livinbygrace:


[s]Na grammar you still dey blow,by the time you enter 40 you go understand[/s]

Lemme know when you're 15.

lilwetdick:


ok.. but she also bought for you

anyway up to you, as they said the nice guys always get the bad girl when she wanna settle down

age is not in her side, she wants to settle down thus all these open up stories, so that you will pity her and carry her along

anyway, every man for himself, if i was in your shoe i wouldnt accept her, i have standards and i cant be comfortable with a woman with lot of body count and abortion reason is many women with lot of body count have issues, issues you cant solve, issues of bonding with their future partner, also potential std and sti. that is just my opinion

it is up to you.

So if u were in his shoes and she didn't open up to u, Las Las u go still marry her like Dat.... So what's the big deal in opening up.

Babe is busy taking multiple inches to support you and you're here telling her story.

Bro wise up, she's helping try to help her by ending up well with her.

Bye Bye

.

So many people dogged her already, and a v dogged can not be undogged

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

are you for real??

something is fishy...

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

Ah 20 I say.... I give up, still it's up to u

livinbygrace:


Una still be small pikin .Which girl no dey do runs dis days?U go wait tire,mafybe na mumu you dey find sha

leave all these mumu for nairaland make den dey speak useless english,the stark reality is where you go find girl wey no dey into tricks these days....na tricks me i dey call am,the pressure from the male sex,the fast moving society abi na the natural human urge to compete with fellow humans as per material things in which you need money to buy them.lets stop judging these girls because we are all involved,abi who dey sleep with these girls wey dey turn to pregnancy,no be men?

BarrElChapo:
1. Do you think timing dint consult with a lot of persons before marrying his wife after those revelations
2. Do you honestly feel that he didn't have sleepless nights, doubts etc.
3. Do you honestly think when he was told rape he didn't maybe think he was being lied to ?
Everyone deserves a second chance in life, even the OP has endorsed abortions in the past, which means there's a girl out there whom he has put in this same position as his current girlfriend.
Life isn't set on stone.. It changes

some people don't even get a first chance, forget the second. It is the most seemingly undeserving that get second chances, while the rest of us are called names for things beyond our helping.

The OP's babe is another one that gets away with it. She will marry, and nobody will call her LovePeddler, nobody will call her evening newspaper, nobody will use all sorts of denigratong words on her because she is Mrs. Somebody, do you know who those words will be saved for? The people who bothered to have moral standards and refused to bend to the wills of the world

Some people only need one chance, and they're not getting it.

BatleFox:



I had one like yours. An accountant and fashion designer I wanted to marry. Met her in Port Harcourt. Her story was like your babe's but just only one abortion, hence her big hips. She sounded more like my bank account wasmore special to her than me so I walked. She was extremly lovely and well endowed.

The thing to understand is you girl has seen a future with you and knows that if she keeps quiet about her past and you later find out it may ruin things. What you have there si a loyal babe that has placed herself at your feet. Feel free to dump her and go and marry a virgin that will tear your life wide open.


Eh, RedCreme21, how far? You dey see my level so? And you never even enter universty.

I got married a virgin, 5 years ago and even though I can be short tempered, I didn't tear my hubby's life wide opened, and I have never been tempted to cheat one bit on my partner......I'm still grateful for keeping the cherry for that brother..

Here the matter is tricky and straightforward hmmmm, I read a comment stating reverse psychology that you didn't deserve her hmmmm ladies they know wella how to play the game, though she may regret her past and God is most Forgiven, don't let me say anything regarding her past because it will never be Forgetten by her,

PROS OF HER ACTION

You will build more trust with her since she confess to you without you asking.

If she truly regretted her past she will likely to be more of wife material.

CONS

Does she going to be able to forget all of her past easily?
as a man you yourself will always remember some ladies you already dated before.

You are already in bondage love emotional, because you can't react to her mistakes any how because she told you her past, you will not like to treat her with that she confess to you, but you need to discipline her at the same time that's tricky.

What guaranteed you that she won't go back in your absence? You already lost the sence of trust in that part even if she dosn't. Dealing with a lady with multiple body count is hard to satisfy sexually because you can't have the power of those mens.

Here my intake pray and ask people of knowledge around you that you trust so you won't kill yourself with thinking

As a mentally upright guy use your head as well

Sometimes they do pretend when they enter finish after marriage hmmmm you may see fire.

I pray God guide you.

edimolu3:
You mean your gf is a hôe with a good heart?, like she's a bonafide member on instamessage and codedruns?

I'm sure many comrades in the beer parlour must have done quite a number on her.

my guy u are funny, which of the bonafide member group

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

If she can confess to you, she really loves you and wants to change. No girl will open up about something like that if they are still doing it.

Pataricatering:
D only reason I would advise her not to marry her is because she is foolish ! I don’t even understand how someone would think her past sexual exploits are her boyfriends business when she most likely can’t hold his against him - all these pick me babes with no sense .

Na them o

past also reflect in future.....if you marry her and an argument occurs, no arguable, you will still use her past to abuse her......please dont marry her in other to save your marriage...you will always remember her past and one day, you will spit it out to her ears and that would affect ur marriage. you can wife her if you can control your emotion.

kay29000:


If she can confess to you, she really loves you and wants to change. No girl will open up about something like that if they are still doing it.

