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Once the word "toxic" describes a relationship, it's time to move on.

Its literal meaning is "poison".

I have a friend like that...so stubborn, insultive and always wants to claim correct all the time...abeg I don free am so I don't receive insults becos I hate insults....so my advice will be free her...distance urself from her...

Don't be blind folded with LOVE

It is a mistake to think that people change. But it is a bigger mistake to think people cant change

Unpussified:
Op she has everything no proper man wants in a woman. She is toxic, manipulative, abusive, domineering, disrespectful and not submissive. Whatever u going through now is child's play, in marriage it gets worse cos everything gets amplified. The only solution here is to walk away and never look back.

You said it all.

I said it all. Ur mom is a smart woman. Dont marry out of pity so u won't live frustrated life.

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Run for your life

How do you expect us to know the answer to that question. Ogbeni park well

Martinez39:
I have no pity for you. I have no pity for people who stupidly orchestrate their misery. If you don't know what to do, I cannot help you and nobody can. If your girlfriend can be like this and you haven't done the needful or don't know what you should do, then both of you deserve and belong to each other.
Stupidity is a curse that makes the stupid man potentially dangerous to himself and those around him. You are afflicted by this curse and the only cure is the singular act of fully using your brain. Start using your brain to think smart like an adult and get some boldness and spine. You are a weak and very stupid person.

Bros this your advice too funny abeg But you couldn't have said it better. Sometimes only a bitter dose would work. The dude is just preparing to mess up his life, I don't want to ever be in his shoes

burggerx:
That's exactly my plan bro... Marriage is not a child's play and I don't want to end up as a frustrated man.. The frustration in this country alone is enough to give one concern talk more of adding that of a miserable wife to it

I know there are several other guys in the same dilemma with me and I hope lalasticlala can give this post a wider audience

Please is your wife born between June and July? or between October and November? infact is she a cancer zodiac or Scorpio?

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Ure asking this question because u still love her . You know the answer in ur heart.

I really doubt if she will change OP...Its best you quit the relationship

Lie lie...

I doubt oo

No.
Hell No.

Drpeey:
I said it all. Ur mom is a smart woman. Dont marry out of pity so u won't live frustrated life.

My mom is smarter than I think... I always conceal her real character from her because I don't want my mom to hate her but she knows everything I've been hiding

The day Buhari changes from being a tyrant......It's impossible bro

Gaggi:
People hardly change but yes she can pipe down. She can only pipe low for you when you show her you are the man. You will experience conflict during this period of trying to assert your authority. She will fight it but will finally succumb to you or she will run away from the relationship.
The only question is, is she worth that stress and headache? Is she worth keeping at all cost for you to experience strife during the power tussle? I will simply say you should let her go.

She can't be tamed as she sees no wrong in her attitude.

Your mom is very wise @Op, listen to her.

Unpussified:
Op she has everything no proper man wants in a woman. She is toxic, manipulative, abusive, domineering, disrespectful and not submissive. Whatever u going through now is child's play, in marriage it gets worse cos everything gets amplified. The only solution here is to walk away and never look back.

I grew up in a family where humility and good character is our watchword but I just can't be the one that will marry a woman that will cause separation between me and my family

A leopard can never ever change its spot. Don't fall for her emotional blackmail. Good luck guy.

No one can change character, can only be reduced. No after marriage shit, if she can't stop the behavior, she can't stop after wedding.
Wedding is a ceremony to officially let people know that, you can Bleep her/him anytime, you are more responsible, you can have wanted pregnancy. DON'T BE FOOLED

i don't know what to say......

burggerx:
When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met.

...

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction.

...

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Guy forget all these yarns wey you dey yarn.

Now listen to me.

You already know the answer to seek.

Can a fried fish be unfried again

burggerx:
I grew up in a family where humility and good character is our watchword but I just can't be the one that will marry a woman that will cause separation between me and my family

You are right

Visualize all your complains, multiply them by 2, that's how she will be after marriage. Marriage doesn't change bad character, it makes em worse

U re very fortunate dear op, that she came to u without her mask. U re seei g dis ki d of thing clearly & u re considering marriage with such a toxic b**ch?? . I think u ve low self esteem & no standards at all, hence such consideration in d first place. Good luck to u.

aniekeme09:
I have a friend like that...so stubborn, insultive and always wants to claim correct all the time...abeg I don free am so I don't receive insults becos I hate insults....so my advice will be free her...distance urself from her...

She's so stubborn and always want to control me. Each time I talk about her bad attitude which is not something I can't easily overlook, she begins to argue and tells me no relationship is perfect

Even if no relationship is perfect, is about condoning a lady who has the tendency to disrespect both me and my parents?

I come from a humble background but she's just the opposite of that

Shugargal:
Please is your wife born between June and July? or between October and November? infact is she a cancer zodiac or Scorpio?

What has zodiac sign got to do with one that is disrespectful?

burggerx:
She's so stubborn and always want to control me. Each time I talk about her bad attitude which is not something I can't easily overlook, she begins to argue and tells me no relationship is perfect

Even if no relationship is perfect, is about condoning a lady who has the tendency to disrespect both me and my parents?

I come from a humble background but she's just the opposite of that

What are the good sides of this lady in question? Does it supercede the bad side?

Is she from I.M.O mbaise ?