UjuJoan2:


What? It's true na.

Nothing forces a man to sit up more than knowing there's someone else out there desperately seeking for his wife attention.

Men don't know that they have to keep the romance alive in their marriage too. It's not just the women that have to keep slim, look sexy and slay to keep their men's attention. The man also has to keep the fire burning for his wife too, however he manages to do that.

For some it's money, for others it's 'love and romance', for some it's even mad crazy sex. The key is finding whatever does it for her and working hard at it. If not, she's just a crazy opportunity away from cheating.

Threaten? Are you for real? A crazy opportunity away from cheating? Lol.
Oya now - kobinrin to atorin, kokurin toatorin, ka wo eni to ma lomi leyin ju. Meaning - make man de urinate dey waka make woman too dey urinitae dey waka make we see pesin wey go get urine water for leg pass.
Make she cheat now and start picking up her bills including her children make we see whether the craze no go commot for her head.
Woman wan threaten me with cheating? God forbid. A go kukuma show her the Exit door make i rest abeg.
Humans are insatiable and only a contented person is good as spouse.
If you no get money, wahala. Dem go cheat and abuse you to go and make money like your mates.
You run go make money, wahala say you u no dey caring,
You are not romantic
You are not firing on full cylinders
You are obese and need to be gyming
You are...... You are...... You are...... And the list keeps getting higher and higher why she keeps becoming more useless and useless.
Most hardly don't jog in the morning sef
Abeg make marriage go find one place sit down make all of us just dey fvck dey go,
No time for nonsense.

Ubunja
Martinez39
Pansophist
Franchasng

CAPTIVATOR:


I actually dont support adultery, never! But I like your point, Many people rush to comment and blame the OP , whereas they would have done worse if in her shoes . its high time many realize Money alone is not enough, emotional closeness is important in marriage too, No wonder even the bible said " Husband's, Keep ON loving your wives. " it says " Keep on " which means an action that must continue or else she seeks it elsewhere.

Even some ladies blaming the Op do worse, So much for hypocritical comments

I want you to know something today -
If there are 2 options or let say a road and one is easier, believe me, alot of people will always use the easier route.
Meaning with the way things are going and with the look of things, it is safe to say Marriage as become more of a burden, not interesting, out dated and tooooooooo stressful to run compared to gf/bf relationship, friends with benefits, runs girls arrangement, bump and dump pattern.
And that will lead to the slow and natural death of marriage because it seems the stress and dedication does not really worth it.
Why go through the stress of trying to satisfy an unrepentant cheat, rogue, scammer in the name of Love, Relationship Armed Robber when you can retain your sanity and rest of mind by just opting for Baby mama or friend with benefit.
No matter how valuable something is, there is a point it gets to and it will loose it's Value.
Think about it.

Ubunja
Martinez39
Pansophist
Franchasng

Human Beings have been foolish since the day the devil deceived Eve and by extension, Adam.

This once again proves my theory that woman are so emotional and less rational right and also makes them an endangered species.

See eh! When Jesus came on Earth, there were to many things to do, people were sick, hungry, angry, depressed they wanted him to solve all their problems but his main mission was to die on the cross to redeem man back to his maker.

Feeding a million people wouldnt have done that, healing another million wouldn't, but just dying on the cross.

The main responsibility of your husband is to provide for you and your children, if you don't know this, you are going to be depressed all through your life. If other perks come, lucky you.

If you go about chasing shadows, you would burn your feet badly.

Don't let the sun of your marriage set by mid-day.

This is for you and all the women in your shoes.

Goodluck.

CAPTIVATOR:


I actually dont support adultery, never! But I like your point, Many people rush to comment and blame the OP , whereas they would have done worse if in her shoes . its high time many realize Money alone is not enough, emotional closeness is important in marriage too, No wonder even the bible said " Husband's, Keep ON loving your wives. " it says " Keep on " which means an action that must continue or else she seeks it elsewhere.

Even some ladies blaming the Op do worse, So much for hypocritical comments

Are you sure you know what love is as described by the Bible?

So many of you live in fantasy world.

Christ is love, and he didn't baby sit anyone.

A guy that knows you're married, and still keep flirting and satisfying your emotional needs is someone dangerous, stay away from him.

Relationship is all about compromise, you cant have it all. He is a good father, he provides for you and the kids, and is living up to his manly duties, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Men Express love by action. Personally, I hardly tell my woman I love her, but she has not for one single moment doubted my love. For men, love is in the action. A man that provides for you loves you. Where he spends his cash, is where his heart his.

