₦airaland Forum

firo08:
There are people out there without a job but they have a family.
Bro you are not God and if your sister insist on marrying a man she loves 50 of you can't stop her so stop being rational.

they have family but dont have job, they will breed liabilities, how will this children go to school, eat and cloth

uninspired07:
How many women will agree to marry you with a 100k salary in Lagos, Nigeria?

Unless of course you want to keep petting & begging a woman to be with you for the rest of the marriage.

Marriage will manageable for a family in Lagos, Nigeria if the man earns from 250 and above & they plan well. Anything else will be a struggle if you marry a normal Lagos girl. Unless you want to import a wife from the village.

I am sure there would be more than enough women who would marry you for less.

Am earning less than 20k. So, I won't marry abi.. I need wife too..

lilwetdick:
100k with career growth..that is the man ready for marriage.

100k monthly...1.2 million annually also career growth.....opportunity to earn more in 3-4 years.

So no marriage for those earning below #100 000?

You try.

Why will a guy earning 30k marry

lilwetdick:
but this is poverty.

Is it your poverty?

I know of someone that is earning 30k, his wife is working and they are blessed with children. I think a man that with 30k salary can settle down if the wife is ready to support. The problem is that most of this ladies that are not ready to settle with a man that is earning 30k are slay queens who are only interested in what they stand to gain, they are not ready to contribute anything at all. What if the man that is earning 100k and above today suddenly lost his job and now earning 30k or below, should the woman devorce him or what?. I think the most important thing is for the man to be responsible, with the help and prayer from the wife their financial status will change.

Babaheekmat:
Am earning less than 20k. So, I won't marry abi.. I need wife too..

Don't mind them joor. Just make sure your woman is working too.

Mgbadike80:
If the man is of sound character and focused in life then the answer is yes. My sister should work to support her husband, she's not a piece of furniture in his home. I believe that's what the bible said too.

PLENTY OIL DEY YOUR HEAD

Fxwarrior:
Don't mind them joor. Just make sure your woman is working too.

Abi na oga mi..

Billionaires started from somewhere fa.

All of a sudden owo blow em slay mama's dey look for..

No wonder dem dey use lots of them as juju

BluntBoy:
I am sure there would be more than enough women who would marry you for less.

Where are they?

Fxwarrior:
Do you know that you are wicked?

Na lie I lie? NL women level starts from men earning N100k monthly up to N350k monthly. Any man earning higher or lower than that range will probably not marry/be married by a NL woman.

Like I said, everybody has level.

lilwetdick:
17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

You can solve maths for Africa yet forgetting to include wife's salary.

to all those shouting vision, mission, focus and determination bla bla

your father shouted the same thing but he still in the same condition

you also are shouting the same thing and you will be in the same situation

change your country economic situation and life will be better for most of you.

lilwetdick:
when did i say you dont deserve your fantasy love? but since you wanna comment lets comment.

so basically you dont have experience in lecturing but went for phd

your earn 10k as stipend and your only source of income and you think you can marry with 10k, because you think you have potential after 2 years

now what are the chances of you getting a job after doing your phd, dont forget you have no experience in teaching

most people i know doing phd are lecturers working in the system already.

i think you don enter one chance, a phd without teaching experience in the university is a waste of time.

have you seen recent job adverts for phd holders, a minimum of 10 years experience is required for you to get a teaching job.

to be fair a bachelor degree guy earning 100k is better than you even after you finish your program

nobody is gonna pay you a good pay if you dont have the experience and dont think, you can get good employment in the private sector because you will be over qualified. you will have the prestige of being a Dr but no cash.

people that follow where the money is are better off than people that follow their dreams

Please revisit the above comment of yours.Without a teaching experience you can get a lecturing Job with your Phd.The only thing is that you will be placed on a lower grade since you are coming in without teaching experience.

vickydankal:
Past few days has been funny, regarding age, financial stability and economic state a man must attain before talking marriage.

Let me tell a bit of myself. .....

I met my husband in his final year he promised me marriage after a year of service, his salary then was 10k, yes 10k. He proposed and engaged me in his mum's face me I slap you house. My family rejected him at first, because of his dressing, financial status and his house. No much property.

I saw a future with him we will build together, I saw myself as part of his vision builder. I knew my calling was to help him achieve his goals and vision thereby achieving mine.

It took 5 years of struggle, pains, mockery and frustration. But we remained together. Today to the glory of God there's a change of story. We literally feed and pay salary to many of our mockers then .

From mine experience, a good and faith woman has God given discernment to know men with future and also to know if they belong there.

30k is not too small to begin life, though many things must be taken into account. When to begin child birth, number of children, type of housing, property, savings, side hustles etc with wisdom, love, understanding and God's grace backing your efforts you will succeed just a matter of time., that's if you overcome association of village people on time. It is because of excess comfort on the side of the men before marriage that's why many men take their wives as part of their properties.

I have joint account with my husband, most of our major properties are written in both of our names. I have a say in the home, I have earned my dignity and respect. Through thick and thin, so no man can shuush me down. I paid the price in full.

I'm not saying we have achieved everything in my own marriage, I'm saying, if you see a man God fearing, with the qualities you want and with a vision that can house your own vision as a lady, it is not a bad idea. But be ready to be insulted, mocked by family and friends. Let down your guild and roll up your sleeves and work. Forget slay mama and slay queen did later in life. Pay the price...

Too much expectations has kept many unmarried for years. It is not too good to leave all the financial burdens of the home to the man. He is not God, if you are his help meet come low and help him and not expect range rover every birth day.
The amount of salary shouldn't be the only determinant factor. Leadership, management, self control and goals acccessment should be vital on both man and his wife.

