Lamanii22:
I am a Christian.. But I find it hard to believe God would choose a spouse for someone...

There's an uncle of mine who believes God would choose a spouse for someone... God has led him to like 4 different ladies... Not four at once oo.. It's one by one.. But they all turned him down.. Since then I stopped believing God would choose a spouse for me...

God doesn't, but the same bible asks us to commit our ways into the Lord's hand. After Adam blamed God for giving him eve, God has stopped that match making thing. Those he later played a part in who dey marry, samson and hosea, it was for reason/proverb.
Marry someone you love and respect, no one is perfect, hence why we have pastors getting divorced, pastor "wilson-ing' ladies. Some married who they don't love and who they are not attracted to on the premise of "God said". God cannot be mocked, we should pray and commit all our "ways" into the Lord's hand, not asking him who should marry specifically, he doesn't choose our spouse for us. I'm so sure bout that

BULLIONVAN4:
Since i know my mum and dad, my dad has never in his life raised his voice/hands on my mum and vice versa. not that they dont have issues but they always find a way to resolve it together.

Oga, that your story is so flawed. The thing is
1. Your dad and mom both have patience
2. They understand each other
3. They respect each other.

I've people, alot that they both confirmed that "God" led them to eachother, even external claimed their marriage is made from heaven, but are divorced now, explain that. Please don't tell me a different God spoke to your dad o

psalmuelwater:

Oga, that your story is so flawed. The thing is
1. Your dad and mom both have patience
2. They understand each other
3. They respect each other.

I've people, alot that they both confirmed that "God" led them to eachother, even external claimed their marriage is made from heaven, but are divorced now, explain that. Please don't tell me a different God spoke to your dad o

Lol, Even though I sense a bit of close mindedness in you I will still give this a shot. Yes God direct people to one another and at the same time gives permissible will (sometimes let people marry their will) It all depends on his level of interest. I'm not saying God doesn't have interest in all souls, every soul is important but he has special interest in some people ( most times his vessels, battle axes and warriors) These people God will monitor and direct everything about them especially their marriages. God will tell them who to marry because their marriage is important in his mission for them. So don't be surprised or unbelieving when you hear some people say God chose for them.

Now to your question, Obeying God in choosing a life partner does not mean the marriage will be rosy, likewise hearing from God does not prove spiritual maturity and total faith and obedience to God. These sets of people you mentioned heard from God but do not have the faith in him to obey in totality. The major purpose of God's acknowledgement to his children's marriages is not to protect or prevent challenges in marriages but to be the end to such challenges. To be the one to cry to when things get tough. Now if these children decide to use their own human knowledge and go their separate ways, how can you blame God? He is ever present and ready to help but they (humans) refused to call. How is it his fault?


That said, can one really be certain of these God spoke to me claims? Man, know thyself!

Ariza:
Amen.

Yes please.

Okay.. Is there anything like God's will for someone regarding marriage? Cause I'm in a relationship.. And we love each other.. Do I need to pray about him.. Or we just continue... Cause we can't just leave each other... Y'knw if God says no or something... Like I'm kinda scared, I want my marriage to be very alright... I don't wanna go wrong..
..

Lamanii22:



Okay.. Is there anything like God's will for someone regarding marriage? Cause I'm in a relationship.. And we love each other.. Do I need to pray about him.. Or we just continue... Cause we can't just leave each other... Y'knw if God says no or something... Like I'm kinda scared, I want my marriage to be very alright... I don't wanna go wrong..
..

Yes there is. But first I need to ask do you have a relationship with God? Because that is the most important relationship a being ought to be in. We all will die and give account with no relations or spouse beside us.It is solely personal! and it would be a shame if our earthly relationships prevent us from entering in to the kingdom of God because we value it more. Please put God first.

Now, about praying about it. God is not a wicked God, he will never give you a cross too had for you to bear. He knows you , even to your emotional capability. If you pray and he says No, it's because he knows you will be able to detach yourself and survive it and he has bigger plans.
But if he says go ahead it's because there is no danger in the relationship.

But then I will besiege you to move closer to him because he is the revealer of all things and he knows best.

psalmuelwater:

Oga, that your story is so flawed. The thing is
1. Your dad and mom both have patience
2. They understand each other
3. They respect each other.

I've people, alot that they both confirmed that "God" led them to eachother, even external claimed their marriage is made from heaven, but are divorced now, explain that. Please don't tell me a different God spoke to your dad o

i've not been born when the story happened(which happened over 32yrs ago. 1984 precisely), so i don't know what to explain to you.

