Davesaves:
my dear, okafor's law is very valid.. i'm a witness.. that law has helped me a lot. so don't say what u don't know

ikennaf1:


At this point I'd like to ask... Are you really a girl? Because you're making so much sense, and seeing the matter from a bro's point of view.

Those other girls won't give their brother the same advice they are giving this unfortunate fellow.

generationz:


My dear that's the major problem o.

Them keeping in touch. They have no regard for the men who loved them enough to marry them.

All that matters to them are their feelings. Here feelings override any form of pride or dignity.

If you invite that lady over you'd see that you'd see she won't hesitate to come and off pant.

I know of stories of these women sleeping with their exes a week or so before marriage. It was only because this person was scared of the repercussions of being with married women if not...

Men una sef get una own for body too.

100% trust is hard in relationships.

izzou:


Lol

Let's be honest. Everyone has a past, and everyone has a fault.

That someone is soft on others, doesn't mean dey must nack them. I've met married ladies that are soft.

He dwells so much on her fault instead of trying to see how he can make her better. It's his choice sha

If girls judge me by my past, na seminary I go end up

pocohantas:


I agree everyone has a past, but there are pasts and there are pasts.

Soft people are always easier to bend. The kinda soft OP highlighted isn't a good one. I wouldn't marry one like that and I am not even a judgmental person. It is one thing if I don't know, if I do- na FZ straight.

generationz:


Most Hollywood actors and stars pass themselves around.

These are rich men and women o


Kim Kardashian even had a sex tape. It was published all over. She had been married twice. He started dating her while she was still married to her ex.

People kept telling Kanye west not to marry her.

But do you see how he treats her? -How he worships the ground she walks on?

When the love is strong, all these considerations will be gone.

Although i don't think Kim was a woman of easy virtue like the way you described your girlfriend but a sex tape is huge.

izzou:


Is it easy to FZ him when you've fallen in love?

The op is not meeting her for the first time. He already loves her. He's not even bothered with her soft personality. It's her past with his circle that he's concerned

Anyways, na him sabi sha

baby124:

Indeed. She could be wifey to 5 other guys and may have even gbenshed your uncle. Fear women, we are like cats. You never see a cat gbenshing but cats get pregnant. It’s only a woman that is honest with you that you can boast of.

great664:


My exact situation right now, though not my circle of friends but I have known some of them and it's disturbing... She cheated on me with one time with one too and since then I believe she has changed as the family was involved...

I am confused cuz I can't start afresh again as I am ready now and secondly, going down with her is very confusing for me right now. Won't I regret it? That question keeps popping out all time.

mysticgal:

That’s the most stupid law that has existed in humanity. A lot of you Nigerians are so good at generalizations it has killed you people, have you met a hundred people who has ever had sex with their ex’s while in a relationship or not? I mean met not I heard. Well, I have met 20 who would never go back or have sex with their ex’s even with guns to their heads...21 if I include myself so drop that stupid law and face reality. Okafors law lo, okorie’s rule ni.

When I get to a hundred I would quote this thread.

Akhazeme:



Dear Sir,

I think I was in a similar situation when I wanted to marry my wife but mine is that she has dated my friend before and was even the person that deflowered her. Try to talk to her about it and let her know you ain't comfortable with the whole thing and let her give you her word of total change.
If you love her please you guys should talk and make it work...

crackhaus:

Don't use actors to draw any conclusions o, whether Hollywood or Nollywood. Most of the things they do is for publicity and staying relevant.

If the explanation for it had anything to do with wealth, then millionaires and billionaires outside the movie/music industry would be doing the same thing, but guess what, they don't.

safarigirl:
people should not be punished for their past mistakes.

She's obviously someone who was desperate for love, hence, her involvement with so many deceitful men that only wanted to hit and run. You can question her judgment, but she shouldn't be punished for falling for idiots.

safarigirl:
the insecurities that come with such knowledge alone is massive, for any gender.

