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Gaggi:
People hardly change but yes she can pipe down. She can only pipe low for you when you show her you are the man. You will experience conflict during this period of trying to assert your authority. She will fight it but will finally succumb to you or she will run away from the relationship.
The only question is, is she worth that stress and headache? Is she worth keeping at all cost for you to experience strife during the power tussle? I will simply say you should let her go.

mank1234:
ILegend come and sell your book o

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

burggerx:
I never said I'm blameless. I have my own flaws too but certainly not rudeness, pomposity, arrogance or disrespecting her family during heated arguments

eni4real:
He is frustrated, man

eyickson:
My brother I've been in your shoes, my ex girlfriend is same as yours, at least yours respect you in presence of your family mine don't, she came visiting last two months and keep avoiding my brother like a plague, I sat her down n explain things to her that my brother is trying to come close to you because of me and also because he doesn't have a choice. My my gf keep doing same thing and making me look like a weakling in presence of brothers
Countless number of times she have insulted n fought me in presence of friends
She's hot tempered, I kept my calm trying to please her, left my place to travel back first thing in the morning on countless times
I couldn't leave her cos I loved her
But a month ago we had a heated argument she insulted everyone in my house n left back to owerri from my house in Abuja, since then we've not spoken and I've vowed never to take her back no matter what
I have two Samsung phone lying in my house which she broke out of anger and you know how much the screen cost.
So op I advice you to let her go, I know its gonna be hard but pls let her go

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

eni4real:
May be you are a remorseful type..

Some will continue to abuse the guy's family with reckless abandon..

That girl is more advanced compared to you..

Nobody should marry someone that is not working on her self already or show any sign of improvement
Pity marriage is not a good thing!!!

The Op girlfriend deserve love but not from him but from a tough guy who can tame her..

OP no fit.... The lady's character is affecting his mind already!!!

iRepNaija1:
I'm frustrated with Nigeria. Do you see me blaming only Buhari for the state of the country?

Martinez39:
I have no pity for you. I have no pity for people who stupidly orchestrate their misery. If you don't know what to do, I cannot help you and nobody can. If your girlfriend can be like this and you haven't done the needful or don't know what you should do, then both of you deserve and belong to each other.
Stupidity is a curse that makes the stupid man potentially dangerous to himself and those around him. You are afflicted by this curse and the only cure is the singular act of fully using your brain. Start using your brain to think smart like an adult and get some boldness and spine. You are a weak and very stupid person.

burggerx:
But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a rude girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

burggerx:
I'm not stupid man! The reason why I have stayed this long with her is that I don't know if the next person I will jump to would be worse, which I doubt

okewumi:


Just tired of most youth nowadays. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is aggressive, it is better you quit as fast as possible.

What is love?

Sincerely most of you doesn't understand love but suffering from emotional cancerworm, calling it love. I read from page one to last and what is common is 'l would have run away from him or her but l love her'

I am married for years and have hang my boot on giving birth. Let me tell you something l have observed, whatever your spouse is displaying now he or she will display times 10 when she has second child (not first child). Then she knows she is established and if it is other way, the man knows it will be difficult for you to be single again.

God created relationship to open your eyes and use your brain but most guy see it as opportunity to explore sexual model. Ladies are even better in relationship, they can hide some characters till they get marry and show the beast in them.

Afodot0022:
I experienced it bro. when she had my first daughter she was not as terible as she now that she have the second child. to her, she felt is is established and there is noway you can put her away after having the second child. that how most ladies behove. they become demon after having their second issue.

Afodot0022:
SEE OP... I TAKE GOD OR ANYTHING YOU SERVE BEG YOU, PLS LEAVE THAT LADY ALONE IF YOU DONT WANT TO WALLOW IN SADNESS AND SORROW ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE. LADY LIKE THAT WILL NEVER , I MEAN NEVER EVER CHANGE. THAT IS WHO SHE IS AND WHAT SHE WILL BE FOREVER . I MADE SUCH MISTAKE TO MARRY SUCH AND TODAY AM ALWAYS SORRY FOR MYSELF.YOU CAN IMAGINE WHEN YOU ALWAYS FEEL REGRET. I NEVER ENJOYED MY MARRIAGE WITH SUCH TOXIC AND DISRESPECTFUL WOMAN. SUCH WOMAN WILL ALWAYS BE DOMINATING,MANIPULATING AND DAM DISRESPECTUL EVEN TO THE EYES OF YOUR KIDS,FAMILY, NEIGBOURS AND CO. IT WAS WHEN I GOT MARRIED THAT PEOPLE START HEARING MY VOICE IN THE HOUSE. THEY KNEW ME AS AN EASY GOING AND GENTLE MAN BUT WHEN YOU MARRY THIS YOUR KIND OF WOMAN, YOU WILL BE TURNED INTO A BEAST COS SHE WILL DEFINATELY BRING OUT THE GOLDEN BEAST OUTA YOU. PLS DISCARD HER AND DONT LET HER DECEIVE YOU WITH YOU DONT LOVE ME STUFF.NA SO THEM DEY TALK..EMOTIONAL BLACKMAILING FORMAT. WHEN THE WAHALA COME, THAT LOVE WILL PASS WINDOW RUN AWAY. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH TO MARRY A TOXIC WOMAN.NEVER. YOU WILL NEVER ENJOY HER AND ANYTIME YOU ARE SEEING HER, UNHAPPINESS AND DEPRESSION WILL JUST OVERWHELM YOU. PLS LISTEN TO THIS LITTLE ADVICE O. AM SUFFERING IT RIGHT NOW AND DONT KNOW WHEN ITS GOING TO END. I HOPE ONE DAY SHA.

burggerx:
I'm not stupid man! The reason why I have stayed this long with her is that I don't know if the next person I will jump to would be worse, which I doubt

eni4real:
Different analogy..

sacramento1212:
Is it very common with Edo Ladies?

Kaychiz:
We have a close family friend who is suffering from this problem right now and we pray daily that God will give him a miracle someday! As in, the guy is living with a hell-cat called wife. Funny thing is his father-in-law actually asked him severally before marriage if he was man enough to tame his daughter Becos they all knew the kind of person she was. But he was blinded by love!

Today it's from one problem to the other. The wife is just one devil who is never wrong! She's picked up a knife severally trying to stab him. And at other times she threatens to kill herself if things are not done her way. I've witnessed her drink deadly solutions just because her husband was trying to put his foot down on an issue. She blackmails him emotionally all the time thereby forcing him to do her bidding. The situation is really pathetic and the guy keeps regretting not heeding to the advice of all those who advised him against the marriage.

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

burggerx:
I guess you're a troll or maybe you probably share the same traits with my gf and you actually think it's your boyfriend that created this thread