TonyeBarcanista:

[s]Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people[/s].

I dey sell brain o, in case you wan buy

cooooooks:
You didn't overreact. However, I don't think you can continue with this girl because of the accusation your wife made. I suggest asking her to move out but committing to paying her tuition in secondary school and uni.

This is good advice

Tho he should insist no help in the house anymore as well...

There are consequences to actions

Some here are taking the "softy approach"

Softy approach to a typical mgbeke woman like this, in Africa is the fastest route to get rubbished as a man.

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

Man .you are very weak.

beg Wetin.


if he no act in such a way that the woman come begging...na Bastard

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

My brother thank you for your stand...you didnot do anything wrong . When I was younger I faced similar situation when my mum took me to her younger sister that married a millionaires. The husband was such a nice man but the wife who happens to be my mum's sister is a monster.....she will beat me without any provocation...the worst part was that she refused to send me to school....whenever the husband complained she will bark like a dog to her husband....The man started staying with his friends and only come back late night. One day ...the man called my mum to come to Lagos as a matter of urgency...when my mum arrives , the man narrated everything and gave my mum big cash to take me along and get me back to school. That was how I left with my mum. When I got home all my mates have gone pass me educationally but I didn't give u. To cut the story short....the man died and was brought home for burial....a few years later hardship set in with the family of 5 children...nobody is willing to assist her cos of bad relationship she created when her husband was a life. One day I was building my house in Lagos and as I was having a discussion with them, suddenly someone touched my back and called me by my local name...immediately I discovered he was the first son of the man....I asked him about his mother and he told me all is not well. That he came to Lagos to search for job and he is squatting with a friend along same street I am building my house. I took him home and made sure he is comfortable....He passed jamb from my house and I paid all his tuition till he graduated ...The same woman who treated me Like a slave was praying and asking me for forgiveness...but one day I decided to go home with the guy...The mother called a family meeting asking everyone to beg me to forgive her...I dropped the bombshell....I told everyone that i did what I did cos of the late husband not cos of this monster standing in front of me....only God will forgive her..,her husband's words was what gingered me to action. Don't regret taking your stand when your wife is being unreasonable...nobody knows tomorrow

STENON:
The heart of human is purely more wicked than the devil ...

You can purchase xmas clothes for the girl as xmas gift. Just be monitoring her keenly as your madam is likely to frustrate your househelp.

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Wow... see these likes mehnnn !!! ;

Lol. sensible comment. You were showered with likes bro. I can see you're really happy

lol

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

She undermined her husband's authority and judgement, that was rude. If she's not comfortable, she should return the girl to her parents now. That's how it is usually begins before they graduate into starving the househelps, burning their skin with hot iron, breaking their heads with sticks, make them sleeping on hard concrete surface, locking them up in the toilets for days thereby forcing them to eat their own poo and drink their own urine to survive. All in the name of "She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children" mentality.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

I'm not surprised because it is something you can do. May be you're already doing it, who knows? Op referred to her as "like the second mother". If you have functioning brain, you should have known that that has to with parental roles she's playing to the kids (mother), not as "like the second wife" with can easily be linked to sex. How hard is that difficult for you to comprehend?

[s]BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people. [/s]

Trash

Fazemood:


Rubbish and No sense at all

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Everybody just dey comment 1 or 2. Well Op I need Xmas cloth too Na.

your family's breakthrough could come from how you treat that little girl.

Your wife wicked

Pearl05:




Close mouth na people like you their maid sleeps inside kitchen and don't eat what others eat in the house.

Fool, I have never engage any maid in my life. Oya get out, lazy woman enslaving minor.

Lydiahandmade:
you call her a minor house help?....wicked madam spotted here.

Foolish idiot, the op called her househelp. Stop using minor, fool.

decub:


Well, I don't think you should have said any harsh words to her since she is your wife.

A simple order restraining herself and the children from wearing those clothes until she gets the house help hers would have been just fine.

Depending on how you run your family, she dare not disobeys. I am one of those that don't believe a woman needs physical or verbal assault to be tamed, especially your own wife; unless she doesn't respect you.