Girls can't even stand their man having platonic female friends, imagine you know a girl he dated and you see her on occasion, the torture!

ModelX:

The irony be say many of these celebs and entertainers are nowhere as promiscuous as we the viewers like to think. All na for show.
There's this BBC TV show - Nakêd Attraction, where people all get nakêd and choose a partner based on attraction. Now, ordinarily, you would think that people that can go nakêd on television will definitely fûck that other nakêd person whom they finally choose. Surprise! When the show calls them in after a couple of weeks to find out how things are, the majority never fůcked. Just drinks on that first date and maybe texts.
But our third world women will be fůcking up and down like dirty hogs without home training every chance they get, and then expect respect and marriage! Countless girls/women have lost their chances at marriage and will continue to lose because no man wants a whöre for a wife. Then they will come with that nonsense "we all have a past". Well, none of that floosie, some of us don't have that kind of a past.

Pafoma:


I found out about the guys when i found out she was speaking to one guy that they were involved but hiding it from me after we started dating. The rest of the guys, she told me herself.

About 7 guys i know but not all of them i was close to but some are friends of friends.

Pafoma:


Unfortunately,i wont and cannot be dating her and date someone else, not even have a side chic. it is either i am in or out.

I am way passed the age of childishness or youthful exuberance. Many of the people commenting here are saying she is cheating, but in my original post, i am sure i mentioned these things were in her past and she is working on herself.. i see the obvious changes too although she is not there yet

tonguengineer:

This your no will not always connect. I want an upwork account sha

safarigirl:
from his narrative, she gives anyone who whistles at her a chance, so, this was never an option for her

@OP, if you are not at peace with marrying her, abeg leave her to find someone that is not within a circle she has been passdd around. Forget all this childish talk about who has changed, you can never tell if someone has truly changed or not, until they are faced with the same situation that constantly led them to falter.

Marriage is not a joke, it is not a chamber of torture that you should subject yourself to. The day you travel and she tells you one of your friends came to check on her, how will you feel? Where will your mind go?

Trust is more important than love in any union. Don't deceive yourself. You don't know if you will still find someone better after, but by that time, you will be stuck in a marriage with a woman that you can't trust

8k2nuts:
I know a guy who married a girl that 3 other guys have confirmed before.

They have 3 kids now and going on strong. Two of the guys who nacked are still nacking girls up and down. She married with kids now.

Last last na your hand e dey. If you dont give a Bleep then marry her if you are someone who's easily swayed by public opinion or perception free her.

8k2nuts:
I know a guy who married a girl that 3 other guys have confirmed before.

They have 3 kids now and going on strong. Two of the guys who nacked are still nacking girls up and down. She married with kids now.

Last last na your hand e dey. If you dont give a Bleep then marry her if you are someone who's easily swayed by public opinion or perception free her.

ModelX:

The irony be say many of these celebs and entertainers are nowhere as promiscuous as we the viewers like to think. All na for show.
There's this BBC TV show - Nakêd Attraction, where people all get nakêd and choose a partner based on attraction. Now, ordinarily, you would think that people that can go nakêd on television will definitely fûck that other nakêd person whom they finally choose. Surprise! When the show calls them in after a couple of weeks to find out how things are, the majority never fůcked. Just drinks on that first date and maybe texts.
But our third world women will be fůcking up and down like dirty hogs without home training every chance they get, and then expect respect and marriage! Countless girls/women have lost their chances at marriage and will continue to lose because no man wants a whöre for a wife. Then they will come with that nonsense "we all have a past". Well, none of that floosie, some of us don't have that kind of a past.

Pafoma:


Her behaviour & ways was before we met and the beginning of our relationship.. we have had discussions and she even confessed to me all the ones i did not know

baby124:

He said she dated them. Not had casual sex with now, you might end up with a guy that knows not less than 5 people you have dated and he will tag you a cheerful giver. Then, you can come back and tell us how you feel.