Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

I still don't get your points, he slapped you after taking shots of you guys, just like that and nothing happened between the two of you prior to that day..... That can't be possible, am sure you said something to him after he took the lion taking shots of you and the kids...

you can't tell me you dont know what your hubby doesnt like, Are you the God of the house? ofcourse not, so why selecting what he doesn't want for him? Your role is not to control the family or to control him or to select for him but he's ... Let him take charge. Sorry Queen, you put yourself in the mess

bdchange:

You better be careful with what you asked for? It is better to leave an abusive marriage than trying to be Anthony Joshua . All men are not same oo. Before you even raise two hands..the next thing is hospital bed

no mind am...too much Hollywood we worry am

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

Bae sorry.you caused it.y tell him change from a cloth he is comfortable on to your puppy wears.i know is love.Bet you your hubbg is an Engineer.
Your like my wife.loves me on suit but i look like a pauper on suit.my best comfortable wear is jeans and short sleeve top with a loafers shoe.
Bae take heart we all have diffrent dressing pattern dat makes us comfortable.

Personally me i hate native but cos of my job i wear it first on first appointment once we get acquainted na jeans.

Bae go to hubby tell him your sorry and ueeze his balls

Lol, crazy people. Somebody wanted to wear jeans and polo to dinner and you people say I should allow him lie lie nobody should embarrass anybody in the name of"I do" oo I dont know what some people are writing

If he doesn't want to change then why not say so instead of slapping abacha out of the woman Some people just like to wake up from siesta and type rubbish

This one pass me.

I can’t be in an abusive relationship. Never

Why were you beated by him?what did you did to him?


Mynd44 I have not forgivened you for banning me and na fight to finish me and you dey

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

It’s one thing to say Smtn and it’s another thing how u say it. Ure words on paper seem harmless and well intended bt in sound I can’t so sure.

He was obviously not in the mood or probably upset with u or about Smtn else, maybe ur over interference in his activities or choice. I’m sure he didn’t pick ur dress for u. Now don’t get me wrong this cud be a normal loving couples scenario bt it cud also be an annoying couples scenario. Which is which will depend on the dynamics of ur relationship and other factors I can’t be sure of because I don’t know how events of the day or week even flowed for both of you.


The bottom line is he has been upset for a while and ur comments only made him snap like u said. Ur choice of words here were very accurate. “Snapped” Don’t irritate an already pissed on man. Let him be if u can’t help him get over what’s upsetting him.


Ur actions and words on paper seem genuine like I said bt obviously for sm reasons ur husband didn’t See it as so. How did u sound?

I don’t support his beating u up, I think dats wrong bt from event that has happened I think u shud apologize even if u in ur mind think u weren’t wrong. Then ask him why him laid his hands on u and hopefully he also sees that he was wrong and this is settled.

I think he got provoked further by ur words in that particular circumstance, probably misconstrued ur words or Intentions or read them differently from how u intended if u actually didn’t mean to upset him. Cheers.

mrphysics:

Exactly. Some women don't understand that some of us don't like when we don't dictate what you put on and you turn out to dictate same to us.

I don't know if I would react same way but one thing is sure, I will be very angry. A lady recently told me never to cut my hair so low again. That having a low cut make me look like a kid I was angry and told her never to wear a bra again.

She then asked how wearing bra and hair correlate. I told her it's very simple. Since she now dictate the kind of hair I should barb, then I will dictate the kind of clothes she should wear.

Maybe we are few

Low cut makes one look like a kid,tbh

mrphysics:

Exactly. Some women don't understand that some of us don't like when we don't dictate what you put on and you turn out to dictate same to us.

I don't know if I would react same way but one thing is sure, I will be very angry. A lady recently told me never to cut my hair so low again. That having a low cut make me look like a kid I was angry and told her never to wear a bra again.

She then asked how wearing bra and hair correlate. I told her it's very simple. Since she now dictate the kind of hair I should barb, then I will dictate the kind of clothes she should wear.

Maybe we are few

Is dictating what to wear enough to make you beat your wife?
Why are you getting angry when someone tells you a hairstyle doesn't fit you? It's either you tell them you like the hairstyle on you, perhaps even ask them to mind their business or you take heed of their advice. I still don't understand where the anger is coming from. Would you rather be told lies by syncophants or be told the truth?
It doesn't mean the advice or observation is coming from a bad place.
You most likely have anger management issues and poor conflict resolution skills. Work on yourself, this 2020.

