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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by electroTech: 11:00am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

The child most likely belongs to you. Pregnancy is normally counted form the time a woman sees her last period not from the time she was ovulating (which is the time you had sex with her).
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by richieray: 11:00am On Dec 03, 2019
The pregnancy could be yours though, pregnancy starts to count from the very time she saw her last period,not when you guys actually met,so you can do a simple maths by asking her the last time she saw her period.so you could count from that time.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Luchnaka: 11:01am On Dec 03, 2019
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Crack your brain very well.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by 5thAngel(f): 11:02am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

U start counting the pregnancy from the first day of her last period, which is two weeks before your intimacy. So, 2 weeks plus 4 weeks is equal to six weeks. You don't start counting from the day you had sex with her

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by jurjes(f): 11:03am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

Pregnancy is calculated from the date of the last menstrual period, also note that ovulation happens two weeks after the Last menstrual period and it is only during ovulation that eggs are released for possible fertilization.

Its possible you are the father, Do not be hasty in your decision
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Beremx(f): 11:06am On Dec 03, 2019
My annoyance is that he couldn't use a condom but gave the girl pills to drink. What's the possibility that the pills worked?

Anyway, he should go for a DNA test.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by bayulll011(m): 11:06am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Just tell me you have issues with comprehension and I'll break it down to your level. Anyway, what do I even expect from someone who spells (I'm)as (am)


don't mind my grammar aunty.
i'm saying try to make sense cos i still can't get what you wrote down there.

yes u can help my comprehension i don't mind
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 11:08am On Dec 03, 2019
I don't know why it's so hard for them to be straightforward. All they know is playing game with one's heart.

@OP, if possible, let her surrender her phone to you. The truth will be out soon.

And start saving for DNA test.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Zenithpeak(m): 11:08am On Dec 03, 2019
If the lady was not pregnant before 3rd Nov. The pill taken after the act will stop her from being pregnant even till now.

The fact that the first doctor confirmed that, her body reacted that way because she's pregnant is enough reason for me disbelief the lady. I understand she might not want to lose the guy but she should handle it with care.

The only reason I'll believe the girl is, if she was deflowered by this guy on 3rd Nov.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Bamineyo(m): 11:08am On Dec 03, 2019
I once had a close similar experience, I think you should spend time asking yourself if you are ready to marry a loving and caring wife who cheated on you. She is obviously pregnant for some1 else but becos she loves you, she will never agree that its not yours until she the man responsible agrees to take responsibility.


Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Mac12(f): 11:09am On Dec 03, 2019
There's every possibility that child is yours reason been that, pregnancy date is calculated from the first day of her last menstruation and not actually the day you had sex with her.

I will use myself as an example. When it was obvious I was 2weeks pregnant because of the day I had sex, scan was showing 4weeks and few days gone.

My only confusion is that, the first doctor said she was already pregnant before she took the drug. She won't even test positive few days after sex. Pregnancy doesn't start the day that partners have sex — it can take up to six days after intercourse for the sperm and egg to join and form a fertilized egg. Then, it can take six to 10 days for the fertilized egg to completelyimplant itself in the lining of the uterus.

DNA test is the only way to be sure.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by lereinter(m): 11:11am On Dec 03, 2019
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Forward77(m): 11:11am On Dec 03, 2019
My brother, I’m giving you this advice from the bottom of my heart because, I understand how you feel.

Honestly and trust are the bedrock of a relationship and not love.
If either or both of them are broken, the relationship has failed.
Love can’t sustain a relationship; period.

From the the whole thing you said, your girlfriend is not honest with you and can’t be trusted.
She will obviously play the victim, meanwhile you’re the victim.

There are other ladies out there who can be trusted.
You already know what to do, so do it.

