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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:22am On Nov 22, 2019 |
midnighter:hahahaha. It seems u are an Igbo person, right? |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by benji93: 12:22am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Lady, you may have to go and live with your Oyibo people . That's a socio-economic feature peculiar to them, and alien to our society. I don't know what cultural setup you exist in, but a man who does household chores is generally treated with contempt around here. It's incredibly hard to develop immunity to the opinions originating from your immediate environment cos you belong there. You think the questions we frequently have to answer in life are so simple that our answers have to be simple as well. However the contexts of these questions do not always allow for an easy decision. Do you know how embarrassing and depressing it is for a man making millions monthly to become jobless and a glorified househusband? Our society as it is now encourages men to take charge of their households, we generally get paid a lot more than women. So until our socio-economic clime changes you may want to take it easy on men that are reluctant to turning into househusbands. Note: my opinion is regarding the reluctance of men to engage in domestic activities extensively. AwkaetitiBabe: |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by DrNueLpureHoney: 12:24am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Pussywar: The guy is high on some white chalk....... I can't be derailed with such words..... Am a full-fledged African man and I know my culture and inheritance. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by LoudlyMouthed: 12:24am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Pussywar:Eyaaah, sorry ehn... E pain you? No vex okay? We now see reasons why you are like dis Tell us, wen did he leave you? Back in secondary school? |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by jaxxy(m): 12:25am On Nov 22, 2019 |
midnighter: Actually they got a professional female teacher from a skol bt the kids grades kept coming down, they had to stop her. The kids aren’t easy to handle and they kept asking for me. That’s why they kept calling me. They were like come and teach ur kids oh they are asking for u. I offered to teach them only weekends bt the parents wanted an additional week day which I cudnt afford. Lol |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:27am On Nov 22, 2019 |
DrNueLpureHoney:indeed, u are a very wise man. May ur type of man continue to live forever. U have said it all. Ka odi Nwanne! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by midnighter(f): 12:28am On Nov 22, 2019 |
jaxxy: Lol exactly |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by InvertedHammer: 12:28am On Nov 22, 2019 |
/ To a real man, loss of income is equivalent to castration. NB: I can't say the say for millennials though. He needs a fulfilling job to make his life worthwhile. Only those close to him will bear the brunt and in this case, that happens to be you. / |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by DrNueLpureHoney: 12:29am On Nov 22, 2019 |
midnighter: Hiaaa.... Nne, O gini ka umunwoke mere unu.... O bu zi ajo ihe na nwoke bu Onye Isi ezinaulo achoghi ndi oru ngoo na bee Ya? Ya buzi na nwoke ibe m GA abuzi boi boi maka na ighi na ego adighizi? MA na mgbe oji dI money.... Nwunye Ya ekwughi ihe o bula ooo Nwanyi wete ego nri na mkpuru onwa Abuo.... Ogbaa na newspaper na o na ewetara ego nri. I ain't siding anybody but the kinda advice you ladies dey give the lady no dey add up at all....... It ain't proper |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by midnighter(f): 12:29am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Austineva: Yeah. Though my Igbo isn't too great do you know why the proverb I'm my signature means? I can't get a good translation anywhere |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by TheRedpillguy: 12:30am On Nov 22, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:I have a solution for you. Don't get married. Its a scam. You will be happy without dealing with the above crap. And get a job why you are at it. Cus living along requires money too 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by genq(m): 12:30am On Nov 22, 2019 |
AfroKnight: True talk. This is why I refuse to bite my tongue on this forum - these idi0tic feminists think they have monopoly of throwing insults. They'll gather themselves and be insulting peoples fathers and husbands because they have no male figure in their miserable lives. Men must begin speaking up and refuse to be silenced. 8 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:31am On Nov 22, 2019 |
midnighter:yeah! Which state in Igbo land are u from? |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Felicity001(m): 12:33am On Nov 22, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by TheRedpillguy: 12:33am On Nov 22, 2019 |
genq:Nope I say we should just ignore them. The trash will take itself out. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by DrNueLpureHoney: 12:34am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Austineva: Ya gazie Nwanne m..... Umunwaanyi ka ekwensu. Mara ihe.... Ya bu.. Gi na ha na Emeko ihe... Ikwesiri isa Anya mmiri. Trust nobody.... I only trust myself.... women wise gan 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Typewriter(m): 12:35am On Nov 22, 2019 |
that is good of you, but i guess you plan a faint while you are doing the work and come around in the hospital and let the doctor tell him about the second missionary journey will look like simple and short he will give you a break |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by friendl: 12:35am On Nov 22, 2019 |
You are a good wife ,...hope you won't die before your time 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by luminouz(m): 12:36am On Nov 22, 2019 |
I read the first page and gave up. Farady and lewisTherin summed up my own opinion succinctly. As usual, most of the commenters can't just move on past base gender mudslinging to actually give workable solutions. Pathetic!! |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Pussywar(f): 12:36am On Nov 22, 2019 |
LoudlyMouthed:Focus more on your love life. Oh, I forgot...you got none. Why would someone want to date a begging nigga? Pfft. Pathetic 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by midnighter(f): 12:37am On Nov 22, 2019 |
DrNueLpureHoney: You're just going outside of the point...So who is going to do the work The woman is not around and the guy said he doesn't want those people so what is it again The money is not even the point because the lady doesn't even mind supporting them. I don't know which one is boy boy in your own house for goodness sake |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by bekpo(m): 12:38am On Nov 22, 2019 |
