Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

He's your boyfriend not your husband. Is he engaged to you? If not why then are you worried, your friend also can come into the scene too.

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

Carry this rubbish comot for person face make person think of how person go take chop today.

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

I don’t think u are totally wrong to feel that way..
if ur supposed boyfriend discuss same intimate/personal things he discusses with u with another woman. Then perhaps u are not more than a sex tool to him that’s if u are having sex...Couples are supposed to be 5&6, gist partners, have a special niche other than sex they both share.....

On the other hand, where u might be partially wrong is ....the thing is, it takes bonding and time to be in that level with ur partner....it’s not automatic....just because u and someone are dating doesn’t mean they must automatically be ur best friend and share things with u they don’t share with anyone else.....
first, relationship starts and then u mature gradually to that point of soulmate that somethings u would know, he won’t even discuss it with his mother or other family members...it’s at that point u have the right to be angry or upset that he doesn’t have boundaries with other women...

1StopRudeness:


I don’t think u are totally wrong to feel that way..
if ur supposed boyfriend discuss same intimate/personal things he discusses with u with another woman. Then perhaps u are not more than a sex tool to him that’s if u are having sex...Couples are supposed to be 5&6, gist partners, have a special niche other than sex they both share.....

On the other hand, where u might be partially wrong is ....the thing is, it takes bonding and time to be in that level with ur partner....it’s not automatic....just because u and someone are dating doesn’t mean they must automatically be ur best friend and share things with u they don’t share with anyone else.....
first, relationship starts and then u mature gradually to that point of soulmate that somethings u would know, he won’t even discuss it with his mother or other family members...it’s at that point u have the right to be angry or upset that he doesn’t have boundaries with other women...

Thanks

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

Did he know your friend before he met you? Have they been discussing before now?

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

...give him space.. If he loves u he will come back.....I use this strategy often.

rtdCivilservant:

Carry this rubbish comot for person face make person think of how person go take chop today.

They did not force you to comment
Why do you people act like baby like this
Na to insult u na sabi for nairaland
Get a job

You're special .

OlaitanAkanbi:



They did not force you to comment
Why do you people act like baby like this
Na to insult u na sabi for nairaland
Get a job

And u didn't bother to advise the op, u only care to reply my own post. I can see how employed u are.

The guy in question might just be an extroverted individual. This is why I detest extrovert , they don't know when to draw the line in discussions.

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

Gud for you.. If to say na one guy kon complain say him. GF dey chat with another guy now, na ur type go dey talk say she has her freedom to chat with anybody.


So leave him alone, he can chat with who ever he likes.


I have this feelings dt he is evening looking for a way to dispose you off sef.. I'm 99% certain that he wunt marry you....

Not a curse, I'm telling you from experience

You could be boring or she is more reasonable than you

call him and explain how you feel to him..

I hope this is not how you will be sharing our family issue with my friends when we eventually marry .
because I have decided not to inform third party in my affairs with you, I believe this is also your plan as the head of the house.

Powersurge:


Did he know your friend before he met you? Have they been discussing before now?

No...she asked for his number, so I gave it to her long time ago not knowing is going to be this way..

1beat:
call him and explain how you feel to him..

I hope this is not how you will be sharing our family issue with my friends when we eventually marry .
because I have decided not to inform third party in my affairs with you, I believe this is also your plan as the head of the house.

Wow!
Great!
Thanks

Tajbol4splend:
You could be boring or she is more reasonable than you

Hmm..thanks

DenreleDave:



Gud for you.. If to say na one guy kon complain say him. GF dey chat with another guy now, na ur type go dey talk say she has her freedom to chat with anybody.


So leave him alone, he can chat with who ever he likes.


I have this feelings dt he is evening looking for a way to dispose you off sef.. I'm 99% certain that he wunt marry you....

Not a curse, I'm telling you from experience

Hmmm..thanks

Puregold3:



No...she asked for his number, so I gave it to her long time ago not knowing is going to be this way..

Talk to your bf. Bear your mind before him. Let him know how you feel about the situation

Phenomenal16:
...give him space.. If he loves u he will come back.....I use this strategy often.

Thanks

Riele:
You're special .

Wow!
Thanks!

Puregold3:



No...she asked for his number, so I gave it to her long time ago not knowing is going to be this way..

am thinking there is more to this than you are revealing... What makes her to request for your guy's number? Don't you think that your friend may have ulterior motives towards your guy? Answer these first

OlaitanAkanbi:



They did not force you to comment
Why do you people act like baby like this
Na to insult u na sabi for nairaland
Get a job

Ooni shubu

habsydiamond:
am thinking there is more to this than you are revealing... What makes her to request for your guy's number? Don't you think that your friend may have ulterior motives towards your guy? Answer these first

She said she just wanted to know him as her friend's boyfriend

habsydiamond:
am thinking there is more to this than you are revealing... What makes her to request for your guy's number? Don't you think that your friend may have ulterior motives towards your guy? Answer these first

I'm just regretting why I gave her the number...

Puregold3:


I'm just regretting why I gave her the number...

While chatting, they shared pictures.. I mean their grandparents pictures..it got me mad

Puregold3:


I'm just regretting why I gave her the number...

that's the problem with ladies.. you expose everything in your relationship to your friends that are envying you and wants to be in your shoes. I won't blame the guy much because you caused this to happen. I just want you to know that most people we call friends these days are worse than Judas Iscariot cos they won't only kiss you on the cheek but will also stab you at the back. Watch out next time Missy!!!

habsydiamond:
that's the problem with ladies.. you expose everything in your relationship to your friends that are envying you and wants to be in your shoes. I won't blame the guy much because you caused this to happen. I just want you to know that most people we call friends these days are worse than Judas Iscariot cos they won't only kiss you on the cheek but will also stab you at the back. Watch out next time Missy!!!

Thanks Hsqure

Next time, don't be so stupid okay.
Don't worry, he loves you and things will work out for you guys.
Just talk things over with him and watch your friend closely. Little wonder, matured women always tends to have male besties

Puregold3:
Hi nairalanders, I really need your help..
My boyfriend do chat with my friend and I don't even know about it until I saw his chat with her...
He told her most of the things he tells me e.g the amount gets as his salary...
I just feel like I'm not special anymore and it got me so jealous.. please help me

Maybe you can't keep your mouth shut that's why he does not give you sensitive info

chidiebereuzoma:
Next time, don't be so stupid okay.
Don't worry, he loves you and things will work out for you guys.
Just talk things over with him and watch your friend closely. Little wonder, matured women always tends to have male besties

Thanks

Kobicove:


Maybe you can't keep your mouth shut that's why he does not give you sensitive info

Ain't that type bro