Good Luck!!!
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Juliearth(f): 11:11am On Dec 03, 2019
If you are ready to father another man's child and deal with her dishonesty, then you can continue with the relationship. Else, please give yourself peace by leaving.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by lereinter(m): 11:11am On Dec 03, 2019
Use condom always
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Josh44s(m): 11:14am On Dec 03, 2019
Lightangel65:
I don't know much but I have seen enough stories like this on NL to she is lying. You can run a DNA test to be sure

Do you know how much DNA test cost?? How can u run a DNA test on a pregnancy. Is your brain paining you? cheesy
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by frugal(m): 11:19am On Dec 03, 2019
ogorwyne:
Skin to skin wahala.
grin

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by benedima1990(m): 11:19am On Dec 03, 2019
It so annoying wen matured educated fellow ask stupid questions


U had sex with her 4weeks back
She came out 6 weeks plus days pregnant
You're still asking dumb questions about what people thinks

Keep am na, shebi u want to father another man's child. Mumu. U better send her packing.... U met less than 3 months and you're believing everything she's saying.

Comot here joor olodo

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Kenturkey048(m): 11:19am On Dec 03, 2019
emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell him?
Don't tell him ooh...leave him to mumu small.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 11:20am On Dec 03, 2019
Lightangel65:


I hate when ladies know another lady is ovbiously wrong and still support them. That attitude stinks

You can read well right? English is not difficult, Google is your friend too.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by pagorino(m): 11:21am On Dec 03, 2019
Toto yaff blind your eyes. Wise up
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by shestrong(f): 11:22am On Dec 03, 2019
u don enter one chance bro... investigate ds issue properly, if possible chk her phone,closely monitor her.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by dominique(f): 11:23am On Dec 03, 2019
She's six weeks pregnant oga. Pregnancy age is counted using date of last menstrual period not date of conception. So if she took in four weeks ago, doctors will put her at being 6 weeks pregnant.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by benedima1990(m): 11:24am On Dec 03, 2019
Another solution for ur dumb ass questions

If u know how to secretly be reading her WhatsApp msg on your own phone without her knowing, u will find out the truth in one way or the other because she will definitely pour out her mind to her close friends or even the guy responsible for the pregnancy

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Samuels90: 11:24am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Just tell me you have issues with comprehension and I'll break it down to your level. Anyway, what do I even expect from someone who spells (I'm)as (am)

I like your analysis from the first paragraph, I read somewhere where it is stated. Looks like he is responsible, buh why did she bleed?
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Acidosis(m): 11:24am On Dec 03, 2019
Why are you confused? Did you sleep with a virgin?

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Acidosis(m): 11:27am On Dec 03, 2019
jurjes:
Pregnancy is calculated from the date of the last menstrual period, also note that ovulation happens two weeks after the Last menstrual period and it is only during ovulation that eggs are released for possible fertilization.

Its possible you are the father, Do not be hasty in your decision

You're right. OP, keep calm and be wise.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Sweetchilli(f): 11:28am On Dec 03, 2019
People react differently to contraceptive pills. I've had a friend who bleed continously for days after taking contraceptives.

Samuels90:
I like your analysis from the first paragraph, I read somewhere where it is stated. buh why did she bleed?

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by KenModi(m): 11:29am On Dec 03, 2019
Birdeyeview:
OP
i understand how you feel but i must tell you i'm also perplexed as you are...
waiting for advice or suggestions from well meaning NL so i can learn as well..

You won’t say anything meaningful now because its obvious the lady is telling lies and trying to pin another niqqa’s baby on him; you here claiming you want to learn but if it had been the other way around, and the guy was the one at fault here, you would have been screaming, raining fire, brimstones and insults on the guy. Smh!

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Samuels90: 11:30am On Dec 03, 2019
It's a bit dicey
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Kenturkey048(m): 11:30am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

This is for the uneducated men mentioning me and saying rubbish. You at least have access to the internet, why can't you just Google it instead of making uninformed statements and disgracing your ancestors
babe is writing what she saw on google as a proven fact...You know more than the doctors right?? This is the kinda explanation some folks would give to say TINUBU is fit to be the next Nigerian president..COMMoN sENSE is Vital.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by AnimationsVilla: 11:31am On Dec 03, 2019
Scan results use to add two weeks to pregnancy weeks because it is assumed that the pregnancy happens 14 days after menses which is their policy. The baby is yours. Don't maltreat the lady. Google this information.

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