₦airaland Forum

loswhite:
The world is changing, stop encouraging our women to be lazy.

AfroKnight:
It is a shame to see men deride or even attack the OP’s observation.

You guys have been browbeaten by toxic, narcissistic, opportunistic women into believing you must pay for love and attention. You should be ashamed that their juvenile manipulation worked on you.

You may argue that Nigeria’s special brand of hardship has “panel-beaten” many girls, so much that they believe a man MUST buy them stuff and give them money before they can live well. But that is not an excuse. I know independent, hardworking and beautiful women who don’t depend on boyfriends for anything.

The not so subtle conditioning of men to take up the “responsibility” of their girlfriends is a third world endemic. Yes, it happens in first world countries too, but it is certainly not the norm. It is regarded as an archaic oppressive concept.

Some Nigerian ladies really must learn to live within their means. Jealousy, greed and clout often drives you into the hands of narcissistic abusers or even psychos. Your unbridled urges make you easy targets.

If you offer yourself up for a price, you will find a buyer and he may not be to your liking. A good number of you ladies endure toxic and abusive relationships because you are indigent without the financial backing of your boyfriends. You endure public embarrassment and gather up ugly stories to tell your granddaughters about how men used you roughly and how they are scum. But that is your fault. You offered a piece of your time and body and nothing truly tangible.

Come to a relationship with tangible benefits. Don’t just offer cuddles; bring your companionship too. Don’t bring your financial burdens alone. Bring solutions for his burdens too.

Many feminists argue that women get little or no respect in their homes and relationships. But really, it is hard to respect the significantly weaker partner. You don’t bring value but you want to be valuable. How does that work? That’s laughable.


Okay. How many boyfriends will receive sensible Christmas gifts next month? Many would be lucky to get anything more than sex, as if sex itself were a gift. Lol. No value. Men even end up releasing their semen and what do the women release? Nothing but moans, and of course, the stress of a sunny Nigerian day. So, the guy does all the work but the girl still says she “gave” him her body and casually expects compensation for taking his seed from him. What a joke. No tangible value.

Guys should really not encourage this shamelessly needy mentality.

MedicH:
This one including myself is ogbako ndi lunatics.

chenzen:
nice one. u re good with writing. wow

JONNYSPUTE:
. I'm sure you don't understand the implication of what typed here? Well let me tell you that by this your comment you ended up calling women hoes.This mentality is very wrong please change it my dear. Remain blessed.

chenzen:
u see it. this one thinks her pussy is a trophy that should be paid for. exactly my point

dollytino4real:
guys like sneak into ashy houses to fork and pay. men una too pretend

dollytino4real:
food dat is sweet and clean, somebody delibrately put in cash to make it so.

chenzen:
guys, did u see that?

maynation:
Obviously

AfroKnight:
It is a shame to see men deride or even attack the OP’s observation.

You guys have been browbeaten by toxic, narcissistic, opportunistic women into believing you must pay for love and attention. You should be ashamed that their juvenile manipulation worked on you.

You may argue that Nigeria’s special brand of hardship has “panel-beaten” many girls, so much that they believe a man MUST buy them stuff and give them money before they can live well. But that is not an excuse. I know independent, hardworking and beautiful women who don’t depend on boyfriends for anything.

The not-so-subtle conditioning of men to take up the “responsibility” of their girlfriends is a third world endemic. Yes, it happens in first world countries too, but it is certainly not the norm. It is rather regarded as an archaic oppressive concept.

Some Nigerian ladies really must learn to live within their means. Jealousy, greed and clout often drives you into the hands of narcissistic abusers or even psychos. Your unbridled urges make you easy targets.

If you offer yourself up for a price, you will find a buyer and he may not be to your liking. A good number of you ladies endure toxic and abusive relationships because you are indigent without the financial backing of your boyfriends. You endure public embarrassment and gather up ugly stories to tell your granddaughters about how men used you roughly and how they are scum. But that is your fault. You offered a piece of your time and body and nothing truly tangible.

Come to a relationship with tangible benefits. Don’t just offer cuddles; bring your companionship too. Don’t bring your financial burdens alone. Bring solutions for his burdens too.

Many feminists argue that women get little or no respect in their homes and relationships. But really, it is hard to respect the significantly weaker partner. You don’t bring value but you want to be valuable. How does that work? That’s laughable.


Okay. How many boyfriends will receive sensible Christmas gifts next month? Many would be lucky to get anything more than sex, as if sex itself were a gift. Lol. No value. Men even end up releasing their semen and what do the women release? Nothing but moans, and of course, the stress of a sunny Nigerian day. So, the guy does all the work but the girl still says she “gave” him her body and casually expects compensation for taking his seed from him. What a joke. No tangible value.

Guys should really not encourage this shamelessly needy mentality.

themaestro08:
why can't people be able to comment on your diary? Or is it that way? Not everyone is a troll you know. Some might chip in useful contributions.

And regarding your first post.( And we kept wondering why everything is just so wrong with this country).

themaestro08:
i love your way of thinking.

dollytino4real:
ladies do u see dem

loswhite:
You are one sounding like a kid that has refused to grow up... The world is changing, stop encouraging our women to be lazy.

healthserve:
Marriage is about responsibility of both parties. I'm encouraging men not to settle in the valley by seeking for people to encourage them to remain there but to rather get angry, get up and move.