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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by denickboss(m): 10:04am On Dec 03, 2019
Lightangel65:
I don't know much but I have seen enough stories like this on NL to she is lying. You can run a DNA test to be sure




DNA test is after birth
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Gcool2(m): 10:04am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.
if this is true,I think doctors should have explained this to him

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:05am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

This is why abstinence before marriage is good I am an atheist but for me to tell you this it means a lot. If you can't take care of a child in the next life keep your penis in your underwear or meet a prostitute simple. You are not the father yes, that is if what you are saying is true but you know how women are they can only blame pregnancies on men they believe can take care of them.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by iamarealman(m): 10:05am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!



So sorry for you. I want you to do a DNA test, but that will take a very long time before it can happen
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by alizma: 10:05am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

First of all she is pregnant, secondly, the pregnant is not yours, thirdly if you love her to the point that you can forgive her, seek her consent to get ride of the pregnancy and start your relationship afresh.
Once a girl lied at first. It will take her to convince herself the need to change what she said earlier and tell the truth especially when it seems she will be left to herself when she say the truth. If she loves you, she may open up in future.
Remember in my advise, I said if you love her to the point that you can forgive her so don't do as if you forgive her today and tomorrow you starts to bring the case up.
When some of us were going after our wives, we knew very well they were dating someone else but we were determine to get them, in fact, some even knew who their wives were dating but they went for what they wanted. That is not to say you must walk that way too because there are people who want to start on a supposed clean sheet. That is they want to hear that there is no existing man before them, whether it is truth or lie they are not interested what matters to them is that the lady said their is no other person and the lady is able to defend that either sincerely or otherwise all through their courtship period. So it depends on where you belong. You know yourself better. Success

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by ibechris(m): 10:06am On Dec 03, 2019
Allow her to give birth first, and pls do not discuss marriage with her yet.

There is one hospital in Abuja I heard runs DNA testing for less than 70k that will help u out on this. That is what many men are suffering from these days. Foisting of Illegitimate pregnancy on innocent men whose eyes are on beauty.

Sorry brother.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:06am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

Ghostfaze
Read this over and over again. Also check the internet for more explanation.
Get ready for fatherhood

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Sweetchilli(f): 10:06am On Dec 03, 2019
If he had asked, the doctor would certainly have explained it to him. Every woman who has gone through pregnancy knows this.
Gcool2:
if this is true,I think doctors should have explained this to him

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by WIZGUY69(m): 10:07am On Dec 03, 2019
God will see yuu through Op, but that doesn't change the fact that Women chest more than Men!
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Avast(m): 10:07am On Dec 03, 2019
donstan18:
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

No
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Chubhie: 10:08am On Dec 03, 2019
This is both complication and implication.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by OCTAVO: 10:09am On Dec 03, 2019
She was reluctant about taking the contraceptive because she knew she was already pregnant and wanted to hold you responsible. Remember you had to persuade her to take the drug? Guy, she was already pregnant and she knew it.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by noble71(m): 10:09am On Dec 03, 2019
This is what condom would have prevented. The most expensive condom is 1000 naira. I don't joke with condom to avoid stories like this.
Back to the post.
Your babe was pregnant before visiting you. That was why blood came out after taking those drugs.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by deavicky(m): 10:10am On Dec 03, 2019
This is the exact reason we are advice to keep our prick one place.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Elxandre(m): 10:11am On Dec 03, 2019
Use condom you say no, now see your life.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Obhelen(f): 10:11am On Dec 03, 2019
Pregnancy starts counting from the last time a lady experience her last menstral period.. So it's possible the child is yours, but to be on the safe side you should ask for a DNA test

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Teewhy123(m): 10:13am On Dec 03, 2019
You have said it all, a word is enough for the wise, he should not allow the power of pussy to take over his senses because if he does he would regret it haevily
shamsin6300:
Guy if wat u re saying is truth
I think de oda guy dt got her pregnant is nt a hustler, she bliv u re de1 capable of taking care of her needs.

Be Wise
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Style007(m): 10:13am On Dec 03, 2019
RonaldoVido:


You thought the first doctor was joking right ?

2 more doctors have confirmed what the first doctor told you.

Abeg, leave us alone.

People have sex for months using withdrawal method and don't even get pregnant but she wants you to believe you impregnated her in one night ?

Uncle, is that how strong your sperm is ?

You are just unbelievable! Jesus what did i just read? You think a woman can’t get pregnant just by one time sex?

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by janettee(f): 10:13am On Dec 03, 2019
Pregnancy is calculated from the last day she had her period!!!.
Not from the last day she had sex, this is common sense!.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by sophy17(m): 10:14am On Dec 03, 2019
Wonderful relationship indeed!!!

