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pansophist:
Of course. You can see how she is in harmony with everyone that agree with her post, but if you constructively challenge her submission, instead of her to respond appropriately, she will either dismiss or call you a misogynist.

Behaviours like these are exactly what will make their write up to not gain the public appeal she want it to. One must be able to defend their stance. Bravery is about how you arrived at your conclusion, not necessary the conclusion in itself.

I am grateful for your response.

The reason i decline to respond is because, i have no guarantee that it won't lead to an argument. Arguing with some males online is like pouring water in a basket. We both won't find a middle ground, and i see it as a fruitless venture and find it better to thank you and move on.

But if i could be assured that this wont lead to an e-war, then we would have that debate in a friendly and non confrontational manner

Eyeness:
I am grateful for your response.

The reason i decline to respond is because, i have no guarantee that it won't lead to an argument. Arguing with some males online is like pouring water in a basket. We both won't find a middle ground, and i see it as a fruitless venture and find it better to thank you and move on.

But if i could be assured that this wont lead to an e-war, then we would have that debate in a friendly and non confrontational manner

If it happened that you defended your position after I pointed out its inaccuracy, and later on, an unnecessary argument ensued after that, then you may have a point. So far, you're still dribbling around without actually responding to that fact that mate-guarding is not a male thing, and also, polyamory by women only works before securing a desirable male.

If you can not disprove the above submission, then you're write up is false and unfounded. And to assume every male moniker on nairaland is up for unnecessary argument is sexist.

pansophist:
If it happened that you defended your position after I pointed out its inaccuracy, and later on, an unnecessary argument ensued after that, then you may have a point. So far, you're still dribbling around without actually responding to that fact that mate-guarding is not a male thing, and also, polyamory by women only works before securing a desirable male.

If you can not disprove the above submission, then you're write up is false and unfounded. And to assume every male moniker on nairaland is up for unnecessary argument is sexist.

Your tone and language is quite confrontatational, please take note.

Mate guarding is a male thing, but do women mate guard? yes they do. But mate guarding is predominantly male behavior, remember that the woman is sure of ownership of her child, the man is not. Remember that females mate guard to get the necessary resources from the only viable male because she has been hardwired to think that monogamy is the way, but males mate guard for any female. female mate guarding doesn't really stop said male from exhibiting Bluetooth tendencies as you like to put it.

ALL IN ALL, male mate guarding is not really a bad thing if he is worth it, as i will explain on how women can take advantage of the situation in part 2.

Eyeness:
[s]Your tone and language is quite confrontatational, please take note.[/s]

Mate guarding is a male thing, but do women mate guard? yes they do. But mate guarding is predominantly male behavior, remember that the woman is sure of ownership of her child, the man is not. Remember that females mate guard to get the necessary resources from the only viable male because she has been hardwired to think that monogamy is the way, but males mate guard for any female. female mate guarding doesn't really stop said male from exhibiting Bluetooth tendencies as you like to put it.

ALL IN ALL, male mate guarding is not really a bad thing if he is worth it, as I will explain how women can take advantage of the situation in part 2.

I suspect that you are confusing the need to protect the family (which is predominantly on men) with mate-guarding. There is no such thing as one gender being predominant in mate-guarding than the other. The determining factor for a particular gender to mate-guard is if his/her partner is of high value, and he/she has a lot to lose.

Generally speaking, men mate guard when their partner is of high reproductive value and physical attractiveness, while women do the same when their partner is of high paternal value. For example, it is imperative that Chioma mate-guard Davido, as he is of high paternal value (social status, wealth, family background, he is also American, a celebrity etc), and being monogamous to him only is an indispensable way she can do that.