Lots of people make the horrible mistake of dropping what they have for the uncertain future, and realized later on that the grass is not always greener, and it would be too late by then.

Being an adult is all about responsibility, and being responsible for your actions and inactions. The day you choose to marry him, is the day you have chosen to live with him for who he is. Surely, he was not emotionally available before marriage, why go ahead and expect he would be during marriage?

You're still young, and it's high likely you're still in your youthful exuberance. You're at your peak of beauty and youthfulness, and the new guy is a migrating predator that will feast on you and leave.

So what is the end goal? Is it to cheat on your husband, or you are under the illusion that he will marry you and train your kids ? Be wise.

The best decision is to stop talking to that guy, and discuss this issues with your husband. Teach him, see a counselor, and use any means available to make him the man you want him to be. Outsourcing your emotional need via cheating is a fatal mistake, the one you will live to regret.

Just to add, to think that you are already doing sex calls is nauseating.

You have no shame, no intergrity, and even animals have more honour than you.

I dislike unfaithfulness with everything in me, are you a dog?

Damn!!

pansophist:
A guy that knows you're married, and still keep flirting and satisfying your emotional needs is someone dangerous, stay away from him.

Relationship is all about compromise, you cant have it all. He is a good father, he provides for you and the kids, and is living up to his manly duties, he doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Men Express love by action. Personally, I hardly tell my woman I love her, but she has not for one single moment doubted my love. For men, love is in the action. A man that provides for you loves you. Where he spends his cash, is where his heart his.

Lots of people make the horrible mistake of dropping what they have for the uncertain future, and realized later on that the grass is not always greener, and it would be too late by then.

Being an adult is all about responsibility, and being responsible for your actions and inactions. The day you choose to marry him, is the day you have chosen to live with him for who he is. Surely, he was not emotionally available before marriage, why go ahead and expect he would be during marriage?

You're still young, and it's high likely you're still in your youthful exuberance. You're at your peak of beauty and youthfulness, and the new guy is a migrating predator that will feast on you and leave.

So what is the end goal? Is it to cheat on your husband, or you are under the illusion that he will marry you and train your kids ? Be wise.

The best decision is to stop talking to that guy, and discuss this issues with your husband. Teach him, see a counselor, and use any means available to make him the man you want him to be. Outsourcing your emotional need via cheating is a fatal mistake, the one you will live to regret.

If only she will listen and follow wise counsel. It’s obvious from her post that she’ll most likely sleep with the new guy when they eventually meet. Although I also blame the husband for being emotionally distant, perhaps he’s not happy with her for some reason, but didn’t talk to her about it.
@poster, you need to ask your husband in a matured way if he has anything bothering him about you.
If you don’t stop all the sex chat and other shit you are having with your opportunistic boyfriend, you will soon find yourself out of marriage and regret your actions. Let me stop here before I use some very harsh words on you.

Olannajewel:
Please pardon my very long post. I also had to open another account so as to post this.
I am in my mid 20s been married for 5years with two kids.
Have been in a long distance marriage since I got married due to the fact that I have been running a degree programme which will come to an end by next year.
So,I practically see my husband when we're on holidays or during strike. But we talk every time, I'm in the east schooling and he's in the south. My husband provides more than the basic needs,he's a great husband and a good father.
I know I sound selfish, but he doesn't satisfy my emotional needs,and he agrees to it.. whenever we call it's just about the kids and my school, we don't talk personal stuffs, he's not passionate, he finds it difficult saying "I love you " unlike before. He doesn't indulge me when I say it also... when I try to sex chat with him, he shifts it away. Whenever we're on holidays and am home, he doesn't also give me time, his work is not flexible but the little opportunity he gets he would rather go out.
No woman calls him in my present, but there's been incidents that has prompted me doubt his fidelity. After I gave birth in March,I went back to school because the strike was called of.i became depressed, I will talk with my husband yet I felt he was emotionally distance from me, sometimes during argument he would flay up and rain abuses on me... during love making with my husband, he cant even keep an eye contact or reply the "I love you " I say to him during sex. Ps:my husband is in his mid 30s.
He doesn't notice any effort I make as a young wife to keep the spark in our marriage. In July,guy chat me up from a group on telegram.. I haven't seen this guy, but I would have seen him if he's close.we have been talking every day for 5months,chatting, sexchating, video calls,he tells me everything a woman wants to hear. He doesn't know am married. I'm in too deep, how do I stop loving him, I love my husband too,but he's not making any effort towards romance in our marriage.. please I need advice, insult, anything that can get me back on track. I know am cheating emotionally on my husband, but talking with this other man has kept me sane amidst all the challenges I have. How do I stop this, cause recently I noticed I cant stand conversation with my husband, not that we discuss anything that makes me feel like a woman. Please help!!