I hate the attitude of wife beating with passion. I dont even want to know what she did. I can do shit to my Dad if he does that dirty act to my mum, even though i love my dad Dearly. To the news, i think your husband is acting on accumulated rumors about you or past altercation which he has not let go, but that makes him childish as the path he is threading is not meant for real men.

Halimat04:
Uncompleted gist....

It could be as simple as op stated it. Only the man knew what triggered his animalistic behaviour, it could be a new mistress somewhere. This brings out different types of reaction in men.

You read the story of a guy in Ibadan about three months ago? He made an advance to a woman, the woman rejected it. The next thing, he took a bike to her house in a broad daylight, attacked her in her own house, injured her, raped her and then killed her and left. Did that make sense to you? But that's how it was. He was arrested by the help of the bike rider who became suspicious and went back to the place to find out what happened inside the house

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

I believe that you have deliberately left out a lot of details.

But, I will act based on the available information (that is, the information you have supplied).

First of all, you picked a nice outfit but he would rather wear something else. What he preferred to wear was what you termed "everyday wear".

Therein lies some of the problem.

Sometimes, in our attempt to help, we become too bossy, too unfeeling to our spouse and what they love. I am very certain that you have been too choosy when he comes to what he likes and he has begun to see you as manipulative.

There is nothing bad in choosing outfits for your spouse but from the little information you provided, it shows that your husband does not approve of your acts and the information also shows that you are someone who would not take a no for an answer. You have chosen an outfit which you have labeled as nice and you expect no one (not even the person who would wear the clothes) to object.

Supposing you don't like skimpy clothes. How would you feel if your husband labels the clothes you like trash and then manipulates you into wearing clothes that you wouldn't feel comfortable wearing?

Marriage is a union. But it doesn't mean your individuality must disappear. If your husband likes his everyday wear, let him wear them as long as they can be worn and are decent. If a man allows you pick his outfits for him, it doesn't mean you should abuse the privilege and start thinking up ideas of rubbishing his own tastes.

Personally, I don't wear clothes because of fashion. I look at different factors. If I am going for a party and it is very sunny outside. Then you, my wife, comes and tries to force me to wear a suit or an agbada because you think it is nice outfit, then I will educate you on what they call relationships. It is not a prison where I have to displease myself all in the name of fashion. How can I wear agbada or suit and be sweating like a goat simply because I want to please society?

And yes, another piece of information that I got from your post and that further buttresses my argument that you are a manipulative person is the manner in which you wrote that you told your husband to go back in and change into what you had chosen for him. You wanted to hide some details to favor yourself and put all the blame on your husband, but for a man like me, I will always find out the salient details even from the polished ones presented.

Madam, if your husband raised his hand to you, then it is a really bad situation for the marriage because violence only aggravates problems and physical abuse is as much of a malaise as verbal assault. But, your husband is not here so I would give you my own piece of advice. Don't feel comfortable as to start putting down your husband's preferences simply because he might have allowed you to pick his outfits. If you could demean his choice of outfits right in front of us strangers, I just wonder how tiny your husband's self worth must be right now.

Please, next time, if he decides to wear his own outfit, try to find out why rather than making it seem like he can't pick wisely. You will be killing his self worth. It would get to a stage that he wouldn't even be able to dress to bed for fear that you would criticize his choice of pyjamas.

Please!!!

Strange stories about marriage.
Whats the gain?



Someone please highlight the benefits.

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

christmas present

I will never understand this thing that people resort to coming on social media to seek advice on domestic abuse.

How many advice have you gotten on this thread, OP?

There are a ton of literature on how to deal with a misbehaving spouse. Purchase these books and read them over a glass of wine.

For shock value, I would recommend you read these:

When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft
The Devil At Home
See What You Made Me Do by Jess Hill

Please, before you go to sleep, read these books and name sure he sees them, so that he knows you are not laying low and doing nothing. He will become jittery and start asking questions, be calm, mad people usually don't know how to react to sanity in the face of their madness.

Do Not work in isolation. Shower him with love, be nice to him, extra nice even. Keep smiling, if you look forlorn he will know he is having an impact. Don't give the aggressor an upperhand.