Lamanii22:



He said it is the holyspirit... He is actually the one that actually preached about Christ to me.. I was actually a Muslim... This my said uncle is full of faith.... He is even a minister of God...

See, let me tell you something, God is not the God of confusion truly. He is true to His words. It's possible the women turn your uncle down because alot of people don't want to do the will of God. There's will of God and there's will of man. When God directs your uncle, does not mean the woman will accept, you knw some people are just meant for destruction no matter how u try to save them, they might have told the 4 women ur uncle met as well. God will tell your uncle to meet the first woman, that He has a hand in the marriage and the woman may reject because maybe ur uncle doesn't have money or not good looking enough and even if another pastor had told her before, she may say, she will rather remain single than to marry ur uncle etc. let me tell you to watch the marriage lives of those women closely, it will be tougher for them all if truly the Holy spirit instructed ur uncle.

OLUWABIG:
i have to agree most spirit filled ppl reason the same way

Maybe because all utterances are from one source (Holy spirit)

Ariza:
Yes there is. But first I need to ask do you have a relationship with God? Because that is the most important relationship a being ought to be in. We all will die and give account with no relations or spouse beside us.It is solely personal! and it would be a shame if our earthly relationships prevent us from entering in to the kingdom of God because we value it more. Please put God first.

Now, about praying about it. God is not a wicked God, he will never give you a cross too had for you to bear. He knows you , even to your emotional capability. If you pray and he says No, it's because he knows you will be able to detach yourself and survive it and he has bigger plans.
But if he says go ahead it's because there is no danger in the relationship.

But then I will besiege you to move closer to him because he is the revealer of all things and he knows best.

Hmmmm... Oh dear God help me... Thank you so much.. I really appreciate you hun...

Lamanii22:




Hmmmm... Oh dear God help me... Thank you so much.. I really appreciate you hun...

You are welcome.

May God help us all.

psalmuelwater:

God doesn't, but the same bible asks us to commit our ways into the Lord's hand. After Adam blamed God for giving him eve, God has stopped that match making thing. Those he later played a part in who dey marry, samson and hosea, it was for reason/proverb.
Marry someone you love and respect, no one is perfect, hence why we have pastors getting divorced, pastor "wilson-ing' ladies. Some married who they don't love and who they are not attracted to on the premise of "God said". God cannot be mocked, we should pray and commit all our "ways" into the Lord's hand, not asking him who should marry specifically, he doesn't choose our spouse for us. I'm so sure bout that

gbam!

Lamanii22:




Hmmmm... Oh dear God help me... Thank you so much.. I really appreciate you hun...

I followed your question as well as the answer you got - Good answer.
Don't be scared about the future. Just do what you are suppose to do and you will be fine.

Understand that the will of God for you in marriage is very simple. God is very clear about it. If you are in doubt, consult the Holy Bible.

Make no mistake about it. Don't Mary an unbeliever.
Mary A True Believer. Someone that knows God and have the fear of God.
This is the ground on which you must build your marriage and be happy. Otherwise......

lefulefu:
gbam!

Another gbam!!

Your Mother

BULLIONVAN4:
God ofcourse., so that when your lifepartner/wife misbehaves, you have to channels your blame to God but when you follow your heart, if anything happens, you'll not have someone to blame but yourself. that is why most marriages don't last because they choose as directed by their flesh.

BULLIONVAN4:
when God choose for you, you have nothing to worry about., my immediate elder brother got married to a wrong woman, who almost destroyed our family. and my mother being a prayerwarrior, went to God in prayer( while she was praying) the lord to her that my brother did not consult him(God) when he was about making the ones-in-a-lifetime decision meanwhile my dad told us how a wrong woman almost destroyed his life in lagos, he went to God in prayer(while he was praying) he had a clear voice ordering him to go and get a wife from his home town that he(God) has prepared a wife for him., he quickly boarded the next available transport, on getting to his compound, he saw my mum standing before his compound(mind you that they have never met each other for the first time in their life) and my dad was like "who are you, young lady?" he said that the reply my mum gave to him was "wh.......to be continued.

