EmptyCoconutHead:
useless women.
If not for bearing of children and sexual gratification to kill konji, there's no other use of women in marriage.

looking at your moniker, I am not surprised with what you just said

EmptyCoconutHead:
useless women.
If not for bearing of children and sexual gratification to kill konji, there's no other use of women in marriage.

Your moniker says it all.

people don't learn don't be harsh on people when things are moving smoothly for you, she might end up being divorced and her friend getting married to a better man.

ijewejones:



You ain't far from the truth bro. Some of the videos shown or we watch doesn't tell some of the people's relationship with each other but one can only infer..I would say the rest is left to them

if she made that statement during her bridal shower then it's ok, people will even understand it as a friendly banter but to make this statement in public? Noo na

It's like telling a person who is unemployed and still searching for a job when he came to greet you at your place of work or office party and say "you no go go find work" as if he doesn't know he has done that already

In this life the most dangerous thing is having an enemy so close to e who you think is still your friend.obviously the babe will still be smiling at her but that Will be the end of their friendship and depending on the type of person she is,she might take it offensive

No be everything you suppose say outside.people should stop using their mouths to expose themselves or what they hold dear.

Some people will marry and after wedding, strange strange sickness will start for them .moreso Yorubas say iku pa opolo tonrin, anbeletase eyi ton jorae mole

When you are happy or angry,be mindful of what you say because your words can reach and surpass where your legs can't reach

Imagine the girl gets home and tells the mother jokingly ABOUT how the wedding went and she didn't mean it in a bad light but the mother took offense (knowing how emotional African mothers can be) what if the girl is not offended and the mother of the girl is nko?

People need to think deeply and not let the emotional blues make you say what will implicate your future.this is Africa and this terrain is dangerous and volatile.every environment has its own dangers but here talking anyhow is dangerous

Rilley:
Can you do that to ur friend?

lol

Yes sha

sinaj:
lol

Yes sha

You're cute sha.

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gbaskiboy:
Your Monicker just describe the kind person you are, no needs to argue with Empty Coconut Head like you are

[/s] you're an asslicker so shut the Fvck up and go and sit down.
I can see u wanna sound a nice guy so nairaland ladies will hail u and perhaps give u the go ahead to pm them.
Nah bro you're a weak fellow and that's not the right way to get the pussy you're looking for.

Clinghton:
people don't learn don't be harsh on people when things are moving smoothly for you, she might end up being divorced and her friend getting married to a better man.

exactly.what happens to thanks.i will celebrate with you too.

When people rejoice with you,make them feel good with encouraging words like thank you, I'm definitely coming for your own wedding too etc

I doubt that the girl will be happy for the rest of that day or even be able to eat there or catch the bouquet.

EmmyKrim:
looking at your moniker, I am not surprised with what you just said

guy u should relate that these ladies ain't loyal nowadays.
Just pray to God for a good American wife, cos naija girls ain't just it.

dangotesmummy:
Imagine the girl gets home and tells the mother jokingly ABOUT how the wedding went and she didn't mean it in a bad light but the mother took offense (knowing how emotional African mothers can be) what if the girl is not offended and the mother of the girl is nko?

People need to think deeply and not let the emotional blues make you say what will implicate your future.this is Africa and this terrain is dangerous and volatile.every environment has its own dangers but here talking anyhow is dangerous

You have some point but analysing it too deeply. How will you measure what you tell your adult friend based on being scared of their mother

I believe those two women understand their relationship; if you have watched the video you will see what I mean.

The friend was gushing about the bride. Some people dont know how to deal with compliments so they try to deflect from their emotions by becoming sarcastic.

