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Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by frozen70(f): 10:52am On Dec 01, 2019 |
MVPtesley: Marriage is sweet if true love is found Marriage has the most dramatic and confusing issues, but sitting together to sort it out immediately is the best way Marriage is a subject that if you don't resolve a present situation, it will spread and affects future situations In marriage, children brings joy, but providing for them is part of the issues that affects marriage In marriage men who protects their wives from family attacks are more respected by women If you expose your wife to your family and the fracas starts, she will make the home uncomfortable for you As a man love and take good care of your wife, she will definitely carry the financial burden of the family with you, but if you don't care about her, you will hardly see her penny Women love attention, it weakens their stubbornness Finally Once you make your woman happy, you will always come home wherever you are and the kids will love you more The children will aways support their mother no two ways about it, if you prove to them that you love their mum, it will be difficult for them to misbehave The last but not the least, if you are in good terms with their mum, both of you can handle the children perfectly but if you are not in good terms with their mum, their mum will teem up with the children to handle you 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 10:58am On Dec 01, 2019 |
frozen70:wow, inspiring and deep. thanks 1 Like |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by frozen70(f): 10:59am On Dec 01, 2019 |
MVPtesley: Thanks too |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by iLegendd(m): 2:32pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
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Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by herbaylove(m): 12:20pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
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Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by akaahs(m): 5:03pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
frozen70:nice from u. please oo, what ll u say about a man loving his wife more than that she loves him? |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by frozen70(f): 5:43pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
akaahs: That's the best form of love Do you know why You will do everything to make her and the kids happy Your happiness is in her and the children No matter how naughty she can be, you won't even notice it because love covers all The thought of her misbehaving is zero because what women need is love and she can't get it better else where Her prayer points are centered on you that even if you are not as committed as she is in prayers, her's alone is enough to move your life forward ever She will never have any reason to compare your love with any thing and she will never ever compromise her live for you considering the sacrifice of your love 2 Likes |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by akaahs(m): 6:41pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
frozen70:Yeah, thanks and Jah bless |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:25pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
let me ask.... RisenPhoenix: are you saying that you as a man couldnt say no to (or stop) such conniving woman? dont you think it is a bit sad that a man would be afraid of ANY woman he loves dearly?! how do you even calculate how much someone loves you?!?!?!?!? - in line with the point above, never relinquish control over your family. You rule, and your wife must know it and observe it. bro, we are talking of a marital union here, not slave master and servants. how can you claim (as above) that you would love someone, yet see her as a slave? any person who look at marriage as a ruler over his servants, is not ready to be married, let alone have a caring person by their side. - she can advise you about family affairs, but do not accept any advise or suggestion that is not backed by evidence. Throwing temper tantrums, pouting, sulking etc are not evidence. Don't let her believe that she can control you by the power of feminine wiles and emotions. If she wants to propose something, she must logically prove its value. anything you just wrote is EXACTLY the same for men.... a wife definitely should NOT accept anything from her husband unless it is backed by evidence and proof... not just his misplaced ego etc - don't marry a woman you cannot trust. No woman is completely trustworthy, but there are degrees. Find one who you can trust to a certain level, maybe she holds certain principles etc. Her love for you will ensure that she remains so. there is no half way trust, you either trust someone or you dont... and if you dont trust a woman then you have no business getting married to her. - don't waste your money on dining and wining her. Save, invest, repeat. You may budget a fixed percentage of your annual income for entertainment, DO NOT EXCEED THE BUDGET. Only when your income has risen sufficiently for the entertainment budget to attain Dubai levels should you take her to Dubai. Stay within your budget AT ALL TIMES, regardless of the pressure she puts on you (like telling you stories about her friends partying abroad). so how will he get to know anything about her? unless saving and investing is what was your life's focus BEFORE marriage, then i dont understand why it suddenly should be AFTER marriage. and if thats the life she chose to live with you (aka no dining/whining and just a miserable life focused on money) then so be it - don't profess love and affection at every drop of a hat. It's degrading. what love/affection exactly are you talking about?!?!? the above clearly show that you have no love/affection for that slave/servant you are talking about.. - do not show her that sex can rule your decisions. She will use sex to control you. If she has a low libido; propose a second wife to help her out. Her libido will magically increase. The trick is to make such suggestions credibly in a serious moment , AND MEAN IT. how can sex rule the decision of a man?! are men's brain now suddenly linked to our libido when taking life/family decisions?!?! Now for your duties: let me guess, she is NOT allowed to have a job too, is it?! - Get her a comfortable place to live in, and respect her space. The house is her domain and you are a guest. Don't interfere in her activities there. let me guess again.... her life's duty is to cook and clean, abi? - Respect her efforts. Do not degrade her food or deride her publicly; eat it or leave it silently and go to mama Esther's buka opposite the house. She will ask why you do not like her food. Explain gently, but do not force change. If she does so by herself, there will be less resentment. Praise the food if it is good. dishonesty in marriage is just the beginning of the end. a man should ALWAYS be fully honest with his partner...and if he doesnt like her food or anything else for that matter, he should say so (and hubby should expect exactly the same from wifey). we are talking of 2 adults here who are sharing a life together, not some complete strangers. - help out at home, but not too often. Better still, suggest that she gets a maid. Pay the maid's salary by adding it to your wife's housekeeping fund. Do not yourself ever interact