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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Houseofglam7(f): 9:12pm On Dec 07, 2019
undecided
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by soberdrunk(m): 9:12pm On Dec 07, 2019
angry
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by johnaruson(m): 9:14pm On Dec 07, 2019
Go and study mass communication, simple.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Alvin212(m): 9:14pm On Dec 07, 2019
Show em the money

Or

Show em big preeq


Watch how, girls will start running after you
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by cassbeat(m): 9:19pm On Dec 07, 2019
What I know is if u are the one doing all the talking it will def be boring....
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Nobody: 9:20pm On Dec 07, 2019
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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Yamleg: 9:21pm On Dec 07, 2019
I'm an INTROVERT too to the core.
I'm married, I find it extremely hard to call my wife family members and mine.
It's just in me.
My phone is my best friend. I have no friends at all.
I hate myself when my phone is down.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by chukwuibuipob: 9:22pm On Dec 07, 2019
sad
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Nicklaus619(m): 9:23pm On Dec 07, 2019
Bro join a. Book club, join home cell, don't be afraid to make small talks, soon enough you will be able to keep communication for hours trust me cool

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by uthlaw: 9:24pm On Dec 07, 2019
start making money,they will start calling you...

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by komzy589(m): 9:24pm On Dec 07, 2019
wittyt98:
this is so me grin mine is so worse that even when I'm at home, I don't like sitting where the rest of my family are gathered to avoid talking or conversing with anyone . I prefer to stay in my room all alone , listen to music and daydream grin even at work I don't talk much buh i smile at every given opportunity. I'm the type of person that'll give a 15-20 seconds reply to a particular topic other people are spending 2-5 minutes talking about. I've chased away a good number of potential friends cus i'm not the type who wants to talk, gist, or hang out. I can't keep up with conversations or friendships. Feels like stress. it's why I avoid relationships too and just flirt cus I dont think I can keep up with the stress that comes along with dating. I see how my colleagues talk with their girlfriends on the phone for hours and I'm like naaaah this can never be me
Hmm so much for a guy who doesnt talk much huh!

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Ephraim998(m): 9:27pm On Dec 07, 2019
Me too m suffering the same thing.

A fine boy with plenty beards...but am damn too shy to talk to a girl...I need help too....I wanna have fun too..but can't get a bae

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by donogaga(m): 9:27pm On Dec 07, 2019
Go and make money bro and thank me later.

And again, you can always improve your level of communication if you really want to. Its up to you.

Which ever way, just focus on making money and more money.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by theenchanter: 9:27pm On Dec 07, 2019
Ephraim998:
Me too m suffering the same thing.

A fine boy with plenty beards...but am damn too shy to talk to a girl...I need help too....I wanna have fun too..but can't get a bae
grin
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Nobody: 9:27pm On Dec 07, 2019
Just be yourself man, we all have friends that don't talk much and the one's that talk too much. Go out and make friends no time bro. Your girl is out there, but open your eyes mehn.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Rubbiish(m): 9:29pm On Dec 07, 2019
SenecaTheYonger:
Hustle so you won't have to spend 2 hours talking on phone.
Lol

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by wittyt98(m): 9:29pm On Dec 07, 2019
komzy589:

Hmm so much for a guy who doesnt talk much huh!
on the internet yea. doesn't apply in real life grin grin

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by campusblack10(m): 9:29pm On Dec 07, 2019
lilwetdick:
soon the AFC(average frustrated chumps of nairaland) will soon show up here with their stupidity telling you to go and hustle and stop thinking about women.

no woman is going to understand who you are because they gat no time and have their own problem

and you arent going to meet any girl that has the same interest like you do, most women will just pretend that they love what you love to make you happy

just because you are a stunt introvert does not stop you from having fun in life, you just have to come out from your shell and meet with people to improve your communication skills, understand small talk, build up your confidence by not giving a fucck, read a little bits of things and it not compulsory that you must talk with a woman on phone for 2 hours and stop comparing yourself with your ex present bf.


the subtle act of not giving a Bleep, sure you've read that book.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Drosonogasta(m): 9:31pm On Dec 07, 2019
Phelixblaq:
Only jobless boys calls for 2 hours... The highest I can do is 10 minute of you are not okay with it then roast it
It's even jobless boys like u that call upto 10min cus hustlers like us don't even tym dial call. Thank u

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Fairview1: 9:32pm On Dec 07, 2019
Loladearewa01:
I am a staunch introvert, the kind that stays at home all day I really hate small talks and I can't talk to people for more than 5minutes.

When I call a lady hardly can we talk for a minute. Infact I hate calling. Now I had this experience when I visited my aunty and an ex of mine happen to stay in the same compound.

I noticed her boo calls her for like 2hours and she's always laughing with him. This was when I started realising my mistake when I was with her I hardly call and communicate and this has been happening with most of the ladies I meet and things are not working out.

Is there anyone with similar experience?

Bros, we are in this together, hence my signature below...but mine isn't as bad as you described yours. I am an introvert, a meclancholy with a reclusive personality as well.

Initially, I finds it very difficult to engage people in a long convo, even when I manage and successfully start one, sometime along the line I end up not knowing what next to talk about, or probably end up shooting myself on the leg.