As long as you know the kind of person you're talking to and youre able to gauge their response I dont think theres any need to worry. If you know the person is somehow sensitive then you will know not to make such a joke

Culin:
Such a goofy bride, this is friendship goals. Quick recovery taking this video serious and calling the bride harsh. Infact quick recovery to the op for using such a senseless caption.

there's nothing goofy or playful about it.if she said that when it wasn't public or just amongst her friends its ok but in public where all manners of people are,it's rude... people need to be considerate of others feelings

It's like Mr a coming for Mrs b graduation party and Mr a says no go school without knowing or understanding the conditions that didn't make Mrs b go to school

Do you know whether she will feel comfortable for the rest of that party? How can a person come to a person's party with high spirit to rejoice with her and leave with sadness and bitterness.


The bride has just planted a seed of bitterness and discord and it says a lot about her

Do you think people will not be mindful of coming close to her after such statement? The elders say inu jin.the human heart is very deep.when you are happy there's a tendency to jam talk but just control it.she doesn't even know what she will meet in the marriage so wisdom is profitable abeg.

lilmax:
She doesn't want her friend to become Twitter feminist later, or nairaland single frustrated women


You see why it's good to have friends like this?

That will telling lies to women and doing opposite behind the door.

UnknownQueen:


In addition to the above, marriage is also for companionship, for old age when u begin get old age diseases, na these women go still dey when ur mama Don die and even when ur family dey with their own family....

I'll get the Services of a housemaid or concubine to do that.
no need for the scam called wife.
I'll just pay the services of a lady and when she delivers a child for me then I pay her off and train my child.
That is a more better idea

EmptyCoconutHead:
useless women.
If not for bearing of children and sexual gratification to kill konji, there's no other use of women in marriage.

Coming from 'EmptyCoconutHead', we can understand.

ogene144:

God bless u,my brother my wife is a wayward lady despite be a single mum before we got married she stil Bleep around stupid Auchi Edo people.

brother my fiancee I just broke up with is an Edo girl and she is even the reason I've given up from the scam called marriage.
I'd have taken time to gist u the full story but I'm late to work already.
Edo girls are the worst bro.

lilmax:
She doesn't want her friend to become Twitter feminist later, or nairaland single frustrated women


You see why it's good to have friends like this?

haaa... Our nairaland feminist wil not lik dis

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EmptyCoconutHead:
brother my fiancee I just broke up with is an Edo girl and she is even the reason I've given up from the scam called marriage.
I'd have taken time to gist u the full story but I'm late to work already.
Edo girls are the worst bro.

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trash

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EmptyCoconutHead:
I'll get the Services of a housemaid or concubine to do that.
no need for the scam called wife.
I'll just pay the services of a lady and when she delivers a child for me then I pay her off and train my child.
That is a more better idea

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bullcrap

midnighter:


You have some point but analysing it too deeply. How will you measure what you tell your adult friend based on being scared of their mother

I believe those two women understand their relationship; if you have watched the video you will see what I mean.

The friend was gushing about the bride. Some people dont know how to deal with compliments so they try to deflect from their emotions by becoming sarcastic.

As long as you know the kind of person you're talking to and youre able to gauge their response I dont think theres any need to worry. If you know the person is somehow sensitive then you will know not to make such a joke

you are right.i get your point.but if the bride said that during her bridal shower amongst her friends then it's ok but in PUBLIC? It's embarrassing na.its like joking with a woman looking for the fruit of the womb with pregnancy and now saying it's a joke.depending on how sensitive she is she might or might not take offense but why put yourself in that position?

I watched the video though and from the facial expression of the bride she was rubbing it in the face of her friend and the friend had to laugh it off.but let's be realistic,the girl will definitely go home and think about it and the friends who were there too will be gossiping around or saying the bride said this on her wedding day. the thing is.the girl might not feel anything but HOW ABOUT THE FRIENDS. Putting negative ideas into her head.im talking based on THE NATURE AND PECULIARITIES OF THE NIGERIAN SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT.HOW THEY INTERPRETE WEDDINGS AND STATEMENTS LIKE THIS

Kamani8:

Remind me what men like u are useful for again ?

you should ask yourself cos since you're a man too.
asslicker

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EmptyCoconutHead:
guy u should relate that these ladies ain't loyal nowadays.
Just pray to God for a good American wife, cos naija girls ain't just it.

