₦airaland Forum

MrCork:
so u can't give person ordinary kiss..abi?...wot kinda greedy sell fish stingy Muslim are you?(shake my head)

blesskewe:
God punish u

MrCork:
do u realize u definitely goin to he'll for swaaaaaring on Christmas day?... this is the side effect of not going to church & worship in other religion.
Ordinary kiss I ask u & u started swaaaaaaring like ilitarate bus conductor. Ladies do not swaaaar(wot a serious shame)...this is exactly y I date white women. Shame on u!

Brock202:
Can you please recommend some for me?
I do send her motivational books though

Brock202:
I do send her motivational books though

blesskewe:
Please fuvk off

MrCork:
..real ladies do not swaaasr..
U swaaasr so much like ilitarate if u were here in London they will transfer u back to africa on express(truss me)
Change your agramafatick noshancalant behaviour or u will NEVER EVER find man on nairaland (but guess wot.. juss lost your shance)

blesskewe:
Oga were go school

superlanny:
no worry next year will be lit

blesskewe:
God punish u

tohyorsih2:
I stayed here back oo. I didn't celebrate christmas

MEGA4BILLION:
The worst thing in life is living with a boring person. Problems in marriages and relationship arises from poor or lack of communication. When there is no communication, the relationship will be boring. To make up this deficit aspect of the relationship always results in either or both of the partners cheating. Sit her down, discuss this with her, observe her for some time then weigh out your options. But don't waste her time.

biGDhAp:
... Why didn't you?? Has the Chinese and their belief gotten to you .. I heard they don't celebrate Christmas over there.

tohyorsih2:
No it hasn't. Yes the don't celebrate and that was why we were not given any holiday. I was busy working while others you guys were enjoying in Nigeria

biGDhAp:
... Sorry . If only I could FedEx some Christmas chicken to you ..
*grins
.. Come home next year ooo

tohyorsih2:
I could remember you used to be very troublesome. You just started typing like a gentle man all of a sudden. Did anything change?

Sure i will!

mickeyenglish:
[b]OP, i understand you perfectly more than you think.. Trust me, I do.. I was in your position in January,when i started to date this my fellow Corp member and we were both in the same school/PPA.

Again, she also possess all these "sweet qualities" that's akin to "wife material" and, it really hurts you to know that you've fallen in love with such a person..

Like yours,mine is also not of same religion with me.. While being a Christian(but really a Skeptic/Agnostic), she on the other hand is a Moslem. Mine doesn't even know how to prepare the Yorùbá traditional meals like our ever famous Àmàlà, semo, etc.. Eba is the only solid food she knows how to eat and prepare and you wonder what her Mother being an housewife to an Imam, has been upto in terms of kitchen tutorials.. Guess what? She's not even ready to learn how to even when i volunteered to teach her myself and get all necessary items with my own money.

Again, mine is very mentally lazy that sometimes, i wonder how she graduated from Yabatech with her HND.. I became scared when she was even unable to give me a brief synopsis about her course of study in school which was Microbiology. I even got enraged when she told me that she gave her project to a mercenary to write for her. Is that the kind of mother you want for you offsprings?

Furthermore, mine doesn't want to learn anything. Several a time, i had tried to spark an entrepreneurial plug in her heart and mind but, it always ended in tears.. I personally volunteered to foot the bills for any profession she'd really want to learn.. I even went to some of my female friends who were fashion designers, fashion and beauty bloggers, buying and selling, forex, farming, etc, and they all agreed to take her free of charge but, she turned the whole idea down.. Okay ooh, what do you want to learn, she'd say "i don't know" or "I'd think about it"..

Now, yours might still be young but, mine is 26yrs of age and I'm just a year older than her. For a girl of this age, who doesn't want to learn anything or become anything other than a loving wife to a loving husband. Eventually she'd become a leech and liability to the young hustling soul in this very brutal capitalist society.

Here's the trick no one will ever tell you ; nature is a badass! When nature knows you're deficient in most aspect expected of a creature, she(permit to refer to nature as she) quickly arms the weak creature with dummy/smokescreen attributes in other to makeup for all the lost attributes your girlfriend never had and will never have(emphasis on the WILL NEVER).