Sincerely, first you were too emotionally young to be married in the first place as at the time you did, if you weren't, you could have prevented this or at least put in place a mechanism to neutralise such. Students are always in for the boyfriend-girlfriend thing, they want emotionally commited boy who will at the same time take care of their material needs at every point (all for their ego) while it lasts. But in a marriage situation, a mature spouse will create time and space to talk things through and be willing to adjust everything even when it's most inconvenient for the sake of the marriage rather than seeking solace in the arms of another. Being emotionally mature for marriage is relative as it has nothing to do with age. Some got married in their late teens and they are doing very well.

Secondly, you are the architect of these whole thing, from your write up you got married just immediately after you got an admission if you have been married for five years and you will soon graduate provided it's a 4-year programme. You were too far away from your husband and it's not in anyway healthy for your young marriage. An unguided or undisciplined husband is most likely to deviate or lose it in a situation like this especially at that stage of the marriage. You exposed him to whatever vices that got him emotionally detached from you by being away most of the time and ofcourse, someone will always fill the gap...that's the bitter truth. He is hurting, and since he can't voice it out or vent his anger, he will do it quietly...I just hope he doesn't have another family already unknown to you.

Solution is: Cut ties with your boyfriend, forgive yourself, time and events will pass and your conscience will adjust too, face your husband (once again) tell him your worries, ask him to bear with you this next few months of schooling and you will fully resume your wifely duties at home and he will enjoy his God-given wife to the fullest, above all, always make yourself available at his call/beckon. Appreciate every little thing, his support for your education, the kids and every other sacrifices he has made for you in the course of your education (you think it's easy to spend time and money on a wedding/marriage and still be living like a bachelor?) rather than chasing some fantasies upandan.

Shalom

CsRockefeller:


Are you sure you know what love is as described by the Bible?

So many of you live in fantasy world.

Christ is love, and he didn't baby sit anyone.

Understand the scriptures
Context of husband and wife please, Christ didn't have sex with anyone, you should not be romantic to your wife then . nonsense

CAPTIVATOR:

Understand the scriptures
Context of husband and wife please, Christ didn't have sex with anyone, you should not be romantic to your wife then . nonsense

Lol. Once again, you don't know what love is.

@Olanna

I went through a similar situation like yours.
Was madly in love so i thought.

One day we got down and that was the end.
All the love flew out of the window.

I hope you know its not love, its the In-love stage.
Read more about it on google.

Its been over 9 years and i laugh at my foolishness.

I know you wont rest if you don't get down as i see you are already getting wet by his calls.

So go and do but dont get caught.

But you will look stupid at the end.

Olannajewel:
Please pardon my very long post. I also had to open another account so as to post this.
I am in my mid 20s been married for 5years with two kids.
Have been in a long distance marriage since I got married due to the fact that I have been running a degree programme which will come to an end by next year.
So,I practically see my husband when we're on holidays or during strike. But we talk every time, I'm in the east schooling and he's in the south. My husband provides more than the basic needs,he's a great husband and a good father.
I know I sound selfish, but he doesn't satisfy my emotional needs,and he agrees to it.. whenever we call it's just about the kids and my school, we don't talk personal stuffs, he's not passionate, he finds it difficult saying "I love you " unlike before. He doesn't indulge me when I say it also... when I try to sex chat with him, he shifts it away. Whenever we're on holidays and am home, he doesn't also give me time, his work is not flexible but the little opportunity he gets he would rather go out.
No woman calls him in my present, but there's been incidents that has prompted me doubt his fidelity. After I gave birth in March,I went back to school because the strike was called of.i became depressed, I will talk with my husband yet I felt he was emotionally distance from me, sometimes during argument he would flay up and rain abuses on me... during love making with my husband, he cant even keep an eye contact or reply the "I love you " I say to him during sex. Ps:my husband is in his mid 30s.
He doesn't notice any effort I make as a young wife to keep the spark in our marriage. In July,guy chat me up from a group on telegram.. I haven't seen this guy, but I would have seen him if he's close.we have been talking every day for 5months,chatting, sexchating, video calls,he tells me everything a woman wants to hear. He doesn't know am married. I'm in too deep, how do I stop loving him, I love my husband too,but he's not making any effort towards romance in our marriage.. please I need advice, insult, anything that can get me back on track. I know am cheating emotionally on my husband, but talking with this other man has kept me sane amidst all the challenges I have. How do I stop this, cause recently I noticed I cant stand conversation with my husband, not that we discuss anything that makes me feel like a woman. Please help!!

