Enemyofpeace:
Just leave her alone, I no trust you

Okay sir

GrabHisBalls:
Your fiancée is a free giver na! The economic benefit is that she'll help relieve guys of conji. We can't all be reserved.

You be bad pikin. But truth be told
"If her body is the temple of God" why should she prevent those that want to come in

TemmyT002:


Hahahaha
I get your point.
But na love be the koko sha

Bros... Truth is, love is never enough.

Fountainofyouth:
That lady is shameless and has esteem issues for her to have something to do with you and your former clique...

You lack high standard, moral decency, and also esteem issues for you to go for someone who has been passed around by your friends, you lack class,

Your faults,
Were you blind or deaf that you didn't know all these revelations before starting the relationship with her and falling in love?
How come it is now that you want to dump her you remember that she was once a free sample?
You are now having second thoughts but you don't want your conscience to judge you that's why you came here to rant so you won't feel and be perceived as a terrible person for wasting her time all this while abi?
And then you remembered a tale that was long forgotten cos you are tired and bored of her and need a stupid ass reason to break up with her right?

Clap for yourself mister man, we will tell you what you want to hear, break up with her and let her be, but know this, I assure you that the next woman you meet will have evil, deadly baggage as high as Mount Everest that you will never know till you are both married, and I pray by that time, it will too late for you, I so pray it will really be too late, nonsense.

Madam o ga gan, see as you carry someone matter for the head as if you or life depends on it.
my advice for you is to ascertain if she truly truly you and she is genuinely ready to be truthful and abide by your rules. pls, do not fall for those MOFOs who claim they are virgins and they attend churches and mosques as if their direct descendant of the almighty, you will be surprised by their attitude and behaviour immediately you walk them down the aisle.
pls whatever decision, on you decide upon pls make sure the lady you want to get married to truly loves to you I wish you the best in life.

crackhaus:

As a matter of fact I have two personal ones.

First one, I was in your position.
I dated a chic whom my closest buddy from secondary school used to sleep with, he even introduced us because he wanted me to employ her to work with my organization back then. By the time we started dating, I deliberately informed my old buddy and he told me about their sexual past (he initially claimed they were only friends but finally opened up, and she confirmed it).
Well I immediately knew it wasn't a relationship that would lead anywhere and it didn't. The chic even had a bad habit of keeping in touch with exes and I value my peace of mind.
Besides, woman cannot make me and my boy create distance between ourselves.


Second one, I was in the position of the friend.
A chic I used to have a fling with is now married to another friend. Actually all three of us know each other from secondary school (same secondary school with my closest buddy from the first story). All of us have managed to maintain contact all these years, these are people I have known since 1998.
Well, these two got married and I know about every fight and argument they have because she tells me and always threatens her husband with divorce. Meanwhile, her husband (like you) is never at peace anytime he hears her talking to me over the phone or texting me. She actually told me that he constantly suspects her and uses every little opportunity to bring up my name in their conversation during an argument - this is my guy who knew about my history with her before he married her oo, yet he is not at peace.
I even had to tell him straight up to stop having crazy ideas, because she and I are done for ever and ever, amen.
Sometimes she deliberately mentions me just to manipulate the guy into doing things her way because she knows of his insecurity - they are a funny couple.


See dude, like I said in my first comment, it's all about peace of mind. If you value it, you will avoid complicated stuff like this.
But if you feel you can handle it, go ahead.

Until dem pour you acid before you go stop dey call am too abi.



Better be kiaful.

baby124:

If all you do is hang out at beer parlour with men that are consumed with sex and reminiscing over sexual encounters, then you need another job or a hobby. It’s actually disgusting to think of. Let me tell you, guys have snatched me from their friends before right from secondary school when we were not giving sex sef. Guys actually don’t care and they are very selfish, much more than girls once they find a girl they like. In fact they can compete and cut off the world to have that girl. Which is really how nature works! .

Let me confess here sef, I was kind of snatched as a wife and hubby has changed his circle the moment I agreed. . I am a hot cake if I must confess. . The toaster who was toasting was feeling like a G and, even introduced me to my guy. Before he knew what happened, we don move . It’s been wonderful and I am glad we chose each other.

Your wife is probably being paraded by one idiot right now, who she knows she can’t marry. And is using him to pass time.

HEES CARRY HOT.

safarigirl:
the law did not come from a movie, guys have been passing it around for years. The movie was just inspired by the belief.

Of course, it is not 100%, and not everybody has just one ex, but some have an ex they are emotionally attached to, and may lose their guard with.

You can only vouch for yourself, not for anyone else. If something was not happening, it would not be a thing.

At this point I'd like to ask... Are you really a girl? Because you're making so much sense, and seeing the matter from a bro's point of view.