Furthermore, it is in the interest of a lady to be monogamous, as her attractiveness and reproductive value decrease with time. Her pool of men queuing to be in relationship with her also decreases with time. This is not a matter of brainwashing, but a matter of fact and observable reality. Also, male mate-guarding doesnt actually stop women from exhibiting their wifi tendencies either, as it is not a new phenomena that women usually jilt their partner to clinge unto other men they perceive to be better quality, just as men also dump their old wife for a younger one. Be objective.

pansophist:
I suspect that you are confusing the need to protect the family (which is predominantly on men) with mate-guarding. There is no such thing as one gender being predominant in mate-guarding than the other. The determining factor for a particular gender to mate-guard is if his/her partner is of high value, and he/she has a lot to lose.

Generally speaking, men mate guard when their partner is of high reproductive value and physical attractiveness, while women do the same when their partner is of high paternal value. For example, it is imperative that Chioma mate-guard Davido, as he is of high paternal value (social status, wealth, family background, he is also American, a celebrity etc), and being monogamous to him only is an indispensable way she can do that.

Furthermore, it is in the interest of a lady to be monogamous, as her attractiveness and reproductive value decrease with time. Her pool of men queuing to be in relationship with her also decreases with time. This is not a matter of brainwashing, but a matter of fact and observable reality. Also, male mate-guarding doesn't actually stop women from exhibiting their wifi tendencies either, as it is not a new phenomena that women usually jilt their partner to clinge unto other men they perceive to be better quality, just as men also dump their old wife for a younger one. Be objective.

it is not in the interest of ladies to be monogamous, just like it is not in the interest of anyone to have one stream of income.

Men mate guard with a woman they have interest in, a woman who has a chance of passing their genes on. As for the case of chioma and davido, she might mate guard him, but she will soon burnout trying to cuckhold a man, why can't David's be like Mike of BBN. I will always say it that davido is not monogamy material, or quality husband material, but he is better off than wizkid.

THE FACT THAT ONLY WOMEN HAVE A LIMITED REPRODUCTIVE CAREER IS A MYTH. the saying that men age like fine wine and women like milk is also a lie. what is not a myth however, is andropause.

THIS IS ALSO WHY I DON'T LIKE ARGUING WITH KEYBOARD WARRIORS LIKE YOU, YOU USE THE SAME TACTIC OF BELITTLING MY OPINION TO SEEM RIGHT AND BOOST YOUR EGO. I will not fall for it

Eyeness:
it is not in the interest of ladies to be monogamous, just like it is not in the interest of anyone to have one stream of income.

You're actually fooling no one with your tactical reiteration of how you are avoiding arguement, or calling me a keybroad warrior. To me, it seems no more than a shield to prevent your submission from been scrutinised and disproved.

It is in the interest of everyone and society to be monogamous, as otherwise is a danger to oneself and society as a whole. There is no single, progressive, democratic society in the history of man that valued polygamy, and for a good reason. Of course some individuals may deviate from this rule, but on a massive scale, it hurts society.

You can do yourself a favour by stop responding, but if you choose to say nonsense and expect to be given a free pass, you are better off not write anything.

Eyeness:
it is not in the interest of ladies to be monogamous, just like it is not in the interest of anyone to have one stream of income.

Men mate guard with a woman they have interest in, a woman who has a chance of passing their genes on. As for the case of chioma and davido, she might mate guard him, but she will soon burnout trying to cuckhold a man, why can't David's be like Mike of BBN. I will always say it that davido is not monogamy material, or quality husband material, but he is better off than wizkid.

THE FACT THAT ONLY WOMEN HAVE A LIMITED REPRODUCTIVE CAREER IS A MYTH. the saying that men age like fine wine and women like milk is also a lie. what is not a myth however, is andropause.

THIS IS ALSO WHY I DON'T LIKE ARGUING WITH KEYBOARD WARRIORS LIKE YOU, YOU USE THE SAME TACTIC OF BELITTLING MY OPINION TO SEEM RIGHT AND BOOST YOUR EGO. I will not fall for it

the word is Cuckold. And you don't have the faintest clue what it means.

liquidfaya:
the word is Cuckold. And you don't have the faintest clue what it means.

the correction has been duly noted. .

pansophist:
You're actually fooling no one with your tactical reiteration of how you are avoiding arguement, or calling me a keybroad warrior. To me, it seems no more than a shield to prevent yourself submission from been scrutinised and disproved.