I also faced this scenario and decided to combat it by all means hence, my resolve to go on an all-out war on my Girlfriend's intellectual deficiencies but guess what? It all ended in tears... The more i tried to emancipate her, the more her ignorance fought back, and it fought hard and why did this happen? Mature knows there's nothing to emancipate.. Out of frustration, i broke up with her and made my reasons known to her but, made-up again later on after 3 weeks, hoping she'd realise here mistakes and heed to my advice..Guess what!! she broke with on Easter Day without excuses as to my crime, and when i inquired to know my crimes, she said i shouldn't play the victim's since i also broke up with her first.. But, before the broke up, i had discovered she was a girl that loves attention and would go toi any means to get it, so, while i was busy with a particular hustle coupled with blogging, i went incommunicado with her and she never for once even deemed it fit to message me or even call. Prior to that, i had been the to always do that.

Then came the day of revelation.. I hit her up on the fone and in my usual way, teased her up with things such her "so, you this wouldn't check up in her hubby àbí", guy ! If you see insult wey i collect eehn, you'd pity for me.. She said i was immature, and not only that, but she's getting several attention from other people and she doesn't need mine anymore.. She broke up with me three days later on Easter.. Did i react to the breakup? Yeah, i did.. I didn't man anything up and i shed tears in my room in Ibàdàn. I lost appetite for food and, became lean and lost weight to the extent that people were complaining when we resumed in our PPA. That's the true rubbish called "love" and its very pathetic to think that a very logical sapient like you can fall for such folly but you have,at least once in a lifetime. It's another intellectual lesson you have to learn on your journey in this very short life.

Go for the intellectual sound ones with lots of logic and reasonings to go round. Trust me, they'd be very arrogant and appear spoilt and on top of their world but, they'd fall in line when they eventually discover that you're in same league with them.. Its not for your sake but for your offsprings sake, for they'd get most of their cognitive abilities and learning from their mom for the first 10yrs of their life.. This is the bedrock.

My advice to you is not to breakup with her rather, let her breakup with you instead.. Trust me,at this moment, she'd be very happy about her decision and would appear to be living fine and even glowing and radiating, while you'd feel miserable,dumped and duped at first for some months (probably 6-8 months) but, you'd learn superbly.. Oh, dear! You'd learn tremendously during this grieving period. Eventually, her time of grieve would come immediately after her time of happiness, when she discovers that you're no longer there to pester her about "this and that", your future together, entrepreneurship, general enlightenment, etc. She'd eventually get get a new source of energy and attention from other sweet talking and Instagra-flashing guys but, the veil would soon falloff her eyes and she'd see demons.. Then she'd start regretting her decisions, then she'd start longing, then she'd start reaching forward to guys with your attributes but, nature has taught guys with your attributes,to steer clear of ladies with her attributes by playing the "breakup lesson" with them through the hands of other intellectually deficient ladies hereby, prompting them to reject laides with cognitive deformities.. At the end, it's an irony that it's a simple win-win situation for you..

Trust the evolutionary cycle of nature..

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Brock202:
For people asking for her interests, I don't know what really interests here because she has never discussed anything really serious with me. If i called after saying hello, how are you doing today?, the next thing she ask is
Where are you?, have you eaten?. Those words are meant for secondary school kids. I've complained several times and her response was that she don't know what to say that i should teach, she also feel sad about it.

Brock202:
Hi everyone, i dont want to bore you with long talk.
I need your advise on this issue,
Me and this girl have been in a relationship for over a year now, she posses some of the features i want in my woman but she's lacking one thing which is intelligence, i always be the one to bring up a topic we can talk about, I've never meet her for advice or anything that bothers me because i know she can't proffer any solution to it, we don't use to chat on WhatsApp after saying hi and i reply, how was your day that's the end, I'm the only one that bring up issue to discuss everytime but now am tired of it, I've complained to her several times but she said she don't what to say, I've sent her some books to read but she didn't read any of them. I'm thinking of breaking up with her because i can't cope with her again and then i decide to give it a second thought that's why i put it here if there is any other tips i can use to build her up to my taste

Advise me please!

Brock202:
Hi everyone, i dont want to bore you with long talk.
I need your advise on this issue,
Me and this girl have been in a relationship for over a year now, she posses some of the features i want in my woman but she's lacking one thing which is intelligence, i always be the one to bring up a topic we can talk about, I've never meet her for advice or anything that bothers me because i know she can't proffer any solution to it, we don't use to chat on WhatsApp after saying hi and i reply, how was your day that's the end, I'm the only one that bring up issue to discuss everytime but now am tired of it, I've complained to her several times but she said she don't what to say, I've sent her some books to read but she didn't read any of them. I'm thinking of breaking up with her because i can't cope with her again and then i decide to give it a second thought that's why i put it here if there is any other tips i can use to build her up to my taste

Advise me please!