Those other girls won't give their brother the same advice they are giving this unfortunate fellow.

walexbiz:


Madam o ga gan, see as you carry someone matter for the head as if you or life depends on it.
my advice for you is to ascertain if she truly truly you and she is genuinely ready to be truthful and abide by your rules. pls, do not fall for those MOFOs who claim they are virgins and they attend churches and mosques as if their direct descendant of the almighty, you will be surprised by their attitude and behaviour immediately you walk them down the aisle.
pls whatever decision, on you decide upon pls make sure the lady you want to get married to truly loves to you I wish you the best in life.

Thank you

a

Pafoma:


Yes, acquitances and friends i used to be close too. A few of the friends, we just greet but no close bonds any longer although not because of her but i just moved on from an unfocused & unserious lifestyle.

Yes, i am talking about both dated and just a few times together..
Straight like she has realised her former lifestyle was foolish. Not exactly having casual sex but but guys that persuade/pester her that they like her or they dated briefly, she had something with them.

She realised she was just being used and non of the guys that assured her of their faithfulness were true, they all just did her and moved on.. i am sure you get!

You are about to step on a Mine! Like gambling habits, uncontrolled sexual desires are second nature and could be hardly extricated from.

Since you claim you love her, you could proceed on the condition that you also believe in DIVORCE.

sassysure:
So crack.house, u agree that men are insecure?
Na u talk am with your mouth o
The moment of truth

Told u I will catch u one day

Sassy try to get the spelling of my moniker right so I can see your mentions. It's crackhaus.

Everyone can have insecurities, men and women. I don't think I ever stated otherwise. If you're using our conversation the other day about me not worrying about my wife cheating and juxtaposing it with this situation, then you've got to understand its different.

We are talking about friends here, people who will always be part of the man's life and by extension, his wife also.

Skyfornia:
Huh...my brother I'll advice you as a fellow brother, leave that lady and preserve your respect. I can't even date any lady I know her ex boyfriend not to talk of dating or marrying one that have dated someone in my circle. Those men will never respect you and your woman...

This your no will not always connect. I want an upwork account sha

GrabHisBalls:
Your fiancée is a free giver na! The economic benefit is that she'll help relieve guys of conji. We can't all be reserved.

This your no Will not always connect. I want an upwork account sha

Pafoma:

3. How can be sure i wont regret the decision to go forward?

Please feel free to ask me any question and i’ll answer if they are not sarcastic or jokes..

Thank you.

Regrets is all lies ahead.

Do what a sensible man would do. Are you her father?

Pafoma:
Guys! I need serious, real and honest contributions.. Thanks to all that will contribute.

I have a lady whom i am dating. I truly love and care about her but she has been with people that are in my circle and this disturbs me. She didnt used to be a straightforward and totally faithful person but i see that she is making efforts towards being completely honest and straightforward but still i dont have rest in my spirit about taking the decision to marry her.

I have observed she is soft with guys and is not firm, although i am aware it takes time for someone used to a particular pattern or lifestyle to adjus. I need help because breaking up with this lady will mean that i have to look for someone else to start the entire circle with again and who knows what if the new one also comes with even worse baggages.

My questions are these

1. What do you advice i do?
2. Who has been in similar situation where you fell in love with a lady your friends and circle have been with then married her? What was the experience like including things to look out for..
3. How can be sure i wont regret the decision to go forward?

Please feel free to ask me any question and i’ll answer if they are not sarcastic or jokes..

Thank you.

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There is no reason not to marry her-- the least being that if you have to die, you will die quicker.

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tonguengineer:

This your no Will not always connect. I want an upwork account sha

Call:

tojahh:


Bros... Truth is, love is never enough.

Hmmm

eni4real:
Send him the Pdf version

Okay i will

MNDY:


Some people say the Law is flawed. What do you think?
I know it concerns banging an ex and all.

The law isn’t flawed. Don’t mind them. Though it doesn’t apply to everyone but let’s say okafor’s law apply to 85% of women

KEZIA

alphaNomega:


You should pay attention to crackhaus. I am even in a similar situation as we speak. We had a thing, the guy knew about it and still went ahead to marry the chick. Let's just say he is not having the best of married life as far as peace of mind goes.

And you know why my situation is bad? If the man provokes his wife and she feels like having revenge séx, guess whose number is on speed dial

Welcome to your future

They dunno, haq haq haq haq

Nobody can advice better than yourself. Being wayward before does not mean she won't become a better wife than non wayward. If you are ready to marry her, dont remind her of her past and love her and make sure you rebrand her mind gradually. Na person go marry her someday

But if you are not comfortable with her. Simply leave her and move ahead

Some people wey dey advice u here to send her away will eventually settle down with a worse lady

Listen to your heart only and take your decision

Wayward in the past or not. People have their past. Be a father to her

crackhaus:


Now do you see the resemblance of this to that scenario in the second story I shared?