May God give you sense

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Luxiana19(f): 10:14am On Dec 03, 2019
I just hope she has not harmed the innocent child with the contraceptives that she took.

A lady will know that she is already pregnant and still be drinking nonsense, that kind of wickedness is beyond me.

Tomorrow, god forbid, she gives birth to a disabled child, she will start saying that village people are chasing her.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by abbatoir(m): 10:14am On Dec 03, 2019
Cellenero:
If you won't allow emotions get the better of you, I sincerely feel you know the very right thing to do.
One thing I have inferred so far from your write up is that you're too soft & trust me ,that lady is going to mess up with you if you don't drop these softness & grow some balls in situation as these .


Absolutely nothing else!




Your quote...

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by bayulll011(m): 10:15am On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.


Thank you!


Women??
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by janettee(f): 10:15am On Dec 03, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
What about d pregnancy prevention drug she took after meeting the op? It didn't work? And she even tested negative then undecided This Op situation is confusing

She probably tested negative cause the pregnancy hormones in her blood weren't enough for the result to be positive.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by simplepee(f): 10:15am On Dec 03, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
Hope he has seen your input. The lady shares the blame for allowing unprotected sex twice, despite the issues she faced. I can also imargine the harsh contraceptives he gave the lady the first time such that it caused bleeding. Such ignorant fellow, otherwise he would have known that some contraceptives do cause bleeding, as if that's not enough you take her back to the same quack doctor for treatment. After delivery and DNA shows you are the father, and the woman misbehaves for all the pain you put her through, you will say women are wicked.
SMH..Why do some of you support/defend evil in the name of 'feminism' or 'bro code'(for men)?..



We should always say the truth,no matter who is involved.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Lessonbalogun: 10:15am On Dec 03, 2019
which type of advise do.u want again if u could not believe a scan result from.hospital and.what d.first doctor told u.then u Ave a problem. is either u do.away with her.before.u father a.bastard or u tell her abort it or take it to.d real.guy. use.ur.brain.guy
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by NaijaOlosho(f): 10:16am On Dec 03, 2019
That child is yours bro

Calculate from when she saw her last menses and not when you slept with her.


Ultrasound machines and designed to match with last menstral circles

That child is yours oo

Don't suffer that lady and the child


The best way is to go for abortion so you guys can start all over again

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Charmingrascal(m): 10:16am On Dec 03, 2019
Stories lyk dis break my heart.
Dnt be blinded by luv, dnt father anther man's child. She slept wit anoda man even when she knws how much u luv her. She cnt trusted & she isn't loyal, she might stll cheat wen u eventualy marry her
Decision is urs bro.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:17am On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.
She's here...so you're the op's soon to be baby mama...hahahaha
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 10:18am On Dec 03, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
Mr. Deaddbrain......sex should be for mature minds. Some contraceptives cause bleeding in the vagina (side-effects) which I believe could be found on the drug leaflet, or maybe the quack doctor gave drugs without prescription. This is what happened to the girl after taking drugs from the quack doctor and not pregnancy. See the number of so called mature men who contributed, yet do not even know how pregnancy is calculated..... SMH.



drop d respect u don't av to call me MR wen am not married, sex is for all living, marriage & parenting is what must be for matured minds.ok
side effect of drugs as nothing to with quackness of a doctor esp. wen test is not run, bleeding as a result of taking contraceptive is very rare and even when it happens its nothing to panic about cos it will go by itself.
The issue on these thread for discussion is paternity of the child, the fact that pregnancy is calculated from a woman"s LMP doesnt mean we shuld erase the possibility the gurl could av slept wit a guys within that 2weeks before meeting OP as well. if she was with OP from the onset of her LMP there would av been no room 4 doubts. if most women can't even understand there cycle not to talk of calculating pregnancy why shuld a gainfully busy man knw it. why do we av doctors n gynecologist. keep shakin ur small head.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Chubhie: 10:19am On Dec 03, 2019
Na so one beautiful neighbour enter my room back then in PD begin show pant. She got the message that I'm not playing ball and frustratingly left.

Few weeks after, I could see the signs that she's pregnant as a bad boy. She disappeared afterwards never to be seen again.

The next Sunday as I was nacking my tie in front of the mirror, I took a good look at myself and giggled at the man I am becoming. I would never forget that feeling and the lessons.

Don Vito Corleone taught me well.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by vinceobe: 10:19am On Dec 03, 2019
It has been said over and over again: Avoid pre-marital sex otherwise called fornication. If you must, please use a condom. You would not hear. See where it has landed both your girl and you. Now, there are consequences for sin and and not playing by the rules. Bear them with equanimity like a man.

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