daddytime:. What she needs is advice, not adding salt to injury! Madam, ur husband loves u and it's his duty to protect his family. He didn't marry d house help but u, so understand this with him. There r several instances house helps destroyed homes: both males and females, they can runaway with ur kids or snatch ur hubby or gives wrong information that threatened d marriage. We had several house helps while I was growing up, but none of them dresses my dads room nor cook and serve his food, no, his wife does that. None of the ever clean nor entered my dads room. I later got to understand that one attempted to poison my dad. Madam, don't created problems when there's none. Your husband has been taking care of u and d family before he lost his job, so do same to him pending when he get a job. Don't listen to friends, b a woman, I mean an African woman. Obviously, ur hubby doesn't want u to quit ur job, but he want u to reciprocate, show him love, that's what he want. Don't b too bossy with ur hubby because u basically foot d bills now! This is when he needs u and do not do anything stupid by disrespecting him. Show him love and care more than before. U said he doesn't know how to do house chores because of d circumstances of his birth, u know this fact, then why mount pressure on him, he will read meanings to it-"maybe because I have loose my job, I have become house help in my house". That should stop. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:38am On Nov 22, 2019 |
AfroKnight:u have said it all 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:40am On Nov 22, 2019 |
; DrNueLpureHoney:. I tell u. Thanks bro |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by midnighter(f): 12:40am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Felicity001: Please sir, just forgive her. You're doing fine. No need for the outside lady...just ignore her please |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by bekpo(m): 12:40am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Madam, ur husband loves u and it's his duty to protect his family. He didn't marry d house help but u, so understand this with him. There r several instances house helps destroyed homes: both males and females, they can runaway with ur kids or snatch ur hubby or gives wrong information that threatened d marriage. We had several house helps while I was growing up, but none of them dresses my dads room nor cook and serve his food, no, his wife does that. None of the ever clean nor entered my dads room. I later got to understand that one attempted to poison my dad. Madam, don't created problems when there's none. Your husband has been taking care of u and d family before he lost his job, so do same to him pending when he get a job. Don't listen to friends, b a woman, I mean an African woman. Obviously, ur hubby doesn't want u to quit ur job, but he want u to reciprocate, show him love, that's what he want. Don't b too bossy with ur hubby because u basically foot d bills now! This is when he needs u and do not do anything stupid by disrespecting him. Show him love and care more than before. U said he doesn't know how to do house chores because of d circumstances of his birth, u know this fact, then why mount pressure on him, he will read meanings to it-"maybe because I have loose my job, I have become house help in my house". That should stop. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Pussywar(f): 12:41am On Nov 22, 2019 |
DrNueLpureHoney:African boy what's your culture? Looool. You people will never question a culture that encourages you to treat women like rags, that's why you're full of trash. Absolutely nothing to offer because you focus more on trying so hard to control women. I pity you. Pray say you remain for this country forever with that mentality. African 'man'. Pfft. That's why you are single. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by kay9(m): 12:41am On Nov 22, 2019 |
LewsTherin: Words of wisdom. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by DrNueLpureHoney: 12:43am On Nov 22, 2019 |
Pussywar: Lwkmd... Come off it young lady ..... Na married man you dey talk to.... My wife loves and respects me... So.... No shaking |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Luckysbab: 12:44am On Nov 22, 2019 |
UnbiasTruth Thank God your username shows you stand with truth. First, loving your spouse is not only by footing all the bills bla bla. Even wives want their husbands to emotionally connect with them beyond the "providing for all her needs". So really, you can't just make everything about your work, come back home and try to impress it upon your husband and kids that "work was stressful" bla bla bla. You need to still act the mother and wife role at home. It is the work you genuinely can't handle that should be outsourced to an helper or whatever. I have lived with a female medical doctor, who even has to work night shifts sometimes. Yet she found a way to balance the home front. She has a paid helper who she sends on market runs when she can't go herself. But she still returns home with the items herself, to come and cook for the family. However, she has found a way to incorporate her young kids (all boys) in the chores. So they are with are in the kitchen there, doing their own but, even if it is just to "call mummy when the water boils". She got a washing machine and other gadgets that make home chores easy, such that the little boys can even operate it. But when there's a pile of heavy clothes, she calls in the helper. This means the helper might only need to come around just a few times in a month. The point here is that despite all her busy engagements, she didn't simply shift all the duties of the woman of the house onto some helper and this doesn't mean she has to work her fingers off. Interestingly, her husband lost his job too, but she'll never even ask him to do as little as go and serve his own food from the kitchen. It is her husband that will come into the kitchen himself sometimes to give "moral support". To say your husband stays at home all day doing nothing is even inviting trouble already. Continuing with the example above, the husband tries to engage himself as productively as possible during the day, like going out to look out for job opportunities, procuring a farm, starting and maintaining a garden, raring livestock within the garden. The wife shoulders almost all the spending needs, but she doesn't put pressure on her husband, so much so that he doesn't start reflecting on his predicament. But they are coping fine, cos there's mutual respect and the maturity of the wife in managing a dicey situation. So please, you need to rethink this and retrace your steps where needed. He needs to see you as having his back, his pal, not some stranger, career woman. Kind regards 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Austineva(m): 12:44am On Nov 22, 2019 |
SyrusdeHansome:the best advice ever. Kudos 2 Likes |
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