Different palava in this world
Sometimes nairaland front page is a typical Reality.
When you think you have it all figured out, boom!!! You are thrown into another dilemma
The pregnancy might be his or not(There are lots of advises on that already)
My on consign is hope the pregnancy hasn't been injured by the drug she took earlier
Its painful enough thinking you are not responsible for the pregnancy

Good morning my man, if you can listen to my advice, try to terminate the pregnancy to avoid the doubt, and if you still love her go ahead and let her know that you terminate the pregnancy to clear your daubt and let her know that you still love her and she should not try the same mistake again. just take it easy with her and handle this matter in a mature way. That is my advice for you man.

Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

and what are u saying because u did not say anything that makes sense

simplepee:
SMH..Why do some of you support/defend evil in the name of 'feminism'?

please ask dem , objectivity is never on there list

zainmaxwell:
Op have asked an elderly lady she said I should tell you that the pregnancy is not yours that actually she is already pregnant before you guys sex and two that your babe is already two weeks pregnant and what the drug did is just to shake it that was why it shows negative in scan when u add that together you will get ur 6 week and two day.....said I should ask you to tell your woman she herself knows who owns the pregnancy that ur yeye girlfriend is lying

PS...every woman knows the father of their baby

Not every woman knows d father of their babies, because somel ladies av multiple partners and which prompt them to av sex with 3 different men in. a day, there is no how she will know who impregnate her if test is not carried out. she will just force it on a rich guy among them.

Lightangel65:
I don't know much but I have seen enough stories like this on NL to she is lying. You can run a DNA test to be sure

DNA for which country? Because if Nigerian doctors can't treat ear � problem not sure you can get the right result

You have access to the internet. Use that your remaining 10mb to Google how pregnancy is calculated and stop being a troll

bayulll011:



and what are u saying because u did not say anything that makes sense

donstan18:
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

You have said it all, a word is enough for the wise, he should not allow the power of pussy to take over his senses because if he does he would regret it haevily

[quote author=Sweetchilli post=84573537]Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with

Best advice is have seen on this.only a woman can give this wise answer.men do not know anything about pregnancy and would. End up misleading him.the pregnancy is his.]

janettee:


She probably tested negative cause the pregnancy hormones in her blood weren't enough for the result to be positive.

Means d Op is not responsible. Cos d drug she even took them is enough to kill d spermatozoas

That is why we always tell you to give your lives to Christ and spare yourselves all these stress.

The first doctor could have nailed his suspicion but having the lady do a serum pregnancy test.

I will not comment much on the pill part as I know nothing about it, neither will I comment on the premeditated intent to have raw sex, Pills from study distorts some ladies hormone system.

I will only share an informed opinion based on my experience as a father, I use to think like the poster that pregnancy calculation starts the moment you have sex.
That is purely not true, the Doctors' and scan calculation starts from her last mensuration, not when you had sex.

You could approach any medical practitioner or Gynecologist and I know they will educate you more.

Trust and goodwill is needed in any relationship.

Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

This is the most sensible reply. Na you get the belle. Remove 2weeks from the scan result. If you still don't believe, ask a married woman with 2kids to interpret the result for you.

The lady is a crook, I believe Op is Mr gentle and goody goody man. She wants to bring down at all cost... Men should always watch out for their partners, anytime they do uncommon thing like offering Sex, money or gift, abeg check am well before accepting .. The Eve in woman is still active

When will this film hit the Cinema! I know the 'FTC crew' will rush the thread and the innocent ones providing genuine advice to a film not yet released

Olafemiwa:
Good morning my man, if you can listen to my advice, try to terminate the pregnancy to avoid the doubt, and if you still love her go ahead and let her know that you terminate the pregnancy to clear your daubt and let her know that you still love her and she should not try the same mistake again. just take it easy with her and handle this matter in a mature way. That is my advice for you man.

If the lady means the world to him, pledges unflinching loyalty going forward, He should deal with himself and proceed like nothing happened and still be the best friend, husband and a great father to the kids.

No man or women is infallible. You've got to select your own demon and start pouring anointing oil.