This would have worked too

DEBJOCH1:
. MR. SILVER SPOON SO CANT YOU READ WELL AGAIN, IS THE GIRL NOT IN SCHOOL?, WESTERNIZATION HAS MADE US BURRY OUR CULTURE, FOR THE FACT THAT THE GIRLS PARENT ARE FINANCIALLY INCAPACITATED AND THE OP DECIDE TO BRING THE GIRL DOWN TO HIS PLACE TO SCHOOL AND AT THE SAME TIME HELP IN SOME DOMESTIC WORK HAS NOW LED OP TO BE INVOLVE IN CHILD ABUSE?

Your culture is to engage minor. Stop mentioning me, useless culture.

Op you get time Oh!
Me kam! My wife no fit try this nonsense, if she do our marriage ends that day!
I hate nonsense.
Mtcheew

Abeg where do they sell cond®m am new in town

Beg ur wife and lecture her when u know she's ready to listen on why u should be good 2 dat poor child called househelp.She might be ur saviour 2moro. #Myopinion

1Sharon:


Nice to see someone else that reads between the lines

Something about the title "my wicked wife" didn't sit well with me

I think its the mods who re-write the title at times to make people click. I dont think hes the one who labelled his wife wicked.

fabienjoe:


That's rather harsh. In civilized nations, being an au pair is seen as employment and should only be for adults. But you must understand our peculiarities. Many poor people give birth to children they can't cater for. Going to work as house helps could be the only chance these children may have for education and focused life. Government as we know cares for no child here. The family may have meant well in bringing the child to stay with them.

I think i prefer the 15 year old because the person will actually get to go to school with their mates and move on

Bringing a 21 year old just seems like youre wasting their life or something

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Bros, if this story is real you married a smaller version of Jezebel.

A married man was told me that a woman manifest three phases in their life :
1Before marriage.
2.after marriage
3.After beating children.

You need to caution her seriously.

she is just wicked!
Your own relative fa!?

Seize that clothe she bought for her self , she s a wicked and selfish person . stand your ground and buy nice clothes to the young girl and tell her that if she hurt that little girl she will leave your house . be strong, don't fear, esterblish it now that you are the head .let her cry for one year , it does not mean anything, let her kneel down and apologize to you . leave the fucking food until she repent , God knows you are fighting for his daughter .

May God bless men with Wisdom, God will continue to let all your needs be satisfy..
Get the package for the lady and try to make ur Woman happy because is very important not to hurt her too much because of her mistake.
Call her attention to her mistake because ur Lover may turn to Enemy if care is not taking.

Once again good as u let her know what she did wrong instantly.
God will bless ur Home with Wisdom.

sunnychibs:


hustle hard ooo,so that your children will not become house helps.

I swear

Jameshyrated:
Beg ur wife and lecture her when u know she's ready to listen on why u should be good 2 dat poor child called househelp.She might be ur saviour 2moro. #Myopinion

. What nonsense beg? Oga be a man and stand for right, just and good. Don't beg the woman, she should appologize for you and the girl . if not all the church she s going is waste of time .

At times, I wonder if is the same God that created men that create women..?? Tufiakwa!!!

midnighter:


I think its the mods who re-write the title at times to make people click. I dont think hes the one who labelled his wife wicked.

Yh, they re-write the story for FP, but when you click on the topic, you see the original title

OP originally called his wife wicked

1Sharon:


Yh, they re-write the story for FP, but when you click on the topic, you see the original title

OP originally called his wife wicked

Hm. Nawao. Hope she doesnt see it sha

Before she starts crying again smh

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

are you sure youre not a woman? You talk like one

God bless you my broda u have done well

I thumbed up for you my brother,any maid that my woman can't treat as her child is not fit to be under my care. It is a rule in my home. If you can't treat somebody you entrust your children into her care like your own child,you are wicked and nothing more. Stand your ground and tell her to return the girl back to her parents instead of using her to blackmail you. Be firm and never succumb to her cheap blackmail. .

Na man u be, nice move. Just lock up and let her know say wetin she do dey wrong.No chop for house for now...make she know say u dey vex. But dey Laff with am

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

NaijaDonCast:
are you sure youre not a woman? You talk like one

She is a wicked woman .

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Baba you didn't over react, God knows how much I hate people that don't value other peoples kids..
Biko ignore her, she will come around, imagine the nonsense