It may be because English wasn't my primary language, I was born and bred in a remote village, where english as a means of communication is an alien stuff. We revere and diginify anyone who speaks english effortless until when I stepped outside of my comfort zone.

Now these were what I did which I believe boosted my communication skills and that also make me a better conversation holder, at least to some considerable extent....not that I am in anyway a good speaker or conversationist but I am better off today and I have this strong hope i will keep on getting better in time to come.


Being that I had discovered my weakness on the area of communication and speaking skill, I made sure that I am going to make friends with whoever that speaks, writes and converses well...both here on Nairaland, Facebook, LinkedIn, Offline; at the Workplace, School, in the Church, YouTube, in a Cab, anywhere!

The world is like a world unto another, it didn't take time I began making friends with my friend's friends. That alone opened a whole lot of other opportunities for me...and that was how I managed to broaden my vocabulary, grammar, syntax etcetera.

The yardstick to which I use to measure my progress is when people call, tag, quote or mention me on a post, to seek for my opinion on any topic of discourse. I wasn't that way before. I practically built myself in that direction with a conscious and tireless effort to get better.


Through the people whom I have met and discussed my challenge with, some suggested that I should enroll for Toastmasters Club which I did and also engaged myself in so many other different social gatherings. Don't forget, that I always listen with a rapt attention, to learn why they act and talk the way they do.


In a nutshell, to get bettet at communication, there are only two guaranteed ways;

~Learn to become knowledgeable about few things and talk about them always.

Or

~Learn to know little about too many topics and talk about them always with steady questions and inquiries.

If you can master the act of doing this very well, you wlll make yourself good friends and opportunities with preceeds them afterwards.

Hope this helped?

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Davidzy23(m): 9:33pm On Dec 07, 2019
I am an introvert myself... tried coming out of my shell by talking to a girl.. oh I was turned down tho not disgraced.. I jejely crawled back to my hole of introvercy..

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by toffyz(m): 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2019
That's your nature bro...If u try to impress ladies by doing what you're not used to, I'm telling you bro you will mess up big time..Just be yourself, you will definitely find your kind of lady who likes you just like that.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by kenny714433(m): 9:35pm On Dec 07, 2019
Lol.. .So I've got people who are like me.


But trust me, we introverts can really think and solve problems. The way we daydream we can even reposition Nigeria to become like Dubai.


My speeches are always very brief and concise. If you feel you should take the conversation further, then be ready to talk and rrspond to yourself.

But we got that one person we do talk so much with.. .Mainly the person who we share common idea.

Making new friends after breakup is war. .... Approaching a girl is like a 4credit load course. But we don't lack what to say, though brief.

We love nature and spend time feeling nature than gathering at where these loud mouthed Marlians are gathered. At such times, we might think about life, death, mysteries of the world, how the world should look like etc.

I was only sad about my introvert nature when my mom called me on phone and ask me "Ken, if I die won't you miss me?" That lady doesn't know I think about her everyday of my life.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by OyiboOyibo(m): 9:36pm On Dec 07, 2019
Believe more in yourself and read more books on communication skills.... No relationship can strive without good communication
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Rubbiish(m): 9:37pm On Dec 07, 2019
Yamleg:
I'm an INTROVERT too to the core.
I'm married, I find it extremely hard to call my wife family members and mine.
It's just in me.
My phone is my best friend. I have no friends at all.
I hate myself when my phone is down.
But hope u relate freely with ur wife?
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by ABCthings: 9:42pm On Dec 07, 2019
Phelixblaq:
Only jobless boys calls for 2 hours... The highest I can do is 10 minute of you are not okay with it then roast it
wait till 2 hours guys steal your babe. Funny thing is you still will pay for the credit they used
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by jaxxy(m): 9:43pm On Dec 07, 2019
Loladearewa01:
I am a staunch introvert, the kind that stays at home all day I really hate small talks and I can't talk to people for more than 5minutes.

When I call a lady hardly can we talk for a minute. Infact I hate calling. Now I had this experience when I visited my aunty and an ex of mine happen to stay in the same compound.

I noticed her boo calls her for like 2hours and she's always laughing with him. This was when I started realising my mistake when I was with her I hardly call and communicate and this has been happening with most of the ladies I meet and things are not working out.

Is there anyone with similar experience?

Don’t u have guy frnds and don’t u communicate with them? Same thing with gals just learn the lingua.
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Yamleg: 9:45pm On Dec 07, 2019
Rubbiish:

But hope u relate freely with ur wife?
Often times, No!
I love to be left alone
Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Nobody: 9:47pm On Dec 07, 2019
Open your Google and search for the book ChatDícted or FemaleSextapes. Download and read, then thank me later.

Modified: Here is the download link of the free version of ChatDîcted https://shop.wetclef.com/download-chatdîcted/

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by Ajiswaggs(m): 9:50pm On Dec 07, 2019
I'm an introvert too but not worse as yours..most of my friends are female and i do talk to them for long minutes......sometimes i have to take highness to ginger my spirit...the highness they make me rap anyhow with anyone.

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Re: My Poor Communication Ability Is Killing My Relationship With Girls by michaellovaldo(m): 9:50pm On Dec 07, 2019
grin grin

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