You should write on this kind of topic alreadt

BULLIONVAN4:
...he said that the reply my mum gave to him was "while i was going back home, i missed my way to our house and i was looking for someone to lead/direct me home" my dad replied "is that all?" "is that why a beautiful girl like you should be standing?" she replied "yes that she doesn't want to get lost" the my dad later interviewed her and lead her home. my father not knowing it was an arrangement by God went back to lagos telling God that he was not true to his words(meaning, i didnt see any wife you said you prepared for me). he said God told him again that she lead his wife home the other day so on that account that my dad realised that God systematically lead him to the family house of the young girl(my mum) and he ask God for forgiveness for being ignorand meanwhile other woman had picked race for no just cause( according to her,the heat was too much that she couldnt bear the it)

This is deep... Do you think this phenomenon is still talked about in 21st century?? May be faith is changing with civilization and wokeness, you know

midnighter:
God chooses but you'll use your head to understand what He is trying to tell you

Just like any other aspect of life

Elaborate on this please

BULLIONVAN4:
i've not been born when the story happened(which happened over 32yrs ago. 1984 precisely), so i don't know what to explain to you.

Ariza:
Lol, Even though I sense a bit of close mindedness in you I will still give this a shot. Yes God direct people to one another and at the same time gives permissible will (sometimes let people marry their will) It all depends on his level of interest. I'm not saying God doesn't have interest in all souls, every soul is important but he has special interest in some people ( most times his vessels, battle axes and warriors) These people God will monitor and direct everything about them especially their marriages. God will tell them who to marry because their marriage is important in his mission for them. So don't be surprised or unbelieving when you hear some people say God chose for them.

Now to your question, Obeying God in choosing a life partner does not mean the marriage will be rosy, likewise hearing from God does not prove spiritual maturity and total faith and obedience to God. These sets of people you mentioned heard from God but do not have the faith in him to obey in totality. The major purpose of God's acknowledgement to his children's marriages is not to protect or prevent challenges in marriages but to be the end to such challenges. To be the one to cry to when things get tough. Now if these children decide to use their own human knowledge and go their separate ways, how can you blame God? He is ever present and ready to help but they (humans) refused to call. How is it his fault?


That said, can one really be certain of these God spoke to me claims? Man, know thyself!

I will want you to substantiate your epistle with bible verses. After the garden of eden event, I repeat , God stopped giving spouses. Did Adam searched before getting eve? No. She was just there waiting. But now, the bible says, he who "finds" a good wife, obtains favour from the Lord. Now, he who finds the opposite nko? Obtains fire be that. We are suppose to find our wives, i mean make research and do alot of background check. God will bless any marriage irrespective of who you bring to the altar, except gays. It is our responsibility to make it work. Imagine how irresponsible adam was? He couldn't speak like a man, he couldn't defend his home, he hung his wife to dry, and a simple question, he blamed God for giving him an helpmate.
The bible is clear about who we have to marry, and if we follow those guidelines we can never be wrong.
If she is a believer and loves God, and you two keep the bed undefiled, and you understand amos 3:3, and you have a Job/business to cater for your home. I think you are good to go.

Pray, i've not said don't pray, some things are spiritual in each families you are intending to get married to, If you are a true child of God, something will just have that you two won't get married, that is why courtship period is a period to research, learn and pray.

Alot of you proponents of "God says" can't and will never marry God's will for our life.
If God tells you to marry a blind/crippled woman, i'm sure you'll change it , that the realm is polluted with different voices. Everyone wants a beautiful, elegant, nice ,sexy lady as wife.

That is why he gave us eyes, and asked us to find, that we should check well before bringing them to the altar, because once he blesses the Union, he hates divorce.

Or come to think of it, if your fiancee dies a few days before the wedding and you heard it from God loud and clear, will you remain single for the rest of your life, or God has immediately created another wife for you that you'll later get married to? Or maybe we have spare spouses incase something happens

Think about it very well, God doesn't have to tell you marry this or that

eni4real:
This is deep... Do you think this phenomenon is still talked about in 21st century?? May be faith is changing with civilization and wokeness, you know

Yeah my brother, it happened btwn 1983-1984, i think dats a long time and a lot have changed.

eni4real:
Elaborate on this please

Hmmm..let me ruminate on it

God speaks only if u are rooted to him.. A Christian bro or sis that is busy doing God's work will never miss it in marriage.. That's why I advise guys to marry from the church if u know u r an outdoor person.. A prayerful woman is better than a rich lady/beautiful lady if you consider the future

midnighter:


Hmmm..let me ruminate on it

Lolz

OkongwuTochukwu:
Choose who you love. That is because god is the one who chooses the target of your love for you.

Just as we choose because he first chose us.

Deep.

God can not lie, after the event that took place in the garden of Eden God sworn that he will not chose wife or husband for any body you will make your choice but it now left for you to commit it to God and ask for wisdom there most always be a sign just be Sensitive in the spirit