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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Mrsserene: 6:10pm On Nov 07, 2019
You may not believe it but Marriage actually brings blessings to one's life. Especially if you married for God's sake.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by momove4real25(f): 6:12pm On Nov 07, 2019
wonder233:
Nigeria is a marriage-obssessed society. In Nigeria, nobody cares whether you are financially able or whether you have found love.
You see a senior person harassing a young person into marriage, but they will never help the young person get a job or start a business.
Most people who aren't financially capable who allowed themselves harassed or brainwashed into marriage with the "Marriage-brings-blessings" sermon are finding themselves in serious troubles...and guess what, they are abandoned by the same people who goaded them into it.
God bless you

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Emma1Oj(m): 6:15pm On Nov 07, 2019
Don't try it o....

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by bongo4real(m): 6:15pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

Your points are very helpful but to prepare for all marriage process no be child's play.

I think what is making most of us delay the finance for marriage process and children responsible when the time comes.

No escape root from avoiding responsibilities.
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by ogianyo(m): 6:16pm On Nov 07, 2019
This is a very simplistic way of viewing marriage finances. I dont need to be told that you have clearly never been married.
There are very many spending that a bachelor can successfully avoid which a married man cant. When you marry in Africa you are taking on responsibility for some spending for both your family and inlaw folks. A wife is additional mouth to feed not insomnia. She falls sick, needs clothing and a lot of stuff that only married men here can relate with. This is not to suggest that you must be rich to marry. You however need to have a reasonable and regular income.
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 07, 2019
Mood11:
"He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord"

Marriage is not a Magic Wand to escape Poverty and Wretchedness.

If you like, take his advice. I promise you your pastor will not be found on the days of hunger and your wife shall become his play toy.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.
As usual, very intelligent contribution.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by barinedan(m): 6:21pm On Nov 07, 2019
And why do unemployed men keep girlfriends if they don't have money to cater for the needs of the girls. If you can take care of a girlfriend then taking care of wife should equally not be a problem

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nickymichy(m): 6:27pm On Nov 07, 2019
Before God give Adam wife...him first give am work to do(garden of Eden)....now where ur pastor learn him own pastorship from?......unless if God don't show am wetin we no c.....abeg use sense my guy

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by franchasng: 6:31pm On Nov 07, 2019
Any guy reading this should also listen and listen carefully: don't ever marry any girl that have no job or business or handwork she is fully dedicated to and earning steady income from, don't do it!



Before you marry any lady, make sure she is doing something legal that earns her a stable income. If she is jobless or unemployed when you met her and you still love her and want to spend your life with her, please help her learn a skill or trade and guide her until she fully start something using her skill.


Marrying an unemployed, jobless lady in 2019 is a huge mistake for any man, don't you ever do it no matter how much money you have now, anything can happen to you tomorrow.

Men living in stable nations like USA, Europe, Australia, Canada, China, etc don't marry unemployed, jobless women, why must you, a Nigerian guy living in a shattered, unstable nation like Nigeria marry a jobless woman in the name of love or in the name of you are rich, who are you, are you richer than Bill Gates whose wife Melinda Gates is also working



Nigerian guys wise up oh or you will spend the rest of your life in misery!!!

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Toseenlove: 6:37pm On Nov 07, 2019
Mood11:
"He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord"

Marriage is not a Magic Wand to escape Poverty and Wretchedness.

If you like, take his advice. I promise you your pastor will not be found on the days of hunger and your wife shall become his play toy.

Hahaha my belly, Best true and most hilarious comment I've read so far this Year!!! Na this FORMAT them use lure the "So Many Gullibles" Afterall, Malnourished Kids and Unwanted pregnancies go con full everywhere "Inside Face Me I Slap You" Them go con dey SWIM Inside POVERTY.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Brightgem(f): 6:39pm On Nov 07, 2019
Lolz! It's in this era where people sleep around anyhow that anyone will still have stars left in their lives. Which mumu stars.

Fail to plan and you have planned to fail. I can't imagine a man in particular, man o, thinking of getting married without a freaking job. Even some ladies dare not do it even when their man is loaded na man go dey reason this kin thing.

Like someone said, marry someone wrong in the wrong situation you'll be emotionally and mentally drained too, not just financially.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by 12inchess: 6:41pm On Nov 07, 2019
This is 21st century and everybody should work. But some Nigerian men are both stubborn, and dumb and that is why they die before their wives killing themselves with financial problems. You will even see some Nigerian men say they can never allow their wives contribute anything to running the house. It's the man's responsibility abi. Well nobody forced them to take that stance. Like Acidiosis has said it shouldn't be too hard for two working days and sensible people to maintain their lifestyle after marriage except for additional expenses for kids. Theoretically, it should be cheaper because of economies of scale and joint bill payment. But some Nigerian men, once they get married, they will pull the wife out of her job and start facing the financial expenses alone. Sorry and hardluck to them oooo.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Martinez39(m): 6:41pm On Nov 07, 2019
Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.
Utter nonsense.
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by OGHENAOGIE(m): 6:43pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.
I hope the advice is also for women too since many of them marry as unemployed folks... let's ask why do ladies marry even when they have no Jobs
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by don4real18(m): 6:44pm On Nov 07, 2019
Well, it isn't advisable but sometimes, you just have to take a leap

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by OGHENAOGIE(m): 6:46pm On Nov 07, 2019
SmellingAnus:
What may work for Musa may not work for Adamu....