It is in the interest of everyone and society to be monogamous, as otherwise is a danger to oneself and society as a whole. There is no single, progressive, democratic society in the history of man that valued polygamy, and for a good reason. Of course some individuals may deviate from this rule, but on a massive scale, it hurts society.

You can do yourself a favour by stop responding, but if you choose to say nonsense and expect to be given a free pass, you are better off not write anything.

when ubunja was encouraging you all to pump and dump, no man thought that monogamy was in his best interest. You were all worshipping his feet and kissing his ass. The irony off it all, LOL

pansophist, The world does not revolve round your opinion, no matter how you set out to make mine seem irrelevant.

you are not my target audience, but you can enjoy the article and move on. I am disengaging from further conversation with you as it is quite fruitless and I value my time.

How is abusing females mate guarding?
Mate guarding has to do with protecting a potential partner from a competitor
mate guarding is simply jealousy.
Both male and female mate guard..

lilwetdick:
How is abusing females mate guarding?

Mate guarding has to do with protecting a potential partner from a competitor

mate guarding is simply jealousy.

Both male and female mate guard..

yes it is jealousy, but let's ask ourselves, what kind of men get jealous?

1. insecure men(with egos of all shapes and sizes)
2. A man who realizes that he has a great woman.

A little jealousy is healthy in a relationship, but some of these insecure manchildren resort to covert bullying tactics to keep a woman.

Eyeness:
Growing up, we are taught to think that men are polygamous in nature, they are hirdwired to want as many partners as possible thereby entitled and prone to infidelity. Meanwhile women are hotwired to be monogamous and to have one mate for most of her reproductive career. Are women really monogamous?

Contrary to popular belief, it is unlikely that women are monogamous. In a scientific study, it was found that female primate species were naturally opportunistic , mating with as many males as possible to secure more resources for her and her children and purposely confuse paternity. .This was because females lived longer than males and needed more resources to take care of her offspring, especially as carrying young affects one's productivity.

Nature has made it so that males are to compete for the right to reproduce so that only strong genes make it to the next generation. Billions of sperm compete fiercely to fertilise one egg. But a large responsibility of rearing young lands of the female. Child rearing is capital intensive so both male and females had to adapt. females by poly amory, getting resources from many men, not by monogamy.

Since females were not monogamous, males had to resort to what we call mate-guarding in order to ensure they had reproductive rights to a female and be sure of paternity of her offspring. Mate guarding is the physical guarding of a female in order to deny rival males the opportunity to mate with her and is one of the most commonly used defensive strategies observed in mammals. Take note this is very important because :ALL MALES ARE HARDWIRED TO MATE GUARD.

Some male species like chimpanzees have resorted to abusive tactics to mate guard, but human men have taken it up a notch through the use of misogyny. Let's use romanceland as an example, it is filled with more men than women, more misogynistic men are opening female bashing threads, these are the same men that will later slide into your DMs and when they receive a non favorable response, resort to bashing you online to make you less attractive to other men. Has it clicked yet?keep reading

Mate guarding tactics like misogyny, among others,lessens the burden of male mate competition. Why? Because it is easy to bully a woman into submission and cripple her ability to be independent of men in society, than it is to fight off other men. Ever notice how men who beat women can't fight other men? Or reduces his violent frequencies when other men come to her aid and beat him up? Same thing.

Encouraging monogamy and dependence in females, decreases infighting in males and increases infighting in females. Instead of men competing for women, women have to compete for valuable resources from a single valuable male. This role reversal allows men to have the advantage by having ownership a single woman and giving him more time to pursue others instead of fighting off potential rivals. Marriage benefits men a lot more than they want you to believe.

This is why the concept of a 'gold digger' or a 'ho' is demonized by men in society today. It twarts male control over natural opportunitistic female mating patterns.

Ever noticed that 'hoes' and 'golddiggers' end up with successful partners, because these women know how to seize opportunities and trigger the male mate guarding instinct.