I have told you several times, your type is an endangered species..
They don't make a lady like you again.. Especially in this social media age...

If you know any young lady with your kind of mentality.. Please connect me with her..

I have some topics to discuss with her. Please!!

lilwetdick:
but this is poverty.

Allah kwa

Life is a gradual process,plan your life,people earn 20k monthly will dey kill themselves and after all they are degree holders. 30k as a start is never a bad idea as long as the couple are not in hurry to start making babes.
You can be in a room,with your wife and 1child. Then manage the family till things get better but people will tell let born waiting we wan born and relax. From one pikin to another within 2yrs and inside one room,while will poverty not increase.

lilwetdick:
if you have a sister, will your father allow a man earning 30k to marry your sister? pls be realistic

My sister married a man without a job and a year later he got a job at agip, I agree with the poster,everything can change for better in a twinkle of an eye

Michellekabod2:
It depends on what 30k means to the couple. 30k can be a enough for just airtime in a month and to some it can be enough for a them to live per month. Different strokes to different folks. If he can make do with it why not?

For example,earlier this year spent 27k on a meal for just myself in a Chinese restaurant (desert,appetizer and main meal). Some weeks later I ate 50 naira gala and 7up for a meal because I was broke ( didn't get the money I was expecting).....
At both instances I adjusted according to my pocket. When I had I ate a decent meal,when I didnt have I adjusted to eating gala and 7up. I can cope with any situation around. So the bachelor in question may be able to cope with his 30k.

was the eatery/restaurant in Nigeria? I mean where exactly is it located?

I can marry a man that earns 30k and support him as long as he meets the following criteria :

1. If He's a graduate
2. If He's hardworking
3. If He loves me so much, when I mean love, I mean genuine love
4. If He respects me
5. If He has a vision
6. If He has a mentor (like a spiritual father who he obeys and listens to)
7. If he's God fearing.

And who says the guys must always be the ones who earn more, work in shell, NNPC etc?? ladies can also work and earn good salary, they can make their husband rich, it shouldn't always have to be the man.

Some guys will only make it when they marry, and if you say you won't get married because you are earning 30k, then you will remain like that all your life.

What if the guy has been destined to make money at the age of 50

lilwetdick:
i love my sickness abeg, bro there is no lesson you can teach me, whatever you like say..life is not about self pity

there is no price on her but even if we put price can you afford her..that is the problem, wont you get broke

Don't worry about me, I won't get broke. Lest I forget, what is her self worth, what else does she have to offer other than giving birth? I hope she isn't just useless, because if she is, you might have just been making noise since the beginning of the thread for nothing.

Trust me there are ladies that would date and marry a man who does not have a job or business...

My current fiancee started dating me when I had no source of income

We were mocked by alot of folks

I was even squatting with my friends at the time, but she believed in me and where I was headed.

Today, the story is different

I am now gainfully employed and also running my business

I now have a good car of my own

I now live in my own rented apartment that more than half a million naira. Fully furnished.

I have practically being blowing her mind with lots of goodies.

And HELLO? we are set for our marriage for early 2020..


So pls ladies, if you see a man with vision and prospect..

Cast your eyes into the future, cos that's all that matters

lilwetdick:
when did i say you dont deserve your fantasy love? but since you wanna comment lets comment.

so basically you dont have experience in lecturing but went for phd

your earn 10k as stipend and your only source of income and you think you can marry with 10k, because you think you have potential after 2 years

now what are the chances of you getting a job after doing your phd, dont forget you have no experience in teaching

most people i know doing phd are lecturers working in the system already.

i think you don enter one chance, a phd without teaching experience in the university is a waste of time.

have you seen recent job adverts for phd holders, a minimum of 10 years experience is required for you to get a teaching job.

to be fair a bachelor degree guy earning 100k is better than you even after you finish your program

nobody is gonna pay you a good pay if you dont have the experience and dont think, you can get good employment in the private sector because you will be over qualified. you will have the prestige of being a Dr but no cash.

[b]people that follow where the money is are better off than people that follow their dream

Word.

All the guys telling lies about how someone they know married his wife with 15k salary but is now earning 10x that in a multimillion multi national company, una wehdone oooohh

Eku story telling

Is it not in this same Nigeria people marry when earning peanuts, hoping God will turn them to millionaires overnight but decades later they are still struggling and now they have turned their hopes to their innocent children and are now hoping the kids will make it big and take them out of poverty in old age.

Madam you like poverty abi?

That can't take care of the guy's expenses takeless of wife and kids

Let him try business abeg

This topic has been overflogged many times.it depends on the mindset of the couple if there is love,they can go ahead and how prudent and discipline you are as a guy .but that doesn't mean you should swallow the spirit of poverty of your father's house.

Thiwalade:
for someone like you, I don't deserve love or relationship at this time? You lack foresight honestly? 2 years from now my PhD won't be a waste and I may earn more than the BSc collecting 100k? FYI, I left an 100k job to continue on my dreams. Didn't stop my lady from believing in me.

But with the 10k, will you venture into marriage now? Without any other source of income?

And for the men shouting "what about the wife"
"What is the wife bringing?"
And the ones saying marriage will work if a man earns 30k and wife also earns 30k (I saw one of them even saying wife should be earning 45k while husband brings 30k )
I hope while your wife is doing 50% of breadwinning you as the husband are also prepared to cook alongside with her in the kitchen?
Hope you are prepared to clean and sweep the house and take care of children and go shopping in the market just like she does?


Foolish entitled broke men

Mgbadike80:
If the man is of sound character and focused in life then the answer is yes. My sister should work to support her husband, she's not a piece of furniture in his home. I believe that's what the bible said too.

May you leave long bro