All the these hoeloshos shouting +/-2 weeks up and down sef. If op said the pregnancy tested positive after 4 weeks of meeting her, they would still be the ones shouting 'pregnancy scan always show +/- 4weeks blah blah blah'

Nowadays girl are the true definitions of DEVIL. Useless set of hoeloshos

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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

The average time between menstrual periods is about 28 days, and ovulation occurs about 14 days before the next period begins. So when we say a woman’s estimated gestational age is six weeks’ LMP, we mean she conceived about four weeks ago, around the time of ovulation.

https://rewire.news/article/2013/10/17/whats-in-a-week-pregnancy-dating-standards-and-what-they-mean/

Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

correct I can deduce from your postulation that the sperm travelled back two weeks in time and fertilize her ovaries. then my friends should stop arguing with me that time and space continuum isn't real.

donstan18:
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

see, toto Na something wey I no understand especially if it's good. E dey reset adult brain gan.

Sweetchilli:
You have access to the internet. Use that your remaining 10mb to Google how pregnancy is calculated and stop being a troll

am not a troll aunty...
all am saying u is u are not making sense.
try and be reasonable with sense

@Op
The pregnancy is most likely yours. Pregnancy scan result does not give you the day of fertilization but the age of the egg fertilized, so the egg would have been about 2 weeks old b4 it could be fertilized, and it wasn't fertilized at that stage, it passes out as menstrual flow (and that is the cycle of every woman). So going by your date Nov 3 to Dec 2 is 4 weeks 2 days plus two wks the age of the egg b4 fertilization, brings us to the Ade of the foetus as you currently have it. So congratulations in advance. CAVEAT. I'm not a doctor, so confirm this from a competent gynaecologist, otherwise wait for 9 mths and do DNA. But do not unjustly treat a seemingly innocent souls

The foetus in question might be affected deu to the effect of the drugs earlier taken... It is one thing to have a healthy bastard in your care but quite another thing to have an slowpoke bastard to care for.

Autism and other rare cases are not easy to manage. Drop your emotions and sentiments propelled spirit of fairness and simplicity for now and think straightforward. Confirm the health status of the foetus and the truth about the father of the unborn baby so that you'll have peace.

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Hello everyone.
Thank you!

I hope you donot spoil your beautiful relationship.since this has to do with a woman,I would advice u listen to women who have been through this stage before.nairaland is a forum where everybody says what they think is right.most people telling you the baby is not yours, donot understand how pregnancy is calculated .if it is not too much to ask,ask her her last menstrual period.then use a pregnancy calculation app on Google and calculate and I guess that would settle the case.for now,be kind to her .a pregnant woman needs all the care she can get

aro1:
you actually had raw sex with her.. Did you cum insyd her and watch it flow out like a boss?
She might be saying the truth,and she might not.. All in all.. You have already partially accepted the baby.

Wait till after the childbirth and do DNA test.

This guy

So fascinating how you deduced her innocence from your bedroom. It's either the Holy Spirit told you or you are a witch

LilMissFavvy:
Hope he has seen your input. The lady shares the blame for allowing unprotected sex twice, despite the issues she faced. I can also imargine the harsh contraceptives he gave the lady the first time such that it caused bleeding. Such ignorant fellow, otherwise he would have known that some contraceptives do cause bleeding, as if that's not enough you take her back to the same quack doctor for treatment. After delivery and DNA shows you are the father, and the woman misbehaves for all the pain you put her through, you will say women are wicked.

Omo, see one chance!

The comments I read here shows that some guys don't know how to read pregnancy dates.
OP, you have to be careful.
If she's just six weeks pregnant, there's every chance that you are responsible. Yes, you may.
The doctors don't count from the day you had sex but the lady's last menstrual period.
Ovulation takes place at about 14 days (+-3) for some ladies which is when she should get pregnant. So add two weeks to the period you supposedly had sex with her, you will have the six weeks.
For the pills, some work and some don't work.

Ghostfaze:
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

Use condom, una no go hear.

Just risking your health for orgasm.
Go and check if you never contact STDs first and then tell the young lady to leave ur house Biko.
U can redo another test or scan to be certain. Scan preferably

aro1:
you actually had raw sex with her.. Did you cum insyd her and watch it flow out like a boss?
She might be saying the truth,and she might not.. All in all.. You have already partially accepted the baby.

Wait till after the childbirth and do DNA test.

It's aro1 there.

The king of Ciawifol a boss. Twalee baba.