with the maid, she's entirely your wife's. Even if you want a glass of water, let your wife instruct her. i guess if wife is away, husband will become mute in his own house abi?!?!?! how can a man have people living in his own home (that he is paying for) yet he cant even interact with these same people?! what kind of madness is this? if you are so afraid to be around a female maid (without being accused of anything) then GET A MALE MAID... unless of course, your misplaced ego will make you believe that such male maid can fool around with your wife, bwaaaaaah! - Never physically attack her. Very important. Not even in play. if a woman attacks her husband then this man needs to defend himself the best way he sees fit. if that deluded woman thinks its ok to beat her man, then she deserves the exact same treatment. - Permit her to own her property if she is working. Never interfere in any of her financial activities unless she specifically asks you to. if your partner buys a property then thats YOUR property too... what kind of man would kill himself to provide for his family while his own wife is creating wealth FOR HER OWN SELFISH SELF?!?!?!? what type of madness is this?!?!?! let me guess: the day you have problem to pay the bills, you need to beg your wife to "borrow" you money, right?!?! - do not go begging her if she fights and runs off to her parents' house. The first time, wait for her to come back when she is ready, then tell her gently but sincerely that if she does it once more, you might have to add a second wife to the mix. She will never do so again. the above SOLELY depends on what the fight is about... if you cheated and/or physically abused her (unprovoked) and/or did anything wrong then you MUST go beg your wife for forgiveness, and i would fully understand if she doesnt forgive you. - Take the children out sometimes to give her peace. Women do work hard sometimes and need to take time out to watch a marathon of telemundo, African magic or zeeworld or whatever nonsensical shows are the feminine rave. Take your kids to some zoo or gaming center and let them go wild on the computer games for a whole day while she does exactly that. why would these kids want to go out with the stranger they call "dad".... if mom is the one raising the kids all the time then going out with them once in a blue moon is a waste of time. you are a stranger to them and they will be raised by the manly figure in their lives aka MUM/DRIVER/MEGUARD etc 1 Like |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 7:33pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:jeez !!! |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by frozen70(f): 9:38pm On Dec 02, 2019 |
akaahs: You are welcome |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Saintly01(m): 12:12am On Dec 03, 2019 |
Okoroawusa:Hahaha, this contribution is damn hilarious. 1 Like |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 10:58am On Dec 03, 2019 |
MVPtesley: I need one too, will you do it free of charge for me? |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:03am On Dec 03, 2019 |
Nooil:k |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:08am On Dec 03, 2019 |
MVPtesley: Can I send an email? |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:28am On Dec 03, 2019 |
Nooil:onomaeous@gmail.com |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:30am On Dec 03, 2019 |
MVPtesley: Thank you |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:39am On Dec 03, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: Married and intending couples, follow these advice at your own peril. He made some good points no doubt (which I removed from the quote) but you see those ones up there, tread carefully. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:58am On Dec 03, 2019 |
I'm not in the mood to write an epistle this morning but note these things; 1. Whatever red flag you are seeing while dating, it will only get worse in marriage, so ask yourself if it's something you can live with. 2. You have to be decide to be the foolish one SOMETIMES for peace to reign, you won't always have your way. 3. Commitment, it won't always be rosy, so you must decide to work on your problems even when you don't feel like it. 4. Don't let children take the spark out of your marriage, a lot of couples are guilty of this. 5. Marry someone who can put his or family in their place, not the one that will see back and watch them walk all over you. Let everybody know you guys are a team and it's pointless trying to come between you, intentionally or not. I was watching "This is us" the other day, there was a scene when Kate was angry with her mother when she came for her first gig. After she stormed out, her mother turned to her boyfriend and was asking if she did anything wrong. The guy's reply almost made me cry, let me paraphrase "You know I'm trying to get you to like me, but know this, I'm Team Kate, always Team Kate so don't ask if you were wrong, I'm always Team Kate". That is exactly how marriages should be but some men and women allow friends and family come between them. 6. Avoid long fights, the devil is always on the prowl for marriages to destroy, try as much as possible to settle your issues quickly. Not sweep them under the carpet o, settle them. 7. Communication, you have probably heard this a million times and that's because it's very important. Refrain from assuming, always communicate with your partner, sometime that is all it takes to restore peace. 8. Don't cheat!!! Cheating causes pain in ways you can't imagine and some relationships never recover from it, there should be mutual trust. A marriage without trust is half-dead. 9. Go for someone who is God fearing, who knows what integrity really is. They will show in little things, their perspective on issues, how they relate with otheres...A lot of people throw those words around but do not actually practise them. Chai! I still wrote an epistle o. Lol. These are the things I can remember at the moment...and of course, the most important part, God. Never leave God out of the equation. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 11:59am On Dec 03, 2019 |
Nooil:uwc |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Forward77(m): 1:19pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
This is genius. Maximum Respect to You Man!! From the depths of my heart. RisenPhoenix: |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by drnoel: 2:11pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Okoroawusa: As long as the Yash tearing na only one knife cause am |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 4:09pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Forward77: Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Nobody: 4:13pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
SBL28: You endorsed the one that says he should take the kids out and give you time to rest and left everything else? Lol. Mine is not to enforce. Anyone who takes part of the advice and abandons part will not see full benefit. By the way, went through your response. Communication? Be foolish? No long fights? Don't let the kids take the spark out of marriage? You wish. Maybe in a utopia those points might work. |
Re: Married Romancelanders Pls Teach Us D Single Ones About Marriage. Give us Expo. by Okoroawusa: 7:14pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
drnoel:Lol |
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