Your body is demanding for something that fulfill love in your life and thing is a man that will profess his love for you verbally

Telling you sweet words and lovely words that will make you feel Hot and get wet

The guy that has taken your attention for the moment, may have sex with you ant time he sees you, if you don't restrict your self

Count your self lucky that you have a man that plays the financial roles of the family

But have you ever thought tgat the financial responsibilities on your husband and the hustling he us making to keep you guys going has taken away the time he would have used to tell you those pep and sex talks you desire

If I were you, be focused on your children and marriage and your education so tgat your mind will not be searching for a man that will rub your mind with sweet and romantic words

Some men ate really goid at getting women pinned down to them that's why they use their mouth to sweet talk you into their own life

Such men are loving to be with, but they are casanova

At the end, you will be with a broken heart because they will lure you to spend the little you have for them and your own case, you are married so he won't marry you, but he will give you the sweet words and attention you need

Also your distance between you and your husband is part of the obstacle that is creating that lack of sweet words

Very soon, you will be through with education and you will return home, will you still keep tgat guy or you will get another one ❓

Just chat with him and end it on chat to me that's on, any thing aside from that, you both may have sex because he is already turning you on just on social media

Then what happens when you get to see yourself ❓, sex must take place

crackhaus:

And this is what I have been all about here.
Perhaps I was a little harsh in my delivery, but I can't suffer nincompoops even if I tried.

crackhaus:

Then this is what you ladies should be helping her develop - satisfaction and nothing else. Encouraging her desires will only validate her feelings for the Telegram guy, which is a very good idea if the end goal is to ensure she cheats on her husband.
My dear Ujujoan2 is even telling her to threaten the husband...husband oo, not boyfriend. Nothing I no go read for family section.

I'm sure even after the man starts providing this emotional whatnot, the next request will be for him to start helping with the house chores, because some women have convinced themselves they are Princesses with no Kingdom.

I can't mehn...

Woman did not kill my grandfathers and woman has not killed my father, it is impossible for a woman to kill me.

Bros nobi small thing o, I'm going through similar stuff right now, I provide to the best of my ability for my family, but no sex, it happens only when she wants it mostly once a month, now she requests that I mesmerize her before she will give in.
I've been trying to figure out what she mean by this, though some time ago she listed all the things I must be doing for the sex to happen regularly.
Bros I just give up I have to climb mountain Everest and back just to have sex with her lol.
One thing I found out is women can't be satisfied at all
I have decided to zero my mind on the sex thing o jare.

This is exactly how a lot of these hoe.s are. here's a man hustling and bursting his arse off. making sure the family is well taken care of, but what does he get in return? an unfaithful ungrateful goat of a woman. i pray he finds out so he dumps your ungrateful slutty arse for someone better. and lets see if Mr Telegram doesnt run away. thats the problem with some of these women, they want it all 100%.

BLEMOSEDU:

Bros nobi small thing o, I'm going through similar stuff right now, I provide to the best of my ability for my family, but no sex, it happens only when she wants it mostly once a month, now she requests that I mesmerize her before she will give in.
I've been trying to figure out what she mean by this, though some time ago she listed all the things I must be doing for the sex to happen regularly.
Bros I just give up I have to climb mountain Everest and back just to have sex with her lol.
One thing I found out is women can't be satisfied at all
I have decided to zero my mind on the sex thing o jare.

Just imagine what your own wife is putting you through. Well if you can, perhaps you should invite someone close to talk to you both if you can't get her to change her ways yourself.
I suspect though, you wouldn't want to make your sex life a subject of discussion involving a third party. Personally, I know I wouldn't want anyone trying to lecture me about how to have sex with my own wife.

Your last sentence reflects my personality 100% and I like you're doing the same thing.
She should keep her sex and any day she suddenly decides she wants to make love, it will be your turn to make her jump through hoops before you give in...all this of course is on the assumption that she's not getting it elsewhere.