Find some thugs in the area or beyond, buy them their poison occasionally if you can....this is optional

Bid your time.

And if he is crazy enough to strike again, arrange to have him beaten thoroughly. There is more than one way to kill a bird.

Plead:



Low cut makes one look like a kid,tbh

your opinion

Mayb oga won go 3 times u only allow him 1 time,,,,

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

I MISSED THIS HERE IS THE QUESTION
group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.
ANSWER
You know or assumed his clothes were bad then y wanna take a family picture with it.if a family picture good with the clothes should also be good for an outing.
Bae go tell boo sorry

thorpido:
That must be his own way of celebrating Christmas with you.

hajahahaha,guy u de craze ooooo haba

BluntBoy:


I believe that you have deliberately left out a lot of details.

But, I will act based on the available information (that is, the information you have supplied).

First of all, you picked a nice outfit but he would rather wear something else. What he preferred to wear was what you termed "everyday wear".

Therein lies some of the problem.

Sometimes, in our attempt to help, we become too bossy, too unfeeling to our spouse and what they love. I am very certain that you have been too choosy when he comes to what he likes and he has begun to see you as manipulative.

There is nothing bad in choosing outfits for your spouse but from the little information you provided, it shows that your husband does not approve of your acts and the information also shows that you are someone who would not take a no for an answer. You have chosen an outfit which you have labeled as nice and you expect no one (not even the person who would wear the clothes) to object.

Supposing you don't like skimpy clothes. How would you feel if your husband labels the clothes you like trash and then manipulates you into wearing clothes that you wouldn't feel comfortable wearing?

Marriage is a union. But it doesn't mean your individuality must disappear. If your husband likes his everyday wear, let him wear them as long as they can be worn and are decent. If a man allows you pick his outfits for him, it doesn't mean you should abuse the privilege and start thinking up ideas of rubbishing his own tastes.

Personally, I don't wear clothes because of fashion. I look at different factors. If I am going for a party and it is very sunny outside. Then you, my wife, comes and tries to force me to wear a suit or an agbada because you think it is nice outfit, then I will educate you on what they call relationships. It is not a prison where I have to displease myself all in the name of fashion. How can I wear agbada or suit and be sweating like a goat simply because I want to please society?

And yes, another piece of information that I got from your post and that further buttresses my argument that you are a manipulative person is the manner in which you wrote that your husband goes back in and change into what you had chosen for him. You wanted to hide some details to favor yourself and put all the blame on your husband, but for a man like me, I will always find out the salient details even from the polished ones presented.

Madam, if your husband raised his hand at you, then it is a really bad situation for the marriage because violence only aggravates problems and physical abuse is as much of a malaise as verbal assault. But, your husband is not here so I would give you my own piece of advice. Don't feel comfortable as to start putting down your husband's preferences simply because he might have allowed you to pick his outfits. If you could demean his choice of outfits right in front of us strangers, I just wonder how tiny your husband's self worth must be right now.

Please, next time, if he decides to wear his own outfit, try to find out why rather than making it seem like he can't pick wisely. You will be killing his self worth. It would get to a stage that he wouldn't even be able to dress to bed for fear that you would criticize his choice of pyjamas.

Please!!!

your name is Bluntboy and youu are saying OP should not be blunt?

If her husband is dressing like a trader in Upper Iweka, shouldn't she help with his style? Man is probably sporting a pot belle and wearing tight body hug to accentuate his man boobs.

If his style is wack, she has the right, as his wife, to pick out his outfits. That is what most wives do with their husbands; they buy them clothes and help select their outfits. Why can't OP do same for the Grinch she married?

Mrsprissy:
Thank you so much everyone for your advice . Like I said earlier nothing actually happened between us before Christmas , everything was okey , on Monday December 23rd we went out shopping for Christmas after we took the kids out to the playgrounds and we ended the day with a nice dinner at the restaurant. On Christmas morning we woke up fine no arguments, he left the house and went to get his hair cut, I picked up his clothes and left it on the bed by the time he get back so he can wear them, he came back very normal on a good mood , the only time he got angry was when I asked him to go and change , I didn’t raise my voice , I only told him the clothes doesn’t look nice for the special occasion that was when he told me to keep quiet and I did. He took 1 hour just to change the T-shirt to a shirt and I wasn’t not happy but I didn’t say anything because he wasn’t in the right mood. Yes He beat me just because I have asked him to take a family picture , I swear to God I’m telling the truth and if I’m not lying because it won’t put any money to my bank account. This is the 2nd beating after 6 years of marriage , but this is one was worse than the first one. Something did happened back in October ( his fault) but we have already settle everything and went back to normal. I know it doesn’t make sense to some of you , even myself I just don’t understand why did he beat me with so much hatred when I did nothing wrong