Brock202:
Hi everyone, i dont want to bore you with long talk.
I need your advise on this issue,
Me and this girl have been in a relationship for over a year now, she posses some of the features i want in my woman but she's lacking one thing which is intelligence, i always be the one to bring up a topic we can talk about, I've never meet her for advice or anything that bothers me because i know she can't proffer any solution to it, we don't use to chat on WhatsApp after saying hi and i reply, how was your day that's the end, I'm the only one that bring up issue to discuss everytime but now am tired of it, I've complained to her several times but she said she don't what to say, I've sent her some books to read but she didn't read any of them. I'm thinking of breaking up with her because i can't cope with her again and then i decide to give it a second thought that's why i put it here if there is any other tips i can use to build her up to my taste

Advise me please!

bukatyne:
How old are you? How old is she?

What is her family setting like? Who are her friends?

What is her vision for a family? What kind of family do you want?

Brock202:
Can you cope with a guy that call you and all she could say is "Hello babe", "How are you doing today", ﷼Have you eaten" I will call you back later.
Answer me please

Brock202:
I'm 24 while she's 23
Her dad died at a tender which makes only her mom raise them (5 of them 2males and 3females) singlehandedly.

She doesn't keep friends (she's an introvert)
Her vision for a family? I don't have an answer for that because any time we talk about this she always reply like someone with low IQ (She doesn't know what she want).

bukatyne:
Thanks for the response.

You have a lot of work to do if you are convinced that she is your wife. (hardest part)

It is also good news because she is willing to learn.

I don't know how you meet however, have a 3-month engagement plan. Have a list of topics across all fields you can engage on. For instance, you are meeting with her tomorrow. After the pleasantries, have a random topic for discussion.
1. What does she think about wives 'respecting' pastors more than their husbands?
2. Why did she pick her course?
3. What is her dream job?
4. Where would she like to settle in and why?
5. What does she think about how Govt handled Funke Akindele's case?
6. What does she think about the conspiracy that 5G network caused COVID-19?
7. What is a feminine woman?
8. What does she think about traditional roles in the family?
9. What does she think of the phrase 'customer is king?'
10. What does she think about the current brain drain in the economy?
11. What does she think about the US inviting doctors all over the world to help them with corona?
12. What does she think about the practice of religion viz a viz the Bible times?
13. What ways does she think children can be engaged apart from putting them infront of the TV?

What are her hobbies? If for instance she says movies, can you both watch a movie and she dissects? If books, can she read and summarize for you? If cooking, can she cook and explain what ingredients she blends to get a certain flavour? Can she tell you her favorite meal and the ways she plays around cooking them? Can she cook one way per time and you both judge your favorite?

What I listed above are just different lines of conversation you can have.

Try to get her to spill what is in her head.

After that we discuss.

Just mention me.

foreverdiamonds:
So if a lady can't bring up topics for discussion or sustain a whatsapp chat after saying hello or hi she is unintelligent?

Brock202:
I really appreciate this má but what if i tell you that she can only answer question 1-5, you see the rest questions she doesn't know about them. She can't construct a simple sentence in English language , Tenses, spellings let me mention few. I can't be saying everything here because this is a public forum. If you see our chats you will pity me. I'm thinking of breaking up with her

mickeyenglish:
[OP, i understand you perfectly more than you think.. Trust me, I do.. I was in your position in January,when i started dating this my fellow Corp member and we were both in the same school/PPA.

Again, she also possess all these "sweet qualities" that's akin to "wife material" and, it really hurts to know that you've fallen in love with such a person..

Like yours,mine is also not of same religion with me.. While being a Christian(but really a Skeptic/Agnostic), she on the other hand is a Moslem. Mine doesn't even know how to prepare the Yorùbá traditional meals like our ever famous Àmàlà, semo, etc.. Eba is the only solid food she knows how to eat and prepare and you wonder what her Mother being an housewife to an Imam, has been upto in terms of kitchen tutorials.. Guess what? She's not even ready to learn how to even when i volunteered to teach her myself and get all necessary items with my own money.