These women will still be keeping in touch, that's even the major problem.

My dear that's the major problem o.

Them keeping in touch. They have no regard for the men who loved them enough to marry them.

All that matters to them are their feelings. Here feelings override any form of pride or dignity.

If you invite that lady over you'd see that you'd see she won't hesitate to come and off pant.

I know of stories of these women sleeping with their exes a week or so before marriage. It was only because this person was scared of the repercussions of being with married women if not...

Men una sef get una own for body too.

100% trust is hard in relationships.

crackhaus:

I can see you don't value your peace of mind
What in the tomfoolery kind of complicated-as-hell menstrual cycle of friends and acquaintances is this for heavens sake?

Are there no other girls?
Na wah o

It's an unwritten rule that a G must never get married to a woman who has been with any of his friends or acquaintances. It doesn't matter if he is still close to them or not. YOU JUST DON'T DO IT!
There are way too many single hunnies available for you to be playing Russian Roulette with one.

bro code!

Pafoma:
Guys! I need serious, real and honest contributions.. Thanks to all that will contribute.

I have a lady whom i am dating. I truly love and care about her but she has been with people that are in my circle and this disturbs me. She didnt used to be a straightforward and totally faithful person but i see that she is making efforts towards being completely honest and straightforward but still i dont have rest in my spirit about taking the decision to marry her.

I have observed she is soft with guys and is not firm, although i am aware it takes time for someone used to a particular pattern or lifestyle to adjus. I need help because breaking up with this lady will mean that i have to look for someone else to start the entire circle with again and who knows what if the new one also comes with even worse baggages.

My questions are these

1. What do you advice i do?
2. Who has been in similar situation where you fell in love with a lady your friends and circle have been with then married her? What was the experience like including things to look out for..
3. How can be sure i wont regret the decision to go forward?

Please feel free to ask me any question and i’ll answer if they are not sarcastic or jokes..

Thank you.

Dump her and move on.
You are clearly not at peace and want words of validation here to convince you of an issue you are not at peace with.
This would be pretending to yourself. Hugely dangerous in the long-term.

Dump her and move on. There are millions of ladies available that can replace her.

Elxandre:

Until dem pour you acid before you go stop dey call am too abi.



Better be kiaful.

I hardly even call or start chats with her, it's usually from her end.

Why are you putting up this? She is a hoe. She will marry u and probably Bleep her friends on Facebook. Don't turn a hoe into a house wife.

safarigirl:
the law did not come from a movie, guys have been passing it around for years. The movie was just inspired by the belief.

Of course, it is not 100%, and not everybody has just one ex, but some have an ex they are emotionally attached to, and may lose their guard with.

You can only vouch for yourself, not for anyone else. If something was not happening, it would not be a thing.

ikennaf1:


At this point I'd like to ask... Are you really a girl? Because you're making so much sense, and seeing the matter from a bro's point of view.

Those other girls won't give their brother the same advice they are giving this unfortunate fellow.

I would not say from a bro's point of view, rather she is saying it as it is. I've known her as one with mature responses neither favoring any particular sex in her responses on this forum

This is a brotherly advice, better leave her for someone that can adjust to your lifestyle, marriage is a thing of a life time. so that you will not be thinking of divorce later.

This is a brotherly advice.

Pafoma:


And what will you do if you were me and you marry her, fast forward to the future... she gets into a secret relationship, rekindles an old flame especially from any of the guys or just throws all caution to the wind and becomes something else! Dont forget by then, you both will be married with children then...

Kindly share, what you will possibly do apart from divorce..

Most Hollywood actors and stars pass themselves around.

These are rich men and women o


Kim Kardashian even had a sex tape. It was published all over. She had been married twice. He started dating her while she was still married to her ex.

People kept telling Kanye west not to marry her.

But do you see how he treats her? -How he worships the ground she walks on?

When the love is strong, all these considerations will be gone.

Although i don't think Kim was a woman of easy virtue like the way you described your girlfriend but a sex tape is huge.

TemmyT002:


Hahahaha
I get your point.
But na love be the koko sha

No be only Love, na Lovren

That Op is playing with unhappiness!!!

He should leave the girl alone

Pafoma:


What if i have detached from these circles even before i met her, we had met and started dating when i found out about them.

I mean, what will their respect do for me because we dont belong to the same circle any longer. If she can prove that i will not regret my decision then maybe i might be willing to risk it

You might be willing to take the risk? Remember, you're talking about marriage here bro, the lady in question can you picture you two together as man and wife in the next 10years? Sentiments aside, this about your life, your future... As you said she's weak on guys... Do you think she will change? You're talking about changing someone who as been like that for most of her teenage life. Whatever you decide bro, make sure you won't be regretting it