From your narration, your hubby is one with mood swings. Learn to understand and manage him well with your 6 years experience. You are too over him. Most men don't like it when you tell them what they are wearing is not befitting except they ask. They feel like they don't have a good dress judgement and they've been keeping a not too good outfit in their wardrobe all the while.

Don't be a talkative, don't choke him. Prepare him good meals, put the food on the table even if his ego won't let him touch it and don't bring up the beating topic, stay calm and you will be good

crackhaus:
1. I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

2. I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly.

After giving you the benefit of a doubt and assuming this is exactly how it happened - then your husband has definitely gone mad to react to absolutely nothing.

The beating is unwarranted, I wonder how people are thinly built in terms of patience.

Please politely ask him if there is madness running in his family, make sure you ask him from a safe distance because he will surely use the nearest furniture to kill you.

Madness does not have a cure, but it can be managed.
Arrange to have him put in chains and get him on medications till everything returns to normal.

MrsPrissy don't try this latter part in this guy's post, na bury him go bury you o, for someone to easily lose it when politely being asked to do something, any inquiries that goes beyond him and to his family will cause bigger beating.

Men out there, if she nags you and you're about to lose, please, walk away from her, go out and text her you need to cool off, anger management should be learned.

I'm getting scared of relationships (and marriage) although because of these news.

thorpido:
That must be his own way of celebrating Christmas with you.

You need this

ogawisdom:


Lol when kids are invited to give advice what do you expect 95% of all married women have received at least a slap from their husband esp marriages over 10 yrs so it can be managed esp if not recurrent n the man remorseful

I don't really blame you, you were brought up in an environment where women receive at least a slap and still beg their horsebands. Am sure your wife also chops slaps from you once in a while but it's okay since it's not recurrent.

Are you sure you didn't annoyed him before the outting?

safarigirl:
your name is Bluntboy and youu are saying OP should not be blunt?

If her husband is dressing like a trader in Upper Iweka, shouldn't she help with his style? Man is probably sporting a pot belle and wearing tight body hug to accentuate his man boobs.

If his style is wack, she has the right, as his wife, to pick out his outfits. That is what most wives do with their husbands; they buy them clothes and help select their outfits. Why can't OP do same for the Grinch she married?

Wait till you marry a man who picks everything for you and who expects you to dress like a queen in tight fitting dresses and high heels when you would rather wear something loose and something low. A man who thinks your modest gowns and sandals (which you have always liked) are trash and unbefitting of a woman who must be his wife.


Or a man who suddenly becomes an SU and asks you to always wear scarves and Deeper Life gowns when you would rather wear something much trendier.

Plead:

Rubbish. So if I should give you the insults of your life that will make you regret why you came to life the next thing is to physically assault me abi?
I repeat,no amount of verbal assault equates or requires physical assault. Insult the person back or forget about it.

Honestly,I keep saying it that 90% of Africans(especially Nigerians) if given the chance to live in the west they won’t last upto 5months before being locked up/thrown into jail.

Animals !

Hahahaha. How many Nigerians and Africans live in the west. Do u know? How many have gone to jail. Where is your statistics sir?


Well, u deserve to hold on to your opinion. Its urs. Good luck with it. And enjoy ur life.

I hold onto my opinion. And my opinion is this: any form of abuse, physical or psychological, is wrong, irrespective of the gender who is the abuser and the gender who is the victim. I believe in equality of men and women. No one has the right to abuse the other, physically or emotionally or psychologically.

otokx:
Only married people should give advice

Waiting to read yours

Your husband is not in the right frame of mind. You should know and understand your husband better. Go and beg him, he will open up to you, you caused it please!! There is nothing serious here

You need a counsellor . Something is wrong somewhere. Can you recall good moments before you noticed this change ? Did he loose his job? Did any of his business went bad. Pls look for the remote cause before everything goes bad.
Love And joy is gradually leaving this family.Act fast but pls examine yourself too. Your man needs help.