Again, mine is very mentally lazy that sometimes, i wonder how she graduated from Yabatech with her HND.. I became scared when she was even unable to give me a brief synopsis about her course of study in school which was Microbiology. I even got enraged when she told me that she gave her project to a mercenary to write for her. Is that the kind of mother you want for you offsprings?

Furthermore, mine doesn't want to learn anything. Several a time, i had tried to spark an entrepreneurial plug in her heart and mind but, it always ended in tears.. I personally volunteered to foot the bills for any profession she'd really want to learn.. I even went to some of my female friends who were fashion designers, fashion and beauty bloggers, buying and selling, forex, farming, etc, and they all agreed to take her free of charge but, she turned the whole idea down.. Okay ooh, what do you want to learn, she'd say "i don't know" or "I'd think about it"..

Now, yours might still be young but, mine is 26yrs of age and I'm just a year older than her. For a girl of this age, who doesn't want to learn anything or become anything other than a loving wife to a loving husband. Eventually she'd become a leech and liability to the young hustling soul in this very brutal capitalist society.

Here's the trick no one will ever tell you ; nature is a badass! When nature knows you're deficient in most aspect expected of a creature, she(permit to refer to nature as she) quickly arms the weak creature with dummy/smokescreen attributes in other to makeup for all the lost attributes your girlfriend never had and will never have(emphasis on the WILL NEVER).

I also faced this scenario and decided to combat it by all means hence, my resolve to go on an all-out war on my Girlfriend's intellectual deficiencies but guess what? It all ended in tears... The more i tried to emancipate her, the more her ignorance fought back, and it fought hard and why did this happen? Mature knows there's nothing to emancipate.. Out of frustration, i broke up with her and made my reasons known to her but, made-up again later on after 3 weeks, hoping she'd realise here mistakes and heed to my advice..Guess what!! she broke with on Easter Day without excuses as to my crime, and when i inquired to know my crimes, she said i shouldn't play the victim's since i also broke up with her first.. But, before the broke up, i had discovered she was a girl that loves attention and would go toi any means to get it, so, while i was busy with a particular hustle coupled with blogging, i went incommunicado with her and she never for once even deemed it fit to message me or even call. Prior to that, i had been the to always do that.

Then came the day of revelation.. I hit her up on the fone and in my usual way, teased her up with things such her "so, you this wouldn't check up in her hubby àbí", guy ! If you see insult wey i collect eehn, you'd pity for me.. She said i was immature, and not only that, but she's getting several attention from other people and she doesn't need mine anymore.. She broke up with me three days later on Easter.. Did i react to the breakup? Yeah, i did.. I didn't man anything up and i shed tears in my room in Ibàdàn. I lost appetite for food and, became lean and lost weight to the extent that people were complaining when we resumed in our PPA. That's the true rubbish called "love" and its very pathetic to think that a very logical sapient like you can fall for such folly but you have,at least once in a lifetime. It's another intellectual lesson you have to learn on your journey in this very short life.

Go for the intellectual sound ones with lots of logic and reasonings to go round. Trust me, they'd be very arrogant and appear spoilt and on top of their world but, they'd fall in line when they eventually discover that you're in same league with them.. Its not for your sake but for your offsprings sake, for they'd get most of their cognitive abilities and learning from their mom for the first 10yrs of their life.. This is the bedrock.

My advice to you is not to breakup with her rather, let her breakup with you instead.. Trust me,at this moment, she'd be very happy about her decision and would appear to be living fine and even glowing and radiating, while you'd feel miserable,dumped and duped at first for some months (probably 6-8 months) but, you'd learn superbly.. Oh, dear! You'd learn tremendously during this grieving period. Eventually, her time of grieve would come immediately after her time of happiness, when she discovers that you're no longer there to pester her about "this and that", your future together, entrepreneurship, general enlightenment, etc. She'd eventually get get a new source of energy and attention from other sweet talking and Instagra-flashing guys but, the veil would soon falloff her eyes and she'd see demons.. Then she'd start regretting her decisions, then she'd start longing, then she'd start reaching forward to guys with your attributes but, nature has taught guys with your attributes,to steer clear of ladies with her attributes by playing the "breakup lesson" with them through the hands of other intellectually deficient ladies hereby, prompting them to reject laides with cognitive deformities.. At the end, it's an irony that it's a simple win-win situation for you..

Trust the evolutionary cycle of nature..

Post No Bill