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@freemantj: why did you allow them to put this on the front page...now look at the way they've captioned it. Brother this isn't too good for you.

Stoopid delusional retarded Op. Peace is far from you ohh, because you keep doing stoopid things to take it away from others...

I don't blame two of them sha.


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if women place curse on this one now, they will say It's his village people that refused to give him happiness.



note, if u don't go back to you fake wife, ur new relationship will end sore

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

you made first mistake. second mistake is about to happen. young man, please learn to love your pregnant wife- traditional marriage is valid in eyes of law. disaster is around the corner.

Write a novel the most confused being in nigeria..

Now that the woman is all yours, suddenly you think she isn't the one simply because of the skimpily dressed lady in your office who has all the time for you.

Your wife is pregnant. She is hustling a business. More than anything else she needs you close.

From all your rants, not even one wrong she did you.

I can only imagine the psychological and emotional trauma you are causing your wife.

Like everyone here said, you are just damn irresponsible. No married man got the perfect wife, but people respected , appreciated and learnt to live with their spouse.

Now you want us aid your foolishness. I'm disgusted.

Bro is just confused in decision making... Give d pregnant pastor daughter a chance, and learn to love her. I don't believe u a single bit that u put a woman in a family way and eventually marry her and you are saying u are been force to do that. By what force bro? Try to bring out the best woman from ur pregnant wife...there's no angel out side any more, appreciate the one that as already come ur way...

OP my only advice here is go back to your wife ... Yes the mistake you made was not falling in love with her before impregnating her ... Now you feel she trapped you with the pregnancy... Let me tell you something , Love is much beautiful when you start falling in love with someone you felt you don’t love ... Love doesn’t work at first sight , Love is spending time with someone , look for the sweet side of them , gradually you start to fall in love and once you fall in love , you will be so happy you never let her go because you thought you don’t love her !! Love is beautiful when you start falling in love ... You just don’t see love at once , you fall in love with time ... OP , please go back to your wife and daughter ... God has already planed the both of you for a greater purpose!! Now your side girlfriend is the DEMON you have to defeat ... God back to your wife and daughter and see with time you will love her so much and you both will live happily after

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Thank you. I have nothing more to add. The "wife" has zero blame!

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dexla:
I hope that gf cursed you well and I really dont understand how your wife allowed you live separately.
You deserve to be impotent and wretched. As a single lady myself I really can't stand being played by one useless married man as I want a happy marriage myself and wouldnt want to be the reason someone's home is wrecked.
Its really unfortunate that your wife is stuck with an animal for the rest of her life. She's at a risk of being infected with a deadly disease by your promiscuous ways but she chose you and I guess she'll live with that for the rest of her life.
You better seek forgiveness from both parties and ensure they tell you they forgive you. Else you're doomed for life.

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Are you the pregnant wife because this rant too much

na wa o

I always tell people that you don't have any business dating someone if you know you won't end up marrying that person.

The thing is if you eventually get married to this woman at this point. That marriage won't be rosy. She would live with insecurity for rest of her life. You we were be selfish. I know couples who had similar situations like yours but never lied about their relationship. Today living happily after. Go back to your friend apologise to her. Go back to your wife she might not be bad after all. Have a conversation devoid of lies. Mend you fences and renew your vows. Trust me, amazing things happens.

FreemanTJ:
I actually ensure both of them are very okay. I actually gave her my car during the period she was pregnant and she still has it. I'm just unhappy in the marriage and no it wasn't just a church certificate, her parent ensured of that.

Were you unhappy when you were having unprotected sex with your wife
What is wrong with you men sef
You were happily enjoying unprotected sex with a lady and all of a sudden became unhappy with the end result.
If I say fornication is a sin now, some people body go dey hot but Why have sex with a lady you have no plans to settle with?
Oun ti o da o da.
If you think that your chess partner is the ideal woman for you, then you must be a big joker.
You better go and ask for mercy from God and then go and seek ways to resolve issues with your wife and daughter. Go and restitute Now!
Because if you don't do that now, you will have to do it tomorrow and I pray it won't be too late for you.
That happiness you are seeking for, it will shock you to know that it's right in your shokoto and not outside.
That thing that attracted you to your wife in the first place that led to so many happy unprotected sex, go back and reignite it.

To many of you reading, if you know that you have no intentions of settling down with the man or Lady you are dating, there's no point having intimacy(intimacy isn't only sex please). Let your intentions be known from day 1 biko.
There's really more to life than CUMMING!!!

Please don't forget to click on the link on my signature and vote for my son.
Thank you.

Guy, you're a ba.stard.
You had sex without protection, got married without compulsion, lied and got into the pants of a girl without conscience. A lady you knew would never date a married man.

I pray you never find happiness.

I can bet my kidneys dat OP is a Yoruba demon

ojun50:
So wetin be the koko of wetin you write now

He successfully made d poor side chick cum, on the third attempt.

baby124:
How were you trapped? Did you have unprotected sex and come in her? Please stop trying to abscond from responsibility and take responsibility for the part you played. Can you honestly say that your anger at the pregnancy has stopped you from connecting with her? You seem to like women that are difficult and you delight in making them have sex with you. Then you start telling stories. Since you had this new girl at your beck and call, what made you hesitate on divorcing your wife?

l like your responses to the Op, the Op is a joker of the century, he thinks with his dick, he keeps fúç kiñg and Cumming inside different ladies and he is not ready to take responsibility, Abeg, this kind kasala stories get kleg, the guy will trap more ladies with his dick and will continue Cumming inside them , nonsense and Buhari

My broda me self wonder...

ojun50:
So wetin be the koko of wetin you write now

FreemanTJ:
I eventually put up my daughters picture then I noticed she brought down the fake page but she said she was still depressed and it would take the grace of God to help her heal. She told me the baby looked exactly like me which I began to notice too when I went to visit them this weekend. My wife claims she can't continue the marriage which I'm supposed to be happy about but I didnt want it to be around this type of circumstances.
The other lady is so confused and devastated and is probably still in love with me.

