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GreatChizzy:
All the foolishness in the world wrapped up in just this single comment. You mean technically he's at fault and the root cause of her cheating on him, meaning he owes her an apology for being insensitive to her alleged concerns which in turn spurred her on to cheat on him.

Respect55:
Just woke up now to post this because I felt bad since I came back and slept off. No more relationship for me. I will marry when I'm ready

Respect55:
Brother we didn't start today. It has bn rossy or so I thought for the time we have bn together. We were supposed to start marital rights by next month. Do u even know that the guy updated his whatsapp stories of pics and videos with her earlier this night at a club and I saved them. I would have posted them here but it's not necessary. I saved them for reference proposes

Daviddson:
Lol. It has to be Dimples.303, because apart from midnight.er and olanre, she's the other lady who has commented so far on this thread. Decided to do a minor check on her previous posts and saw that the OP made a grievous mistake by initiating relationship with her in the first place. You are against premarital sex because of your religious conviction and instead of looking for a lady who shares similar conviction, you went for the opposite - you invited this disaster, obviously. Her comments on other threads portray her as a very indecent and a sexually active person. So you even forced your abstinence stand on her, and left with "no option", she decided to take you as a side boyfriend.

Salutem:
Especially, if she's known by the family...... it's quite difficult really

pocohantas:
You always have one relationship issue or the other. Well done, this one has finally made FP. Too much fiction here these days. It is about time I get alternates.

Olanre05:
She is only trying to get the guys attention with her WhatsApp status. The poster himself should give her a benefit of doubt by listening to her and then move on from there....

midnighter:
Exactly , she's practically in the family already.

Did you see where he said his elder sister was the one clothing her? Mehn!

He'd better go and bring it to a respectable conclusion instead of cutting off his nose to spite his face.

That 'Exactly' again? Must you climb on top of everybody's opinion? Surely you have a mind of your own?

midnighter:
Listening to her? How would he listen to her when she hasn't said anythingBabe, digest it..

Your relationship that was about to lead to marriage is crashing and all you can do is try to indirectly bait your boyfriend with immature musings about suicide so that he will forget what happened and come running back to save you.

She has his number, she knows his house, she knows where to find him ... if there's any misunderstanding whats so difficult about going there and clearing it so that your husband-to-be won't have the wrong idea

She is just being manipulative. That's what people do when they're trying to force your hand without admitting their own error.

Attention indeed...spits...

okpanachil:
I have been following your comment, not just on this thread but...at this point I am forced to ask are you are really feminine you seem cut off a different clothe.

healthserve:
Midnighter

Respect55



See what I've been saying all along. She's trying to look for a respectable way out when she doesn't deserve it a single bit


OP don't make the slightest mistake of giving her the dignity of a closure. You'll be stopping low and stripping your ego further by consenting to her request

Leave her to process it through other avenues. Same goes to you. Explain to your sisters what transpired the same way you explained it here


If your ex respected your sisters or your family, she would have explained your inadequacies to your family/sisters to call you to order and not cheat


There's no justification for cheating. That's complete disregard for your lover and all other parties combined.


BTW I've e been wandering where franchasng has been all along

healthserve:
Hahaha haha you no well.


Anyway Onyeama issue aside. Our bro here has a situation. Concerning Onyeama we both share same perspective. If guilty fine, but innocence maintains till proven guilty. Seeing us celebrating people's fall is what bothers me.


That aside


Read the thread well see what the OP is going thru and what I'm debating with our sister about.

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

midnighter:
For the umpteenth time, we are not talking about what she deserves. I don't understand why you keep going back to that.

So since his ex didn't respect his family, he too should disrespect them

Why are you using her behaviour as the yardstick when she's the person who did wrong?

Why not follow your own morality and not hers since you know she is no good.

kingkakaone:
Are you for real?
This case cannot be a set-up at all. I don't comment on issues like this but I need to say some things because of you.

First is that the guy saw his wares online and came to get for himself and his girlfriend (OP's now ex). Remember op said he talked with the girl concerning the kind she likes while he was in the shop?

Secondly, op saw that the guy updated his WhatsApp of their club enjoyment(this is someone that is in a no sex relationship with another guy o) that same night.

Thirdly, that her WhatsApp update has destroyed whatever games she wants to play because her conscience is killing her. If it was a game she won't play it alone, he guy would have been aware and they would have stopped the OP right there and explained.

Finally, I want you to stop commenting on this thread please.
You are not helping anyone here with such comments.

Conclusion, how can a lady claim to test someone who is into a no sex relationship with her? What does she want to cement?

Please don't comment here anymore, I don't know why you are trying to deceive the OP.

franchasng:
I am not even in good mood since Saturday night to write long replies, the issue is weighing me down


The op's god abi gods is working for him, he needs to pour libation to them for saving him from lifetime doom

Daviddson:
Lol. It has to be Dimples.303, because apart from midnight.er and olanre, she's the other lady who has commented so far on this thread. Decided to do a minor check on her previous posts and saw that the OP made a grievous mistake by initiating relationship with her in the first place. You are against premarital sex because of your religious conviction and instead of looking for a lady who shares similar conviction, you went for the opposite - you invited this disaster, obviously. Her comments on other threads portray her as a very indecent and a sexually active person. So you even forced your abstinence stand on her, and left with "no option", she decided to take you as a side boyfriend.

midnighter:
For the umpteenth time, we are not talking about what she deserves. I don't understand why you keep going back to that.

So since his ex didn't respect his family, he too should disrespect them

Why are you using her behaviour as the yardstick when she's the person who did wrong?

Why not follow your own morality and not hers since you know she is no good.

neonly:
What a week to come similar thing happened to my friend today
He invited his babe to his house wanted to give d babe 200K to buy things that she will sell for Xmas has a surprise
Only for d girl to pick up an unnecessary fight I swear true story just happened today

healthserve:
You're almost always in good mood.

This is new. Hang in there. Get some fine wine watch some Japanese Manga and Comedy flicks. Sleep and forget the issues at hand, leave it for a clearer mind much later

okpanachil:
I have been following your comment, not just on this thread but...at this point I am forced to ask are you are really feminine you seem cut off a different clothe.

franchasng:
the only thing that can lighten my mood now is to hear a breaking news that Dangote has been arrested

midnighter:
Lol, yes I'm female and cut from female cloth

Olanre05:
I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

Vado:
I have joined too.

Sleevia:
The problem I have with people that talk like you is that most times, you bring nothing to the table and let the man do all the work... like calling often, texting often, initiating talk often... you get most of the monetary values while the man you hope to stay without sex gets NOTHING. i SPEAK from experience and I have ended relationships without sex. I have given to girls I have not physically money without expecting sex... but the truth is that girls like you bring NOTHING TO the table. You were quick to highlight your beautiful... that is a red flag for an experience person like me and pointer that you will bring NOTHING.

franchasng:
The only things that should make a man cry are:

1.) Death of his mother
2.) Death of his loving father
3.) Loss of crucial investment or business
4.) Loss of a child
5.) If diagnosed with a terminal illness



Real men don't cry for women or love in 2019, Romeo, Jack, etc were all foolish men that died for nothing out of their stupidity.


Love is a total fallacy, what we call love is selfish interests.


The only true love that exist is that between a mother and child, don't be deceived, if you die now, that your so called loving wife will be opening her pussy wide open for another man and she will forget about you in highest 2 yeara