't force marriage. if u mistakenly force her to marry u, I bet u she will send u to early grave. Thank God that u,"ve not done white wedding. Go and collect ur dowry back as soon as possible.

Advise for all these guy dating undergraduates girls as a girlfriend or fiancee whatever, learn from his mistakes. Most of these undergraduate girls ain't what u fink.... some are into professional RUNS GIRL.

MOCE ON
MOVE ON
MOVE ON
MOVE ON
MOVE ON

MOVE ON WITH UR LIFE, COLLECT UR DAUGHTER FROM HER AND TAKE CARE OF D LITTLE GIRL.

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

IF THIS IS TRUE, MOVE ON , U HAVE TRIED

SHE WILL MEET HER MATCH!!!

bro the first thing for you to do is to try as much as possible to collect you child from her,if her parents insist that you have no right to do so,tell them to return all the bride price you paid for her hand in marriage, then on a monthly bases you would be sending money to her for the child upkeep apart from this,I repeat apart from this don't send a dime to her for any reasons if she says the baby is sick ask her to bring the baby to you,that you have a professional doctor at hand to look take care of the baby ,this things are hard you have to act like man,secondly look for a damsel that is more fine,more sexy,gorgeous than her to date do make sure she sees her on a very good day.... come back to thank me

My brother, go and work on yourself and she will come back to you. To her your status do not match her own that's what she's seeing now. Forget her and build your life, women !! I reserve my comments.

GoldPencil:
lol. bros I tire. he don even give am belle then still de bother. Once you have birthed my progeny into this world, it's not me who will tell you to act right. Na you go de cry because i will now be revealing my world championship belt in scumbaggery. The Golden rule. do unto me as you would like me to do unto you, forever stands.

OP. send upkeep money for your daughter then pay the school fees yourself. Use the remaining and find even younger slay queens on demand. you dont even need to keep them permanent. you are going to see some funny magic after this. Last last nobody has monopoly of nonsense behaviour

Cartel man...Tuale

Your way sure die

My cousin is a young single man with no children and he is trying to marry a single mother. To be honest a lot of men don’t care they’re ready to be step daddies. When the girl is fine, can cook, bedmatics, most men become blind and stupid.

chinchum:
In Naija, is where one single mother is doing yanga to her Baby daddy. She most likely will lose out so badly.

You shouldn't be going to report her to the parents. Reporting your spouse or girlfriend to the parents is like the very very last resort, like when breakup or divorce is almost imminent. If you can not resolve your issues between yourself, there is no point marrying.

In my opinion sef, she needs the relationship/marriage more than you do. If she thinks one sharp dude wants to keep a single mother, she is certainly in dream land, and it wont be long she will see reality. Having a child tends to make woman mature faster, but it appears in her case it had no effect.

ststyreal:

I am telling you. This love of a thing is so confusing. Let him neutraluse his mind but na wa for some ladies oooooo, after carrying out the traditional rite, it now dawn on her that she is no longer interested.... Well, they say a broken courtship is better than a misery marriage...

if the traditional rite has been done fully, then it's not a courtship anymore. They are married.
What they are talking about now is divorce.


Anyway, I think the op should give the girl a little space. He should allow her to enjoy whichever dị.ck she is enjoying now... Soon she go borrow sense.

pocohantas:


The word CONTROL makes me cringe and I would never understand the Nigerian man's obsession with controlling a full grown human, even to the extent of deluding himself into thinking there is ALWAYS a man controlling a woman.

There is no man born of a vagina that can CONTROL me. The highest I can give you is love and respect. If you want to control, go buy a dog. Or get a small girl like this OP did, while hoping she doesn't open eye.

Reminds me of this dude I met that was obsessed with throwing his ego everywhere. I don't know why he thought he had a job to bend me, but I am sure he learned the hard way.

Goddess dem from another planet dey this territory oh,

Everybody on the surface of this earth is controlled consciously or otherwise... Take a chill pill dear. No matter how it hurts is still true that everyone has one MUMU Button...

Are you not amazed that even to this point the OP is looking for a way to reset his own? Love can always do and undo...lol