I didnt wish to be in this mess. If I stay in this marriage I'll be unhappy for the rest of my life. I'll be there for my child whenever she needs me. For the other lady, we could have been perfect but now that her family is against it, it seems a no go area. I've always been financially supportive to my wife and baby even though it wasn't the type of marriage I planned for.
I dont know how to make it up to the lady as she has insisted she wont forgive me for lying to her while my wife cant stand me either.

U made several mistakes and only kept making more rather than correcting them. U involved the other lady into ut lie which was innocent at the time Bt when she began tell u her suspensions and dreams and months passed by with u lying to her face it become wicked and the trust which wud have been stronger had u said the truth then was lost bt I hope not for good because ur actually did all this with no bad or wicked intentions.


The truth is u didn’t need to marry ur wife and if u did only to save her the shame u shud have been straightforward tomlet her know the terms and that u will be separating afterwards. This is a fair agreement and not a crime looking at the circumstances. U cannot marry sm1 u don’t love bt then u shudnt have impregnated sm1 u don’t love either.

U meet a lovely and caring gal and almost ruined her life with ur defensive lies this was a gal that wud probably have stayed with u and help u resolve the complex web u out urself bt u didn’t allow her despite her premonitions. Just be sincere not only to others bt to urself aswell from now on.

baby124:
How were you trapped? Did you have unprotected sex and come in her? Please stop trying to abscond from responsibility and take responsibility for the part you played. Can you honestly say that your anger at the pregnancy has stopped you from connecting with her? You seem to like women that are difficult and you delight in making them have sex with you. Then you start telling stories. Since you had this new girl at your beck and call, what made you hesitate on divorcing your wife?

My brother it's not compulsory to marry a woman that is pregnant for you... But that aside .... You are missing the main picture... Reduce the way you tell lies ... Try to move on and be there for your daughter... Your wife doesn't want the marriage again and it's what you have always wanted... Free her... Whatever attitude you get from both women, you deserve it... Learn to be more straightforward in your dealings with women... Unfortunately, I feel you will end up regretting losing your wife... By the way stop being selfish by wanting your wife to remain with you when you know you will still dump her.... Allow her to move on in peace...

LeoThaGreat:
Call your wife, get a divorce and marry your heart's choice because you'll live a life of regrets if you don't.

Pay your monthly dues on your child and you'll be good.

Shalom

how sure re u l,Oga will not play another cheese with another woman, hahahahahahaa

U have spoken my mind.this op is disgusting. The only right thing for him to do is to get rid of the side chick and STICK TO THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD. And dump that unexplainable excuse of the marriage I never wanted..!! Evem before he slept with her didnt he know she wasnt the type of girl he would lile to settle down with?? Or is he just an average and chronic womanizer like batlefox who would flirt with any shape in skirt? ? Sic people. ..I can understand been attracted by different shapes but why flirt and sleep with a woman u cant stick with if the worst happen?? Mr man relocate back to ur wife and child and wakeuo early to go to work on island or u move ur wife to island with u so ahe can continue there

Funministicqueen come see me se wahala o

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

FreemanTJ:
They both dont live in lagos. Yes, I'll definitely try to work on this.

Please create some time and try to connect with your wife. I’m sure something attracted you to her at first. Lookout for those positive and appealing part of her. Concentrate on your family please!

Your own work is to go around nacking peoples Daughter, you are a womanizer. Stay married to the pastors Daughter because if you can Bleep skin to skin and give belle you also should be able to stay married. When next you make another lady that's not ur wife get ogasim OGUN WILL castrate your pennis . WOMANIZER!!!!!!!!!

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

You nailed it...
I believe the op took advantage of the ladies weakness with the intent to make her miserable... Thank God for Divine intervention...
For me , the lady is a wife material but she came to the wrong hand. .

Yoruba adage says,. Who get head no get cap, and who get cap no get Head..

Oshisco!

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted withyou s the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

this padi you stupid no be small... you know how many married men meet women hotter, finer, prettier, sexier, lovier, dying at their feet on daily basis. How many of them don leave their wife. Baba go to your wife and carry your cross. Stupid olojukokoro man

This guy na splinter cell:Double agent

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

What I'll advice you to do is to try your possible best to connect back with your wife, if not for anything, at least for my your child's sake. It's best you start living together so that bond can come back. That love that you once had for your wife, find it and grow it. Forget about other women. I assure you that you'll enjoy your marriage.

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Wish I dey with you like this man, I go declare 2 crates of big stout solely untop ur head.

The boy go must still connect with another one that loves playing ludo or cooking, then the chess own moves to the oblivion.

Tell dem not to start what they can't finish, they won't hear, tell dem to practice contempt they will talk trash....

Grass is never greener on the other side, it is where u water the ground...