Wanna know how to use mate guarding to your advantage in dating ? Anticipate in part 2.
Amatarasha
rehkina
funmmyastic
blackivy27
lefulefu
Ubunja
Martinez29
airforce1
safiaa
pocohantas
adabieku
husbandsnatcha
pettyprincess
funmisticqueen
AstroG
dairykidd

Your Profile says "I am the prize", prizes dont have longevity.

Eyeness:
Growing up, we are taught to think that men are polygamous in nature, they are hirdwired to want as many partners as possible thereby entitled and prone to infidelity. Meanwhile women are hotwired to be monogamous and to have one mate for most of her reproductive career. Are women really monogamous?

Contrary to popular belief, it is unlikely that women are monogamous. In a scientific study, it was found that female primate species were naturally opportunistic , mating with as many males as possible to secure more resources for her and her children and purposely confuse paternity. .This was because females lived longer than males and needed more resources to take care of her offspring, especially as carrying young affects one's productivity.

Nature has made it so that males are to compete for the right to reproduce so that only strong genes make it to the next generation. Billions of sperm compete fiercely to fertilise one egg. But a large responsibility of rearing young lands of the female. Child rearing is capital intensive so both male and females had to adapt. females by poly amory, getting resources from many men, not by monogamy.

Since females were not monogamous, males had to resort to what we call mate-guarding in order to ensure they had reproductive rights to a female and be sure of paternity of her offspring. Mate guarding is the physical guarding of a female in order to deny rival males the opportunity to mate with her and is one of the most commonly used defensive strategies observed in mammals. Take note this is very important because :ALL MALES ARE HARDWIRED TO MATE GUARD.

Some male species like chimpanzees have resorted to abusive tactics to mate guard, but human men have taken it up a notch through the use of misogyny. Let's use romanceland as an example, it is filled with more men than women, more misogynistic men are opening female bashing threads, these are the same men that will later slide into your DMs and when they receive a non favorable response, resort to bashing you online to make you less attractive to other men. Has it clicked yet?keep reading

Mate guarding tactics like misogyny, among others,lessens the burden of male mate competition. Why? Because it is easy to bully a woman into submission and cripple her ability to be independent of men in society, than it is to fight off other men. Ever notice how men who beat women can't fight other men? Or reduces his violent frequencies when other men come to her aid and beat him up? Same thing.

Encouraging monogamy and dependence in females, decreases infighting in males and increases infighting in females. Instead of men competing for women, women have to compete for valuable resources from a single valuable male. This role reversal allows men to have the advantage by having ownership a single woman and giving him more time to pursue others instead of fighting off potential rivals. Marriage benefits men a lot more than they want you to believe.

This is why the concept of a 'gold digger' or a 'ho' is demonized by men in society today. It twarts male control over natural opportunitistic female mating patterns.

Ever noticed that 'hoes' and 'golddiggers' end up with successful partners, because these women know how to seize opportunities and trigger the male mate guarding instinct.

Wanna know how to use mate guarding to your advantage in dating ? Anticipate in part 2.
Amatarasha
rehkina
funmmyastic
blackivy27
lefulefu
Ubunja
Martinez29
airforce1
safiaa
pocohantas
adabieku
husbandsnatcha
pettyprincess
funmisticqueen
AstroG
dairykidd

True, but how many of them lived happily ever after?

pryme:
Your Profile says "I am the prize", prizes dont have longevity.

Then you must be very bad at keeping valuable stuff.

pryme:
True, but how many of them lived happily ever after?

Some actually, remember that men stand to benefit more from marriages than women.

Eyeness:
yes it is jealousy, but let's ask ourselves, what kind of men get jealous?

1. insecure men(with egos of all shapes and sizes)
2. A man who realizes that he has a great woman.