Story

UnknownQueen:


So if u were in his shoes and she didn't open up to u, Las Las u go still marry her like Dat.... So what's the big deal in opening up.

at the end of the day, she has to talk about her past, very important for meaningful relationship

BotafogoJunior:
leave all these mumu for nairaland make den dey speak useless english,the stark reality is where you go find girl wey no dey into tricks these days....na tricks me i dey call am,the pressure from the male sex,the fast moving society abi na the natural human urge to compete with fellow humans as per material things in which you need money to buy them.lets stop judging these girls because we are all involved,abi who dey sleep with these girls wey dey turn to pregnancy,no be men?

I no dey do anything, nobody dey find me. You get what you're looking for, that's all

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

20yrs is not young for a woman. Meanwhile, that girl's only sin is that she opened up to you

kay29000:


If she can confess to you, she really loves you and wants to change. No girl will open up about something like that if they are still doing it.

story for the gods

BarrElChapo:
Unfortunately you must be quite unexposed with this your one sided views of life. I was once like you but I'm better.. you'd grow up hopefully but if you don't well I'd pity............

You were not once like me and I can't be you!

This just a discussion that has to do with setting the records straight about choice and consequences, forgiveness and justice ..

Until we learn to understand that choice have consequences and life must must bad behaviors we won't live our lives well,
Besides until we also understand that forgiveness cannot erase justice , we will keep living as hypocrites.

What makes you think the lady in question is not trying to manipulate the young man into accepting what might end up ruining him !

Anyways .. It's nice engaging you .
Cheers bro.. No homo

andycom:


and 32 people liked this trash of a comment, so none of you could comprehend what the op was actually saying? haba, educated illiterates

because when i write they have to like it

Most Nigerians have lost sense with decency
I'm not judging anyone but OP it's your choice to make,your problem
We've devalued decency and abstinence we're now taking it as a norm and we should now be grateful it's coming with honesty's package
Failed Parenting is all I see here,on both sides,why should a guy or a lady have numerous body counts before Marriage, is sex all there is to life?
What's the rubbish about sef
Everybody now have a Cockroach in their cupboard
We're not wise at all
At all,we've lost it upstairs, is this not the reason why rape is now rampant
We've lost it,call a spade a spade and please let's teach the next generation the value of decency,if it was put in place we won't need soo many pity parties

UnknownQueen:



I got married a virgin, 5 years ago and even though I can be short tempered, I didn't tear my hubby's life wide opened, and I have never been tempted to cheat one bit on my partner......I'm still grateful for keeping the cherry for that brother..

I also pray to get married to a virgin. I have never touched any ones daughter and hope.mine.is somewhere left untouched.

Lost interest in a near relationship because I found out she wasn't a virgin and wasn't interested in secondary virginty.

I can't just wrap my head around getting married to someone that has had multiple or a single partner, I just can't.

horpigee1:
past also reflect in future.....if you marry her and an argument occurs, no arguable, you will still use her past to abuse her......please dont marry her in other to save your marriage...you will always remember her past and one day, you will spit it out to her ears and that would affect ur marriage. you can wife her if you can control your emotion.

If possible I can like your comment more than one I will

In Situation like this the man needs to be strong mindly because for you not to bring her past to treat her its require a great strong heart nd again PAST REFLECT FUTURE

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Ideally, no woman should sleep around with multiple men for whatever reason.The fact that she is coming out to you now means she value the relationship and she would not want things to go awry if eventually you two ended up as a married couple. Also, the fact that you are here to seek public opinion means large part of you want to continue with the relationship. Don't get carried away with her generousity neither should you allow her good look becloud your judgement, you should make sure your knowledge of her past will not affect your perception of her future dispositions. It's her PAST.

IF you are sure she is telling the whole TRUTH, please give her a second chance.

lilwetdick:


20 years old girl with 2 abortion and lot of body count.... it seems you are with a hoe

better go find yourself a good girl...anyway it is up to you.i personally cant cope with her.

Lol. You are wicked o. She could have had those two abortions for one guy na...do you know how easy it is for some girls to conceive? I have a young friend of 21, the first time she had sex with her boyfriend he couldn't penetrate her, so he decided to go raw. He hadn't even enter fully before he pulled out and came. But sperm don enter already and she got pregnant...imagine that case. Also, her saying she has so many bodycount is relative..it might just be a bodycount of 8

safarigirl:
Story

Even you safarigurl?

you don't need anyone opinion to make your stand Mr man


I have friends that said they don't want a virgin lady as wife because of blood bla bla and me personally cannot marry any lady with already open vagina


this life is a choice. just follow your heart but I reserve my comment in extension

Clean2016:



Meet a good girl who will keep quiet and deal with you under your nose. Are you a good man also? How do you know a good girl?

all these your emotions and pity will put up in the wrong side of the deal, if you have standards you wont be writing this nonsense

a 20 years old already committed 2 abortions and slept with lot of men for cash, so you think, this woman can bond with a man

lets wait till she spit out more nonsense.

all these are just setup trap for the guy to fall in

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

I don't understand. Is it after marriage she should talk about it? At least this girl is up front and honest you are opening your dirty mouth to complain here. If she waited till after marriage to tell you, you will still come to nairalnland to yan dust about why she waited till after. Nonsense