There was this church member of mine in my former church... He got married not employed. Church even contributed money for his wedding. His wife was employed and had a small car but both of them were close to 40 years of age or more but the got married.... After he got married, things started getting better for him, he even became richer than his wife and bought her a better car... They have at least two kids now...
abi u Don talk am finish oooo... it's always the male gender that feels the heat he must own the world to marry the female even without nothing is celebrated in marriage...
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Brightgem(f): 6:47pm On Nov 07, 2019
healthserve:



I know quite a few. The first time I heard it, it happened to my personal hommie who was just earning about 30k. Dude got a lady they both liked themselves pregnant. As I'm speaking to you, one contract came from no where. Bam 3-5million and he grew it. A second followed the same. This doesn't mean diligence and financial appropriatey should be exempted in such unions. There's an oil that magnifies little to become big. Work is crucial as well as planning and action
Got her pregnant, so stars too follow pregnancy outside wedlock. Where did he get the libido to get someone pregnant on 30 k

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nobody: 6:56pm On Nov 07, 2019
midnighter:


How do single and married people use the same amount of water, electricity or food...

That's one of the strangest statements I've ever read

I think what the dude implied was that their combined cost of living reduces in relative proportion due to economies of scale.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nobody: 6:58pm On Nov 07, 2019
okokkk:
cry

The unemployed ones are very fertile because the only thing they do is eat, drink, and sleep. They are the ones most deserving of the companionship of a woman.

In fact, in my three decades on earth, I have never seen an infertile jobless man.

This is the funniest comment I've read so far. grin

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by femi4: 7:14pm On Nov 07, 2019
Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.
Your Pastor is wrong. Follow the scriptures....the great men that got married there were working either as farmers or hunters

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Toseenlove: 7:14pm On Nov 07, 2019
Grundig:

I sincerely hope nobody takes this advice.


Infact I was marveled too, I'm not sure he resides In this nation. The Advice Is Caveat Emptor. It can only only be feasible for the Working Class. Imagine Two people would use the same Volume of Water. I don't even know where someone who doesn't have a Job would see Cash to pay steady bills. Nanxixx.
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Toseenlove: 7:24pm On Nov 07, 2019
Hoephase:


I'm not sure where you live or where you got your math lessons.

In a sane clime, if on the average it takes you 5 liters of water to bath a day. When you the number of your house hold increases by 1 at least your water usage will double.

For cooking if you alone consumes 3 cups of rice a week and say it cost you 100 naira. When you the size of your household increases by 1 at least your expensive on rice on the minimum will be 150 naira based on the assumption that your wife consumes half as much as you do.

Well you may keep this roof but when your family size grows and the living space per individual decreases beyond the required minimum living space for an individual, stress sets in, diseases and other psychological issues creeps in. These alone reduces not only the quality of life the members of the household but it also depletes the family resources: low productivity from stress, use resources that would have been put aside for investment for treating communicable disease etc.

Wow I love Intelligent People. Absolutely Well Analyzed!!!

Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Grundig: 7:28pm On Nov 07, 2019
Toseenlove:


Infact I was marveled too, I'm not sure he resides In this nation. The Advice Is Caveat Emptor. It can only only be feasible for the Working Class. Imagine Two people would use the same Volume of Water. I don't even know where someone who doesn't have a Job would see Cash to pay steady bills. Nanxixx.

The guy is clueless and a joke.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Skmoda360(m): 7:36pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.
Sense too much grin

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by justmykel(m): 8:04pm On Nov 07, 2019
Wow!
You make sense die!
For this, I'll follow you!
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Nobody: 8:07pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.
See a detailed description of an ideal marriage shocked shocked shocked

There is no ideal marriage tho undecided

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by noisy45(m): 8:08pm On Nov 07, 2019
Hunger go just kill u and wifey grin
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by muyico(m): 8:09pm On Nov 07, 2019
I think this is a terrible advise and, truly, some Pastors give this advice quite a lot. Normally, when you succumb to the "advise", they will suggest one "Sister" to you to marry and, "boom!" the wedding is conducted. Your eyes will open when you marry. You will understand the responsibility that comes with and from marriage. But by then, it is too late. Adam did not "marry" Eve when he was jobless. He had a job as a Gardner, Horticulturist and perhaps Farmer. Perhaps, the reason why the snake did not find him idle (he was working) and looked for the idle person to tempt= Eve. Young men, get a job first before you get a wife. Common sense.

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Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by meobizy(f): 8:09pm On Nov 07, 2019
This advice is the most senseless I ever hear. I don’t know why Nigerians are cursed with this illogical stupidity. Anyway, the unwise ones should marry and create more hungry mouths to feed. Before me and other wise people marry we save a lot more than we need first. Nobody will look your way when poverty and bad luck tickle your destiny.
Re: Why Do Some Pastors Advise Unemployed Men To Marry? by Yusfunoble(m): 8:12pm On Nov 07, 2019
Acidosis:
If you're single, you feed yourself and have a roof over your head, then you can marry. There are no special bills or taxes for married people. Your stomach and portion of food do not get bigger with marriage. Your electricity or water bill do not increase because you're married. Same electricity, same cable TV, same quantity of water, same rent, etc.

In fact, it is easier for two WORKING and sensible people because they're able to put resources together to achieve a better result. E.g. If you've being paying rent alone, you can share bills (not necessarily in equal proportions).

The only thing that makes a difference is pregnancy & child upkeep, and to the best of my knowledge, this is optional. After all, single men and women have more sex than married people, without fear of pregnancy.

To blame finance for being single is lack of SENSE and understanding. It is perpetual failure of the brain to think MARRIAGE between two people will drain finance faster than the single folks. It is like living alone to bear all cost Vs. living and sharing bills with a room mate.

Think.

Na wa o, you just get too much sense.

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