A little jealousy is healthy in a relationship, but some of these insecure manchildren resort to covert bullying tactics to keep a woman.

but every human get jealous about the person they are fucking..it is a normal territorial behavior of men and women

i have seen women beat up another woman for just saying hii to the men they are fucking or trying to fight the man for just talking another woman

i think women are more territorial than men

women mate guard her mate against other women and also against his single friends

but you spoke about misogyny on nairaland and you wrote

more misogynistic men are opening female bashing threads, these are the same men that will later slide into your DMs and when they receive a non favorable response, resort to bashing you online to make you less attractive to other men.

bashing females on nairaland doesnt necessarily mean misogyny and doesnt necessary stop a potential man from communicating with the victim

people here on nairaland bash each other daily, it is normal, except you have taken t personally, if a guy bash you, bash the guy back, it is called standing up for yourself.

Eyeness:
Some actually, remember that men stand to benefit more from marriages than women.

what exactly does a man benefit from marriage?

liquidfaya:
what exactly does a man benefit from marriage?

you tell me.

who is more miserable between married men and women?

which gender asks for marital advice more?

which gender is more likely to ask for divorce?

Eyeness:
you tell me.

who is more miserable between married men and women?

which gender asks for marital advice more?

which gender is more likely to ask for divorce?

guess expecting a straight answer was too much.

have a fun night baby girl.

liquidfaya:
guess expecting a straight answer was too much.

have a fun night baby girl.

yes, expecting the normal response of arguing with someone who has made up his mind that the opinions of females are beneath his, is expecting too much.

What i am sure you didn't bargain for is a woman not desperate enough to engage in a typing match, won't fall into that trap. Have a good night dear

Eyeness:
misogyny and mate guarding has started. i will not argue, for it is not my way. thanks for your input dear

As usual, dishing out the misogyny when someone says what you don't like.

Never in the history of Nairaland have I seen such a great gathering of hopeless misandrists.



Somebody, help these ladies. Give them a faithful boyfriend each. Let’s quench the rage in their stony hearts.

AfroKnight:
Never in the history of Nairaland have I seen such a great gathering of hopeless misandrists.



Somebody, help these ladies. Give them a faithful boyfriend each. Let’s quench the rage in their stony hearts.

if the niggas are mad enough to send prayers my way , then let me congratulate myself for a job well done.

it isn't everyday a man prays

Eyeness:
if the niggas are mad enough to send prayers my way , then let me congratulate myself for a job well done.

it isn't everyday a man prays

Who’s praying for you? I’m prescribing medication for whatever ails you and your cohorts.

AfroKnight:
Who’s praying for you? I’m prescribing medication for whatever ails you and your cohorts.

medication from a quack with STD infected dick? I'll rather take from doctor funmisticqueen

Eyeness:
medication from a quack with STD infected dick? I'll rather take from doctor funmisticqueen

Same dick you just can’t but twerk on all day, moaning and singing off key to your heart’s content? Yeah, I understand you miss the action.

Why are you calling on your friend? Want a party? Not sure I swing that way anymore.

Eyeness:
medication from a quack with STD infected dick? I'll rather take from doctor funmisticqueen

lol, don't drag me in your matter o.

Carry on Jared and pepper dem

AfroKnight:
Same dick you just can’t but twerk on all day, moaning and singing off key to your heart’s content? Yeah, I understand you miss the action.

Why are you calling on your friend? Want a party? Not sure I swing that way anymore.

pervert

AfroKnight:
Same dick you just can’t but twerk on all day, moaning and singing off key to your heart’s content? Yeah, I understand you miss the action.

Why are you calling on your friend? Want a party? Not sure I swing that way anymore.

i dont do micropenises

funmisticqueen:
pervert

Hush! Don’t call your boyfriend’s name in public like that. Have you no manners?

Eyeness:
i dont do micropenises

Somehow you can see that from whatever hole you crawled out of, this morning.

Girl, you have no idea. (I could say that literally and still be spot on!)

Luckily for me, I don’t do bimbos. Better luck next time.

Eyeness:
Then you must be very bad at keeping valuable stuff.

You are better than a valuable "stuff".
Do some soul searching, I believe you need it.