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bullcrap

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EmptyCoconutHead:
you're an asslicker so shut the Fvck up and go and sit down.
I can see u wanna sound a nice guy so nairaland ladies will hail u and perhaps give u the go ahead to pm them.
Nah bro you're a weak fellow and that's not the right way to get the pussy you're looking for.

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EmptyCoconutHead:
you're an asslicker so shut the Fvck up and go and sit down.
I can see u wanna sound a nice guy so nairaland ladies will hail u and perhaps give u the go ahead to pm them.
Nah bro you're a weak fellow and that's not the right way to get the pussy you're looking for.

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Ladycewhy:
see this one still dey talk,lol what people hide behind a faceless forum sha

I just went through all your posts I can't help but say "you are part of those fiends who want equal right with men yeah?

peacettw:



While this may sound out of reach, I get the hidden message. She should be careful with her utterances. People have been known to do worse on much less.

exactly my point

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EmptyCoconutHead:
you should ask yourself cos since you're a man too.
asslicker

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trash

EmptyCoconutHead:
useless women.
If not for bearing of children and sexual gratification to kill konji, there's no other use of women in marriage.

This is sad to read tbh...

EmptyCoconutHead:
useless women.
If not for bearing of children and sexual gratification to kill konji, there's no other use of women in marriage.

You are wrong.

SalomonKane:
You're cute sha.

Learn to look beyond the make up bro

FlyingTOMATOE:
Learn to look beyond the make up bro

if i want your opinion, I'll ask for it.

dangotesmummy:
you are right.i get your point.but if the bride said that during her bridal shower amongst her friends then it's ok but in PUBLIC? It's embarrassing na.its like joking with a woman looking for the fruit of the womb with pregnancy and now saying it's a joke.depending on how sensitive she is she might or might not take offense but why put yourself in that position?

I watched the video though and from the facial expression of the bride she was rubbing it in the face of her friend and the friend had to laugh it off.but let's be realistic,the girl will definitely go home and think about it and the friends who were there too will be gossiping around or saying the bride said this on her wedding day. the thing is. the girl might not feel anything but HOW ABOUT THE FRIENDS . Putting negative ideas into her head

Why I am somehow defending the lady is because I put myself in the friend's shoes and realised that she may not be as sensitive as I am.

How do we know that after the bride said "Go and get boyfriend", some jovial ladies wont quickly reply "Yeye, na you people go dash me na!" and forget about it? Some people dont read meaning into things like you or I may.

People are comparing it with a woman who is looking for pregnancy but you forget that the comment will only pain you IF you are looking for pregnancy or you are having some kind of problem. I have small small cousins who have randomly asked me why I dont have a baby yet; it does not do me anything because I am not CURRENTLY looking for a baby but another lady may rush and lock herself inside the bathroom and cry for hours just because of that random comment because the stuff is already bothering her.

We dont know these 2 ladies to know if the woman is satisfied with her singlehood or not so fruit of the womb stuff doesnt mean anything here.

Where you have a point is where you noticed that there were so many people around when she said it; I may not be offended by your comment itself but I may feel embarrassed that you said it in front of somebody else . That would be the painful or hurtful part of it

im talking based on THE NATURE AND PECULIARITIES OF THE NIGERIAN SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT.HOW THEY INTERPRETE WEDDINGS AND STATEMENTS LIKE THIS

You are right that the type of society we are in dictates some kind of sensitivity when making certain statements in public.

Especially as a woman and as a bride, there are some certain characteristics you are expected to suppress in public so that people wont label you proud or arrogant.

You are right to remind people to be mindful of their utterances DUE TO the fact that people can read meaning into something you didnt say with bad intentions.

People can go home and stew about things for days and hours without you knowing. Like you said, some people apart from that friend may take it personally because of the stigma of being a single lady past a certain age

I just dont agree that the woman is necessarily being malicious or spiteful on purpose